Stock market club…

Earlier this month my son started participating in a stock market club via his cyber school. It is a very well put together program that teaches student all sort of things related to business like small business loans and investing principles. He really seems to enjoy learning more about business and finance. I would have no problem with him pursuing this as a career in the future but I am quite sure he will end up working in a science related field. The most important thing to me is that he be happy and self-sufficient in whatever he pursues in life. For the time being I will encourage him to experience as many options available to him as possible.

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Eye doctor appointment…

In an hour or so I have to take my oldest son to the eye doctor for his annual examination. This is always an interesting experience because my son wants to understand every facet of the experience. I appreciate his inquisitive nature but there are times when I wished that we could just go in and get the appointment done and leave. I have a background in a medical field and realize how frustrating it can be to be the person seeing patients who just won’t let you keep to a schedule. I am prepping my son for the visit by telling him that he is to only ask a couple of questions and may not just spew them without end. I feel bad about this but it is a simple fact that he must learn that there are some things we just don’t have to understand.

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Book lover’s…

This weekend I spent a good deal of time putting away things my children received for Christmas. I have to say I am thrilled with what they were given by our extended family. The gifts they were given really reflect how well our children are know by their relatives. I know many families prioritize the newest electronic gadgets like 3d tvs but that is not us. My family simple loves to read. You will find stacks of books in every room of our house. Each of my children prefers to spend their free time with their nose in a book as opposed to watching television or playing video games. Right now I am pondering where we are going to put all of our books if their collections grow any larger. I suppose things will slow down with the addition of e-readers to our house. Nonetheless I love that people give my children the gift of literature and don’t feel compelled to track down the newest toy or gadget.

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Spoiled…

About two weeks ago my husband gave me the go ahead to purchase a pricey kitchen gadget that I have been lusting after for years. This gadget was on sale for a much lower price than normal and also available on a payment plan. I normally do not ask for pricey things and feel they really have to be worth the investment. The gadget that I purchased is a Vitamix blender. In reality it is so much more than a blender. It is amazing and I am thrilled with it. So few things live up to the hype behind them but I have to say that this is one device worthy of its cult like following. I am really glad with my purchase and haven’t one once of buyer’s remorse (which I am typically bound to have). Even my husband is amazed at the power of this appliance and is happy we own it (which is truly saying something)!

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Busy year.

This morning I sat down and decided to assess our tax situation for last year. As it turns out I didn’t work nearly as much as I had in previous years. Home schooling two children is twice the work that it had been with just one student. I found little time to pursue Medical Transcriptionist Jobs or other work that I had been able to do in prior years. As it turns out we will end up with the same tax liability this year as we had the year prior. My husband counterbalanced my lost income with earning more himself. I would love to be able to contribute more to our family finances but it is just impossible if I am going to do a good job schooling the children. Their education has to be my priority for now.

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Upside to illness…

Last week was absolutely miserable in our house. When the flu swept through my family I really couldn’t see it as anything but a negative. Now that we are all better and gaining our strength back I have begun to see an upside to the flu. We all lost weight. I don’t want my children loosing weight but it did help with their wardrobes. My older son now has pants that fit comfortably that he had grown out of. This may only be a temporary thing but it is nice not having to run out and buy new pants right now. I was trying to loose weight prior to getting sick and my illness definitely moved that goal along. I can only hope the weight stays away in my case and that I am now over what was a frustrating plateau.

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Listless…

I typically work out every day. I spend a minimum of thirty minutes and up to sixty minutes each day alternating between cardio and strength training exercises. Since being sick I haven’t worked out in 6 days and it feels really weird. I simply don’t have any energy or strength. I would love to get back into my exercise but this flu has just sapped everything out of me. The most I can do right now is search the internet for yoga blocks from yoga direct or something similar. My diet has consisted of ginger ale and a bit of toast which is likely why I have no energy. I am used to a protein and vegetable based diet but I can’t stomach those foods right now. When you are used to being active and healthy it feels bizarre to be absolutely listless.

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Eating curtailed…

The children had big plans for the holiday season. Our house was stocked to the gills with cookies and other sweet treats. Since my husband and I have gone grain free the boys have been more limited as to what they eat. We aren’t trying to make them go grain free but we are trying to shift it as a focus of their diet. You can imagine how thrilled they were to have so many starchy things in the house to eat. Sadly, they have not been able to partake of these treats since we all came down with the flu. I am now facing the fact that I am going to have to throw out most of these treats as they have been sitting around since before Christmas. I don’t know if we were infected with the flu virus when we made them and think we would be better off throwing them out. I believe I will have to make up for the loss of their treats by making more when they are feeling better.

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Change of plans…

Last night I was to have hosted overnight guests at our home. I was very much looking forward to having guest because we don’t often have people stay with us. Unfortunately, I had to turn my guest away because the children and I have been so sick. Instead of using a hostess stand I found myself curled up in bed with a glass of ginger ale. My youngest son has not left my side as he could only be comforted by sleeping with me. I actually felt better with him sleeping next to me because I was right there is he got sick. So, far my husband has been able to avoid the flu and our guests were understanding of our need to turn them away. They will come for a visit in the spring and hopefully we will have a nice visit that is free of cold germs.

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Muddling along…

I really looked forward to our Christmas break this school year. I had plans to accomplish a great many things in the weeks we were to have off. As it turns out I have spent the last 4 days in bed very sick alongside my two children. We seem to be turning the corner today but I know it will be a few more days before we feel right again. For my children to lay in bed for day you know how bad they must feel. With stacks of Christmas presents still under the tree and untouched is a pretty strong sign of how sick we have all been. I keep reminding myself that this is but one we of our lives and we will soon be better. At least we are not dealing with children who are sick on an ongoing basis. My heart breaks for anyone dealing with a child who sick on a long term basis. Next week this should all be behind us and we will be back working on the second half of the school year.

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Cut-out cookies…

As I type my husband and sons are making cut-out cookies. I really don’t like making cut-out cookies but they do. They approach the project as if it were a lab project which always makes me chuckle. You would think they were inventing a cure for the common cold or something. I imagine them standing in a science department somewhere with beakers and lab ovens all around them rather than in my tiny kitchen with aprons and cookie cutters. I made the dough for them earlier today but leave the rest of the project up to them. Right now there is a great deal of planning taking place as to what cutters should be used and where they should be placed. As long as I am not expected to roll the dough and I am happy. I love baking but rolling dough is not my cup of tea.

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New washer…

We received our new washer just about a week ago. The washing machine we chose is a front load HE washing machine. Our old washing machine was 12 years old and in working order but had several prior repairs. Our main reason for replacing it was to improve our water usage. For some reason water in our area comes at a premium. We have done several things since moving here to decrease our water usage but our washer just used tons of water. It took about 50 gallons per cycle which really added up over the course of a week. The new washer takes just 13 gallons per cycle and also spins the clothes much drier. This reduces our electric usage when we dry the clothes and our gas usage when we wash in warm or hot water. Thus far I am thrilled with the washer and the prospect of much lower utility bills.

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Easy winter?

If our winter weather trend continues it looks like we might have an easy winter to look forward to. Usually we have a fair amount of snow on the ground by this time of year. As it stands right now our ground is bare and there is no snow in the future. I really hope we have a mild winter because it means we will have less motorhome repair to conduct in the spring. Because we store our camper outside there are always certain things that need taking care of when winter is over. Thankfully, nothing major has happened to date but there is always that possibility. I worry every year about a storm bringing a tree down on our camper. Last winter there was so much snow fall that several buildings in our area collapsed and many trees were brought down. A mild winter would be very much appreciated.

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Wheatfest…

Today is the day of the holiday season where I set my sights on getting my baking done. This is a tradition in our house. By the end of my baking frenzy there are usually 20 dozen or more cookies in our house. This year I have dramatically curtailed my baking because we are going grain free. For a couple of months my husband and I have not eaten any grains and the goal is to get the children on the bandwagon over time. I told the children to pick their favorite kind of cookie and that is what we would make. Instead of dozens of cookies to be ingested with abandon we will have a few dozen favorites. I intend to freeze part of the cookies in order to have them available over the coming months rather that letting them gorge themselves on sweets now.

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Under the tree…

This is going to be a Christmas where everyone gets something they have secretly been wishing for. Most years we make are only able to get the children gifts and just a small gift for each other. This year we are in a good place financially and decided to buy each other a gift that we really wanted. After much discussion and researching things like the features of a kindle vs ipad we elected to buy an e-reader for our family. I also bought our oldest son a basic e-reader for himself. He is such an avid reader that I know this gift will be something he uses daily. My husband is going to get a very special camcorder that he has been eyeing online. I am not sure exactly what my husband is getting for me but I know that this year I won’t be getting something like socks or underwear which is enough of a surprise for me to be happy with whatever he chooses.

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Stuffed to the gills…

I have been eating a very low carb Paleo diet for over a month. Tonight we took our kids out for a meal and decided to have a cheat meal. Every so often it is good to have higher carb meal to trick your body into shedding extra weight. The meal was amazing! I feel like I ate just the right amount of food. My husband ate everything in sight and clearly enjoyed his meal and whatever the children didn’t eat. He has been eating low carb in support of my dietary changes but I can tell he struggles with it much more than I do. It was nice to have a meal that tasted great and although it wasn’t Paleo and featured grains I don’t feel horrible about what I ate. I only ate part of the bread with my sandwich and it was otherwise low carb. I did however eat my french fries because they were absolutely perfectly fried diner style fries. I may regret it tomorrow but for today I feel satisfied.

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Stuff everywhere…

This weekend I have to spend some time organizing our home school area. It is amazing how much stuff we can accumulate in the course of a couple of months of school. The children seem to generate and endless stream of papers. I wish there were some sort of paperless office software we could use to organize it all. As it stands they have about a dozen workbooks each and daily there are probably 20 worksheets filled out by each child. The stack of paper is further exacerbated by scratch paper they need for math problems and art projects. As it stands right now I can’t see my desk blotter because of the stacks of school papers on top of it. This weekend I hope to somehow devise a better organizational system to collate the papers for each my kids for storage. We’ll see how that goes given that they are intent on hanging on to each and every thing they write on or create.

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Missed…

Since I was a child my siblings and I have always been present for every holiday at my parent’s home. This was the first holiday in my 41 years of life that we haven’t all been together. It felt weird not having my youngest brother at the Thanksgiving table. I understand that he is off leading his life and chasing his dreams and I am happy for that. It doesn’t however make him any less missed. He always adds something unique to the conversation and my children love him dearly. I know that we will see him for Christmas which is good. Hopefully, we can all adjust to his new life and not seeing each other quite as often.

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Trying to learn…

My older son said for a couple of years that he wanted a guitar. Finally we bought him one and he tried to learn to play guitar. The problem is that he is always wanting to learn something but doesn’t want to put in the time it takes to master new skills. Since his guitar has been sitting in the corner of his room for a year or so my husband decided to take control of it for a while. He has spent the day strumming on the guitar and getting accustomed to holding it. I think it would be really cool if he could teach himself to play. I have always thought people who played guitar were interesting. I am a bit like my son when it comes to some things and don’t see myself learning to play but I really hope someone in my house does.

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A family thing…

I know many people who just love to go out and about on Black Friday. My family does not partake in this event. It is really funny to me that none of my siblings want any part of this type of event. We simply are the type of people that don’t care how good a bargain might be we are not going to fight for it in a crowded store. My husband and my brother’s wife feel exactly the opposite and think it is like participating in a massive sport. They somehow get a charge out of pushing through crowds of people in the hopes of possibly scoring a deal on stuff. I feel like I do just as well from the comfort of home by carefully scouring the internet. I guess this is just what makes us all unique and special. I will be among those spending Black Friday on my computer…

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Strange…

I bought some new walking shoes before the start of summer. Over the course of summer I was distracted with so many other projects that I did not walk at all. I put on my shoes this week and they felt entirely different than they had earlier in the year. These shoes are a type of walking shoe made a top brand athletic shoe company. They might feel strange because I spent the summer wearing sandals as opposed to a type of shoe that completely covers the foot. I would love to be able to wear unlisted shoes but I am not coordinated enough. I am so clumsy that my feet need to be very near the ground in order for me to walk upright. I am hoping that after working out regularly that my walking shoes will start to feel normal again.

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Paleo lifestyle…

About 5 days ago I started following the Paleo lifestyle way of eating. I don’t want to call it a diet because it isn’t something you do with the intention of going back to your old way of eating once you lose weight. After reading about it for several months it simply began to make a great deal of sense for my situation. I know from previous dieting experiences that eating a very low carb diet just works for me. The problem has always been that these diets seem to be very restrictive on certain things. When you eat a Paleo diet you are restricting certain things like dairy, grains, and sugar. The difference is that you can eat the remaining food groups without restriction. That means as much lean meat, vegetables, fruits, nuts, and fat as your body needs to feel satisfied or NOT hungry. Obviously if you ate a ton of stuff beyond the point of not being hungry and beyond what calories you burn in a day then you will gain weight. Thus far I do not feel deprived and eating has been easy and best of all I am down 6 pounds!

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In a few months…

My laptop has been giving me issues for a while. It is several years old and has needed various repairs in that time. It isn’t that I am rough on it but rather that is just isn’t as durable as newer technology. I am thinking that after the first of the year I will look into something along the lines of the new samsung netbooks. I haven’t quite pinned down exactly what I want but I know what I don’t want. My new computer has to be light, durable, and quiet. Most of all it has to have a power cord that doesn’t break every year and some ability to keep itself cool. My present laptop puts off so much heat I can’t stand to have it on my lap for very long. I know things have change in the last 5 years and I am hoping that they is a product out there that will fit the bill and my budget.

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A bit much…

My oldest son is selling popcorn for his Boy Scout troop. This is something that they do every year and we have come to expect the forms around this time of year. This year his troop leader’s sent out and email detailing a goal of $600.00 in sales for each scout in the troop. I was a bit shocked to hear this because last year’s goal was nowhere near the same. Last year they wanted each boy to sell $100.00 in popcorn and peanuts. Given the economy I find it crazy to expect kid’s to sell more than ever before. What is also puzzling is the packages of popcorn and nuts are smaller than they were last year and most cost more. How does that work out? Ask the kid’s to sell more of a smaller product that costs more in a tight economy….

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What to buy?

I am already wracking my brain to come up with Christmas present ideas for my in-laws. They are impossible to buy for because they seem to have everything they could need or want. I have considered everything from a fruit-of-the-month subscription to can am commander accessories but I can’t pin anything down yet. My father-in-law is the type of person who will tell you to your face that he doesn’t like or want the gift you give him. I have always found this a little tough to swallow and try to keep things simple but it has gotten increasingly more difficult over the years. I feel like I have to start thinking about gifts well before the holiday’s to narrow down what we are going to buy. The right gift has not come to me as of yet but hopefully it will.

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Big pumpkins…

At the beginning of the gardening season we decided to try to grow giant pumpkins. We had never grown them before and had no idea what to expect. We started the seeds indoors and grew them to a fairly large size before transplanting them outside. Today we harvested the pumpkins from the three plants we grew. Each pumpkin plant yielded one large pumpkin. Although they didn’t reach gigantic proportions they are good sized. It took two of us to carry them into the house. I would speculate they are each around 70 pounds. The children want to carve them this weekend which should prove interesting because they are really odd shaped pumpkins. Needless to say this is something we will definitely be doing again for the sheer fun of it. We usually grow stuff to eat but these pumpkins are just for fun.

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Easy gift giving…

Have you ever been completely stumped on what to give someone for a gift? We have a couple of people in our family who are absolutely impossible to buy gifts for. They are people who are at that stage in life where they have everything they could possibly want or need. For years we would try to come up with something creative and useful to give them each holiday season. Over time it became impossible to come up with new gift ideas. I finally decided not to stress over finding the right gift and decided that it was more important to let them know they are loved and thought of. I now schedule flower delivery to them each holiday season. We also have the children make greeting cards to send them and make sure to block out special time for visiting with them. It has made the holiday season much less stressful and the important people in our lives know we appreciate them. Time together is so much more important than finding the right present and wrapping paper. They now look forward to the holiday arrangement I send for their table and using it to decorate the table where we will share a special meal together.

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Like a squirrel…

Today we picked up one of our last orders of food Despite having attempted to grow our own potatoes we still found ourselves wanting to have more on hand that we were able to grow. So, we ordered 50 pounds of winter storage potatoes from a local farm market. Winter storage potatoes are those that are unwashed and have been cured for a period of time to prepare them for storing. Somehow not washing them and leaving some field dirt on them makes them last longer. My oldest son loves baked potatoes and would have them for lunch and dinner everyday if possible. I am quite sure that the majority of these potatoes will go into his belly.

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Sore hands…

Given all the canning I have been doing it should come as no surprise to me that my hands ache. Arthritis runs in my family. I remember my grandmother’s hands being knotted by it. There was a time when I thought about looking into Medical Secretaries Jobs but I never did. I am thankful that I did not pursue that interest because I am quite sure given the state of my hands today that I could not have kept up with the work load. The fingers on my right hand are already starting to twist and hurt whenever I over use them. Typing all day likely would not have worked out. Given what a great career option the medical field is I sometimes wish I did have arthritis to deal with but am thankful that thus far it is mainly in my hands only.

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Almost done…

So far this year I have canned 779 jars of food. The things I have canned have included virtually any vegetable, fruit, or meat you might imagine. I had considered my canning year complete for the year until last night. Last night my husband came home with a bushel and a half of Bosc pears that were given to him by a co-worker. Can you guess what we will be doing this weekend? That is right canning pears! My husband loved the pears I already canned this year so free pears will be a nice addition to the expensive pears I already have. I am grateful for the free fruit and I am sure we will enjoy them during the months to come.

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Preparing…

There is a great deal of talk on many of the blogs that I follow about prepping and emergency preparedness. There was a time when I thought having a stockpile of food and alternative power supplies on hand was silly. I no longer feel that way. In the last month a handful of people I am close to across the country have been placed in situations where being prepared has quite literally saved them a great deal of hassle that less prepared people living around them were forced to endure. I like to think that having a supply of food on hand and a way to cook as well as heat my house should traditional methods fail is just good sense.

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Tidying up..

I have spent the last couple of days catching up on some very overdue house cleaning projects. Many things I routinely do are left to slide over the summer when I am in the midst of my canning and gardening extravaganza. I discovered dust balls as big as a rabbit under my dressers yesterday! Normally this would drive me crazy but I believe it is more important to spend my summer days putting away food for my family than concerning myself with dust. I have also been using these quieter days to purge our house of clutter that has accumulated during the summer. There is presently a contractor bag full of stuff to be taken to Goodwill on my porch and I hope to add another to it by the end of the week. I simply hate clutter and useless stuff lying about all winter!

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A sweet man.

My husband went away for about a week to visit his family in Ohio. Because of school we elected to have me stay home with the kids. I also thought it would do him some good to have time to himself. When he returned he brought me an unexpected present. Because I am a simple girl he walked past the stores with gorgeous everlon jewelry and went straight for a store with things he knew would suit my taste. He found a store selling antique canning jars of all types and immediately knew he had to bring one home for my collection. He picked out a lovely half gallon fruit jar with a purple tint that I have never seen before. It may not be the most valuable thing in the world but I treasure it because it speaks of his love for me and knowledge of who I really am.

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Fall cleaning.

Most people that I know embark upon cleaning their home in the spring. I am not in this majority. I do a bit of spring cleaning but the majority of my cleaning is done in the fall. This is the time of year when the gardens need put to bed and the yard tidied up for the onslaught of snow. In the spring I only need to do a bit of picking up in the yard to start my gardening. Fall is also the time when I like to rid the house of clutter. Being cooped up so much in cold weather means spending a great deal of time staring at the stuff in my house. Too much stuff makes us all a little crazy. We like a clean streamlined house without a bunch of riff raff laying about. I use the cool weather as my motivation to start purging the excess in our lives and get ready to bunker down for the winter.

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Around the corner…

I don’t go out shopping very much because I really don’t have the need to these days. Today I did run a few errands and ended up in one of our local big box stores. I was a bit surprised to see Christmas decorations out. I then realized that it really isn’t very long before the holidays arrive. You can be sure that I won’t be spending any time standing in line to do my Christmas shopping! There is nothing I loathe more than crowded stores at the holidays. Instead I will be once again doing all my shopping online. I only need to look up a coupon code for whatever store I am shopping at so save money. For example for shopping for the children I first look for toys r us coupons before browsing their website. If I can find coupons for free shipping or a discount I then complete a purchase on the website. Typically I get as good a deal shopping online as I would spending hours browsing a crowded store and waiting in line to pay for my purchases.

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A new crazy idea…

My canning season is winding down here and my mind is searching for new projects to direct my attention towards. Thus far I have decided that this fall and winter I will attempt to render lard from the fat we will request from the butcher when our beef and pork orders are processed. I have ordered some maple taps and we intend to try our hand at making a bit of maple syrup. I also hope to boil down some apple cider that we press into something called apple molasses. Today I discovered something called “barrelponics” which is a form of aquaponics. Our family loves fish but it tends to be out of our price range more often than not or it is shipped here from foreign countries. Barrelponics would enable us to potentially grow a supply of fish in a barrel in our garage during the spring and summer. I have quite a bit more research to do but it looks like a doable option for providing us with great organic fish.

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Living in the country…

I am beginning to think more and more about moving to the country. Right now we live in a small town but have neighbors that are very close. Thankfully we have decent neighbors but there are times when I wished we had none at all. I sometimes look at the home listings in our newspaper to see if there might be a cabin or mobile home for sale in the country that we could afford. I would love to be able to have as large of a garden as I wanted without considering how the neighbors would feel about it. Another thing I would love to have is bee hives. Right now our town does not allow bee hives but least they do allow chickens. My husband and I hope to retire to the country but until then I will just have to dream about having cows, bees, and sheep.

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Pears are work!

A couple of nights ago my hubby brought home a bushel of pears I had ordered last spring. We have a farm market down the road that takes orders in the spring for fresh produce by the bushel when it comes into season. I haven’t canned pears since I was a child and had no idea how much work pears are to can. Pears have to be peeled by hand, cored, and sliced. I have canned a great deal of peaches and assumed they were about the same in terms of work. Half of my bushel of pears took 2 hours to peel. Peaches are a breeze to peel because you blanche them first and the skin just slips off. I love canned pears and can only hope that all the effort to get them into the jar is worth it when it comes time to eat them.

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Play time…

We belong to a local home school group that gets together for shared experiences and learning opportunities. Our group has been pretty loosely organized until this year. Several parents have stepped forward in an effort to bring our group together on a more regular basis. One thing they have been trying to organize is a weekly gym time for our children. The issue thus far has been with finding a location to host our meetings. We are in a pretty rural location with few options. It is not like we have several places that large gym facilities or even anything resembling jungle gym installation new york. One thing I miss about living in the city is just how many places there were to take your children to play on gym equipment. Our group is hoping one of the local churches will let us rent or use a space for a weekly get together which would be really nice for our children.

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Hairstyles…

For most of my life my hair has been either short or chin length. About a year and a half ago I decided to grow it out. My hair is now longer than it has ever been in my entire life. For the most part having longer hair is actually easier than having short hair. I don’t really have to style it very much and can let it air dry or just pull it into a pony tail. This weekend we are attending a wedding and I have been trying to come up with a pretty style to wear my hair. I have never had to put my hair up into any type of fancy style and have to say it is trickier than I thought it would be. Right now I am toying with a low bun style because any other style I have tried has proven a disaster. My hair is very, very thick and most styling clips won’t hold up to the bulk of it.

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Late season…

What a crazy gardening year it has been! Our spring was so wet and cold that planting was delayed just about everywhere. Where summer finally got here the weather was sweltering. Locally we had a drought for most of July and into August. Our plants have truly suffered as a result. The potatoes died not too long ago. Our beans are riddled with bugs and now the squash are giving in to powdery mildew. I have no idea how commercial farmers faired this season. Likely they had more tricks up their sleeves than we did to keep plants alive in such tricky conditions. Hopefully next year will be a better growing season. Thankfully we had some canned goods left from last year to make up for what we won’t be putting away this year.

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Wasting time…

Today is one of those days where I have a ton of stuff I could be doing but am forced to spend it waiting. I have to take the the dog to the groomer in the middle of the day which is a pain. It was the only appointment available and the dog desperately needs trimming. My youngest son’s school sent an email indicating that they were shipping his school supplies and that I need to be home to sign for them. There is no indication as to when the supplies might arrive today so here I sit. I could be canning apple sauce or working in the garden but both would take me away from the area where I might here the doorbell. I hate wasting time when I could be somewhere being productive. Hopefully, the shipment of supplies comes in the next hour or so and I can get on with my projects before running the dog to the groomer.

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He is five…

Tomorrow we will be heading to the beach to celebrate my youngest son’s birthday. He turned five years old this week and wanted to spend his birthday at the beach. We have had to put off the trip because of the weather. Tomorrow promises to be a perfect day for playing in the water. I love that he has such simply party requests. Of course this could all change as he grows up. I know that as a child I never had fancy birthday parties and always wanted one. Secretly I would love for someone to send out Adult Birthday Invitations on my behalf and throw me a surprise birthday party. I realize that my children are not me and that they may well be perfectly content with simple parties and celebrations. In the morning I will be baking some cupcakes and picking up some snacks. All that will be left to do is wrap his gifts and jump in the car.

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Produce production…

Today has been a day spent focused entirely on produce and preserving it for winter. We purchased 65 ears of corn yesterday from a local farmer. The cost of the corn was $18.00 which is a better deal than buying it by the dozen. My family and I spent the morning husking, blanching, cutting and bagging the corn for the freezer. From the 65 ears of corn we ended up with 28 bags of corn with 2 cups of corn in each bag. This is plenty of corn for my family of 4 at a meal. We hope to process another 65 ears of corn before the end of the season which will mean we will have corn enough for one meal each week. I would like to have more than that but it really is a job processing it all and finding the freezer space. Last year I canned the corn and none of us cared for the flavor of it once canned. We did however love it frozen and found it tasted just like fresh corn. After the corn was done we then moved on to canning 6 quarts of green beans from our garden and 6 quarts of new red potatoes. As I type I am preparing to finishing processing about 7 quarts of sweet pickled cauliflower and cucumber slices. It has been a truly long day!

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Going to the garage…

For the majority of our marriage my husband has always taken our car into the garage for minor service issues. He does the majority of the work on our vehicles himself which is a wonderful thing. It has saved us a great deal of money over the years. Not having to pay to have our oil or brakes changed in a garage is wonderful. I have no idea what a fluid tech or mechanic gets paid but I hope it is a decent wage. My friend just spent a few hundred dollars having brake work done on her car and I can’t imagine paying that kind of bill. This week was the first time in a few years that I had to take one of our vehicles to the garage. Luckily it was just for an inspection. While sitting in the garage I overheard the prices being charged for various services that my husband has done to our vehicles and I walked away even more thankful for his self-taught mechanical abilities.

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A Good Day…

My husband took the day off today by accident. He thought he had committed to spend the day working on a project for our older son’s Boy Scout troop. As it turned out the work day had been rescheduled and he wasn’t needed. He could have went into work but we decided to spend the day running errands as a family. It turned out to be a perfect day! We were able to get a great deal of gardening work done in addition to tracking down some much needed produce. We don’t grow corn ourselves because it takes up too much space in our garden. Buying local corn in season and freezing it for winter is our favorite way to preserve corn. We found a deal on 65 ears of fresh local corn for $18. I have found corn cheaper later in the season but it tasted terrible. I would rather spend money on decent tasting corn now that cheap corn I end of throwing away. Can you guess how tomorrow will be spent? That is right we will be shucking and blanching corn all day!

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Wedding plans at last.

Today I received a formal invitation to my brother’s wedding. He had announced about 4 months ago that he would be getting married in September. I had started to wonder if something was amiss since we hadn’t received our invitation. Now that I know the details of the wedding I can begin to shop for the perfect gift. My brother is 42 years old and has never been married or shared his home with anyone. This means that he doesn’t really have a great many of the things that I married person his age might own like cookware and kitchen gear. He does has a bit of cabin furniture in one room of his house but not much else. Living by himself he has never felt the need to really decorate his home. I am sure that his new bride will dive right into this full force. It is just nice to know that he has found someone to share his life with. I am hoping to find them something sentimental and useful for a wedding present and I don’t have much time to do so.

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Gardening up and downs…

This has been a wacky gardening season. The spring was so wet and cold that we didn’t get most things planted until very late. Then summer came in a fast and furious way. Most of our summer has been a drought situation and our plants have paid the price. Our potatoes still need another 30 days in the ground and they are already dying despite our best efforts to keep them alive. I finally harvested some of them because my worry was that bugs would get to them in the ground. Thus far I have harvest 66 pounds of potatoes from about 14 pounds of planted seed potatoes. I don’t know if that is a good return or not. I guess I am just happy we have potatoes whereas last year our container grown potatoes were and absolute flop.

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Striving for a dream…

A friend of mine just started a new business. She had previously had a small custom greeting card business and decided to pursue a new avenue. She has always had an interest in photography and can tell you everything imaginable about the subject. I am referred to her for advice on topics like digital camera exilim and processing film. She has taken some classes and just seems to have a natural knack for photography. This week she formally put herself out there and started a photography business. I think it is awesome that she is so adventurous and willing to go after what she wants. If she lived closer I would line up a session for our children because her portfolio is just amazing.

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Smells bad but tastes good…

This week I decided to figure out some way to preserve the red onions from our garden via canning. I know that you can cure and store onion but this wasn’t the route I wanted to go for these onions. I found a recipe for red onion marmalade and decided to give it a try. I have to say that this was about the nastiest smelling thing I have ever cooked. It was really hard to believe that this vile smelling stuff could turn into something edible. Tonight we grilled some grass fed burgers and decided to baste them in the marmalade. These were absolutely the best tasting burgers we have ever made. The marmalade added a sweet and onion flavor to the burgers that was just delightful. It goes to show that something can smell horrid and taste awesome.

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They don’t understand…

About six months ago we decided to go down to owning one car instead of two. Thus far it has been a pretty simple adjustment for our family. Because we home school the children there isn’t a great deal of running that I need to do during the week. Most people just don’t understand how we can manage with just one vehicle. There are times when I worry whether we need a roadside assistance club. With only one vehicle if we break down it isn’t like the other person can come and help out. I have to wonder how many of the people that don’t understand why we have one vehicle are struggling to pay their bills. One of the women my husband works with actually works a second job just to pay her car payment. I can’t imagine having to work a full time job and a part-time job just to pay for a car. There may come a point when we have to have another vehicle but for now we are managing just fine and like not being indebted to someone for our vehicles.

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Pickle day…

Today was another day spent canning. I try to spend time several days out of each week to preserve food in some form or fashion. My canning season is starting to kick into gear and today’s focus was pickles! I have been growing cucumbers in the backyard but don’t get enough at once to make pickles. A quick run to the farmer’s market solved that problem and my pickle making operation was under way. I ended up with way more cucumbers than I anticipated and instead of making just dill or sweet pickles I was able to make both. I ended up with 19 pints of pickles. These combined with the pickles I canned earlier this week brings my total to 26 pints. I now consider my pickle canning for this year to be done!!!

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Up and down.

It seems like I am forever battling the image I see in the mirror and the number I see on the scale. For some reason I am in a slump and just can’t seem to get myself motivated to diet or exercise. I know there are people who would tell me to take some apidexin and move forward with my life. For whatever reason I seem so focused on other things lately that what is going in my mouth doesn’t enter my mind. Honestly, I think the heat plays a huge part in my motivation or lack there of. I am not someone who wants to workout when I am already dripping with sweat. There is a small urge to start eating better building in me and I am trying to reign that drive in and put it into action. Hopefully, I can find it in myself to take control of my eating and get back on the treadmill very soon.

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Gardening is my passion…

It occurred to me today that I believe I have finally found a hobby that I truly am passionate about. Last year I embarked on a backyard garden and it was truly a joy. Over the last year I have expanded both my garden and my knowledge of gardening. I realized today that I no longer hate the feeling of dirt on my hands. Seeing a weed makes me want it gone and no amount of dirt on my hands is going to get between me and that weed. There was a day when the thought of dirt on my hands drove me a little crazy. Today I take such joy in seeing veggies grow and plant inch towards the sun that took root because of some small part I played in it all. Looking forward I can see myself continually expanding my garden not just for the food it grows but the joy it provides.

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Nothing planned…

Tomorrow is my husband’s birthday. This is the year that he will turn 41 years old. A week later we will celebrate our 20th anniversary. His mother called me this morning to find out what I had planned for his birthday. I have no idea why she thought I would have anything planned because we have never made a fuss in the past. My husband is one of those guys who really would prefer to have the day pass unnoticed. He has little interest in being given gifts of any sort which makes it simple. I like knowing that he is not expecting a new golf club or a ps3 headset. The only thing he asks for is a particular type of cake each year. I intend to buy him the cake he requested, a card, and a small gift. There will be no party nor big affair because that is not the type of guy he is. I know that his mother has now started plotting her own way of recognizing her son’s birthday which is fine because that is who she is and what she wants on her birthday. She believes that is how everyone wishes their birthday would be recognized. Having been married to her son for more than half his life I am confident that my lack of party planning will please him more.

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Old advertisments…

I love old retro advertisements. In fact I created a back splash in my kitchen out of old advertisements. There is just something about vintage things that makes me feel good. I am always on the look out for new ones to print out and add to my collection. Today I stumbled across one that just made me laugh. It was an advertisement for Chase and Sanborn coffee. The ad depicted a wife being spanked by her husband for not buying fresh tasting coffee. Can you imagine this type of ad being used today? It truly shows how far we have come in terms of women’s equality -at least on some levels. I just can’t imagine a bunch of people sitting around today and saying this is what we need to do to market to women… encourage them to buy our coffee to avoid being spanked by their husbands….Although this ad made me laugh I will not be printing it out to put in my kitchen…

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Family visits…

This weekend we will be inundated with family members visiting. It is always fun for my children when we have out of town visitors because they spoil our children. The last time we had company was at Easter. Both of our children were given so much Easter candy for kids it was crazy! I ended up putting a great deal of the candy in the freezer because there was just so much of it. My children are not huge candy eaters but my husband and I love candy which is why I had to freeze some of it. Frozen candy is so much less tempting to my brain. At least this visit won’t bring with it baskets of candy. Instead I have no doubts that my children will be gifted a bunch of sparklers and assorted fireworks. This drives me crazy because fireworks are illegal here. Where our relatives live fireworks are legal and they see nothing wrong with bringing them to our children. I have to immediately confiscate the more dangerous stuff and hide it which is hard to explain to my children. I love that our children are loved by so many people but wish sometimes that the holidays were centered around things like giving books. It would be so much nicer to have to regulate a stack of books rather than fire crackers.

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Retro look.

I have spent the last year or so growing my hair out to a reasonably long length. Now that it is long I don’t tend to spend much time styling it. Today the notion struck me that I had option now that I have never had before with my hair. Having no clue how to style my hair I decided to look online and stumbled across retro hairstyles from the 40′s. I decided to have a bit of fun and try to mimic one. Surprisingly it turned out pretty cute and actually looks attractive on me. The test will be when my husband gets home in an hour. He will either compliment me or ask what I am doing with my hair. His mouth sometimes speaks before his brain thinks so I will definitely know whether he likes it or not before too long.

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Celebrating life.

Next weekend my husband and I will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. This is a milestone in our lives that we do not take lightly. Last year at this time my husband was recovering from a serious car accident which almost cost him his life. Since that time I have never forgotten what a blessing each day we have together is. Fortunately, my husband has fully recovered from his accident and is almost as strong as he was before being injured. His leg and ankle were broken and required surgery to repair them. We were concerned for a long time that he might not walk properly again. Today he walks as well as before aside from some stiffness and the need to occasionally wear a support stocking. He no longer needs any sort of ankle braces or crutches and is able to exercise. It really is amazing that legs that were so damaged recovered to the degree they have in just one year. We have always had a very close marriage but since the accident we truly have an appreciation of how precious each and every day we are given together is.

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Using chemicals…

I just returned from spraying the plants in my garden to prevent blight. This is not something I want to do but I realize that this season is perfect for getting garden diseases. As much as I try to grow my garden organically I also realize that loosing my plants to disease is not something I want to do. This means that I am using a regimen of preventative sprays to hopefully avoid problems with blight. My hope is to be able to stave off the diseases that may come my way long enough to harvest vegetables. I know many people who will not use chemicals of any type in their garden and would rather not get a crop that use them. I researched my options and have chosen what I believe to be the safest product out there that will actually work to prevent the diseases that may take hold in my garden this year. Things are so wet and humid that there is a good chance that many gardeners will deal with blight this year. I don’t want to be one of those who waits until it is too late to treat a problem.

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Gardening with children.

A few weeks ago I had someone comment to me about how much of our yard had been turned into a garden. This person stated that our children had little room to play ball now that we have such a large garden. I responded to this person by indicating that my children love to garden and that I am not raising athletes. My children have little interest in sports and will likely never bring home sport trophies. They do however love nature and watching things grow. My children are endlessly entertained by watching birds and insects. The process of how our garden and nature are intertwined is a source of constant curiosity for them. Were they to show an interest in playing ball or catch in the backyard I might have thought twice about enlarging the garden. As it stands my older son wakes up every morning to go and see what has grow in the garden and what is ready to harvest. He loves being able to bring in fresh food and find recipes to use them in. In my mind that is a better use of his mind and energy.

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Canning season has begun!

This week I busted out my canning gear and formally began my 2011 canning season. I picked up a couple of flats of strawberries and decided to try a recipe that had caught my eye. This recipe was for strawberry-lemonade concentrate. The recipe was very easy to make and each flat of strawberries made around 12 quarts of concentrate which will ultimately create 24 quarts of juice. My family gave this the seal of approval after our first taste test. Today was also spent canning. My recipe list included blueberry syrup, strawberry sauce, and chocolate strawberry sundae syrup. All of these will easy to make as well and turned out extremely tasty. It will be nice to have syrups on hand that aren’t full of high fructose corn syrup and other crazy ingredients. I hope to make several other types of syrups over the summer because we have pancakes or waffles at least once a week.

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Opting out.

A few months ago we signed forms to opt out of having most mass mailings delivered to our house. I always feel bad when I pick stuff out of the mailbox only to put it in the recycling bin. Since opting out of these mailings we have hardly any mail delivered to our house. I have to admit it feels weird not to get any advertisements for Wholesale Insurance, used car sales, and credit card offers. Whenever our box is empty I have to wonder if the mailman skipped over our house. There is the possibility that it will take me some time to adjust to the decreased level of mail in our box. Having had our mail delivered to the wrong house on several occasions there is always the thought in my mind that someone else has been given our mail. At least I know that the important things like credit card offers will not be falling into the wrong hands because they are not being mailed out at all.

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Today is the day!

After waiting for what seems like forever today is finally the day I will begin planting our big garden. We rent a spot at our local community garden each season in addition to our backyard garden. The weather has been so incredibly soggy that they have not been able to work the soil at the community garden. They promised this afternoon that we would be able to get to work and I cannot wait! My husband is taking a half day off from work in order to spend time tilling the garden. My potatoes have been chitted and my other seeds and plants are just in a holding position waiting to be put in the soil. The weather is perfect for being outdoors and I am itching to head down the road!

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A day in the outdoors.

Tomorrow I am heading off for a day in the great outdoors. Actually, it is an event designed for women who love the outdoors. I will be participating in a day long event with lessons and speakers about various outdoor activities. I am hoping the sun doesn’t shine to brightly because I don’t need another sunburn. My skin is still peeling from my previous outdoor exposure and my face looked like it could use some vitamins for acne. I plan on taking a hat and some sunscreen and am hoping for the best. If the sun decided to hide behind the clouds all day that would be fine with me. Either way it should be a fun day of learning and meeting new people.

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Sad evening…

Last night I went to the funeral home. It was the first time I had been to a funeral in about 6 years. My aunt passed away from cancer and I accompanied my parents to the viewing. Although I wasn’t close to my aunt it was still a sad occasion for me. I realized how kind my aunt had been over the years to everyone and how hard she tried to draw our family together. I also realized how out of contact I had fallen with many if not all of my father’s family. Most of them didn’t know I had two children and had never met my husband. Considering we have been married 20 years this month that is a sad statement to make. I left feeling very sad for my uncle and my cousin’s who are quite shaken at the loss of a wonderful woman in their lives. It also left me realizing that there will come a time when I stand in their shoes facing burying someone close to me.

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Humidity…

With all the rain we have been having and the higher temperature the house and outdoors are incredibly humid. I feel like I need to take a shower twice a day just to feel clean. My skin absolutely hates this weather and is in serious need of acne cream and possibly even something like nanocleanse. I know people who wake up day after day with great looking skin and don’t even try. I have no idea why mine is the way it is. I eat organic and have a skincare regimen and yet here I am at the ripe old age of forty with the skin of a teenager. I guess it could be worse at least I don’t have wrinkles and acne. I know that at some point my skin will stop reacting this way and at least I will have great looking skin without many wrinkles when that time comes.

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A compliment…

A couple of days ago I was in the backyard with the children working in the garden. A lady startled me by saying “hello”. She then went on to ask if she could look at my garden. Not many people take and interest in my garden. We have worked incredibly hard on it but not many people seem to care. In fact we have had more negative things said such as how we ruined a great lawn. The other comments have informed us that there are bears in the area and that we will attract them to the area. It completely kills me that people care more about green grass than growing food. This lady absolutely made my day by telling what a great garden I have and how neat if was. She even stopped by later in the week with a friend to show her the garden. I am happy to know that someone out there gets the notion of growing your own food.

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Tough cuts…

Our local school district is facing some very tough budget choices for the upcoming school year. This impacts people across so many areas of our town. My next door neighbor has been informed that she will be loosing her teaching position at the end of the school year because of the cuts. She is now trying to decide what to pursue as a career in the future. She is considering an it degree or possibly nursing school. Given the cuts that are being made she does not foresee the possibility of her return to teaching at any point in the near future. I hope she is able to pursue a job that will lead to the career stability she needs in order to provide for her family. I think that an it degree coupled with her teaching experience might open some doors she hasn’t considered. Many online charter schools are looking for teachers with strong computer skills.

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A little ray of sun…

Like most of the world we have had nothing but rain for days on end. I feel like I shouldn’t complain because of how badly the rest of the world has been fairing. Today is the first day in so many days that the sun shone brightly. We took full advantage of this break in the weather to get some plants in the garden. All of our tomato and pepper plants are now planted. We also got a trellis built for our cucumbers, winter squash, and melons. My herb garden is now planted as well. This project took most of the day and a ton of work but it is done! All I can do now is hope that this rain relents and the temperatures continue to warm up. I feel so badly for the farmers across the country who are suffering as a result of this wet weather.

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Working independently.

This school year I have been working with my oldest son to increase his ability to complete his school work independently. He has shown great improvement over the course of the year but there is still a way to go. He is very easily distracted by anything and everything. The biggest distraction for him is when a lesson directs him to a website outside of his online school. I might leave the room to go to the restroom and return to find him on some website like Wholesaleinsurance.net. Somehow the child is able to find a way to veer completely off track and onto other websites routinely throughout the day. His computer is somewhat locked down by his school but there is still room to cruise the internet. My goal for the next school year is to get him to realize that his school day would be much shorter if he were able to focus his attention to the task at hand and not get distracted.

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Cheap thrills…

It has been about a week since we have had any construction in front of our house. Today the water company pulled up with a couple dozen trucks. Before I knew it they had a back hoe in our front yard digging it up. We thought all the work they had done was complete but apparently we were wrong. The children love the idea of having all the heavy equipment right in the front yard for them to watch. It is like taking them to the movies because they sit completely enthralled for hours. I hate the yard being torn up but I like the children having something they enjoy to watch. Free entertainment is good by me in these economic times.

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Juggling…

There are times when I wonder how some parents manage. I home school both of our children and therefore spend a great deal of time with them. They go almost everywhere with me. This doesn’t mean I always enjoy outings with both of them. Taking them to the doctor is always quite and experience. One of them insists on interrupting despite my best efforts to prepare that they need to sit quietly during the visit. I wish I could say that my oldest is quite content to sit and read supplement reviewswhile his younger brother sees the doctor but that isn’t the case. This morning my youngest son has an interview for kindergarten. His older brother knows he needs to sit and read during the appointment but undoubtedly he will have a great deal to say. I cannot imagine if I had to take a handful of kids to appointments like many of my friends have to do. I know some will say this is a parenting issue but honestly it doesn’t matter what consequences I impose for situations like this my child simply cannot refrain from talking.

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Firsts…

Today is a day of minor firsts in our house. This is the first day that my husband has ever road his bike to work. We decided to get rid of our second car a month or so ago. The plan is that during decent weather he will ride his bike to work. We live just 2 miles from his office which makes the ride definitely doable. The other great fact is that there is an awesome bike trail between our house and his office. Another first this morning was that I got up and walked on the treadmill. I usually do this in the evening but I figure that if my husband can bike to work then I can get up and walk as well. Our final first of the day is that I will be taking my youngest son to register for kindergarten. It is cyber kindergarten but that doesn’t make it any less momentous in our lives. A good day thus far and it isn’t even 8 am….

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Appropriate punishments…

I posted in a previous post that I was trying to come up with an appropriate punishment for my 11 year old son. He has consistently lied to me about having completed his Spanish coursework over this school year. I decided to take a bit of time in determining an appropriate punishment for his lack of effort in this particular course. I decided that there would be two actions that I would take in response to his lying. The first action was that I would find jobs in the house that needed completed and have him do them. He is not very found of housework which makes it a good job for him to do right now. The other punishment is that I am suspending our television account for one and possible two months. The reason for this is that his primary motivation for lying to me was in order to spend more time watching television. Our agreement until now has been that he is allowed to watch some television after his schoolwork is done each day. Now he will have no reason to rush to the television because there will be nothing to watch. Instead of watching television he can use that time to complete the 39 assignments that are now past due.

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Punishments

Our oldest son has reached the age where it is clear that he is beginning to think of himself as being smarter than his parents. I have until now considered my son a very honest child. In fact he has always been too honest. Today I found out he has been lying to me on a regular basis in regards to his Spanish class. This has been the one class that I have trusted him to complete the work independently because he always has. Today I found that he has skipped over every single assessment for the entire school year. I am beyond disappointed in him and am trying to come up with an adequate punishment. It is hard when you have a child like him who has until now been so honest and trust worthy.

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Family dynamics…

We spent the weekend visiting with many members of our family. Among the visitors to our house was my brother’s fiance. I don’t really know her and have been trying to get better acquainted with her. Both of my brother’s are in their 40′s and have never been married. The prospect of someone new in our family really changes the dynamics. With a wedding on the horizon it is interesting to see how people change the way they relate to one another. My mother is of course in a panic about dresses, tuxes, and all sorts of unusual stuff like getting my brother a lapel pin. My brother seems pretty oblivious to the fact that he is acquiring a wife and is approaching it all in the same way as he does everything else. While I am happy for my brother I am not really looking forward to more weird family get gatherings in the future. Having someone new in the group made everyone act weird and quiet. I know we will get used to it eventually but it might take a while.

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Summer break…

It has been raining here for what seems like a month. It just feels like the weather is never going to to warm up and that spring is never going to truly arrive. I have a couple hundred plants that I have started and would love to get planted outdoors. The weather has been so unpredictable that I just don’t feel like it is safe yet to put them outdoors. At the rate it is going we are just going to go straight from winter into summer and will skip right over spring. The children are nearly done with their classes for the year and are just itching to move onto summer vacation. I know how they feel and would just love to pack everyone up for a day at the park. The problem is that all the rain has left the park by our house under about two feet of water. My youngest son just doesn’t understand why we can’t go to the playground. The only thing we could do at the playground right now is practice boating.

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Questions and more questions…

My youngest son has entered that phase of childhood where he asks one question after another. He wants to know everything and anything imaginable. He is also in a phase of repeating almost everything that he hears. It doesn’t matter to him what he is saying. You can be sure that if he hears a commercial for social security disability or the weather report that it will be worth repeating. Between the repetition and the questions I do not believe the child is silent at any point between waking up and going to bed. Often he will ask the same question numerous times in the course of day. I sometimes wonder if he asks me the same thing time and time again hoping for a different answer. For example, today he asked asked me no less that 20 times if we can go to the park. It doesn’t matter how I answer the question because I know he is just going to ask me again in another couple of minutes. I love him dearly and realize this is just a phase that we are both going to have to get through.

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Motion activated stuff…

I am in the process of beefing up my garden security. It seems that we have bears on the prowl once again this year. I am not particularly worried about the bear situation but for some reason my neighbor seems to be. He tells me every chance he gets that the bears are out and about. I will be more concerned when I actually have stuff in my garden worth worrying about. In the meantime I am looking into various motion activated stuff that might scare the bears and other pests away. At the top of my list right now is a motion activated sprinkler. I would have loved to have this device when we lived in a crummy neighborhood and had people living around us who knew no boundaries. It would have been great for limiting loitering in the yard and whatnot. I am so happy that bears are my biggest worry right now instead of hooligans.

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Spring allergies.

It is definitely spring in our part of the country. I can always tell when spring arrives by the amount of sneezing and coughing in my house. Everyone in my house has seasonal allergies and spring is a particularly tough time for us for some reason. For most of the winter we are able to get away without running our air purifier but when spring comes we can’t live without one. I have had to add a second allergy medicine to my daily routine just to keep myself from sneezing constantly. I hate winter but I love the way my sinuses feel during the cold winter months when pollen levels are zero. I would love to have springtime weather without the allergies that come along with it.

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New resolve…

This week I decided that the time had come to take control of my eating habits. I put myself on a very strict regimen of meals and hope to loose a significant amount of weight. It has been a struggle this winter to keep my weight under control. I have been working out regularly but apparently it has not been enough to make me loose weight. Now that the weather is warmer and we are outside more it is easier to not turn to the refrigerator for entertainment. I have a goal to get my weight back down to where it was last year at this time. That should be attainable as long as I keep myself out of the kitchen and busy in the garden.

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Putting my lawn to work…

It is funny how the different viewpoints that people can take on the idea of gardening. We have met a ton of people who see no reason to grow a vegetable garden when the vegetables can easily be bought at the market. On the other hand there are just as many people who completely understand why growing vegetables is so rewarding. We have a couple of neighbors who are keenly interested in each and everything we do in our backyard garden but for very different reasons. One neighbor seems to be a bit put out by the fact that we don’t keep leave our lawn as it was. This neighbor commented on how nice the grass was in our yard. Yes, the grass was lovely as it the gorgeous kick plate and antique door that came with the house. These were definitely factors that drew us to the house when we bought it but the world has changed since then. We can’t eat grass and America has lost tons of wonderful farmland because people insist on having huge lawns that produce nothing edible. By growing a small garden I put my yard to work for my family which is also better for our world. My neighbor might not get this but he doesn’t have to look at my garden if he doesn’t want to. He can look at his perfectly manicured lawn that no one ever walks on or even sits outside to enjoy.

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Digging…

We spent the entire day outside today! This is the first time in oh so many months that we have been able to do this. Our winter has seemed endless this year. The snow melted off and then we were hit again and again with minor winter storms. Today the temperature was perfect for working in the garden. Nothing lifts my spirits quite like a day of digging in the garden and working on project outside. We were able to put in blueberry, gooseberry, nanking cherry, and currant bushes. My husband planted 3 new grape vines along our property line. I planted another 10 crowns of purple passion asparagus along side the 10 crowns I planted last week. We put in a 16 foot row of German butterball potatoes as an experiment. In my mini-hoop house I planted some carrots and transplanted some lettuce and kale seedlings. The last project was to start a new lasagna garden bed. Needless to say we are all exhausted from our day in the fresh air and hours spent digging in the dirt.

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All dressed up.

Once a week I attend a walking and running group along with about 200 other women from our community. The group is awesome on so many levels. It is a great way for women to support each other in physical fitness and friendship. I do have to smile at some of the women who come there. They are dressed in all the latest and greatest in urban clothing and trendy clothing. As lovely as they look it does cause me to wonder if they are their to impress the other women with their clothing or to become more physically active. I usually throw on a pair workout pants and a couple of layers of shirts. My hair gets pulled back in a ponytail and I am set for an intense workout. I suppose no one at the group goes home wanting to copy my style but at least I feel properly dressed for working out as opposed to shopping at the nearest mall.

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Sad, sad week…

This week has been one of those weeks that just seems impossible. It started when a friend from high school died without any warning. She was a health and newly married 40 year old woman who is no longer on this earth. A couple of days later another friend of ours lost his father to leukemia. A few days after that we received a middle of the night call letting us know that my husband’s cousin has suddenly passed away. She had been told 36 hours prior to dying that she had a sinus infection. This turned out to be much more serious than that and was in fact a rare blood infection. She passed within hours of her initial visit to the hospital. All this was after having overcome leukemia several years prior. She was wonderful woman who had lost a daughter to cancer at the time of her leukemia diagnosis. Her other daughter had also won the battle against brain cancer as a child. At the time of her death her mother was recovering from surgery to remove cancer from her throat that had spread from another area of her body. This was a woman who deserved to live and deserved to see her grandchildren go old. She did not deserve to die in the middle of the night without notice. Her life had been a war against disease in every single person near and dear to her. She deserved a chance to fight this infection with the warrior spirit that was so clearly a part of her.

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One car family.

Last weekend we returned our lease car to the dealership. We discussed the notion for a long time of not replacing it with another vehicle and instead relying on our other car. The decision to keep just one vehicle was easy for our family because we home school and my husband only lives a couple of miles from work. We have a wonderful bike path that he can take from right near our house to directly in front of his office. Having the kids at home means that I don’t have to run them to school every morning and pick them up every afternoon. Obviously having only one vehicle will mean that we need to practice defensive driving to keep our single vehicle in good running order. Not having a backup vehicle makes it very important to treat our remaining vehicle as carefully as possible.

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Full swing~

This month has absolutely flown by! It feels great to know that warm weather is just around the corner. Our gardening projects are already in full swing. There are 4 flats of seedlings under grow lights in the basement that are thriving. This is a huge improvement over my bumbling attempts to start seeds last year. The soil in the raised beds has been worked and amended. Two new gardening areas have been dug and are just waiting to be planted. The plants I have had on order for the last 6 months are now on their way to my house. Our spot at the community garden has been confirmed. We have a new cultivator that should make life at the garden infinitely easier. I am thankful for so, so many opportunities to get my hands in the soil.

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Reusing old things.

Last weekend we removed the door from my youngest son’s closet. The closet door was inconvenient for him to use because of the way it had been installed. It also prevented heat from getting into his room. For some strange reason the source of heat for his room was placed in the closet. The door is a beautiful old and very heavy oak door. My husband wanted to get rid of it but I said I wanted to keep it. I have an idea for reusing it to make a table. My husband doesn’t quite share my vision. He typically only understands my ideas once they become a finished product. Truth be told he would prefer I just buy atlantic furniture or something similar and be done with it. His preference is for new things when it comes to furniture as opposed to my preference for older or reinvented things.

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Task accomplished.

My parents have had apple trees in their back yard for as long as I can remember. The trees produce beautiful apples but have not been pruned in about 20 years. As you can imagine the trees are very overgrown and in need of care. Today we went up to attack the trees and prune them as best we could. Never having pruned apple trees before we kind of just did the best we could. We watched a ton of YouTube videos on pruning apple trees and read what information was available online to prepare us for the job. The thing is that in cold it is a very different job from what it is when you are in and the under the tree. We really needed more tools to do a proper job but I think it was a good start. We figure that next year we can do a bit more work and every year thereafter. I only hope the trees reward us with apples in the fall and that we didn’t damage the tree too much.

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Pampered life.

We woke up this morning and realized that just about every quick breakfast food in our house was gone. This isn’t to say there isn’t food in our house. In fact we could easily survive on the supplies I have in the house for many months. What I am referring to is easy breakfast foods like bread, bagels, cereal, and yogurt. The uproar in my house over this fact was a bit hilarious. You would think that my children and husband were living in one of those luxury new york city hotels or something. I reassured everyone that I would be baking later in the day and that life would return to normal shortly. In the meantime the world would still rotate if we had to have oatmeal or eggs for breakfast.

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Little battles.

One of the biggest struggles I have had in living a sustainable lifestyle is getting my children to eat the food that I make. Trust me when I say I am a pretty decent cook. The taste of my food is not the problem. The problem is that my children grew accustomed to their food coming in a specific package. Bread that comes from a pan is foreign. My oldest son adapted fairly rapidly but the little guy has been an entirely different story. His fussiness was to the point that I would save wrappers from store products to put my own home made food in suck as bread, donuts, and yogurt. I may have finally gotten over this hurdle just this week as the child is finally eating these items straight from the container they are made in.

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Treasured gifts.

If you have followed this blog for very long you will know that I am a girl with simple needs and wants. I don’t follow trends and I don’t have need for the newest thing on the market. This is a value I hope to instill in my children. I think my philosophy is rubbing off on them to some degree. My son is constantly asking if we can make or build this or that rather than buy it. This isn’t to say that I don’t treasure special gifts given to me. My favorite belongings include those gifts and Personal Creations given to me by the special people in my life. I treasure a small clay worm made by my oldest son when he was just 3 years old. He wrapped it in tissues and was so very proud of it. Even now, eight years later, my heart melts every time I look at that little worm.

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So many plans…

This winter I have been like a kid in a candy store when it comes to gardening books and blogs. I simply CANNOT get enough. Just when I think I have my gardening plans plotted out and ready I stumble across a new and better idea. I simply want to badly to bet getting outside and getting the soil ready. I feel so much more prepared for gardening this year. Last year we didn’t really know a great deal and somehow things worked out. This year it is a different ballgame. It is almost as if the risk is higher because I have invested so much time planning and researching. I also recognize the value of what we are able to produce in this economy. Not buying fruits and veggies for a year is huge in a world where gas is likely going to be $4.00 a gallon soon.

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February is almost over!

February has been a very long month. It has been a month that we have not looked forward to and are very glad to see come to an end. February reminds us of everything we dealt with last year at this time. All I can think of is accidents, surgeries, and dealing with auto insurance companies when I think of the month of February. You see last year my husband was involved in a very serious accident and we spent the entire month dealing with doctor’s, hospitals, and insurance agents. I am very glad to be on the other side of that time in life but I can’t help but be flooded with emotions when I think about everything that happened last year.

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Turning down gifts.

Our neighbor stopped me while I was shoveling snow and asked if we might want her son’s pet lizard. Her son is leaving in a month for the military and is looking to find a home for his lizard. I know that my oldest son would love to have such a pet but I do not feel so inclined. The lizard is in a cage that would take up a great deal of my son’s room and it is already small. The other thing is that the lizard would ultimately end up being my responsibility. My son is a fairly responsible kid but handling his dog is about all he can manage right now. The other thing is that I have a particular sensitivity to things kept in aquariums. Lizards and snakes, for some unknown reason, make me sick to my stomach. Going into a pet store with snakes and lizard makes my stomach lurch. I can’t imagine how it would be if I had to take care of one myself. We are going to have to decline this offer which I feel bad about but I just can’t handle the responsibility.

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Too much chocolate.

For some reason the only thing I want to eat today is chocolate. I realize that this signifies something that my body is trying to tell me. I have read that magnesium supplements can help with chocolate cravings and I have been taking them. I really am going to need diet pills if I can’t get these cravings under control. I have already had chocolate chips, a small chocolate bar, and hot chocolate today. I have absolutely no desire to eat anything else. Right now my house if filled with the smell of bread baking. This is usually a smell that causes me to want to eat the bread fresh from the oven. The only thing I can think about right now is how I can incorporate chocolate into our dinner. I have been known to make chocolate chip pancakes on days like this. Likely I won’t sleep well tonight because of all the caffeine in my system from the chocolate.

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Natural privacy …

Our backyard adjoins that of our neighbor’s without any division. To the casual observer our two properties appear to be one big yard. This is good and bad. It is good because it gives our children a sense of a bit more room to play than they otherwise might have. It is bad in that people visiting our neighbor’s don’t respect the property line nor seem aware of it. Our neighbor’s have a church on the other side of their house and it is the church that they attend. This means that they have a lot of people visiting them after church and during the week because their home is viewed as an extension of the church in some respect. People going to the church regularly walk through their yard and into ours.Our extensive gardening projects have peaked the interest of many people who think it is okay to come over the our yard and check things out. This would be fine if we actually knew anyone of them. We are happy to share information with people who really want to learn but most of these people just want to see what is in our backyard. We are now considering putting in a natural fence or hedgerow. I would like to use something that would produce food for us as well as offering just a bit of privacy and separation to our yards without being an obvious fence. We like our neighbors and don’t want to offend them.

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Quiet hours alone.

My children are the light of my life. There isn’t a day where I am not amazed and amused by them. At times I wonder how on earth such amazing people are from my gene pool. They are intense kids and always creating or doing something. This means I need to keep my energy level up as much as possible. I am trying to keep myself physically fit by exercising daily but it gets hard to fit it in some days. By the time the children are in bed I feel completely drained and the only thing I want to do it sit and relax. I am working on finding a way to fit in a mid-day workout but all I honestly it is very hard. I could devote about the amount of time it takes to swallow one of the best weight loss pills but that is about it. I realize that the solution to my is to just get up before the children and get my workout in then. Finding the motivation to hit the treadmill at 7:00 is really what my problem is right now. I love my sleep and I also love my quiet evenings alone.

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Do you fake it?

I wonder how many people out there are true to themselves each and every day? What I mean is how many of us are living the life we always saw ourselves living and being true to our beliefs. When I think about all the people I have gotten to know in this life I can only think of a few that I would confidently say are living life this way. We all make concessions and assumes roles demanded of us by society. It always seems like the people I know who stand up for their beliefs and chase their dreams should be entirely happy. I wonder if they really are happy with their lives or are they like the rest of us. By the rest of us what I mean is are they only achieving certain dreams and still have secret dreams that will never be achieved. I suppose this sounds silly but when you look at someone who seems to be living life without fear or caution and chases their dreams to no end it just seems like they should be happier than the rest of us.

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Handmade beauty products.

One of my many interests is making homemade personal care products. I have yet to try making deodorant but I have copied a couple of recipes. I have successfully made bath soap with a variety of ingredients including tea tree oil and lavender. There is just something about making deodorant that has me on the fence. I know a woman who uses a natural deodorant and well to be blunt she smells of body odor. I am not close enough to her to feel comfortable addressing the situation but it is enough to keep me from making my own deodorant right now. I know there must be recipe out there that works but I am going to have to be convinced of that before I invest the time and money making it. For now I will keep on using my highly processed and totally unnatural deodorant. I have enjoyed success with the products I have made thus far and believe at one point I will try deodorant but just not yet.

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Do you stock up?

A great many people I know think the idea of stocking a bunch of groceries in your house is silly. These people always say that they will just go to the store should they run low on supplies. I really believe you need to approach life in a way that works well for you and your life situation. I am one of those people who has gone “without” at various points of my life. Being hungry as a child is still a painful memory that I can easily draw upon. I never want my children to experience that feeling. We are not struggling to make ends meet but we are also not wealthy. If something happened we could easily find life very precarious. I like the idea of buying food that I can have on hand for the “what ifs” in life. I like not having to run to the store in the middle of a horrible storm. I like knowing surprise guests for dinner will not throw me or my food budget for a loop. I don’t stock prepared foods like I once did but I still stock staples that will allow me to make a multitude of meals from scratch whenever I like.

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It is just lip balm!

My youngest son has had very chapped lips since late November. It all started when he got a cold and he starting sucking or licking his lips for whatever reason. We have been trying to get them cleared up ever since then. We have tried creams and salves of all sorts and nothing seems to clear it up. The problem is compounded because my son absolutely hates to have any sort of balm or cream put on his skin. It would matter if I was trying to put body lotion or accutane on him. The process of putting lip balm on his lips results in a screaming battle of wills. As soon as the balm is on his lips the entire screaming match is over. I recently made homemade lip balm from coconut oil, shea butter, and bees wax. This balm seems to be the first thing that has improved the state of his lips. After just a week they are almost entirely healed which is a huge relief to us all.

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Stiff necks…

For some reason I am prone to getting stiff necks. I don’t know why this is. I suspect it has something to do with my posture when I am working at the computer. For whatever reason I tend to develop a stiff neck after I have a great deal of work to do at the computer and also when there is a lot of snow to be shoveled or leaves that need raking. Today there was so much snow it was ridiculous and I had to shovel twice. As you might imagine I am having some serious issues with my neck today. I would like to take a muscle relaxer but I always worry that somehow something will happen and the muscle relaxer will prevent me from being alert and attentive to the situation. So, I sit in pain waiting for it to go away. Usually it does in about 3-4 days. This is day one.

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Life simplified.

Over the last year my life has become simplified on so many levels. We have tried to live life in such a way as to not only live most sustainably but to also limits the amount of money we spend. There are several things I think are important areas to focus on when shifting to this type of lifestyle. When we first started out we began to seriously assess what we truly needed in the way of food, beauty products, and cleaning supplies. I investigated how we might make or provide these things on own using more natural or organic supplies. I think many people don’t even consider the chemicals they are bringing into their homes. Most people buy things simply based on price or convenience. If everyone made just a few small changes in these areas it could have a huge impact on our health, budgets, and the world in general.

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Too much to do.

Our oldest son is avidly involved in Boy Scouts. His troop actually meets twice a week on most weeks because of all the activities they have planned. Our son is also very busy with gifted program through his cyber school. You wouldn’t think it would be possible for a child who goes to cyber school to be overly involved in extra-curricular activities but mine is. Between projects for Boy Scouts, science fair research, and the stock market team the child seems to working most of the day on something with someone. That is why I have to laugh whenever anyone comments about home schooled children and socialization. Clearly mine is socialized.

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A touch of warmth…

I have a serious case of spring fever. I want so very badly to see something green growing. Last week I started some onion seeds and they are just now starting to germinate. It seems like I am spending every free moment I have in front of one of our computers reading everything I can on gardening. Today was the first day in about 3 months that I have felt like spring may really be on the way. The temperature today was in the mid 50′s and a good deal of snow melted off the ground. I can almost see my raised garden beds once again. If felt so good to feel a bit of warm air on my face when I went outside. I know we still have a couple of months of winter left but at least I can see light at the end of the tunnel. I might be squinting to see that light but I am sure it is there.

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Night out in Nowhereville.

Tonight was our weekly evening out on the town with the kids. If I haven’t mentioned it before – we live in Nowhereville. It is a town that has just about …well… nothing going on. The main things to do in town during the winter are go to Walmart or the “mall”. We took the children to the library and then to eat at a fast food restaurant. We hardly ever eat fast food so going to Burger King for junk food is a huge treat. After eating a feast of what is in reality corn based food we headed to the “mall”. Our local mall, at one time, had maybe 20 stores in it. As it stands there are now 4 stores in it. One of them is a pizza place. The other three are Big Lots, Kmart, BonTon, and Goodwill… You can imagine how long we spent in the mall right?

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Meltdown!

This has been a particularly hard winter for our part of the country. We have had more snow and ice that I can remember for a very long time. Last weekend there was so much snow pile on our back porch roof that my husband had to climb out there and shovel it all off. We were a little concerned that the the roof might give way and fall on our camper. We don’t really have money right now for a motorhome repair and wanted to do whatever we could to avoid it if possible. I am really happy that the weather has given us a little bit of a break and everything is melting. There actually have been a couple of roofs in our area that have collapsed recently because of the stress of the weight of snow on them. I feel awful for the people it happened to because it just seems like something so unexpected.

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A lady needs a nest…

One of our chickens has been laying eggs for almost a month. Right from the very beginning she understood exactly where to lay her eggs. She lays her eggs in exactly the same spot every day and doesn’t care what or if there is a box there to catch them. One of the other chickens started laying about a week ago and has had no clue where to lay them at all. We have had 3 nest boxes in the coop and she still drops them from the roost to the floor. This has meant a broken egg each and every day. Two days ago we decided to mount a nest box to the roost where she normally sits. Low and behold today there was an egg in that box! Apparently the little lady wants her own special spot and doesn’t want to go where everyone else is going. I think it is a little bit funny but have to respect a chicken that clucks to the beat of her own drum.

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Off track…

Sticking to a workout routine is something I struggle with. I am able to consistently workout as long as I do it every single day. When something comes up and I am not able to workout for a day it throws me completely off. I then use this as an excuse not to workout the next day and maybe the one after that. I wish I could just pop a pill like adapexin-p and the weight would melt away. That is not reality as I see it. I know that my body needs me to exercise and eat right. There is just something going on in my mind right now that can’t make my mind decide to get back on the treadmill. I know I have to and will feel great once I am back in a workout routine once again. All it took was the flu to throw me off track and now look where I am. The reality is that is just a pathetic excuse for sitting around and doing nothing.

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Calculating needs…

Yesterday I spent some time in my pantry moving things about. As you might remember I canned about 500 jars of food last summer for the first time. Some people might say I went a bit overboard but I really don’t think so. We are about 1/3 of the way through this stockpile of food. I have a ton of green beans to use and know that next year I won’t need to do quite so many. The other things I canned like peaches are very clearly going to run out before peach season comes again. When I look at our tomato products it is also clear I will need to do more and change my recipe a bit. I canned a great deal of juice because I wanted to process things quickly. This means when I make spaghetti sauce I have to add tomato paste to the juice which adds to the cost of the end product. By cooking my juice into a sauce I will eliminate this step next year. Our apple sauce supply is right on target and I will undoubtedly do even more next year. My boys love it and I hate limiting them when it comes to fruits. I will not can corn next year. The corn I froze from the same batch is far, far superior in taste and texture. I love having canned potatoes and can’t imagine not having them again next year. It is fun to be able to gauge our needs for next year.

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So many positives…

Having my children in cyber charter schools has been an unbelievable experience for our family. My children love their schools and don’t feel like they miss out on anything. Aside from a top notch curriculum they have tons of outings and clubs that they can participate. There really is no shortage of opportunities for them to pursue their interests. I love that I have the freedom to modify their curriculum and schedules to suit our needs. Each month I have a conference call with their teacher’s to discuss their progress and the assignments we have submitted. This is a wonderful experience because I have the teacher’s undivided attention applied to my students. When my son was in public school we only met with his teacher 2 times a year for 15 minutes. It was a brief and concise meeting that left me feeling that my child was expected to fit into a specific mold. With our present school we create the school experience that best serves the needs of my children.

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One year…

One year ago today I received a phone call that I will never forget. It was from a paramedic on the scene of an accident. He was telling me that my husband had been in a car accident and that they were in the process of “cutting him” out of the car. He said that my husband was not conscious and that I needed to get to the hospital as quickly and carefully as I could…

We were having homemade pizza that night and we waited and waited for my husband who is never late to arrive. Although we are now past that horrible incident and my husband has recovered I still cannot look at pizza without thinking of that night. Tonight by coincidence we are having homemade pizza once again. My husband has strict instructions not to be late and not to stop for any errands.

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Gifts from the girls.

Early last September we brought home 3 newly hatched chickens. We got them for the purpose of having our own fresh eggs. When we first brought them home it seemed like it would be forever before we got any eggs. Yesterday my husband went out to their coop to take care of them and was thrilled to find two eggs. This was a pretty exciting moment for our entire family. I honestly think we called as many people as we did for the birth of our children. I kind of felt like we should be handing out Avo cigars or something. It seems that only one of the chickens is laying at this point but I know it won’t be long before two are also leaving us gifts each day. They are gorgeous brown eggs and I cannot wait to have enough to make a meal for our family with them.

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A long and sick weekend.

Last Thursday my older son said he didn’t feel well. He is the type of child who never tells you much about what is going on with his body. When he does mention something you know that he must feel pretty crummy. By the next morning he had spiked a fever and looked terrible. The day after that he was vomiting. By Sunday our youngest son had joined the fun and had a fever and a cough of his own. As of this morning I now find myself with a terribly sore throat and nice deep cough. It has been a very long weekend and looks like it will be an even longer week at this rate.

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Life in pictures.

For Christmas we gave our youngest son a digital camera made for young children. I spent time today looking through the pictures he had take with his camera and clearing things out that needed deleted. It is always fun to look at life from the vantage point of a four year old. He must have take 400 pictures of our living room. Most of them were of his feet or his toys but there were a few that actually showed our home from his eye level. I can now why he is always crawling on our modern coffee table and footstools. From where he stands it is really hard to see anything in the room past the couches and chairs. The only way for him to see the rest of the house is to get up on something. I almost want to keep all of his pictures because they really do offer a unique view of the world that as adults we are so often oblivious to. The problem is that as I said most of his pictures are of his feet. I think I need to spend a bit more time teaching him to actually look at an focus in on other objects in the world that interest him besides his feet.

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Almost gone.

This afternoon I finished cleaning out my various pantries and cupboards. My main goal was to go through the food in our cabinets and determine what needed to be thrown out. For a long time I was an avid user of coupons. I thought I saved tons of money on groceries using these coupons and I suppose in a sense I did. At that time in life we didn’t make very many things from scratch. What I mean is if I baked a cake it came from a mix and so on. I know there are people who think that is cooking from scratch but let’s be serious. In the last year I have totally changed our habits of consumption and strive VERY hard not to use convenience foods. I make things from real ingredients and use very little processed foods in our daily life. I do keep some things like crackers around for the kids but I make everything else. Yes, I could make crackers but I think there do need to be limits. It is work to make everything but I actually enjoy it and my family appreciates my breads, muffins, cookies, granola, pasta, and well everything. My project of cleaning out the cupboards was to enable me to see where I stood on using up the stockpiles of food I had amassed using coupons and to weed out stuff that was way past the usable date. To my delight there was very little of these items remaining. I did have to throw out some things and that irks me because it is like throwing out money but they were things that I couldn’t in good conscience feed my family or give away.

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Sleep is wonderful.

For several years I was unable to sleep without taking some kind of sleep aid. Honestly, I took them for so long that I had no idea if I could ever sleep without them. Finally, I broke down about a month ago and decided that enough was enough. I made the decision to wean myself off sleeping aids even if it meant I didn’t sleep well for a long time. I honestly envisioned myself going for weeks without sleep while I waited for my body to adjust. I could just see myself aging from the lack of sleep and needing the best wrinkle cream for my tired face. It was surprising how quickly my body adjusted to the changes once I made the decision to do so. I have used some herbal supplements to promote sleep but do not feel the they are entirely necessary nor is my body reliant on them. Looking back I can see how the stress I was experiencing so many years ago led to my sleeplessness which caused me to seek out something to help me sleep. Little did I know how my body would come to rely on these sleep aids to get rest.

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Vague messages…

I don’t like answering machines or voice mail. In reality I don’t care much for talking on the phone at all. I suppose there is something wrong with me or someone would declare me as such. There are a few people I like to talk to but outside of that circle there aren’t many. Making business phone calls is something I loathe. Maybe it is some sort of social anxiety issue? I don’t really care because it doesn’t harm anyone and I take care of what needs to be taken care of. Most of the time I don’t think about this at all. Today a voice mail reminded me of this and caused me to think about my issues with the phone. My mother-in-law loves to leave voice messages. What irks the crap out of me is that they are ALWAYS vague and cryptic messages. The message generally sounds like she is worried or something and they always say “This is your mother, please call me”… No clue as to what she needs or wants or if it is an emergency. I WANT to know why you called and what you need and whether I HAVE to tend to it now or it can wait until I get my coat off or I need to hop in the car and call on the way… You know what I mean? If I call you I say why and for what purpose I am calling. If I am upset – I will clearly tell you why. All of her calls sound like someone has been hurt or is seriously ill. The reality is that many of the calls are to tell us stuff like – her power was off for an hour or there is a sale on milk….

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Incline walking.

We have owned a treadmill for several years. It has to be my favorite piece of workout equipment ever. The reality is that it is the only piece of equipment that I find myself able to stick with. I like the fact that I don’t have to think about what I am doing or perform crazy moves to get a decent workout. Recently I started to experiment with varying the incline of the treadmill while working out. I read that this was one good move to make if you wanted a real fat burner. After doing a bunch of reading I learned that by increasing the incline while walking it was possible to burn a significantly larger amount of calories during the same duration of working out. It took my body a while to adjust to the incline but now I can’t imagine not using it. I love the exhausted feeling I have after an intense workout using this technique. I could walk twice as long on a flat surface and not feel half the workout.

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Changing tastes.

In learning to live sustainably I have had to see the world in a different light. One of the main things that I have had to change entirely is my view of food. Two main things now steer my decisions as to what food I buy and bring into our home. One thing I look at is where my food came from. The closer to home the better. Food that comes from around the country or around the world generally is full of preservatives or is essentially “old” food. Consider where fruit might come from in the dead of winter here in the northeast. There isn’t a single place I can think of within hundreds of miles that could grow any type of fruit right now. I tend not to shop in places like Walmart but had to go there this week for something. I ended up in the produce section and had to laugh at the array of stuff available there that was totally out of season and outrageously priced as a result. Yes, I love raspberries with a desire so deep…but… there have been out of season in this area for 6 months. Consider what it might take to not only grow them but to ship them to my area. How fresh and wholesome are those pretty little berries in reality?

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Midlife weight loss…

I am 40 years old. This isn’t a number that really means anything to me. In the course of my daily life I give it no more thought that I do whether the sky will be clear or cloudy. Apparently this is an age that is of some significance when it comes to weight loss. As many of you know I have been working out diligently for some time. I admit that I have been frustrated with the lack of movement downward on my scale. I almost considered where to buy apidexin cheap but decided to keep working on my objectives. This week I learned that after the age of 40 that it becomes more difficult to loose weight because of changes in metabolism that take place as we age. That news did not set well with me and I intend to ask my doctor about it when I see her this week. I hate the idea of thinking that I might have to work out harder than ever to see any results. As it stands I walk 4 miles a day on a steep incline at a pace of 3.5 miles per hour. I honestly don’t know how much harder I can work out.

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Play time…

I love my children there is no denying that. I would do anything for them and would have to say that just about everything I do is with them in mind. There is one thing that I have never been thrilled about doing with my kids… and that is imaginative play. It really centers around my just not being horribly imaginative in that arena nor I suppose comfortable. I do, however, play with my children. I hope they don’t realize that my whole heart in not in the process because I try to act like it is. Reading books to them is something I truly love. Playing farm or race car champ is just not my cup of tea. BUT… I do it. Hopefully, they remember that “Mom” played with them and not that I did so with silent grudging in my mind.

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Nasty day…

I woke up this morning quite early and realized that I had a few errands that I needed to take care of. I prefer heading out as early as possible because I detest crowds and waiting in line. Our town really only has a handful of stores despite a decent population. This means that everyone ends up shopping in the same place. If you get the stores before 9am there is good chance you will get in and out quickly. When I left the house the weather was fine and the sky seemed clear. I couldn’t believe the difference in the weather when I emerged from the store after about an hour of shopping. It was so snowy that I couldn’t see my car in the parking lot. My husband was already in the garage when I got home trying to start our toro snowblower. Apparently we are supposed to get another foot of snow today and more tomorrow. The funny thing there was nothing on the radio about us getting another snow. I am guessing that at this point our winter has been so bad that everyone just expects that we will get snow and more snow.

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Garden planning.

Last year was the first year that we gardened with any kind of intensity. We have a few raised beds in our backyard as well as a decent sized plot at our local community garden. I consider last year to be a year of learning. It became clear that maximizing our garden space would require more planning in the future to ensure a decent return for our time and effort. This year I signed up for every garden magazine available. I have spent hours pouring over them to determine what plants might or might not work in our area. I have also been using an online garden planner to try different planting plans out. My orders for seeds have been placed and I am now just waiting. A few of the plants we intend to grow will need started towards the end of next month. I love when things are in the stage because it feels like spring really is around the corner.

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Sales…

It was a bit weird having Christmas on a Saturday this year. I don’t know why but it feels like Christmas should occur on a weekday for some reason. I guess in my head it just seems to fall into the category along with Black Friday and Cyber Monday. All the big shopping days prior to Christmas occur on a weekday and it just seems like Christmas is always on a weekday as well. I didn’t go out shopping yesterday but I have to wonder if the after Christmas sales will be different because of the holiday falling on a weekend? So many people are back at work today that it would seem like there would be fewer bargain shoppers out and about. I have to run a few errands tonight and am hoping to find a few bargains on wrapping paper for next year.

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Stop telling me…

My friend is obsessed with people gaining weight. This isn’t something new and is really how she has been the entire 20 years that I have known her. I love her but this has to be one of the characteristics about her that drives me a wee bit crazy. She is a petite woman and makes a point of drawing attention to this fact whenever she can. It verges on being a helpless type of attention seeking behavior. She can’t do this or can’t do that because she is so “small”. I know a bunch of people the same size as her who are not nearly so helpless. I have yet to have a visit with her where she isn’t telling me about how much weight this person has gained or how much they eat. I just don’t care what other people weigh nor what they do or do not eat. I sometimes wonder if she talks about me in the same way that she does all the other people in her life…. I would rather be a bit overweight and able to do things for myself than be “petite” and always in need of someone to do this or that for me.

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Making trouble…

My youngest son is inquisitive. He investigates everything and anything that he can get his hands on. This is for the most part a good characteristic but can sometimes get him into trouble. For example, he has decided to test out the new tomato strainer that I was given for Christmas. I found a pen and a bean in the hopper this morning. This is a device designed to juice tomatoes and separate the seeds and skins from the pulp. It is not designed to juice pens nor plastic beans. I can only imagine the trouble the child would get himself into if we had gotten a power lift chair or some other electrical gadget. He surely keeps us on our toes as we try to anticipate what he might get into next. I know that his need to understand how things work is a positive attribute and I try very hard to keep this in mind as I fish pens and whatnot out of my kitchen gadgets.

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Ready to clean up.

I love decorating for Christmas. We always put our tree up around the first of December. The children love this part of the holidays and are very involved in decorating. I am, however, also one of those people that is ready to take the tree down the day after Christmas. For whatever reason the tree somehow adds to the feeling of clutter and chaos in the the house and drive me crazy once the holiday is over. I would be taking it down at this very moment if it weren’t for the fact that my children would be sad. I want them to enjoy the magic of the holidays and not send them the wrong message because of my issues with clutter. I keep trying to tidy up the toys and packages littering the floor but it is a useless process. I need to resign myself to the clutter for the time being and just be glad they want to spread their toys everywhere.

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Finally done.

This morning I spent a few hours finishing up my Christmas shopping. I couldn’t believe how crowded the stores were at 8:00 am! I don’t do a great deal of shopping in stores because I prefer to shop online. Despite the incredible lines I did manage to pick up the last few things on my shopping list. I managed to stick to a pretty strict budget and not use any credit cards this year. I set a mental limit of how much I was going spend on each person on my list and did not deviate. I would have loved to buy my husband a Sony VAIO but I resolved to only spend the amount of cash we had on hand. I am proud to say that this is the very first Christmas that I haven’t used a single credit card to make a purchase. I like knowing that the presents under our tree are paid for and I won’t see a single bill coming for them in the New Year.

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Skipping a day.

I am a person who needs to bathe daily. Well, I should word that to say I have deep desire to get clean each and every day. I have a couple of friends who don’t feel this way and have no problem skipping a day of bathing. I just can’t bring myself to do that. This morning I needed to get out of the house early to run errands. I decided to give not washing my hair a try. I took a shower but just put up my hair and didn’t wash it. That worked out fine for a few hours but then quickly looked bad. About half way through the day, my hair just looked greasy and gross. I just now took another shower to wash my hair. In the end I should have just gotten up early and gotten everything done because I lost time taking another shower. I don’t see how people can skip a day and look and feel just fine. Maybe it is all in my head.

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Parking at a premium.

The winter weather we have been experiencing is making life interesting. I do not remember winter coming at us with such a fierceness in the last several years. Living in the Northeast we tend to take winter in stride. It snows and we just deal with it. Getting four feet of snow in two weeks has thrown us for a loop. There is so much snow that there really is nowhere to put it. Cars that normally would be parked on side of the street are now more towards the center. The snow narrowing our streets to the point that it is only a matter of time before there is an accident in front of our house. I can only hope that the people daring enough to park their cars on the street have good insurance or know their way around carinsurancelist.com because their cars are going to get hit. I know some people have no choice but to park in the street but I think I would seriously drive around until I found a side street to park on rather than the main road. Even if I had to walk a distance it would be better than risking getting my car hit by a snowplow.

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Writing and more writing.

When I first started working with our youngest son at the start of the school year he was very resistant to learning to write. He really hadn’t chosen a hand preference and found the process of writing very awkward. It has been interesting to see his interest in writing and school develop over the last four months. He now loves to do the work sheets required for each lesson. In fact, he insists on doing his work sheets which is a total change from the beginning of the year. He loves writing to the point that he is constantly writing his name on sheet of paper he can find. Yesterday, he found a pad of sticky notes and then proceeded to write his name on each and every slip of paper. He then placed these papers all over our footstool. My first instinct was to tell him to stop wasting the stick notes but I quickly realize that he is not wasting them because he is working on a skill. The sticky notes were free and had been sitting around for a very long time just waiting for a good purpose.

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Updates in my future.

I am reaching the point with my computers that I foresee some equipment upgrades coming. I spend more time messing with things that I do actually working. Most of my problems are because my computers are now hitting the 5 year mark in terms of age. This is outdated by most standards in today’s world. I should spend some time over Christmas reading hp laptop reviews and other websites to determine what my options are. I always dread shopping for a computer because I never can make a decision given all the options on the market. I figure if I start shopping about 6 months before I am actually ready to make a purchase that I will have some clue as to what I want or need. Considering that I work from home and also home school the children it is really important that I have a system that can perform a variety of tasks without issue.

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How will it play out?

We are two weeks into what feels like the worst winter in a very long time. Usually our winter’s tend to build up slowly. In the past we seem to ease into the idea that the long, cold days of winter are here. This year it was like a cold slap in the face announcing that winter was in fact here and in a big way. In the last two weeks I would guess that we have gotten about 3-4 feet of snow. There doesn’t seem to be any end in sight. This week the wind chill is so bitter that I don’t even want to venture outside. Usually I do not mind shoveling snow and consider it an excuse to get a little bit of a work out in. Today, I haven’t even been outside because I just don’t want to know how much snow is out there. The predictions are that we will continue to get snowfall daily for the next week. All in all there should be no worries about us standing a chance of having a green Christmas. We will be lucky if we can get out of the driveway to go anywhere for Christmas.

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Lighter security.

This weekend we made some changes to the “security” inside our house. Our youngest son has always been a bit of an adventurer. He can and will test the limits of anything and everything. As a result we have had door knobs covers and protective devices on an extensive array of things. We finally feel he is beginning to understand what the limits are in our house without these devices. We have now removed the door knob covers and some of the cabinet locks from around the house. I don’t worry in quite the same way as I once did that he is going to get himself into trouble by simply exploring the house. He is far to interested in playing with his toys or watching television to try climbing up on things or exploring the basement and attic. It is nice to seem him maturing and becoming more predictable in his actions.

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Not sleeping.

I have been trying very hard to retrain my body to go to sleep at night without the aid of some sort of antihistamine or sleeping pill. I read that 5-HTP was a good supplement for increasing the amount of serotonin in your body. The first night I took I slept okay. It wasn’t perfect but it wasn’t terrible. Last night I took a double dose of it because I had worked out pretty intensely prior to going to bed. I ended up spending most of the night trying to get comfortable and not really sleeping. For some bizarre reason my nose started running like a stream from one nostril at about 3 am. I have no clue what that was all about. It went on for about an hour and then quit. I really, really want to be able to sleep at night on my own. I think this is going to take some time because my body simply has forgotten how to do so.

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Next year…

I make no secret about the fact that I am anxiously looking forward to next summer. This is primarily because I feel like I have finally found my passion in life. Gardening has given me joy like you wouldn’t believe. I still love a great many other hobbies that we have such as camping but it doesn’t compare to gardening. Gardening is something I can do virtually anywhere. I don’t have to worry about rv insurance or packing up a truckload of supplies. To garden I simply need soil, seeds, water, and sunlight. I can grow plants anywhere which is always fun. You can start a garden in a container on your windowsill which makes gardening a truly versatile hobby. We really love to spend our weekends, as a family, camping and connecting with the great outdoors but the garden gives me an entirely different sense of connectedness. When I manage to grow food for our table from a tiny seed I feel connected to the earth on a different level.

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Enough… is… enough!

This week it seemed like winter came at us with a fury. Usually our area tends to ease into winter. We get a few cold days with a bit of snow and then it warms up for a while. This year winter just decided to slam us full force without relenting. We were gifted with about 3 feet of snow over the course of the last week. I just looked at the weather report and it seems like there is no end in sight. On Sunday we are expected to get another foot of snow followed by bitterly cold temperatures. I know I live in an area where we just tend to deal with a bunch of snow and go on with life. The difference this year is that we haven’t even had a chance to wrap our heads around the idea that winter is really here.

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Just tell me…

There are only a couple of people left on my Christmas shopping list this year. I have managed to accomplish most of my shopping relatively easily right from my house. The only people I have left to buy for are my in-laws. They are almost impossible to buy for because they won’t tell us anything that they need or want. I have been scouring the internet looking for christmas list ideas for women. My mother-in-law doesn’t really have any hobbies or clear interests that I am aware of. She pretty much works and comes home and watches television until she goes to bed. She doesn’t enjoy reading which is a sharp contrast from everyone else in the family. My father-in-law has the ability to buy anything he wants or needs which leaves little room for creative purchases. He enjoys golf and some sports but has everything imaginable related to these interests. It would just be nice to have them simply say what they want but I know they won’t. Instead I sit here hoping for inspiration. What do you buy people for whom there is no perfect gift? I am very close to donating to a charity in their honor because I can think of nothing else.

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No snow days…

We have been cyber schooling our oldest son “L” for three years. In that time I have heard very little in the way of complaints from his about this. There have been times when he would make a comment about remembering something fun that he did in public school but this is a rarity. Today was the first time he made the connection about the children in cyber school having “snow days”. We have received about 18 inches of snow in the last 24 hours and the public schools were closed here today. My son noticed this fact and thought maybe the “snow day” would apply to him. Sadly, it does not. Our school never closes for the weather. I reminded him that our school also lets us finish as early as April if we have completed our coursework and met our hourly requirements for the year. I know he will appreciate this fact when April rolls around but it didn’t quite hit home today. Needless to say we had a decent day of school and were still able to enjoy the bounty of fluffy white snow in our yard.

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Waiting in line…

This week I had the occasion to attend a public event. While there I needed to relieve myself and found myself waiting forever in line for the restroom. Why they don’t require a certain number of stalls be available for women, at these type of events, is beyond my understanding. Any woman who has spent time in line at a public bathroom can appreciate this post. As I stand in line waiting for my turn in the stall I like to observe people. There are always people who seem completely oblivious to those around them. You know the people I am talking about. These are the women who take their sweet time in the stall and at the wash station. I am all for personal hygiene but do feel you need to be considerate of those around you. Do not take time in the stall to contemplate the ways of the world. Do your business and move on. By all means you should wash you hands and use the hand dryers. You should not stand in front of the mirror and reapply your makeup while five people wait behind you with dirty hands. While I hate standing in line to wash my hands I would much rather do so than not wash my hands at all. I always manage to notice someone who just skips this step in using the bathroom. I know there are people who think that the hand sanitizer in their purse will serve the same purpose but I don’t happen to agree. Hand sanitizer doesn’t remove the dirt and yuck from your hands. I will use it in a pinch but don’t consider it a substitute by any stretch for good hand washing when the opportunity is available.

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Strong convictions…

My littlest son “N” is an amazing kid who has strong convictions for a four year old. He knows exactly what he likes and doesn’t like and will not give any leeway on his personal stance on the subjects important to him. He hates all red clothing with the exception of his precious “Cars” pajamas. He only drinks milk and nothing else. He likes to be constantly in motion and busy. Passively watching the world is just not for him. I could go on and on about what he does and does not find acceptable. Some parents would see a child like this as a challenge that must be broken and dominated. We have found that parenting him is about making him feel like he is in control when in reality we are still achieving our objectives. I don’t give him a coat to put on because I have learned that having no choice means there will be a battle of wills. Something about the coat will be wrong in his opinion. Instead I hold up two coats and ask which he is going to put on. He feels like he has been given a choice and I have a child in a coat as opposed to one screaming and insisting on none at all. This isn’t to say he entirely controls everything but I know what battles are worth picking and what is better handled with a “choice”.

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Left hanging…

There are a couple of blogs that I follow on an almost daily basis. The authors of these blogs share simply the events of their daily lives in way that compels me to keep reading and wanting to know more. Their is a gift in their words that makes you feel like you know them on a personal level. Reading these blogs is like a book that you just don’t want to put down. There are a great many blogs out there that read more like www.coloncleanserreview.net rather than a personal journal. When I read these blogs I feel like the fly on the proverbial wall or a mouse hiding in the corner. Recently the author’s of these blogs have both quit writing. Honestly, the break in their writing is understandable given that while on separate ends of the globe they have both experience heart break and tragedy in last few months. I almost feel like I should send a card or a note which is what I would do if I knew them on a personal level. But, given that I don’t it doesn’t seem appropriate. I keep checking in with the hope that I will find they are doing better and that the sun is at long last shining on their world but there isn’t a word.

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Not a word…

I might have mentioned that last weekend I turned 40 years old. It may have come up that this day passed pretty much the same as any other day in the year. This is something I try to tell myself is okay with me. My friends on Facebook all marked the day with nice comments. My husband gave me a card and my brother send me a gift card. His gift really surprised me. No one else made comment or anything about this day. By no one I mean my other family members and specifically my own mother. Even when I saw her for Thanksgiving she made no mention of my birthday. She never does. As a child she pretty much told me to bake my own cake if I wanted one. My brother’s get noticed on their special days but not I. My husband said to me something that put it all in perspective. He said “Your mother loves your brother’s and she loves you but she loves you differently”… I never, ever want my children to have that realization. It is something I have always known in my heart but to hear it from someone else puts it all in a light that is a wee bit more painful. To not know why but to know it always has been is just hurtful. Maybe this is why I have never dreamed the dream most woman have of having a daughter. I think in my heart I have always feared that I would be like my mom and “love her differently”… Life is such that I will never know. All I know is that I desperately love my son’s and will never overlook the events of their lives.

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One hour for me.

Over the last few weeks I have been giving myself a gift each day. That gift is one hour of the day that is dedicated to myself. In actuality I am making myself exercise strenuously for one hour each day. I need to loose some weight and could take diet pills that work but I am not. I realized that working out makes me feel good. Even if I don’t loose a pound by working out I gain something from the time I spend alone taking care of myself. In the course of that hour I set a goal of burning 500 calories. It would be nice if this equated to weight loss as time progresses but I am not going to gauge things based on the scale. I am going to judge by my sense of well-being rather than the numbers on the scale. I learned the hard way that those numbers don’t mean much if I am still miserable at the end of the day. Knowing I walked 3.5 miles or burnt 500 calories makes me feel like I accomplished something whether the scale moves or not.

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No second Thanksgiving.

Today we were supposed to have our second Thanksgiving feast with my in-laws. We always celebrate Thanksgiving with my family on the actual day and then later in the week with my in-laws. As it turns out our youngest son has caught something and is pretty miserable. He spike a high fever last night and spent most of the night crying. My in-laws are a little perturbed that I am staying home with him and not bringing him to their house. I just don’t get their perspective and think it is just a wee bit selfish. When my father-in-law is sick he makes darn sure everyone knows he is miserable and does his best to make you know how put out he is to be where he is when he doesn’t feel 100%. To ask a small child to leave the comfort of his home when he is sick and feverish is selfish. Yes, I know he isn’t going to catch a cold from the visit but who wants to travel or sit at a long drawn out dinner when they don’t feel well or have the slightest interest in eating. So, here I am at home with fingers silently pointing my way because I am taking their grandchild away from them on the holidays….

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Beyond the label.

I have already posted this week about my horrific experience with allergies over the last seven days. I am actually afraid of what might happen if I have another one because of the severity of the last three. My husband was really surprise when I asked him to go to the store and get me some sleep aid tablets when I had my last allergy attack. I have tried to explain to him the tablets I was requesting actually contain a powerful antihistamine as their primary ingredient. He cannot get past the idea that I am taking a sleeping pill to treat my allergies. He thinks that I am taking the pills to sleep my way through the allergy attack rather than treat it. I am reasonably sure that I have grown immune to most other allergy medicines and for whatever reason these pills are what is currently working. I know he would feel differently about the pills had they been prescribed by a physician and the label said they were to treat allergies. It wouldn’t matter if the contents were the same because for him it is all about the label.

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Little people fears…

We have embarked on a new stage with our four year old son. This stage is what I refer to as the “fear” stage. He has always been my fearless child. The one that acts and then considers the results. It is odd now to find him being fearful of things. This week has shown us a whole new host of fears that never existed before this time. He is afraid to go to the bathroom alone. There is something lurking in the stairs. He is afraid to take a shower because the drain might suck him in. At night in his bed he is afraid of the sound of our heater heating his room. For some reason, yesterday, he was afraid of our toilet and would not use it. This was hard because our other bathroom is torn up due to a remodeling project. I know that these fears are a natural part of childhood but it doesn’t make me any less surprised to see them manifest in my little fearless boy.

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The perfect cookie.

For several months I have been searching for a the cookie recipe. I have made tons of cookies that are great for snacking and look pretty but they all lack a certain something. I have been looking for a cookie recipe that I can let my children eat any time of day that they want. I have been looking for something that is wholesome and low in sugar. A cookie that doesn’t make them act like they have taken diet energy pills or had a big cup of coffee. A cookie that really is a breakfast cookie. Good for you and that tastes good. I believe that at long last I have found that cookie. It contains no flour and is made from oatmeal and peanut butter. My youngest son is currently eating them without a second thought. This has not been the case with my previous breakfast cookie trials. There is usually something about the texture or the taste that just doesn’t set right with him. The only thing I would like to change with these cookies is to lower the fat ever so slightly and to decrease the sugar or substitute a more natural sugar. As soon as I do a few tweaks I will be sharing with you the most awesome cookie recipe ever.

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All done.

Yesterday I embarked on the process of making penguins from chocolate, marshmallow, and fruit snacks. I have never been especially good at working with chocolate. I needed to create a cake for a Boy Scout auction for my son using stuff I had in the house. I had been very sick in the last week with allergic reactions to who knows what. Leaving the house was not something I was anxious to do because I didn’t know what was causing my frequent reactions. Surprisingly, my penguins turned out pretty well. I have learned to give myself slack and realize that there are things I will succeed and things I will not. Sculpting with chocolate is one of those things I give myself slack. Today, I sculpted an iceberg out of cake and icing and it turned out pretty darn good. Put together the penguins and the iceberg made a cute little combination. On the top of the cake I placed a little tiny flag that said “Just Chillin’” … It might not win but we had fun making it and my children thought it was pretty awesome.

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Not enthusiastic…

This weekend my oldest son is supposed to go camping with his boy scout troop. He has never gone anywhere for the weekend with anyone who wasn’t in our immediate family. I have to admit that I am not very excited about the prospect of handing my son over to complete strangers for the weekend. My husband also told me that he signed my son up to go away to a jamboree in Virginia in the summer. I would rather talk about funeral planning than discuss sending my son several hundred miles away for a week or even a weekend. I know there are people who don’t give these things a second thought but I am just not one of them. I know there will come a time when I may feel better about these sorts of activities. My son is just not one of those world savvy kids that you know can handle himself in unusual situations. I wish I could be happy that he has these opportunities because I never did. Maybe that is why I am so cautious.

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3 days out of 4…

I am one of those many, many people who suffer from allergies. My allergies don’t impact me every day but when they do come they come fast and hard. I have had allergy testing in the past but it didn’t tell me anything specific aside from the fact that I am allergic to dust mites and grasses. I have tried taking prescription allergy pills but they have never stopped me from having these attacks. In the last 4 days I have had allergic reactions to something 3 times. When I have a reaction it leaves me completely miserable and in need of heavy doses of antihistamines to gain any sense of control over them. Yesterday, my tongue and throat swelled pretty significantly and it was actually pretty scary. My insides literally hurt. I am now over the attacks but am afraid of another coming on. It is hard to imagine them getting much worse without me needing to go to the hospital.

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The most patient man…

My older brother is 42 years old and is a great guy. He is just one of those quiet guys that really doesn’t have much to say but is always there when you need him. He has never really had a long term relationship until the last year. It is interesting to see him with his girlfriend because he just seems so much more alive. She is very talkative which is a good balance for his introverted personality. I have my suspicions that it won’t be long before he is shopping for diamond or cubic zirconia engagement rings for her because they seem pretty committed to one another. She recently described him as “the most patient man on earth” because he willingly spent the day shoe shopping with her. I am happy that he finally has someone who appreciates him just as he is and put a smile on his face.

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Always busy…

I am not a person who likes to sit and stare at the wall or even at the television. I like to have something going on that I can do with my hands or at the very least with my brain. I like having lists of things I intend to do or plans for things that I am working on. I don’t understand how people can sit in front of the television all day and not do anything. I suppose it depends on how you were raised to a degree. I come from a family of people who are hard workers. I have a friend who constantly asks me where I get my motivation to get things done. She is forever complaining that she is behind in her housework or feels overwhelmed by everything that needs done. Her reaction is not to try to get something done but instead she decides to do nothing. I have a hard time feeling sorry for her sense of being overwhelmed when she doesn’t do anything but sits around. It is hard to explain to someone who doesn’t have the same drive to live each day to the fullest why I just don’t just spend my days staring at the wall.

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A surprise…

My husband is an awesome guy who always tries to take care of the people around him. He puts a great deal of time into watching out for others and making them feel important to him. He has already be researching what he feels would be the perfect Christmas gift and has been dropping hints for quite a while. I am wracking my brain trying to come up with something equally special for him. I would love to get him some outdoor gear but I have no idea what to get. I know he would love to get into skiing or snowmobiling but I don’t even know where to start when it comes to looking at ski or Polaris Accessories. I can’t very well give him a gift certificate and I hate dealing with salesmen. What I need is a someone who is willing to do the shopping for me and then I get to take the credit for finding a great gift. I guess that would be a personal shopper wouldn’t it?

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Role model…

Yesterday I spent a good deal of time raking leaves. The leaves I raked were not all entirely our own. Our next door neighbor is currently dealing with a health crisis and has been unable to do it himself. The weird thing is that his wife is kind of paranoid and has yelled at my husband in the past for mowing their yard for them. They were gone from their house and I decided to get part of their leaves taken care of them for them. The husband had commented to my husband that he wasn’t sure he would be able to take care of them this year. I wasn’t sure whether to rake them or not since the wife is a little odd but went for it. I think it is important to role model being neighborly for my children. Later in the evening my husband and I went over and got the rest of the leaves. The weird thing was is that once again the wife yelled for her husband and son to go outside because “someone was taking their leaves”. Seriously, who steals leaves. Needless to say her husband and son were both grateful to us and thanked us repeatedly. The wife will probably never say a word but at this point I have to think she is just not going to understand someone being kind for no reason other than to be kind.

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Learning more each day…

Facebook is something that always manages to somehow enlighten me about the people I know. I don’t tend to post much of anything on there but I do like to read what people I know post. You can really get a feel for the lives people lead based on the frequency of their posts and the content they offer up. For example I have one friend who is constantly posting about shopping and the things she wants to buy or has bought. If she isn’t buying urban clothing you will find her looking for new shoes online. I have another friend who is extremely religious and instead of making a status post uses the space to share a bible verse. I have yet another friend who does nothing but share video clips from “American Idol” or make comments about television shows she watches. I notice people who only talk about their children or pets and others who simply use the space to rant about the world. When I think about the opinions I draw about people I know based on their status posts it makes me hesitant to share too much myself.

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Setting the bar…

Earlier this month my son was given instructions and forms for the popcorn and peanuts that his Boy Scout troop would be selling this year. I have no problem helping the troop or having him sell these things. I realize that this is a right of passage for children and I want him to have as many of these experiences as he can withing reasonable limits. What I don’t like is when families are told their child needs to sell a certain amount of these products. This is one of the reasons we quit participating in a particular little league group that forced parents to sell $10 tickets for a cash drawing. Each child was told they had to sell ten of these tickets and if they didn’t their parents would have to buy the tickets that weren’t sold. One year we got stuck with 6 of these $10 tickets. This year it is requested that each child sell $50 in popcorn and peanuts. This is pretty doable considering the price of the items. What kind of irks me is that one of the children somehow got access to the sales forms before any of the other children and had already sold $1000.00 in products before the other children got started. This makes it impossible for any of the kids who don’t sell, or rather have their parents sell, that volume of sales. We will be lucky to sell $150.00 because we just don’t have a large family circle who will drop $10 on 8 oz of peanuts….

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Back to work

For the last week I have been getting back into working out. I have decided to try a new plan when it comes to timing my workouts. I used to try to do one really long workout in the evening. The problem was that by the end of the day I was just to stressed and tired to get on the treadmill after the children were in bed. I am now trying to do 2-3 short but intense workouts during the day. I find it much easier to get a 20 minute workout, three times a day, as opposed to a 60 minute workout in the evening. There are other things I plan on doing like reevaluating my diet. There are some changes I would like to make like incorporating protein drinks and maybe some creatine powder. I know that I do better on a low carbohydrate diet but I have a hard time sticking with it. I am starting with small changes like the amount of time I spend on my workout and building up to bigger dietary changes.

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Dressing boys

There are so many things I love about raising boys. I believe I have commented in the past that I am not one of those women who had a desperate need to have a daughter. I would have gladly taken whatever I got when it came to children but I have never been disappointed in “not getting a daughter”. I have several friends who bemoan the fact that they have only sons but I am not one of them. When I hear about the complaining that so many of my friend’s daughter’s do about clothing and personal items I feel blessed not be dealing with that. My children have never asked for sparkling sneakers or a certain brand of clothing. The only thing my children ask of me is that I not buy them red pants or clothes with velcro. This is pretty easy to accommodate! I have my own personal rules about red pants on my butt and have no problem understanding why someone else would want to steer away from having to wear red pants.

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Headache trend?

There has been a topic of conversation in my circle recently that seems strange to me. This week everyone I have visited with or spoken to has mentioned having a terrible headache. The weird thing is that I have also had a terrible headache for the last 3 days. My husband said that all I have been doing is tossing and turning at night and that he is surprised I have gotten any sleep at all. The truth is I am exhausted and look exhausted. I really need something to kill this headache and could also use some eye wrinkle creams for the bags under my eyes. Last night my head hurt so much that I could barely stand to hold it upright. My husband doesn’t usually get headaches but even he has had one in the last week. It really makes me wonder if it is something in the air or maybe our diet? I am currently enjoying a big cup of coffee with a side of aspirin in hopes of taking the edge of this headache.

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I am great :)

Have you ever had someone tell you something nice when you really needed to hear it? I have been having a bout of just feeling blah about where things are. There isn’t any clear reason why I feel this way. My kids are doing great in school. I am juggling teaching them both and keeping on top of my work and home duties. Life is generally rolling along and yet I feel like I could be doing more or am not doing enough. I think all parents feel this way but home schooling make it hard to know how you really are “doing”. Report cards and testing give a picture but these are few and far between. This week I got the pick-me-up I needed when our neighbor stopped by for a quick visit. She and I chat occasionally but I have never gotten a feel for how she views me. I sort of think people automatically assume that if you home school that you are a trifle bit off or want to shelter your children from the world. She paid me a great compliment this week when she said that she sees me as being an incredible mother. She told me that I make her feel like she could have been a better mother to her children and that in seeing all the stuff we do with and for our children she realizes what she could have been doing with her own now grown children. This isn’t to say I want her to walk around feeling bad about her own parenting but that I am glad to know that people don’t see us or me as that “wacky” home schooling neighbor that everyone seems to know about or have.

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Useful classes.

One of the many things I love about having my children in cyber school is the array of learning opportunities afforded them. They are able to participate in classes and clubs that would not be available to them in our local public school system. For example both of my children are in elementary school and are able to take foreign language classes. This is not something they would able to do until high school in our school district. Another great example is a club my older son participates in that is dedicated to learning about handling money in the real world. They learn all about banking topics ranging from managing a personal checking account to asset based lending. The class affords students the opportunity to learn about money in ways that are applicable to real life situations. One of my favorite classes they offer novel discussion groups. It is really neat to listen to children talking about books and sharing their love of literature. There really is a club or group for every child and participation is so convenient. I remember not being able to participate in anything in school because I didn’t have evening transportation to clubs and groups. All we have to do is log onto the computer and my son is in attendance.

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Agitating…

We have a family friend who is very, very, very opinionated about just about everything. We all have opinions but knowing when to voice them is something that some people just don’t seem to understand. There is also the matter of how to voice them. This friend drives me crazy because every single visit turns into this diatribe on the gambit of issues in this world. I would love to be able to sit through a meal without being told how the world is going to pot. I really believe that sitting at the dining room table ranting about the things you don’t like politically or socially is dumb. It you are so fired up about the state of the world and want to change it then get out there and do something. Don’t sit around watching the news, smoking cigarettes, and complaining to yourself and later the world around you. Stop sending me 40 plus emails a day about the conspiracies lurking in the world. I don’t want to hear it. My vote at the polls is all the viewpoint I am going to put forth. I am not going to argue or agree with you because you yell louder or email more often. I will declare you “spam” and move on until the next email slips through the cracks and into my inbox. I will then once again delete you and move forward.

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No more cheap stuff…

I am a sucker for a sale. I have gained a considerable amount of control over this in the last year. I no longer buy stuff just because I have a coupon. There are times, however, when I realize that I changed my habits a bit too slowly for my own good. The fact that we still have 12 bottles of shampoo that I bought 5 years ago sitting in our closet is a good example. I bought the shampoo because it was on sale for a ridiculously low price. Little did I know that it would leave my skin a complete disaster. Every time I use it I end up with a bad case of acne and have buy a bunch of acne products to clear up my breakout. The shampoo ended up costing me more in the long run because of the acne and how awful my ski looks. It costs me money sitting in the the closet because we still have to buy shampoo to replace the shampoo that we aren’t using. No matter how good the sale is, in the future, I am done buying stuff I don’t know anything about.

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Listen to me…

My husband is a wonderful man who goes out of his way to make me happy. For a while now I have wanted to have an outdoor pizza oven. I would use it for many more things than just pizza. He really didn’t understand why I wanted one until we saw one in use at the Mother Earth News fair last month. Now he is fully on board for building one in our backyard. The problem is that at this point he wants to build it right up against our house. I don’t want it right up against the house because of the smoke and the fact that it is a fire hazard. The neighbors have a very large tree that covers a good bit of our backyard and could potentially catch on fire. I am also not keen on catching our house on fire with a stray ember that could get away. I would rather not have the pizza oven if I have to be worried each time we use it about starting a fire. I am hoping that he realizes there is some reasoning behind my wanting the oven in a particular spot.

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A bit of research…

Our children seem to be plagued with small skin conditions on an ongoing basis. It seems like as soon as I get one of them cleared up the other one has developed something on some part of their body. Both of my children have allergies which I believe contribute to a great many of their skin issues. I am constantly researching what sort of treatments are available for their various conditions. I wish they would outgrow these issues because I would rather be reading diet pill reviews than creams and ointments for dermatitis. This morning I notice my oldest son itching his head. When I inspected the area I found that he had a really large patch of dandruff. He has never had this issue before but for some reason he does now. My husband is picking up some cream on the way home from work that should solve this issue while we wait for the next to appear.

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Bizarre…

My littlel guy is finished up his school work a while ago and is now watching a bit of television. The children actually watched their favorite television shows via Netflix and our Wii system. I really like this because we don’t have to deal with all the television commercials and marketing directed towards children. I have to laugh at some of the concepts that people come up with for preschool television shows like dinosaurs living under the water and having trains with them and whatnot. Right now I am listening to the “Wonder Pets” rescue a cow that is stuck in a tree. A hamster, duckling, and a turtle are rescuing a cow that ended up in a tree as a result of a tornado. Even my older son who will watch anything no matter how crazy is sitting the living room declaring the program utterly ridiculous.

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Time to start researching.

Next year my older son will be entering 6th grade. He is already working on the 6th grade curriculum at his current school despite being officially in 5th grade. We realize that despite loving his current cyber charter school that it does have certain limitations. His current school does not allow him to work at his own pace across the curriculum subjects. This means that he is not able to advance in areas like science and history at the same pace as he is allowed to in math and literature. We now realize we need to research the other cyber schools available to him. He is particularly drawn to one school in particular because they just started issuing each student an ipad instead of a laptop computer. His current school uses laptops and likely will not switch to iPads any time soon. I recognize there is much more to consider when choosing a school besides whether they use iPads, laptops, or Netbooks. The school has to offer a rich curriculum, great teachers, a top notch support team, and other opportunities. I admit that if I were an 11 year old boy the only thing I would really care about is whether or not I was getting to use an iPad or not. Right now I will admit I would love and iPad or even a Kindle myself but that is beside the point. Fortunately, we have a great many schools to choose from that offer top end technology.

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All stocked up.

We are finally done putting away food for the winter and spring. The last thing we had to do today was to pick up the side of pork we had ordered. We have never ordered pork before and really didn’t know what to expect. Once again our expectations have been exceeded. Our side of pork ended up weighing 77.5 pounds which was right on target for what I anticipated. The price per pound was $1.45 a pound. The butchers fee totaled $44.00. The entire side ended up costing $163.00 which averages out to $2.10 per pound. We ended up with 10 pounds of sausage, 5 pounds of bacon, 10 packages of pork chops, 2 roast, 2 packages of pork steaks, 4 packages of ham steaks, 1 smoked ham shank, 1 smoked ham butt, 1 pack or neck bones, 1 pack of ham hocks, and a couple stray packages of other stuff. All in all I am really happy with the amount of meat we got and the selection. The price was far less than I would have paid at the market and it came from a local farmer which is even better.

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Not so little…

My oldest son is a generally sweet and likable kid. He has boundless energy and enthusiasm for learning and the world around him. There are so many things about him that I love and would never want to see change. I know that change is inevitable and like it or not he will become different as time progresses. I am already beginning to see the signs of him behaving like a teenager. He isn’t quite ready to spend time researching acne on www.severeacne.org but he is beginning to look more mature. Today he simply wanted to spend time alone in his room. Typically he doesn’t care who enters his room but today he expressed quite clearly that he just wanted to be alone. This threw his little brother for a loop because he is used to coming and going from his brother’s room freely. We respected his wishes to be alone but I can only hope his need to isolate himself does not become an ongoing theme. I love having him around and want him to want to be with us.

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Sneak it in where you can…

This is the first year that our freezers have been completely stuffed full of food. We have two freezers and two refrigerators. I never thought I would be able to use them all to their fullest capacity but I have. This year I put away tons of fruits and vegetables from our garden and local sources. Most of what I put away is food that we routinely eat but there are a few new additions to our diet. One of these is zucchini. We grew a ton of zucchini and were also gifted numerous extras. I froze about 72 cups of shredded zucchini. I am now finding numerous ways to sneak this into our family diet without making it to obvious. One thing I am doing is making lots of muffins. In particular I am experimenting with chocolate zucchini muffins. I am finding that if the children can’t really see the green flecks of zucchini they are more likely to eat it. So far this has been a huge success. I am also going to try blending it into a really fine puree to add to things like waffles and soups. We are now going to have to learn to eat blueberries because I have 10 pounds of them in the freezer.

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Really amazing.

Today I spent a good deal of time watching the news. One news story in particular really drew me in. The new coverage of the trapped miners being rescued has been absolutely amazing to watch and learn more about. I cannot imagine being in the situation those men have been in for the last two months. I can only imagine what has been going through their minds during their confinement. I think that what they have done during this time is amazing. I didn’t realize that during the time they have been underground that they have been continuing to work. Part of the rescue operation required them to help with the rescue operation on their side of the collapse. I really believe these men are incredible. I would think that they should have no problems in being able to find jobs in the future given the qualities they have displayed under such conditions. I know that if I were an employer I would want that them on my team. Hopefully, really positive things happen to them as a result of what they have endured.

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Hope they enjoy it…

For a few days I have been looking for my makeup bag. I typically leave it in the car. There isn’t much in it of any real value. I leave it in the car because I only ever put on makeup when I going somewhere in the car. It never comes in the house. Despite the fact that I never bring it in the house I have looked everywhere for it. I finally came to the realization that it just isn’t in the house and I need to give up looking for it in here. I have searched both cars from top to bottom. The makeup bag is gone. This leaves me with the notion that someone swiped it from the car. My makeup bag looks like a makeup bag. It doesn’t look like a purse. I suppose this wouldn’t stop someone from taking it but taking makeup is lame. I hope they enjoy all my cheap and well used makeup. It kills me to think people think nothing of swiping useless stuff just because it is there.

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Debating an upgrade.

Most of the appliances in our house came with the house. Many of them are over 20 years old and although still functional they are not the most energy efficient products around. Our refrigerator is one of the biggest ones that I have ever seen. I love the size of it but I know it must be costing us an arm and leg to keep running. We are debating whether or not to upgrade to something newer. We would love something with some sort of refrigerator filter in it for the water. Our current refrigerator has no ice or water function. I know our kids would drink a great deal more water if they could get it from the fridge. I am just not sure if the cost of a new refrigerator would be outweighed by the energy savings we could obtain by buying one. We need to do some more research.

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Back in the groove…

This week has been a great week for eating in our house. My older son even noticed that we were having bigger and more complicated meals than we had in a long time. Spending the entire summer in the kitchen canning over 500 jars of food left me with little energy to put into big meals. Now that my canning is for the most part done I am finding myself with a drive to cook once again. Tonight we dined on prime rib, seared potatoes, green beans, and artisan bread. My husband said that the meal was as good as any meal we have ever had in a 5 star restaurant. I am very happy with that compliment because I don’t get many at that level. It feels good to be back in my cooking grove.

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So delicious…

I consider myself a pretty decent baker. There isn’t much I haven’t tried to make that hasn’t turned out well. This isn’t to say I am a great cook but I can bake like there is no tomorrow. Bread is something that I have worked at for a very long time. I can bake almost any type of bread imaginable. You have probably guess by now that I need to do a bit of fat burner work. There is one bread that has haunted me for a long time and that is a crusty French bread. Today is the day that I have at long last mastered making a decent loaf of crispy French bread. The trick in this case is to use a Dutch oven as the baking vessel. By baking the bread in the Dutch oven you end up with an incredible crust and a moist inside. It is absolute perfection!

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More putting food away…

This weekend I stopped by the farmer’s market. I was looking for pie pumpkins in particular. I bought two at what seemed like a steep price of between $2.50 and $3.00 each. When I got home we had gotten a flier for our local fruit stand and it featured a bushel basket deal for squash and pumpkins of $12.99 which is a steal compared to buying them individually. We picked up a bushel almost immediately and ended up with around 20 pie pumpkins. It took several hours to process them, including the seeds. The end result was 40 cups of pumpkins puree and 3 quart bags of roasted seeds. The roasted seeds are a bit tougher to chew than I anticipated. I don’t think we will spend the time to process the seeds again. The pie produced from the puree was so incredibly good that my family was fighting over the last piece. We are going to have to get another bushel this weekend because 40 cups of puree is not going to be enough.

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Simple girl.

A couple of years ago my spending habits became drastically different. There was a time when I priced having a closet full of clothes and keeping up with the latest trends. If you asked me about the latest Gucci products I would be able to tell you what I loved and what I didn’t. Over the last couple of years my focus has shifted and I realize that it isn’t stuff that makes our family happy. No one really cares if we have the newest or greatest thing on the market. I actually believe that having all that stuff can be a huge burden. Not only are there bills that need to be paid because of purchases but there is an increased urge to keep on acquiring newer and better stuff. I have no problem with people buying things they need and can afford but I think many people are caught up in owning rather than making targeted purchases that fit their needs. If you asked me what I would like to have right now I would probably say a new blender but the truth is I don’t need a new blender I just would like one. Therefore, I am not running out to buy one until the one I have breaks.

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Hoarder or collector?

My husband love to watch very few shows on television that always give us something to wonder about. There are couple that we watch that always give us something to talks about. In particular we like watch the shows “Hoarders” and “American Pickers”. These might sound like completely different shows but we find them surprisingly similar. The guys on American Pickers are scavengers of sort that seek out antique or really old items that they then resell for profit. The people they buy from are what they call “collectors” the reality is that once you watch the show you realize that there isn’t a big difference between most of these “collectors” and the people featured on shows like “Hoarders”. Very few of these people, on either show, are particularly motivated to sell their possessions or part with them. Amongst the various collections there is often a great deal of useless junk. The only difference I have been able to see is that the people on the hoarding show often have houses that are completely uninhabitable. The people considered collectors tend to keep their main living area a bit more clear of stuff. On the other hand they very rarely show the inside of the homes on the “picking” show.

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Time to relax.

I spent this summer in a literal flurry of work. In fact I do not remember resting for any significant amount of time the entire summer. I am someone who sets goals and works tirelessly to complete them. I often wonder why I don’t have stress related hair loss or at least more gray hair because I am also a worrier. My goals for this summer were to can or put away almost all of our food for the fall and winter with produce and products from our own garden or local sources. This was a great deal of work. If you have never embarked on canning anything you cannot appreciate how time intensive the process it. You have to grow the food and harvest it and then prepare it for canning. The cans needs prepared and everything processed in a particular sterile process. Processing the prepared jars take time and attention. The cans then need cleaned, labeled, and put away safely for long term storage. I have spent entire days canning batches of food. In fact I cannot recall a day this summer where I did not spend a portion of the day tending to a food related task. I am done now and have to say I am quite pleased with my 572 jars of food, dozens of pounds frozen produce, and hundreds of pounds of local meat. We won’t have to worry about food for a long time and that feels really good. I love knowing exactly what is in the food I serve my family and knowing how it was handled before it is on our table. I also love not worrying about getting a basket full of produce processed before bedtime.

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Play time.

One of the things I love about having my children at home instead of in a traditional school is that they spend so much time together. Because there is a 7 year age difference between them I had no doubt in my mind that they wouldn’t be nearly as close as they are if they were in traditional school. My older son dearly loves his little brother and doesn’t mind spending time playing 4 year old games with him. I know that if he were in traditional school he would be facing all the stuff that goes along with becoming a middle school student. He would undoubtedly view his little brother as more of a pest than as a brother. There are indeed moments where they both get on each others’ nerves but this is not a common occurrence. As I type they are playing robots and making up a story about what their robots are doing. I realize that this happy relationship isn’t always going to be there but for now I am really thankful that they have it.

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Poor little tummy.

On Monday we took a day long trip to pick up our newly hatched chickens. On the way back we ended up stuck in a traffic jam the likes of which I have never seen. Our poor children couldn’t understand why our car was at a dead standstill for 3.5 hours. This was not a good thing after already having spent about 8 hours traveling to and from our destination. My youngest has been not feeling well ever since. I think he ended up completely constipated from the experience and just needs a good colon cleanse. As much as we hate to talk about it the reality is that little people and big people need to be up and moving it their bodies are to work appropriately. Sitting the car all day kept him from getting the exercise that he is used to and I swear it has taken him all week to become regular again. This was his first really long car trip and I am making a mental note here and now that our next trip will include more frequent breaks for the kids to get some exercise. This has been a miserable week for our little man.

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Green tomatoes a’plenty.

One of the tasks I asked my older son to do today was to put up all of the straggly and dying tomato plants. In the process I had him pick all of the remaining green tomatoes and set them aside. I now have a grocery sack full of green tomatoes and not a clue what to do with them. I read all these incredible sounding recipes for green tomatoes but the reality is that my family is pretty straightforward when it comes to food. We don’t like complicated or fussy things and I can ‘t imagine anyone trying more than a bite of anything that was made from green tomatoes. I am going to spend tonight doing a bit of research to find something that might potentially be eaten but I have my doubts. In the meantime I am going to dry dehydrating a batch of celery and then some carrots. I haven’t used my dehydrator yet and hope that it works out all right. I would hate to spend the time cutting and chopping stuff and not have the dehydrator do a proper job.

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Not drinking it.

A few month ago I began using powder milk for our regular milk at times when I couldn’t get to the store to buy milk. In our state milk prices are regulated and it tends to run us about $3.59 for a gallon of whole milk. This can get to be pretty pricey when you go through 5 gallons a week. I found a deal on powder milk that made my price per gallon around $2.14 which is quite a savings. We can drive about 25 miles to the state closest to us and buy milk for $1.99 a gallon but this isn’t always a convenient thing to do. Unless I buy 6 gallons or more it doesn’t end up being much of a savings and I don’t always have the room in my refrigerators for that much milk. My youngest son hasn’t had a bit of a problem switching to powdered milk but my older son refuses to drink it. I am seriously considering looking for the best calcium supplement I can find if he doesn’t start eating more dairy products soon. I don’t want to be sacrificing his health just to save money. I am trying to work out a schedule so that I can routinely make the trip to get the cheaper milk and make it worth my time to do so. It is funny because gas is much cheaper in our town but milk is so much cheaper in theirs.

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Love that man.

As I type my husband is back from picking up the chicken meat we purchased and has quickly set to working in our garage on the chicken coop. We are building our chicken coop in a corner of the garage. We know that most of neighbors could care less if we have a couple of chickens but we don’t want to risk problems with one particular set of neighbors. I kind of figure what they don’t know won’t hurt them. Keeping in chickens in your back yard is legal in our town but we still are electing to keep things to ourselves. The chickens will be warmer and more protected from predators. Since there are only 4 of them it is easy to create adequate space and room to exercise for them. I know that there will be issues when July comes and the heat sets in but I have plenty of time to plan for that. I love that my husband embraces my wacky ideas and does what needs to be done to get things completed. He could be glued to the television but he is building a chicken coop. You have to love a man like that.

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Bountiful energy.

There are times, as a parent, that you look at your children and see them almost growing up before your eyes. I had one of those moments today when I looked at my older son. I could see the teenage in him bursting forth. His eyes were sparkling as plan for spending his Saturday was developing in his mind. You see he recently discovered that he could climb one of the trees in our yard. This is a big moment for a child. He isn’t a particularly athletic child but is active nonetheless. I seriously doubt that he will ever have to worry about weight loss pills that work because he is constantly on the move. Anyway, this tree has been calling to him ever since he realize there was a perfect place to sit in it and hang out. His plan for the afternoon is to take a book he just got from the library and climb to this particular spot and spend the day in the sunshine reading. I think this is an awesome plan and love that he isn’t asking to watch television or play video games.

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Potato fail.

This morning we harvested our potato crop. We had high hopes at the beginning of the year to grow tons of potatoes. We planted 6 garbage cans with potatoes. An article I read online said that you could grow 100 pounds of potatoes in a garbage can. We figured that if we got even a third of this that our garden would be a success. Well, I am very disheartened to report that grew in all 6 cans a total of maybe 5 pounds of potatoes. These 5 lbs of potatoes ended up costing a crap load of money when you consider that we had to buy seed potatoes, compost, and 6 garbage cans! I estimate that the 5 pounds of potatoes ended up costly nearly $75.00. I know that there is always next year and that we will have the cans to try again with but it doesn’t make it any less disheartening.

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What is it?

As I type my husband is headed out to a local farm to pick up some whole chickens that were being processed for us. I don’t know what it is about whole chickens but they completely gross me out to eat if I have to handle them prior to eating. In fact I wish all foods had this type of appetite suppression on me. It would be really easy to diet if simply handling a food grossed me out to the point that I didn’t want to eat it. Imagine no longer looking longingly at danish and pastries after having to put them on a plate! I think whole chickens bother me because they still look very much like they did when they were living. Ground beef and steaks just don’t look like cows to me. I guess I prefer a less personal approach to my food. Last time we bought chickens from this farm there were live chickens running around next to the area outside where they processed the meat birds. I couldn’t shake the image of the live chicken from my mind as I prepared the whole chicken for roasting. You can probably understand why my husband is going to pick up the chickens by himself this time.

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Entertaining themselves..

Our family likes to stay busy. We don’t spend a great deal of time sitting around staring mindlessly at the television. My children like to be reading or making things. There definitely was a time when the television was a primary source of entertainment in our house. Since discontinuing our cable they have been forced to look in different directions for ways of entertaining themselves. It is pretty funny the stuff they come up with to keep themselves busy. This week they decided to build a palm tree out of blocks. They then took all of the pillows off the couch and covered them with a sheet. This area then became the beach area next to the palm tree. The entire afternoon was spent at the beach engaged in various beach type activities. I know a great many children would have been completely bored with this form of entertainment but my kids absolutely loved it. In fact my youngest son will even set the beach up on his own to play when his older brother is busy with other things.

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The season is over…

This was the first year that I attempted canning food. I had toyed with the idea in previous years but never really got around to trying. I admit that I was a bit scared of pressure canning. This spring I summoned the courage and bought a pressure canner. After the first batch of peaches all of my worries about canning vanished and I became hooked on the process. Over the summer I canned literally anything and everything as it came into season. I really wish I had a better set of scales and could have more accurately weighed all of the produce I grew and subsequently canned. It would be cool to know just how much food we grew and how much we bought from local farmers. I did get a good deal of free tomatoes and apples which was awesome! When everything was said and done I canned 527 jars of food. My estimates are that this should last us well into the spring and potentially summer. It will be really cool to see how much our food budget decreases over the coming months since we will have already invested in a good deal of our food needs.

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Tantrums…

I realize that childhood is a never ending process of growth and change. There are days when some of that change just can’t come soon enough. Today my 4 year old son has thrown 4 tantrums lasting about one hour each. He has not been feeling well so I give him the benefit of the doubt. I do however wonder if it is truly necessary to scream because you need to wear a long sleeve shirt? Is it later necessary to scream because the short sleeve shirt that you somehow found and put on is now dirty with paint? When you have used every last small band-aid on endless imaginary boo boo’s is there a good reason to scream because the only thing left are large band-aids for your real boo boo? Who knew there was such a drastic and important difference in the size of a band-aid when it came to covering an injury? You would think the child would realize that any band-aid will cover his wound and just be thankful to have said band-aid but not this boy. I am at my wits end with the tantrums for this day. We are currently listening to a revamping of the previous band-aid tantrum because there wasn’t enough of an audience upstairs and it was necessary to put on a larger display downstairs. Thankfully I am a very patient person and bed time is rapidly approaching.

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Interesting statistics.

I was reading statistics this week about the various cyber charter schools in my state. I realize that the students that are drawn to these types of schools are often quite different from those who attend traditional public school. I admit to being a bit shocked when I read the statistics about how few children who graduate from cyber schools go on to attend college in our state. I realize that there are a number of children who end up in these schools because they just can’t make it in traditional schools. On the other hand I think there are a large number of students who choose cyber schools because they need to be more challenged. Our school allows students to move ahead at their own pace. It is conceivable in our school to graduate high school with both an associates degree and a high school diploma. I really hope that our state cyber schools do more to encourage students to attend college and dream bigger dreams beyond high school. I think they need to spend more time on guiding children to realize what it will take to achieve their life goals. For example there aren’t many jobs in healthcare that don’t require a college degree. It bothersome to think that these schools are churning out students who aren’t driven to further themselves in life beyond having a high school diploma. On the other hand you have to wonder how much their home environments are factoring into this?

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Not Thanksgiving.

I just took a turkey out of the oven. No, it is not Thanksgiving. I likely will stick another turkey in the oven tomorrow and every few days for the coming week. The reason is because I went just a wee bit overboard buying turkeys last year. The prices were so low that I convinced myself we would eat one a month and have lots of leftovers for other meals. The truth is that I now have half a cow coming and need the freezer space. I am going to cook these turkeys and can the meat for soups and casseroles. I am determined to get all six of these turkeys cooked and canned in the next two weeks. My children do not understand why I am cooking a turkey and there is not going to be a huge family meal to go along with it. One year ago I had that intention but today I just want to empty my freezer and get it ready for beef. Hopefully, the plan to eat grass fed beef goes better than the plan to eat turkeys.

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I am out of touch.

This morning I had a few errands to run. One of them required me to go to a local store and pick up some random items. While I was checking out a young boy bumped in line ahead of me. I didn’t say anything because I tend to give children and people who don’t know any better a free pass. When the boy got up to the cashier he started quizzing her about several items he was searching for. As he asked her where the iphone accessories were located I began to realize that I truly am a bit out of touch. I have never seen an one of these phones. The truth is that I don’t even own a cell phone right now. There was a part of me that wondered exactly what a young child could need with this type of technology? On the other hand just about every kid I see walking past my house is either texting or talking on the phone. I guess I am just turning into an old fogy.

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Man Day.

Each weekend my husband takes our older son out for the day. I have decided to call these outings their “Man Day”. I love that my husband does these things because I feel it is really important for our son to spend alone time with his father. Our older son is getting ever so close to being a teenager. My gut tells me that the closer our bond is with him now the better chance we stand of all getting through those trying teenage years in one piece. I also appreciate having some time alone with our younger son. He needs one on one time and a chance to do special things. Because both children are home all the time I sometimes feel like our little guy doesn’t get as much of that special time little people need as our older son did. After a day alone with a parent you can just see the light in their eyes and a sense of being special. All kids are special but I think this somehow escapes them in the midst of a busy family life. Having a day to themselves allows them to be the center of attention. Don’t we all need a little of that at times?

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Much needed break.

As I type the rain is pouring down. This is a much needed break in the weather in our area. I will gladly slip on my rain boots if it means cooler weather. The temperature inside my house has hovered around 85 degrees for the last several weeks. It has been almost unbearable at times. Tomorrow we should be able to relax for the first time in quite a while. I intend to make use of the cooler temperature to work outside and complete some projects that have been on hold due to the heat. My children need to get outside and play. They are cranky and fighting with each other because of all this pent of energy they have. When the temperatures are this high no one wants to be outside and being cooped up just makes them irritable. I cannot convey how much I am looking forward to potentially needing to wear a sweater when I head out in the morning to run my errands.

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My garden.

The gardening season is just about done here in the northeast. It is now time for me to start planning next years garden and to reflect on this year of gardening. I consider this year to be a part of my learning curve when it comes to gardening. There are several things that we grew that were tremendously successful and a few things that were complete failures. For next year we intend to double our garden size and yet reduce the variety of crops we try to grow. I attempted way too many things this year that were a waste of time to grow. It is all well and good to grow broccoli if your family eats it but mine does not and growing it made no sense. I have decided to focus on a few types of things that my family loved and grow more of those items next year. For example we love carrots and I found out that I didn’t plant nearly enough of them. There were other things that I planted that we loved but just didn’t produce enough food to justify space in my small garden. I can cheaply buy organic peppers in bulk at the farmer’s market. Buying the plants at my local greenhouse and only getting a couple of peppers per plant just isn’t worth the expense. Tomatoes on the other hand grew really well in my garden but I didn’t plant enough of them. Next year I will double or triple my tomato plantings.

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A wee bit older.

For a very long time I have always felt that my husband looked a good 10 years younger than he really is. Yesterday for the first time I have to say I think he is starting to look closer to being the 40 year old man that he is. Around his eyes I am beginning to see a few creases. I would never tell him that he needs to use eye cream but it looks like a little bit wouldn’t hurt. I love him no matter how he looks and find him as handsome as the day I married him. It is comforting to know that at long last we look closer to the same age. I am quite sure many people, who didn’t know we are the same age, have thought I married a younger man. The older I get the more I believe that men really do age better than women. Time just isn’t as kind to us as it is to them. I for one will be making use of every lotion and potion I can get my hands on to beat back the effects of time on my face.

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Things are different now.

Yesterday my mother came to my house to use my stove. She has a newer stove that does not allow her to use a pressure canner to can food. My stove is older and I offered her the use of my kitchen. My mom has canned food her entire life. What has become evident to me, in my short time, canning is that the rules for canning today are not the same as they were when my mother learned to can. I have tried repeatedly to gently tell her what things are recommended today to ensure that canned food is safe to eat and she refuses to listen. I finally has to exit the kitchen and leave her to her work because I couldn’t watch it any longer. I have to wonder if all of the various flu like illnesses that she and my father get over the year are not is some part the result of the canned food they consume. Food poisoning mimics the flu to a person who is not familiar with the differences between food poisoning and a true flu infection. I warned my husband not to consume any canned tomato products while at my parents since observing her canning practices.

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Ending the season.

Our growing season is coming to an end in our area. I have completely enjoyed my first year as a gardener. This is due largely due to the fact that the majority of our gardens thrived and produced a bountiful crop. There are just a couple of things left to be harvested and put away for winter use. These include apples, tomatoes, and pumpkins. As much as I have enjoyed learning to garden and can my own food the truth is that I am ready for a break. The idea of curling up next to the electric fireplace to read a book sounds really good right now. After spending just about every day this summer in the hot sun gardening or in a hot kitchen canning the idea of cold weather sounds really good. It will be nice to look at my nice full pantry when everything is finally done and know that my work is done for the year in regards to putting away food.

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Recalled eggs…

Yesterday one of the news headlines was about a recall for tainted eggs. These eggs were produced and distributed from a factory farm somewhere in the mid-west and distributed to stores across the country. Millions of eggs were effected by the recall. When you consider this it is kind of mind boggling to think how many people could be sickened by this recall. One thing it did bring home to me was how sound my decision to keep a couple of chickens in the backyard is for our family. The cost of feeding and housing a couple of chickens is probably about the same as “cheap” eggs from the nearest grocery store. I don’t happen to buy cheap eggs but instead get my eggs from a local farmer for about $3.00 a dozen. They are incredible eggs and organic/natural. You can absolutely tell a difference in these eggs as opposed to the watery and very old eggs from the store. I love that I will be able to have control over the handling of my eggs and that the cost will be so low for such great quality.

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A plan is forming.

I have spent many nights fretting about what our neighbors might say if they noticed that we were keeping chickens in our backyard. Finally we decided to just break down and ask one of our neighbors what she would think of the idea . She said she had no problem whatsoever with us keeping a couple of hens. This was a big relief because she is the neighbor that would be closest to where we would house the chicken. Knowing that she is fine with the idea and that we are within the scope of the law makes it so much easier to move ahead with our plans. I can not start looking through a slideshow I found that features various coop plans and find one that is perfect for our situation. I think it will be a good experience for our children and the fresh eggs will be really nice to have. We are planning to make a trip to a hatchery a couple hours away and pick up the chicks ourselves. This should make the process much more educational for the children and ensure that we get nice healthy chicks from the start.

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Purging is fun!

There are many things that my husband and I enjoy doing together. What is funny is that the one thing we both had to learn to enjoy was getting rid of stuff. Over the 20 years we have been together we have moved a dozen or more times. For a long time we simply packed up everything and lugged it along to the next place where it would sit in boxes waiting for the time when we “might” use it. After a while this got to be pretty old and we started parting with stuff. It has now become a ritual that takes place in our home a couple of times each year. Today was one of those days. We spent the day looking around the house at the stuff that was just taking up space and deciding what should stay and what should go. Two van fulls of stuff went to Goodwill and several large bags of stuff that can’t be recycled will go on the curb. The van is not sitting filled to the brim with all the cardboard that we have been saving for several months and it will go to be recycled. I like the feeling of spaciousness and I like not having to wonder where something is amongst stacks of stuff or boxes packed away somewhere. It feels good to know we might be helping other people somewhere down the road.

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Cleaning naturally.

In the process of leading a more environmentally friendly life I have started to look at all areas of my home. One thing I had not previously looked was the type of chemicals I have been using to clean our home. I typically would just grab a bottle of cleaner from beneath one of our sinks without considering what might be in the bottle. Over time it has occurred to me that every time I wipe the down the counters I am putting many harmful chemicals into our environment. The more I have learned about various cleaners and such the more determined I have been to switch to natural cleaners that are healthy for people and the environment. Thus far I have been really pleased with what I have tried and don’t really see and difference in the cleaning power of these products. I love knowing that we are not ingesting toxins and that I am not putting additional chemicals into the water stream.

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Chickens are in the works.

There has been something I have wanted for a while that may sound silly. I didn’t really think I could have them but it turns out that I can! This silly thing is – chickens. I want to be able to provide fresh eggs to my family from animals that are treated with respect. If you have ever read how factory farm chickens are treated you likely know that they lead terrible lives. For a while now I have been getting eggs from a friend of a friend but her prices have almost doubled since I started buying them. I also hate having to get the eggs second or third hand. I don’t really know how the chickens are treated and if they are being treated any better than at a factory farm. Keeping a few chickens in the backyard seems like an easy workable plan for our family and looks to be within the scope of the law in my town. The plan is to get them later this fall. Hopefully everything will work out and there won’t be any major issue that we haven’t identified in advance.

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Is a break near?

The weather here in the north east has been incredibly hot this summer. I remember last summer it never got hot enough to make anyone really complain. This summer I have barely lifted the roller blinds or pulled back the curtains in an attempt to keep the heat out. Having half a dozen fans running doesn’t seem to move the air in the slightest. I am half tempted to make everyone hang out upstairs and shut all the windows and doors. We have one air conditioner in the house and it is in our bedroom. I never use it because I feel guilty sleeping in a cool room when our children don’t have the same luxury. When they were little we would have a camp out in our bedroom but now that they are older that isn’t easy to do. I just hope the weather breaks soon even if it is just for a couple of days.

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Backyard birds…

In my efforts to become more sustainable I have many long range plans. One plan that has been in the back of my mind is to have a small flock of backyard chickens. I had been told by several people who live in my town that this was against the law. Being a person who does not accept word of mouth information strictly at face value I elected to find out the legality of my plan myself. Actually, my husband investigated the legality on my behalf. A short trip to city hall confirmed what I suspected that the word on the street is entirely inaccurate. You can have chickens in my town provided the coop is not within 25 feet of another dwelling and that the yard is covered and enclosed. It surprised me to find out that having a cow in town would be legal if it was housed in an enclosed pen not less than 60 feet from a dwelling. Weird… to consider a cow in someone’s backyard isn’t it?

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A smart boy.

My mother rarely takes my children anywhere. For whatever reason she isn’t interested in spending a great deal of one on one time with them. I think she is someone who just has never really been comfortable around children. I never realized this until I had children of my own. Today, my mother took my oldest son out with her for a couple of hours. They went to various garage sales and to pick blueberries. When my son came home he brought along a treasure trove of goodies from the various garage sales. I asked my Mom how the day went and she said that my son is too smart for his own good. She could not believe the big words he knew and was able to pronounce such as “spirometer” and “hyperbole”. She said that he read a book most of the time that they were out and would occasionally tell her about aspects of the book that really interested him. She seemed let down that he didn’t take more interest in the scenery as they drove but I assured her that it isn’t in his nature to do so. My child like to keep his brain challenged and looking at rolling fields just doesn’t do that for him.

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Bursting full.

For the last month I have been working to put away as much food as possible for the winter and spring. We have a couple of gardens from which we are getting the majority of our produce. In addition I am trying to buy as much as I can from the local farmer’s market and area places that offer pick your own produce. I took stock of my stash of food today and couldn’t believe my eyes! I have over 120 pints of green beans and numerous jars of other goodies too numerous to mention. I did realize that I don’t have nearly enough space in my freezers nor on my shelves for what I intend to put away in the coming weeks. It has been work to put all this food away but it has been entirely rewarding and fun at the same time. I cannot imagine at this point going back to buying flavorless foods from the grocery store again!

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Solar dehydrator.

In my efforts to preserve food I have been experimenting with various methods of drying herbs, fruits, and vegetables. I have tried doing this in the oven and also in a dehydrator. Yesterday, I stumbled upon what may be the best method yet! I took a wire basket of fresh oregano and laid it on our car dashboard with the windows rolled up. By the end of the day I had perfectly dried oregano. My husband thinks that if I could just figure out a new idea for a product along the lines herbal phentermine or a good tea mix I would be in business! Growing herbs and vegetables is pretty straight forward and now so is preserving them. For the time being I am happy to at last have solved my drying dilemma in a cheap and simple way. I hate spending money on things like dehydrators that don’t work or take days to accomplish what the sun does in a matter of hours.

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A good hot shower.

When it comes to camping I am not very picky. I don’t need a luxurious camp site and I don’t need tons of stuff to do. I do need to be clean. Even if it means a cold shower I need the feeling that I have at least tried to wipe the dirt and grime off my body. Dry camping has made this a particular issue this summer and I have had my share of cold water showers. We have been trying for a few weeks to get the outdoor hot shower we bought to work. We narrowed the problem down to a few likely sources and one by one eliminated them. As of 5 minutes ago it looks like I will indeed be enjoying a good hot shower this weekend! Apparently we did not have enough water pressure coming out of our shower to trigger the pump to activate the heater. Now that we have a pump with the right water pressure the water heater is working like a dream. It will be awesome to finally take a good hot shower while in the great outdoors.

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Another announcement?

This weekend we are getting together with some friends we haven’t seen in a while. The funny thing is that no matter how infrequently we see each other it never feels that way. These are the type of people that instantly make you feel comfortable. We see each other a few times a year and it is always a great time. I have to admit there is just one little thing I don’t get about them and that is their desire to have a huge family. I seriously think they could sell sign space on their van for some place like www.prenatalvitamins.net or something. I don’t recall a time in all the years I have known them that they haven’t been expecting another child. I love children and they are great parents but I have no clue how people parent so many children. It won’t surprise me one bit to hear that they are expecting yet again when we get together. It would actually surprise me more to hear they now consider their family complete and are done having more children.

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Independent trips.

For about a month now I have been trying to encourage our little guy to make independent trips to the toilet. He has been resisting up until this weekend and insisting that he have a spectator for his big “production”. For the last two days he has made a couple of trips a day without me. I have to say now I wish I hadn’t encourage his solo flights. When you have to clean poo off the toilet, the wall, and the child an hour or so after the feat it just isn’t a good time. Through in some 90 degree temperatures and it is even better. I like the independent streak but I think we need a few more joint trips to the bathroom to work out the wrinkles in the execution. At least he is trying… right?

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Summer weekends rule.

We go camping just about every other weekend during the summer. This is something that we have done for as long as we have had children. This weekend will be no exception. The only thing I dislike about camping is the packing and unpacking. No matter how well I try to prepare for a weekend in the wild there is always something I forget. When you realize around ten o’clock at night that your power setup isn’t working in your RV it is no fun. It is even less fun when you realize that your maglite led flashlights are sitting on the kitchen counter at home where you left them. It really isn’t fun to try an crawl under the RV and work by the light of a propane lantern. Those things get really hot! I am earnestly trying to devise a means of setting up and tearing down that leaves everything in the camper but it has yet to come into total fruition. There is always one or two things that we don’t have spare sets of around the house such as flashlights and the like. Despite these small hangups each weekend never ceases to be a wonderful although brief getaway. Sometimes it is a dark getaway but fun nonetheless.

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Finally done.

I hate having to be on the run. What I mean is having to constantly taxi the children from one place to another. I love my children but we function best when we are in a routine. I signed my older son up for way too many camps this summer. I schedule 3 different things on one day for several days. It is all my fault but I just thought the experiences would be good for him. I didn’t consider that none of us really likes to be up and out the door in the morning. My youngest son is absolutely guaranteed to be in a bad mood whenever he is woken up before he is ready in the morning. You can probably see why home schooling is perfect for us huh? Today was the last day of camp and I couldn’t be happier! The next six weeks of summer I intend to sleep in an relax. No more sitting in the car and waiting for one class or another to be over. I know we will do it all over again next year but for now it is good to be done. Really, really… good.

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Sweet and rested.

There is something about a sleeping child that I find absolutely adorable. For the last few days my children have both been sleeping pretty late into the morning. I personally can’t sleep well without a small does of one of my favorite over the counter sleep aids. I realize that relying on something to sleep is not a good idea but it helps me get the rest I need and also treats my allergies. My children go through bouts of restless sleeping followed by really long restful nights. I love the mornings where they wake up late but fully rested and oh so very happy. Those are the days that I know we will all enjoy because everyone is so bright eyed and ready to get things done. I am glad the weather is breaking a little bit and the heat is disappearing a little because we are sure to get a better night’s rest.

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Pickling everything.

I love pickles! I love pretty much anything that is pickled that isn’t incredibly hot. A couple of weeks ago I pickled some turnips. They aren’t that bad. Not something I would sit and gorge myself on but a surprisingly different taste that is good mixed with other pickled things on your plate. Today I believe that the time has come to try pickling something I have heard about but never tasted – watermelon rind. There is just something about this that calls to me and begs me to give it a whirl. I bought a melon yesterday and have been plundering my way through it. I LOVE watermelon. I have been cutting the fruit away from the rind and saving the rind. Cutting the peel off the rind is a bit of a pain. I have read a couple of recipes that call for leaving the green peel on the rind. I may try it both ways or a mixture of the two in the same jar. I will let you know what the results are as the tasting time draws nearer.

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Relief in sight?

This has been the hottest week that I can remember in a very long time. The temperatures have reached around 100 degrees each day. It has been impossible to get comfortable and relax. I swear I have sweated off at least 10 pounds. I guess I should be thankful for that and the fact that it didn’t take any effort or diet pills to accomplish the loss. Today we are supposed to get rain and it is very much needed. I have tapped our rain barrels dry in an effort to keep the garden from suffering. My husband is going to pick up another barrel tonight to add to our system. The system functioned amazingly well and kept us from having to use city water to keep the garden hydrated. I really feel for people who have live under this type of constant heat for extended periods. I am thankful our heat waves are not long lasting.

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The bounty begins.

This is the first year that we have had a real garden. It has been an amazing project that our entire family has enjoyed immensely. We built a raised garden bed that is about 16 feet long by 8 feet wide. We used a blend of garden mix from a local supplier, peat, and cow manure. Our garden had exceeded our wildest expectations and the season is only half way done. Thus far we have been picking zucchini, turnips, carrots, peas, lettuce, and basil. I now want to build another bed to use next year in order to double our bounty. The children are so much more likely to try new veggies that they have had a hand in raising. I love watching the daily changes in the garden and seeing everything just spring to life. The raised bed is so little work that I cannot believe it. I envisioned having to be constantly weeding it and I haven’t at all.

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Time to organize.

This fall our youngest son will start kindergarten. This is a online kindergarten program through a charter school in our state for 4 year old children. I am beginning to realize that I need to start organizing our home school area. It know that we will need to rethink our school furniture to accommodate the needs of a young student. We didn’t start home schooling our older son until he was in the second grade which made it much easier to set up a workspace for him. I can already see that an adult size and chair are going to be a bit big for our little guy. I also can see that I am going to need a better shelving system because our the books and supplies we use are going to double. It might require my husband to build something that will be strong enough to hold everything and yet the right size for both my kids to use.

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Blender… blender.

Kitchen gadgets are among my favorite things. I love products that work really well and do the job they are intended to do. If there is one thing I do not have good luck with it is blenders. We have been married 19 years and I do believe I have had 6 or more blenders in that time. I make tons of smoothies and whatnot. The most recent blender I bought was a Waring blender. It is pretty to look at but is sorely lacking in the power department. It overheats and just doesn’t blend things smoothly. As much as I would love a Blendtec or a Vitamix blender I cannot justify the price. I hate buying a blender only to be disappointed with it and stuck with it for a few years. I wish there were a way to test drive them in my house and return them if they don’t do the job. I know people buy stuff and return it all the time but somehow it doesn’t seem quite right to me. So, what blender do you have and what do you like or dislike about it? Did the price justify the results when using it? What do you look for in a blender?

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Living debt free.

In the first six months of this year we were able to pay off the majority of our debt burden. We still have student loans and a mortgage but no longer carry credit card debt or have car payments to make. Becoming debt free has totally changed our attitudes about spending and living within our means. If we don’t have the cash to make a purchase we wait until we do. One of the first things I did when our debt was paid off was to cancel our credit cards. I simply didn’t want those crazy high credit limits available to us. I thought this might make online shopping difficult but it really hasn’t. I have found there are ways to make purchases safely online without using credit cards. One such way is to use “eBillme.com”. I haven’t personally used this site yet but after looking at it I think it my be a good fit with my new spending philosophy. This site not only offers a means to pay for purchases online but also offers aj madison coupons and coupons for many other online merchants. I am impressed by the fact that this site encourages people to spend within their means and to live a debt free life. Living under a cloud of debt can be a very heavy burden that is hard to get away from. We learned the hard way how it can debt can accumulate very rapidly and can take years and years to pay off. Living without debt is a freeing experience. While we are not truly debt free I consider the debt we do carry to be positive debt rather than negative. We bought a home well within our means rather than our dream home. Our educations have only allowed us to better our lives and that of our children. Credit card debt never did anything for us but drag us down. The sad reality is that many people are paying for years on silly stuff they put on credit cards like a meal out or a new pair of sneakers. I am glad to know this will not be our reality in the future.

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Not a good day…

For 3 days I have had cold. Summer colds are the pits. There are so many things that need doing and I can’t just sit inside hiding from them. The children need taken here and taken there. The yard and garden need tending. I realize there are much greater illnesses in the world than a cold. I am thankful it is just a cold. What made today bad is the fact that on top of the cold I ended up having an allergy attack. This has happened the last 3 times I have gotten sick. There are very clear differences between my allergic reactions and my cold symptoms. What I do not understand is why I am not having them in whenever I get sick. It worries me just a little bit that one day I may have a really bad reaction because my allergies seem to be getting worse not better. I never had them in the past at the same time as I had a cold. At least the medication I am taking is working and I am back on my feet rather than lying in bed.

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Take a hint.

We seem to be living across the street from what is a perpetual garage sale. The people that moved in have a garage sale every Friday. I have never lived next to someone who does this. I have heard about people who just constantly have a garage sale set up in their yard or garage but haven’t witnessed it firsthand. This sale is kind of strange. The people are selling stuff that people clearly don’t want. My approach to a garage sale is that is stuff doesn’t sell after the first two days then it isn’t going to sell. I then donate it to charity. These people however seem quite intent on selling every last item no matter how many times they have to set up an tear down this garage sale. I wonder if there is a limit to the number of garage sales you can have in one year? I get that people need money but it is quite distraction in the neighborhood with people parking all over the place. I suppose there are worse things that they could be doing besides constantly selling stuff in their front yard. As long as people stay out of my yard and driveway I am not going to think too much about it.

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Farewell old friend.

Yesterday we made a very tough decision. For six years we have had two cats. We got these cats when they were just about 4 months old. Both of them were fixed before we brought them home. One of the cats has always had an issue with peeing on dirty laundry that might be laying on the floor. This occurred infrequently over the years but as time has progressed has become worse. He has graduated to marking just about anything imaginable from his scratching pad to bags. In the last month the problem has become an issue that we knew was not going to be solved with adding more pans or different litter or more intense cleaning. This cat began being on the carpeted steps to our finished basement. The carpet is glued down and no matter how much I have cleaned it he still marks the area. Finally last night we decided that for the health of our family he needed to go to the humane society. The total number of cat pans in our house was up to four and it wasn’t having any impact on his behavior. Our lives were beginning revolve around making sure there was nothing out for him to mark and cleaning up after what he did mark. He really is a beautiful and sweet cat but my gut told me that his next step might be to pee in our beds. I even tried retraining him by confining him to an room of the house with multiple pristine pans. After what I thought was a fair amount of retraining he immediately began marking the house again when set loose. We feel absolutely awful for what came to be but short of letting him live outside there wasn’t much we could do. The vet offered no insight and we tried everything imaginable over the years to correct the problem. Dexter, I am sorry… very sorry.

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Double dip recession.

I heard a new term this week that was related to the recession. The article I was reading suggested that we are headed towards a “double-dip recession”. I found this intriguing and did a bit of reading on the subject. There are mixed opinions as to whether this will indeed happen or not. It does have me a bit worried to say the least. I have to wonder what it will mean for unemployment and the future of our nation. It is already a tough job market out there. Ask anyone who has recently gone through employment screening and they will fill you in on the challenges faced by job seekers. The article also detailed what could happen with the price of goods in the coming months. I can only imagine what might happen to oil prices and such. You can’t open a newspaper without reading about job cuts and budgetary woes in our area. I can open hope that this speculation does not prove true. Our nation has seen enough financial trouble in the last year. It would be lovely to think that the glass is half full and not verging on being emptied yet again.

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A new chapter.

We began the process today for a new chapter in our youngest son’s life. He was enrolled for cyber charter school today. The interesting thing is that he will be attending a preschool or K4 program using this method of education. I never would have thought that online learning was available to such young children but it is! He cannot wait until the time comes that he can sit down at his own computer and go to class just like his big brother. There is a part of me that is just a little sad to think that my little boy is ready for school. The truth is that even though I see my kids all day everyday I still want to savor each part of their childhood. At least I can relish the fact that I won’t be dropping him off at a school building and walking away sobbing. I still remember the first day of kindergarten for my oldest son and how heart broken I was. At the time I believed he would be the only child I ever had and I could not envision my life without him in it all day. Later on when we realized that cyber charter school would better serve his needs I was able to fully appreciate how fortunate I am to be able to be his teacher. I look forward to watching both my children thrive and learn in a loving and challenging educational environment.

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Go forage for yourself.

I spent the better part of the morning baking a number of foods. I also went across town and bought 25 pounds of peaches. My entire family is looking at me as I type wondering what there is to eat. When I told them to go look in the kitchen you would think I suggested we crack open a bottle of Lipofuze and share it or something. There are tons of things in our house to eat. Fresh and healthy foods of an infinite variety. The problem they are having is that there are not tons of junk or highly processed convenience foods in our kitchen. My thinking right now is that if I spend hours baking and cooking then you need to fend for yourself and get a little creative. Make a sandwich or have a bowl of granola. I am not spending this particular cooking a big meal after cooking and baking for hours.

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A happy boy.

I just finished going through several boxes of clothes offered to my children by one of our neighbors. It was a really generous offer on her part that is very much appreciated. My youngest son is currently in heaven because many of the clothes were his size and feature his favorite television characters. He is currently wearing a pair of Buzz Lightyear pajamas and running gleefully throughout the house. If the clothes hadn’t come from someone who I knew well I would obviously want them to be washed properly first. I love knowing that the clothes are fresh and clean and there is no problem having my child wear them immediately. I also love that they were free and the sizes are just right for now and in the future. Once again the notion of the more you give away the more comes back to you is proving true. We have given away countless things recently and have in turn been given stuff we needed by other people.

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Tuckered out.

For the last week I have just been tuckered out all the time. I don’t know if it is the heat or the fact that our schedule has been super busy. I wish there were something I could take to give me some energy because I really need it. I almost need phentermine and a big shot of caffeine because I am not only tired but have gained a bit of weight. There is so much on my plate that I haven’t been paying very good attention to what I have been putting in my mouth. I have made a promise to myself that I would watch more carefully what I eat in the coming days. I haven’t gained so much weight that it is out of control but even 5-10 pounds makes me feel cruddy and tired. At least school is now over so that is one less thing on my calender to keep track of. What I really need is a nice long date with my pillow and a good long rest.

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Peaches a plenty.

I am looking at 25 pounds of peaches that need canning. I am both nervous and excited by the prospect of canning these peaches. You see I have never canned anything before. I have all of the supplies necessary to can and an instruction guide but I am still nervous. I know it isn’t rocket science but it sure feels like it. My goal is to put away the majority of our families food ourselves this year and I have been amply preparing for that. The peaches were really expensive but I really wanted to get started with trying to can something so I would be over the fear and experimentation before things got really busy. Tomorrow I am going to embark on this journey when I have some free time. Hopefully, I will report back that everyone survived the experience and that I have several properly canned jars of peaches on my shelf. I have no idea how many jars of peaches I should be able to get from a half bushel of peaches but I doubt it is very many. Either way it will be a good learning experience … I hope.

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Busy body

We all know that people come with all types of personalities. We have learned that these personalities are never predictable. You can think you know someone and suddenly something changes to make them act completely different. Our neighbor seemed like a quiet person who minded his own business. For some reason suddenly he needs to know about everything that we are doing. It wouldn’t matter if I was reading a magazine about the best weight loss pills or weeding the garden because the man would find a reason to ask what I was doing. Today, my husband was building rain barrels in the back yard and this fellow had to come over and ask what he was doing. Mind you it was quite clear that our neighbor did not appreciate the idea at all. As my husband describe what the barrels were for our neighbor just shook his head and looked confused. If was as if he was saying that we should just keep using water out of the faucet and quit wasting our time with the barrels. People just need to mind their own business. It is not his concern if I stick a dozen gardens or rain barrels in my back yard as long as I keep it neat and orderly. The man clearly has his own idea about what living life is about and that is not one I am going to share. I should note this is the same neighbor who’s wife screamed at my husband last week for mowing their lawn. I just can’t figure them out for the life of me.

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A happy man.

My husband is a happy man. As I type this post he is in the backyard with our older son riding a lawn mower. This might now sound like a big accomplishment but for him it is. You see this particular lawn mower was declared junk by every mechanically inclined person in my family. My husband swore that it could be fixed but no one would listen to him. Finally, my parents decided to get rid of the lawn mower because no one could fix it. They offered it to my husband to do with whatever he wanted. After several days of messing around with the mower it is now running smoothly and exactly how it should be running. Despite the fact that we don’t have a lawn large enough to require a riding lawn mower he is happy nonetheless. It will be interesting to see just how much mowing he gets done now for everyone in the neighborhood. I suppose that won’t apply to the next door neighbors since they don’t want him to touch their lawn when he mows. What is sad is that he was going to offer to mow their back lawn along with our once he fixed the lawn mower. I don’t think that offer will be forthcoming now.

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Don’t start it now.

My husband and I are the type of people who like to stay busy. We are continually starting new projects and looking for new ideas. The problem is that we often find ourselves a bit stretched because we have so many things going at once. Last night my husband was talking about redoing our bathroom. The bathroom has not had new cabinetry since the 1960′s. It has been painted but really does not fit the space and is very over sized. As much as I would love a new sink and something like a Robern Medicine cabinet I don’t my husband to not start this particular project right now. Between the gardens we have going and the compost tumbler and rain barrel system that needs built there isn’t going to be time right now. The bathroom would an ideal project for the fall or winter when things slow down just a bit.

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Goodies on the way.

Tonight my friend is stopping by on her way home from her parents farm. I am pretty excited because she is bringing me some farm fresh goodies such as eggs. These eggs are so amazing! If you haven’t had farm fresh eggs I would encourage you to try them whenever you get the chance. They are richer in flavor and color. The other thing she is bringing me is coconut oil. She was able to get a deal on a 5 gallon bucket of coconut oil at a price that was amazing. For what we would have spent on 1 gallon previously she was able to get 5 gallons from a local Amish bulk food store. I am going to be so happy to no longer have to use my coconut oil as sparingly as I was. Coconut oil is really healthy but can be quite costly.

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Real food.

Over the last few weeks I have begun to see a shift in our family. I no longer feel like a lone pioneer trying to change the future of my family in regards to sustainable living and healthy eating. For a long time it seemed like I was speaking a foreign language when I would talk with my family about “real food”. They quite literally looked at me as though I was suggesting we start eating tm-t88iv when I suggested that we replace the sugar in our house with date sugar. I am now feeling like their eyes are open and receptive to making changes in our lifestyle. I actually caught my older son reading a food label today and commenting about how many things that aren’t food were in it. Tonight we sat down to a dinner of salad from our garden and fresh berries from our patch. This might sound like nothing but it was a huge step forward because not one of them complained.

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Sickening….

The oil spill that has been happening in the Gulf is just sickening. I am completely amazed that with all the technology it must take to run pipelines and whatnot under the ocean that more thought hasn’t gone into handling catastrophes. I am sorry but I honestly believe if more woman were heading up these projects we would be better prepared for the “what if” situations that come along. Women are planners we look ahead and we prepare. At least that is true of the women in my “tribe”. We don’t say “let’s do it” without considering that decision from all angles. I sincerely hope we don’t read about big bonuses for BP executives anytime soon considering what a all out disaster this is.

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Searching for supplies.

This week we spent our first few hours at the community garden. We have rented a plot for the summer and are in the process of putting in a very large garden. It became painfully clear to me just how many supplies we are lacking when it comes to gardening. I quickly realized that I am going to need some sort of sunhat as well as women’s rain boots. The area where the garden’s are located provides no shade but is always in a low lying are that is prone to becoming water logged. I also learned that just about everyone who garden’s there has there own rototiller. Our plan for this year is to simply do the best we can and hope it all turns out alright. Next year we can plan better and budget for the larger items and supplies that we know we will need. I am going to have to pick up a hat at the very least because the weather here has been unbelievably hot.

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A good man.

There are days in life when a woman just needs chocolate. This is one of those days. I am not hungry or stressed but I need chocolate nonetheless. After 19 years of marriage my husband possesses an incredible ability to detect when I need chocolate. He is my supplier supreme and has just returned from the store! The man came back from the store somehow knowing that I was in need of chocolate covered peanuts and diet root beer. These are things that I don’t keep in the house because they aren’t that great for you. I do a pretty good job of keeping my chocolate cravings at bay by taking magnesium supplements but I still have the occasional urge to ingest massive amounts of chocolate. Thankfully, he only brought home a small single serve pack of chocolate and a large bottle of diet soda.

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Budget crisis…

It doesn’t seem like a year should have passed since I posted about our state’s budget crisis but it has. One year later finds the state facing yet another financial crisis. I am anxious to see how this year’s crisis is resolved. I know that there will have to be massive changes to the way our state does business if it is ever to be resolved. I am hoping that there will be minimal job cuts or changes to benefits for state employees. I know that there will come a point where we no longer have the same health insurance, life insurance, or pension package we now enjoy. I can understand that there are limits to what the state budget is able to do for state employees. I can only hope that they try as hard as they can to minimize job loss because that is not going to help the local economy in the slightest. In our area the state is one of the major employers and many local businesses rely on this customer base.

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Batten the hatches.

It is not even summer time here and we are already facing the storm season. There are tornado watches in effect for our area and severe thunderstorm warnings. I just read that this could be one of the worst hurricane seasons to date. It really makes me wonder why people continue to ignore the changes that have been occurring in the world over time. Our weather is nothing like it was when I was a child. I am sure my own children will say the same thing about the weather when they are my age. I don’t profess to know exactly why our world is changing but my suspicion is that we are all somehow at fault. Change is inevitable but I sure wish we would look at our own actions a little more closely and band together to slow the coming change down ever so much.

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We are never done.

The school year is done in our home. We were formally dismissed from school last week. That does not mean that we close up shop for the summer and goof off. There is always something that my children want to learn more about and I do everything to empower them to do just that. We visit the library frequently to pick up books on subjects they are currently interested. I make sure that summer camps offer something that is not only fun but educational. If there is something they ask me about I try to answer the question but also guide them to other resources. My idea of home schooling is that even though we are enrolled in a school that education does not stop at the end of the school year. We try to view the world as a wonderful place that always hold some new information to learn about.

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Aware of himself.

Our younger son has taken a sudden interest in pictures of himself. This is interesting because he never really seemed to care before. Yesterday I set up a running slide show of all the pictures on our computer for him to watch. He sat in front of the computer completely enamored with seeing himself at various stages of his young life. It is almost as if he suddenly realized he has been “different” at different times and that he is in fact growing. The look of wonder on his face was so cute to watch. He pointed out every facet of his life from being a newborn to present day. I loved that he realizes he can do things now that he never could before and that there are things he used to do that he no longer needs to do. For example, he no longer needs to wear diapers, sleep in a crib, or use a bottle. Wouldn’t it be great if as adults we could watch a slide show of turning points in our lives? I would love to see all the times I grew as a person in a positive way wouldn’t you?

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Kefir results.

For about two months I have been drinking kefir water. It is easy to make and is supposed to be good for you. I cannot honestly say that I feel better or worse in general from drinking it. I do know some people react adversely when they first start drinking kefir products. This reaction is somewhat similar to taking a laxative or something like colonix. If you aren’t looking to have that type of reaction it could be a bit unexpected. I never had a reaction to either milk kefir or water kefir. Supposedly there are all kinds of great benefits to be derived from consuming either product. Lately my drink of choice is a mixture of half kefir water and half green tea. I find the tea tends to balance out the yeasty taste the kefir can get in this heat. I have tried a number of mixtures but this is my current favorite. I just have to remember to drink it more often than I have been because my kefir is getting a bit strong. I believe the alcohol content is increased the longer it brews.

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Comments…

Do you blog? Do you allow comments? For a long time I allowed anyone who wanted to comment on my blog to do so. I figured it couldn’t hurt. I then learned differently and started to moderate my comments. I am guilty to admit that it has been a VERY long time since I moderated my comments. I had hundreds of them waiting. Just sitting there like a time capsule for me to read. Many were spam. People leaving mindless nonsense with the hope of getting a free outgoing link on my blog. Some were neat to read because it brought me back to the point in life where I wrote that particular post. Happy times, sad times, uncertain times, and stressful times. I wish I could say that I read each an every comment an allowed the real and sincere ones to publish. In the end I did not because I needed to be done with the task and move on. Having been place on a list that stated I allowed free outgoing links I decided to banish all comments for the time being. Maybe just maybe the people spamming this blog will notice that I am not allowing comments and will move on…

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Busy summer on the horizon.

Our summer is shaping up to be a very busy one. I am now looking at everything my older son wants to do and we might be busier than ever. He is attending a couple of summer camps, a stitching class, and also wants to take swimming lessons. We are fortunate to be able to have access to a pool on a regular basis and that makes it important for him to know how to swim. I keep telling him that he won’t always have pool floats to rely on to keep him afloat and that he needs to know how to save himself in an emergency. He seems to finally accept this idea and is ready to commit to learning to swim. I am really hoping that he gets a teacher who knows how to hold him to a high standard. He has taken lessons in the past and they ended up being more about goofing around in the water than learning how to swim. I like being able to enroll him in things that have something to offer besides just a social experience.

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A day of opting opt.

It is now almost the end of the day and it has been a good one. For some reason I found myself reflecting on the food my family consumed today. It occurred to me that each and every meal or snack that we ate was home made. This is my form of opting out of what we have all been trained is the way we should eat. We have been fed this line that convenience is good and time spent creating food is wasted time. I have been striving to make as much of our food ourselves and as organically as possible. Our meals consisted of homemade granola, yogurt, bread, cheese, nut butter, and more. It is pretty cool when you realize that you are saying “No” to big business and over processed foods. I am hoping that more people will join the slow food movement and realize that we have been literally fed a line of crap over decades about what good wholesome food really is. The only way we will ever achieve truly clean food is for people to opt out in mass.

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Next month is the month.

In June we will be meeting with one of our state cyber charter schools to enroll our youngest son in their K4 program. It is not the same school as my older son attends but offers many of the same things. Our 4 year old will be issued his own laptop computer, printer, and set of text books. The school will provide him both online classes and a hands on curriculum. It never ceases to amaze me how far education has come since I was a child. The idea that my children can attend a great school right from our dining room is awesome. The curriculum challenges them and their is an amazing amount of support from the faculty. I think more people would take advantage of this great type of educational opportunity if they were able to see it first hand. I know my own family did not understand it until they were able to sit and watch my son attend one of his online classes and look through his texts. We couldn’t be happier and are thrilled to find a similar opportunity geared for our littlest learner.

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Good family fun.

We are an unusual family and we are “cool” with that. We like living “sustainably” and making stuff for ourselves. Our weekends involve gardening, metal detecting, camping, and geocaching. Homeschooling is the route we choose for educating our children. My children begged me to go somewhere today. When I asked them where they wanted to go they didn’t say a store or even to the playground. They both excitedly wanted to go to the library. How cool is that? So we went to the library as a family and checked out enough books to fill our earth friendly tote bag. Our local library, despite being very small, is awesome. There are tons of programs for the children and that staff is more than happy to help you find what you need or to order it. What a great way to spend the evening and my kids are now contently reading and I have a moment to myself.

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Feeling down?

Last night I had a long discussion with someone close to me about their current mental status. This person has been stuck in a very negative place for a while but doesn’t actually see this. I finally pointed out that this particular person has not had a positive thing to say in several days. It is really hard to know what to say when someone tells you the feel crummy and need to look into top fat burners and start exercising. It is also hard to know what to say when all you hear is what is negative about a person’s life. As hard as it was I finally just laid the facts, as I see them, out and called the situation for what it appears to be. I pointed out that it is pretty hard to feel good about yourself when you aren’t involved in the world or doing anything to stimulate your mind. If the only thing you have to say is something negative then maybe you need to do a reality check and look at your own life and outlook a little more closely. I don’t know if what I said had any impact at all but at least I put it out there. Hopefully, a little insight was gained from our discussion.

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Old school kitchen.

For a while I have working on how to do things in the kitchen in an “old school” way. I cook from scratch and try to make everything as naturally as possible. This means limiting processed foods. Essentially, I try to think of foods as only being food if they are something that my grandparents would recognize as actually being food. When you consider food that was available when my grandparents were my age it puts what we are offered by today’s stores into perspective. I am pretty sure that my Grandmother would have no idea what a chicken nugget or a protein bar was. If the ingredient list has things I can’t pronounce or seems endless I don’t want it in my body. Sure this way of cooking make things take longer but I don’t see it as more work. I see this as time I am not spending mindlessly staring at the television. It is time I spend connecting with my family and connecting them to the food we eat. I love that my children now say “can we make…” instead of “can we buy…”? They are now seeing food as something we control not as being controlled by some distant corporation or entity.

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School is out…

This week was our last formal week of school for the year. That is one of the things I love about home schooling or cyber schooling. We can work as fast as we want and enjoy the fact that we have earned a very long summer vacation. It is funny how the end of school year almost automatically brings out the boredom in our world. For some reason my children cannot manage to find a single thing to amuse themselves without me. I might just have to assign some reading if they persist in pestering me to find something for them to do. I am sure a few hours of reading diet pill reviews or audiology magazines would very quickly change their attitude about amusing themselves. At the end of the month I am having our satellite television discontinued. I have the sneaking suspicion that they will not appreciate this at all. My instinct is that all those toys just sitting in their closets will suddenly start to look more interesting when they can no longer sit in front of the television.

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Sunny at last.

This week has just seemed to be a dark one. The darkness has been more than just the clouds that have filled our sky. This is the darkness that comes when the world seems to be over run by sadness. Between the evils being wrought in the news across our country and lesser evil that hits more close to home it has been hard to find the sunshine. Today, the sky is sunny and somehow I can see this past the worries of the world that have filled my sleepless night. I know that the plants will continue growing in the garden and the laughter of my own two beautiful children will echo in our house. I am blessed and know that the world will be okay despite sadness coming at us from every direction. I will smile and I will carry on because that is what needs to be done. I worry and I cry for the heartache of other people and for what might befall my own home one day but life must go on cheerfully and happily and today the sun is finally shining.

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I really did try.

This week I had the brilliant idea that I would make my husband a sustainable type of gift to give him next month. Not only do I have to give him a present for his birthday but also for our anniversary. There are also Father’s day gifts that must be considered as well. All of these presents must be given in the same week. My brilliant idea was to give my husband a “old fashioned” shaving kit. I found a wonderful reproduction of a 1934 Gillette safety razor and a shaving brush. Today, I decided to make homemade shaving soap. The soap smells great but it isn’t setting up at all. I happened to mention to my husband that I tried to make shaving soap and his response was negative. Apparently using shaving soap is not on his list of things he would like to try. Maybe when he sees everything I put together for his gift he will decide to at least give the soap and razor a test run. I had good intentions even if he doesn’t see the thought behind my gift when it is all said and done.

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So much sadness.

I have no reason to complain but I am feeling low today. The troubles of the world seem to be weighing on me. None of these woes impacts me directly but for some reason I can’t shake them from my mind. A friend of ours has a young son who is battling leukemia for the second time. Another family that we know indirectly lost their teenage son to a car accident this morning. I cannot imagine the pain these families are enduring. Both of them are exceptionally strong in their faith in God. The father of the family that lost their son this morning happens a to be a pastor. I read two blogs that I follow closely today and found out that one of the writer’s lost her husband to suicide very recently and the other is loosing her young husband to cancer. I should be sitting here rejoicing that my world is so good right now but I can’t help but be fearful for what is next to come. I realize that these tragedies are not my own and I shouldn’t be making this about me but I am nonetheless saddened by the grief of the world around me.

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Holding steady.

My big push to loose weight began last November. Over the course of two and a half months I managed to loose about 25-30 pounds. I looked into a ton of different things like nuphedragen and other products to aid my weight loss plan. It ultimately became clear that I needed a very specific plan suited for my eating habits. I began to realize that there are some very specific foods that I need to avoid. For example, I cannot eat white flour or refined sugar without crazy it like crazy afterward. It is like my body cannot have just a little of these things. In hindsight I realize that these foods have always been a problem for me. As a child my mother would teach me to bake in order to cope with the stresses of life. She did the best she could to help me through tough things in the only way she knew how. It would have been better for us both had we learned how to talk to each other instead of eating.

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The concept of money.

Our older son has struggled for a long time with the concept of money. I am not referring to him actually being able to distinguish money or count it but rather to see it as something of value. He tends to loose it and doesn’t really see one thing as being a better value than another. Last week we decided to try to start paying him for doing extra chores around the house. He was pretty resistant to the idea for quite awhile. It finally clicked in with him when I decided to stop buying toys and later letting him work off the cost in chores. He is now saving his money to buy things he wants. The problem is that since instituting this new plan he has already lost some of the money he has earned. I struggle with replacing the money or letting him learn from the experience and realizing that money just doesn’t replace itself and that you have to earn it.

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Completely trained.

About a week ago our youngest son decided that being completely potty trained was a very good idea. The thing I have noticed about is that once he decides that he needs to do something he does it with all his ability. The poor little guy is going to need a hemorrhoid treatment if he keeps trying to constantly go to the bathroom. For some reason he think that if he needs to urinate then he must need to make a bowel movement as well. We must make a dozen trips to the bathroom a day. I know that eventually he will understand that the two bodily functions are indeed different but for now he hasn’t quite grasped that. I will gladly take him to the bathroom twenty times a day if if means no more dirty diapers.

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Free stuff rocks!

We are really big fans of giving away stuff we no longer use. I know that we could have a garage sale and make money off of these items but it just never seems right. As a child I was very much dependent on the charity of strangers. My clothes and toys were always used. It wasn’t until I was an adult that I realized what a gift these items were. No matter how little money we have had over the years we have always given away our unwanted items. For some reason I think that what goes around comes around. This week I posted on Freecycle that I was looking for canning jars. A woman was kind enough to meet me with almost 4 dozen canning jars. This was a wonderful gift and greatly appreciated. She even refused to take money for them which was really nice!

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He knows too much.

The other night I was the unfortunate victim of a computer virus. For the life of me I could not figure out how I managed to get the virus. After dealing with the virus and getting my system secure once again I began to investigate where I might have gotten it. It took me a while before I came to the conclusion that it might have been due to my youngest son. He loves to turn on the computer and then randomly begins to click here and click there. The child simply knows too much for his own good about computers. He knows exactly where to click to get to his favorite websites but sometimes his little fingers make a wrong click. I believe that this is why my poor computer was almost overtaken by this particular virus. I am very orderly about keeping my computers secure but even I can’t always account for little children.

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Ominvore

This week my reading list included the “Omnivore’s Dilemma”. This has been a book I have wanted to read since watching “Food Inc.”. The book covers in detail all of the subjects that movie touched on. It is very troubling to understand exactly what the status of the American food system really is. I know there are people who could argue that this book only presents one point of view. From this reader’s point of view I think it presents the food system in a very clear light. The issues raised by this author are something that every person with a conscience should know. I honestly believe that is people really knew how and where the food products available to them come from they would rally for reform. Our food supply is really a mess and it is likely to only get worse. More and more people have become entirely dependent upon prepared foods and have absolutely no idea how to make food for themselves.

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Easy to please.

This year I have a very short list of gifts that I would love to receive for Mother’s Day. If you know me well you know that I am a simple person. While I love diamonds like the next girl there is something I secretly want even more. What I really want is a really large pressure canner. These are not sold in our area so it is not likely that I will be getting one unless someone really close to me reads this blog. A canner would simplify my plans for putting away most of our vegetables this year instead of buying them. I have just about amassed the minimum number of canning jars that I will need and now only this one thing is missing.

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Sprouts

It has been just about a year since we decided to make over our way of eating. Over time it became pretty clear that our children had no clue where food actually came from. We started out pretty simply by making just a few easy things ourselves. As time progressed we tried more and more complicated foods. Recently I decided to try to add sprouts to our diet. The first thing I tried spouting was wheat berries. Sprouting was a pretty easy thing to do. It takes a mason jar and a piece of cheese cloth. You put a couple tablespoons of seeds into the jar and let them sit in some water for a while. After a bit of time you drain the water off and repeat this process twice a day until you have nice sprouts. This is a super easy way to have fresh green veggies on hand for sandwiches and salads. They make a tasty little snack to eat while blogging as well.

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A burden lifted.

We have been carefully assessing the state of our finances for a very long time. About a year ago it finally sunk in that we needed to make serious changes in our spending. It seemed like every penny that came into our home went right back out. After buckling down and redirecting our money we are finally seeing light at the end of the tunnel. I am not saying that we are going to be rolling in gold bullion when this is all done but we will be out of debt. It really feels like a huge burden is being lifted that has hung over us for so long. To know that we are finally done with paying creditors is an amazing feeling that I never thought I would know again. It is almost like the debt gets so out of control that you can’t ever see it going away. Because it doesn’t seem like you can get away from it you almost tell yourself that adding to it won’t matter because you are always going to be paying on it. I now realize what a vicious circle this is and want nothing to do with it ever again. We are setting a rule of paying cash and we can’t pay cash we won’t be buying it.

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Soaking grains.

In my quest to learn more about healthy eating and nutrition I have been reading about soaking grains prior to using them. This is a bit fascinating to me because I absolutely love whole grains. The idea behind soaking grains is that the soaking process makes them easier to digest than they would otherwise be. I have made several batches of sourdough English muffins using a soaking technique. These muffins have been absolutely phenomenal. The entire family gobbled them down in a way they have never done with regular English muffins. I just found a recipe for soaked sourdough waffles that sounds right up our alley. I don’t know if there is any actual proof that soaking grains make them better for you but I would sure like to believe that there is something behind this. At least they taste wonderful!

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Office changes.

My husband came home today wanting to talk about work. This isn’t something he routinely does but today was the exception. Apparently a couple of people at his office are retiring and this will leave some admin jobs vacant. He says this has caused quite a stir in the office because it is not clear whether these positions will be filled or left vacant. Because of the economy a hiring freeze has been in place for some time. No one knows whether this freeze extends to situations like this or not. If they don’t fill these positions it means that everyone in the office will have a heavier work burden because the work will be spread amongst the group as a whole. He say that they are already expected to carry a huge case load and adding more to them will make the job impossible. I hope for his sake the hiring freeze is lifted and the positions are filled.

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A tired Mommy.

Have you ever traveled with your kids alone for a few days? I don’t mean traveling with your significant other but really traveling alone with them. This is what I just spent the last three days doing. My older son actually did just fine despite being a creature of habit. My younger son was absolutely overwhelmed by having his routine broken. He wanted nothing more out of this trip than to ride the elevator at the hotel all day long. This really isn’t something that I could encourage given our trip had a purpose. The poor child was totally and completely out of sorts by the time we returned yesterday. I would like to say I enjoyed myself but the truth is I wanted nothing more than to get back to my own routine. A nice hotel with a great pool and a good breakfast just doesn’t make up for a screaming child and no sleep. I think it is going to take us all another week to recuperate from our short excursion. Thankfully, we don’t have to take this type of trip for at least another year.

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Irritated.

There is something about the change in the seasons that just drives my skin crazy. I currently am experiencing a terrible breakout of what looks like hormonal acne. It makes me feel like a teenage girl instead of a grown woman. It seems to happen each time the weather makes an abrupt change. Some people use the aches and pains of their body to predict the weather but all I need to do is look in the mirror. The weather started to hit 60 degrees and my skin was a little blotchy. When the weather hit 70 degree it was really blotchy. I can only image what it will look like tomorrow because today it hit 85 degrees! I don’t know what else do to prevent this. I am almost 40 years old and still dealing with this stuff. It drives me crazy to look in the mirror and see my skin like this.

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Tired little men.

These are the evenings that I really love. You know those days when the children have spent the entire day outside in the sunshine running and playing. When evening rolls around there isn’t a single complaint about getting their pajamas on and going to bed. As you tuck them in their little eye lids are already fluttering from drowsiness and within minutes the house is quiet and peaceful. I dearly, dearly love my children but there are days when putting them to bed is just a battle. Given the proper amount of outside activity and fun bedtime is just a pleasure. I cannot tell you how glad I am to be able to be outdoors and not have to worry whether everyone is warm enough! Thank you, Mr. Sunshine for a peaceful and happy day.

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She noticed at last.

This weekend my entire family came over for a visit. This was the first time my mother actually made a comment about how much weight that I have lost. I appreciated the compliment given that she is very sparing with compliments of any type. I did not appreciate the subsequent questions about whether I had taken adipex without prescription or some other drug to loose the weight. Why can’t people just pay you a compliment without any further comment? I might be overly sensitive but the comments detract from the compliment in my opinion. It implies that your weight loss is somehow less if you have used supplements of any type. The truth is that loosing weight is hard work no matter how you loose it. Only people who have really lost serious amounts of weight can appreciate this. My mother has not ever lost a serious amount of weight and doesn’t understand my point of view. I decided to let things slide and didn’t respond to the questions and change the subject.

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Mushroom logs

It seems like I am always finding new hobbies that I want to try. Most of my hobbies involve adding to my food “creation” repertoire. I have learned how to make cheese, yogurt, bread, granola, and many other things. The newest addition to my collection of skills is going to be mushroom growing. I ordered mushroom spawn and my brother was kind enough to help me get the right kind of logs. I now just need to get the logs home and install the plugs. Mushroom growing essentially equates to drilling holes in logs and plugging the holes with dowel rods that have been inoculated with mushroom spawn. You then cover the holes with a bit of wax and sit back and wait. With proper conditions the logs will fruit in 6-12 months and continue to fruit for several years. Might sound a bit silly but who doesn’t love gourmet mushrooms for nothing?

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That was close.

Yesterday my older brother came over to help my husband with an electrical problem. We were trying to put in some new lights in our garage and couldn’t get anything to work. In the process of sorting out the wiring they discovered an exposed and live wire. Considering I had been looking around in the same area as the wire recently for a circuit box it was extremely upsetting to know I could have easily been injured had I touched this wire. We have long wanted to put in new lighting similar to Golden lighting but all of that is on hold for now. Until we go over the wiring in the house with a fine tooth comb nothing is going to be installed. I am so thankful to have someone familiar with wiring to help us with all of this or we would truly be lost.

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Just poop!

Our younger son is absolutely the most stubborn child I have raised. I love his independent streak but it does drive me crazy at times. We have been slowly trudging ahead with potty training for a very, very, very long time. He is finally to the point where he will wear cloth underwear and for the most part keep them dry. He has at long last realized that you shouldn’t poop in your pants. This does not mean that he wants to poop in the potty. Instead he just holds everything in as long as possible. He finally gets to a point where he is so uncomfortable that he walks around whining and asking for “help”. Other than sit him on the toilet there isn’t much I can do to “help”. I just don’t understand what is so scary and bad about pooping in the potty. He will stand next to it and do the deed but not sit on it. I am stumped at this point. We have read books on the subject and watched movies. Nothing makes it okay in his mind.

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Day out…

Today was one of those days where we had several things that we needed to accomplish. I initially scheduled what I thought would be a very quick visit to the veterinary for the dog. This quick visit ended up taking a couple of hours because the office was extremely overbooked. I did spy several people leaving the office with what looked like promotional bags with samples in them. We were not offered one of these bags and I have no idea why. It would have been nice to get something after all the time we spent in the office. I love the clinic because their prices are fair and the care is just right. I just need to remember in the future that everyone else in the world also wants to have a Saturday appointment.

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Canning is not cheap.

One of my main projects for this summer is to learn how to can. I have been slowly acquiring the supplies that I believe I will need for canning. The thing that I was not prepared for was the cost of canning jars. Jars in my area of the country are hard to find because so many people are into canning. The prices that I have paid have averaged out to around a dollar per canning jar. If you plan on putting away enough food to feed a family each year that means you will need a huge supply of canning jars. The jars are reusable but I would only go into canning with the intention of doing it for the long haul because otherwise it is a very expensive endeavor. Your cost per jar would be several times what you would pay in a store per jar unless you reuse the jars over the course of many years.

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Not exactly cheap.

We found out today exactly what our new car is going to cost us in terms of monthly payment and insurance. My father-in-law handled acquiring this car for us through his place of employment. This was nice on one hand and troubling on the other. The price for the car ended up being wonderful but the price for the insurance was just plain crazy. My father-in-law didn’t check with any car insurance companies to compare prices and just went through his present insurance company. The car is actually under his name and we are on his insurance policy because he is leasing it from the manufacturer that he works for. This gave us no control in choosing an insurance company or in determining what coverage we obtained. I can’t complain at all about the monthly payment but was more than surprised at how much the insurance is going to cost. I guess since it is only for one year we will deal with it but after this year there is no way I will pay that much.

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Crazy warm weather!

Today the weather was in the high 80s in this part of the country. That is just wild when you consider that we typically wear sweaters and winter gear on Easter day. I have no idea what is going on but I have to say that I like it. I started all of my seeds early according to everyone but it looks like this is going to pay off. If the weather trend continues we may be able to get some second plantings in for a few of our crops. I am so looking forward to having fresh from the garden produce this year and the weather could just stay like this forever and it would suit me fine. I have a friend who loves the snow and is miserable when the weather is hot like this. To each his own but there is nothing about the snow that motivates me to get things done. At the first hint of warm weather I am just itching to start any number of projects.

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Road trip.

In a couple of weeks we will be getting our new car. We have never leased a vehicle before and are only doing it for one year. My father-in-law was able to secure us a one year lease through his employer. Since our car was totaled last month this seemed like a reasonable thing to do. The lease will allow us to drive 30,000 mile without incurring additional charges. We have decided that this would be a prime opportunity to take a road trip. We are trying to decide where to go and how many luggage sets we can fit in the car. It is pretty small and between two kid, a dog, and the luggage there won’t be a whole lot of room. This means we will have to pack lightly and plan carefully. I am hoping to find a destination that is family friendly and affordable. It will be really nice not to have to worry about anything going wrong with the car since it will be brand new.That is one thing that has kept us from taking trips in the past. Our other cars are older and have high mileage making them prone to breaking down.

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Just poop already.

Our 3.5 year old has been a terror to potty train. I started trying to potty train when he was 2.5 He was so resistant to my efforts I remember being in tears at one point. I gave up for about 6 months and gave it another try. He quickly decided that peeing in the potty was okay. There is however no convincing him that popping in the potty is the way to go. He will simply hide in his room and poop in his pull-up. Last week I decide I was not going buy anymore pull-up and started using cloth underwear. He has stayed dry but still runs to his room and poops. I keep hoping that the underwear will make it more uncomfortable and motivate him to use the potty. It thus far has had no impact whatsoever. I keep telling myself that everything will happen in its own time but it is just a little irritating to keep washing loads of yucky clothes.

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Are we stressed?

Both my husband and I have been noticing that our hair seems to be falling out more rapidly than usual. It isn’t to the point that we need hair loss treatments or anything but it is noticeable. I went so far as to put one of those hair catchers in the drain to try to catch it all. It likely is the result of all the stress we have been under in the last month. That has to play some part in hair loss I would assume? I remember loosing a fair amount of hair after the birth of my second son and that it stopped once life became more normal. Given that my husband will have his cast removed tomorrow I am guessing that our collective stress levels will be reduced significantly soon.

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Not working.

It has been about a week since I decided not to buy my son anymore Pull-ups. It became clear that he has no intention of learning to poop in the potty as long as he has pull-ups on. The child uses the potty whenever he has to pee but just wants nothing to do with sitting on the toilet. Well, after a week of wearing cloth underwear I don’t feel one step closer to having him poop in the potty. He walks around telling me “I poop in my underwear”. My hope is that eventually he will realize that being uncomfortable is not fun and being dry and clean is. For right now I just don’t see any progress. I know everything will come together in its own time but it is still just the slightest bit frustrating.

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Must stop.

Yesterday was supposed to be my day for baking. I used to try to spend one day a week making homemade food that will last us for the rest of the week. As the list of things I can make from scratch grows my baking days now seem to stretch into 2-3 days. On Sunday I made muffins, cookie bars, and cheese. I started out baking yesterday with the intention of making sandwich rolls only. I ended up baking 4 dozen rolls followed by 2-3 pounds of granola. This is probably does not sound like the best way to lose weight does it? Well, I didn’t stop there and then threw together a batch of peach yogurt. Once the yogurt was in the oven it was time to roast coffee. Our first batch of home roasted coffee was incredible! We used an old hot air popcorn popper and it only took about 7 minutes for a batch. I doubt I could ever go back to convenience food if I tried. Today, I am stuffed to the gills with real “slow food” and I love it.

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Homemade granola

Last night I set out to make some cereal. We had used up the last of the Kashi in the house and I couldn’t bare to run to the store. I started scouring the net looking for ideas and found a ton of recipes for granola. I love Post Great Grains cereal but the price has gotten ridiculous. The granola recipes I looked at all had a ton of oil in them. I decided to take a general granola recipe and tweak it to fit what I had in the house. I have to say it turned out AMAZING! You really can throw just about anything into granola and it should work out. My recipe ended up being:

7 cups oatmeal
2 cups chopped assorted nuts
1 cup unsweetened coconut
.25 cups wheat germ
2-3 Tbsp flax seed
.25 cups flax meal
1 tsp cinnamon
.24 tsp vanilla powder
dash nutmeg
Several sprinkles of Durkee maple sugar
stir this all together

1/2 cup brown sugar
3 Tbsp olive oil
scoop of coconut oil
1/2 cup water

boil this together and slowly pour over dry mix so as not to over soak any one area.

Put on 2 parchment lined cookie tray. Bake at 300 degrees until golden brown, stir frequently. I sprinkled periodically with more maple sugar.

Cool and put in airtight container.

Did I mention this is amazing? My son who refuses anything to do with these items on their own tried it and at a bowl. He also did so with milk which he never does!

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A serious talk.

This weekend I had to have a serious talk with my older son about nutrition. The child only wants to eat things made of white flour, starch, meat, or cheese. Any combination of these items is fine with him as well. I have been trying to get him to understand where our food comes from and how it is made by making most of our food from scratch. He finally expressed his disappointment with the newer limits in his food choices. I explained to him that my job as parent was to guide him to make healthy food choices. I explained how people who only eat sugary and starchy food end up overweight. He had no idea what I meant and why this would be a problem. I realized because we never discuss people being overweight in his presence that he has no idea what being overweight means or even looks like. I explained how hard it was to be overweight not only on your body but on your life in general and that I don’t want him to need a fat burner supplement or some other diet when he grows up. It was necessary to explain to him that loosing weight can become a lifelong struggle and that is not something I want for him. He seemed to grasp the concept despite not completely liking everything he heard.

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Pajamas every single day.

For Christmas I bought our younger son 4 sets of identical pajamas. They feature a character from one of his favorite movies and I thought he would love them. He screamed at the sight of them and absolutely refused to have anything to do with them. About 2 weeks ago he decided that these pajamas were the best them ever and has since refused to wear anything else. He doesn’t want to wear regular clothes and battles me to put them on. The only time he will wear jeans is to go somewhere in the car. For some reason he understands that you can’t wear pajamas outside the house. I am now really glad I got 4 sets because we would be in trouble if there were only one.

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A wee bit of rest.

For the last week I have not been sleeping well. I don’t really know what could be the cause of my restlessness. I just seem to be waking up every couple of hours and not being able to get completely back to sleep. I have tried an over the counter sleeping pill and it worked for a while until I ran out. My older son has been sleep walking quite a bit lately and that has me concerned. I think my mind is afraid to fully go to sleep for fear of missing him up and roaming around the house. We have talked to him and there doesn’t seem to be anything wrong. One night he was up laughing hysterically at something he found funny. I am hoping this is just a stage and that a good night’s rest will be mine once again.

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Ouch…

For some reason I woke up today with a tooth ache. I would like to think that nothing is wrong with my tooth. This is a tooth that I had a root canal done on about 10 years ago. It has a crown and a filling. I am thinking that in my flurry of granola making and testing that I somehow got something up in the space between the gum and the crown. I am hoping that the pain is temporary and that I don’t find myself in need of the dentist. I just can’t manage to juggle a dental appointment into the schedule right now with only one car in the family. Hopefully the situation with our other car is worked out soon and we will be mobile once again. Until then I am trying to limit my driving as much as possible so we don’t have to share a car…

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Lessons learned

The accident that my husband was in last month taught me more than I ever wanted to know about automobile insurance. I learned that you can think that you are fully covered and not truly be covered in a serious accident. I have to wonder at this point whether or not I should get life insurance quotes or wait until I learn everything possible? I now know that the minimum insurance required by our state is pitiful and that people should not be allowed to carry such pathetic coverage and be on the road. If we had not had decent insurance I can only imagine the grief we would be dealing with at this point given the amount of bills that resulted from the accident. I will never again question whether or not to carry the best insurance possible or whether to try to save a buck or two on my premiums.

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Wild…

I have found two things that do not mix well. Actually they are three things. The first is an office chair. Office chairs and three years are trouble. Office chairs move way to easily and allow little boys to get into fast amounts of trouble. That makes the second thing a little boy. Three year old boys are trouble. Joyful trouble that I am happy to have but trouble none the less. The third thing is 5 pound bags of chocolate chips. Five pound bags of chocolate chips, three year old boy’s, and a rolling office chair just don’t work well. The boy uses the chair to climb up on to reach the five pound bag of chocolate chips in the freezer. The boy then eats the chocolate chips until he can’t eat anymore and proceeds to turn into a wild creature the likes of which I have never seen. Any questions?

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What will be…

We are debating whether or not to send our youngest son to preschool. This is a big topic of discussion in our house because we home school. We started home schooling about two years ago and absolutely love it. The preschool we are looking into is a virtual public preschool offered through one of our state charter schools. I know this is a decision that is a big as big as choosing what medical assistant training school to attend or anything like that. It is big for our family because it means that we are stepping in fully to home school both of our children. Our older son started out in public school and we never considered home schooling until we absolutely had to. Now it seems only logical to continue the same pattern for our younger son. We can’t help but wonder though if he should have the chance to try public school?

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Curds and whey.

Tonight is the night we embarked on a new hobby! We are in the midst of making cheese for the first time. I have to admit that about 15 minutes ago that I had some serious misgivings about how this project would turn out. Right now I am taking those thoughts back as I gaze at a big pot of curds and whey. The separation of the curds from the whey means that we are inching our way towards making our first blob of cheese. The end goal is to make Monterey Jack cheese but I will be happy with anything that resembles cheese at this point. I know that with most skills I have set out to learn that there is a learning curve and that the product improves the more times you attempt it. I am hoping that this will be a cheaper and healthier alternative to the cheese that we buy in the store. If the kids eat it that will be a real plus!

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Funny boy.

For his birthday my son had asked for video games. When Christmas rolled around a week or so later he had a ps3 on his list. Since he has another gaming system we decided not to add a new one to the collection. Instead we bought him several games on his list. The funny thing about my son is that we actually have to tell him that he needs to play video games. He has a passing interest in them because he thinks that is what kids his age are interested in but he really doesn’t spend time playing them. I feel bad at times telling him to play a video game but I feel like that is the only way we will ever recoup the money we spent on them. I am debating about taking them and one by one selling them on eBay. I don’t really think he would notice at this point. I think the money earned would better be spent on funding his science projects and ever changing business plans.

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Seeds…

The garden is finally underway. We started several packets of seeds last night. I love starting seeds with my kids. It is really funny how dirt, water, and seeds are like magic to them. I had to giggle this morning when my older son went to check and see if the seeds had sprouted. I tried to explain it would take a few days but he didn’t want to listen. I finally decided that the anticipation is half of the fun for him. Somehow growing a garden is as amazing to him as creating science projects in school. I cannot wait until the last of the snow fades away and we can start to put our little plants in their final home. We have our work cut out for us given how big our gardening plans have become this year. I just hope it all pans out and none of us are disappointed.

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What does the future hold?

This week the first of the bills from my husband’s automobile accident came in the mail. I can’t help but wonder how this is going to impact auto insurance quotes we obtain in the future? Although the accident wasn’t deemed to be his fault it still leaves me worrying. If for some reason the bills aren’t paid by the other driver’s insurance what happens? I am assuming that our insurance will cover anything not covered. I don’t really know anything about auto insurance but am learning pretty quickly. I now know the difference between limited tort and full tort in a very up close and personal way. I really need to do some research to learn exactly what the insurance process is for paying medical claims from an auto accident.

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Finally won the battle!

For 10 years I have not been able to successfully cook potato wedges. I have finally conquered cooking wedges and feel better about feeding my kids “french fries”. The one trick that I have found with most any recipe out there for potato wedges is to cook them on a baking stone. It helps them to crisp up better. I bake my oven fries on a stone or greased heavy duty cookie sheet in a single layer. Sometimes I cover the cookie sheet with foil instead of spraying it with Pam.

Parmesan Fries

6 medium potatoes
1/3 cup butter melted
1 tsp. minced garlic (or 1/2 tsp. garlic powder)
1/4 cup parmesan cheese ( I use the kind in the sprinkle can because it coats better)
1/2 tsp italian seasoning, crushed (just rub it between your palms)
1/4 tsp salt
1/8 tsp pepper

Cut potatoes lengthwise into eight wedges. In a large bowl combine melted butter, garlic, cheese, salt, italian seasoning, and pepper. Add potato wedges and stir until thoroughly coated. Bake uncovered at 425 for 30 – 35 minutes or until tender.

This recipe is also a favorite, and very fast.

Crispy Potato Wedges

6 potatoes
3 tablespoons melted butter
garlic salt (or garlic powder and salt)
pepper
paprika(or chili powder if you like spice)

Cut potatoes into eighths. Place in a large bowl and pour melted butter over potatoes. Toss until coated. Pour onto greased cookie sheet. Sprinkle with garlic salt, pepper, and paprika (chili powder). Bake at 425 for 30 – 35 minutes or until tender.

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Reaching a goal.

This month we have been able to pay off a ton of debt. It feels really good to know that when we look at our upcoming credit reports that we will see positive changes. Our credit scores were already very good but we were carrying a big debt load. We have plans to continue to pay off the rest of our debt in the upcoming year and I simply cannot wait. It has been such a burden and I am ready to be done with it. I know that things will come up that are out of our control but for now the future is looking brighter.

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Egg cartons

Recycling is something that we are firmly committed to right now. My son is actively involved in the environmental group at his. Recently they discussed unusual things to recycle and he suggested egg cartons. These are some ways to put those egg cartons to good use! My friend uses them as drawer organizers. She puts earrings, rubber bands, & other things that will fit in there! If your school has an Art teacher, she would love them. That is who I try to save mine for. A kindergarten teacher or other lower elementary teacher would probably love to have them for their art time as well. Do you know anyone who goes to golf courses and finds golf balls that other people have lost? Some people use them to sell a dozen golf balls. If you don’t know anyone, maybe you could call a golf course because they probably do! Are they the paper cartons? And do you have a fireplace? If so, you can make fire starters from the cartons, your dryer lint, and remains of old candles. Think outside the box or carton in this situation and you would be surprised what uses you can come up with.

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Advances in education

When I think back to the time when I was in college I have to say that I am envious of students in today’s world. Had there been technology available when I first went to school like there is today my world would have been so much simpler. I know that I would have chosen a different career path had I had online LSAT prep courses available to me. I am the type of student who would have taken full advantage on flexibility of such comprehensive and affordable technology. When I was deciding between various professions the type of testing I would have to take was a strong consideration. I am someone who just doesn’t learn well from dry text book based material. Having taken online courses over the years since entering my profession I know how useful online learning can be for students like myself. I can now only wonder what I might be today if I had different options. I might be a lawyer today had I this technology been available a couple decades ago.

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Funny Man

My husband amuses me pretty frequently. I am sure that I amuse him as well. We both have areas where we like to prepared. His happens to be in the event of heavy snow fall. DH has his generator ready.. his snow blower…he is all set to go. So this storm coming today started out to be 3-6 inches. DH get to work and calls me to say he heard 4-8. Not 10 min later he calls to say someone told him .. 8-10 inches. 10 min later he calls to say someone told him a foot!

Then the phone rings again… He has been at work an hour! I answer the phone and he says… Its me Margaret. ( you have to be really old to understand that).. but this time he says.. “I just found out I am getting a raise”. I told him he could keep calls like that coming and that I was proud of him.

So about lunch time he calls to say its now 12-14 inches with high winds. Just now he is leaving work and calls to say so and so told him 20 inches!! I told him to stop talking to people.

I am planning on baking a ham if we have a snow day tomorrow and maybe DS and I will make some cookies as well.

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You need to stop.

My husband has a cast on his leg for at least the next 6 weeks. I understand that given everything he has been through over the last couple of weeks that he is stressed out. What I don’t think he realizes is how all of this sitting and not moving is going to impact his health. If he keeps eating the way he is there is no amount of xenadrine rfa x in the world that is going to help him. You simply cannot eat a full dinner and then follow it by two full size candy bars and expect to stay slim and trim. I love him dearly and know how miserable he is going to be when everything is said and done. This is all the more true if he finds out that once the cast is gone he is not only weak and out of shape but is also 20 pounds heavier than when he started. I believe that in the morning I am going to take all of the Valentine’s candy and hide it in the freezer in the basement. For at least the next six weeks he will not be able to navigate his way to the basement and going to the store for snacks is definitely out of the question.

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Grrr…

I absolutely hate when I don’t do well on a shopping trip. One thing I strive for is to save every dime possible on our groceries without sacrificing wholesome food. I recently realized I just blew it when shopping and it irks me. It was late, the kids were already grumpy, dh was tired (and grumpy), I was tired and aggravated cause the kids were whining. So needless to say it was a terrible grocery trip despite the savings. Each time I take them all to the store I vow to never do it again. I seriously need to shop by myself in order to maximize my savings and to even begin to think straight. The kids love to go and my husband thinks it is good for us all to go together occasionally. I have no idea why anyone says that they enjoy shopping together because they all seem totally miserable while they are there.

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Do it your way.

There are people who are just too stubborn for their own good in this world! You the type of people who refuse to do anything outside of the way that they deem appropriate. I have finally decided that being overly stubborn is not an endearing quality at all. I used to think that this was a good attitude to have about life and that being stubborn made you somehow stronger. I now realize that strong people realize when they need to bend and mesh their ideas with those of the world around them. I have a friend who is so stubborn it drives me crazy. It doesn’t matter what I say she knows a better way to do something. If I told her that I was dieting and taking various supplements to aid me. She immediately told me that I need to rethink my diet plan and look into something that sounded like “lipozene“. When I told her that what I was doing was working just fine she refused to quit talking about her diet ideas. She then followed this up by sending me countless emails detailing the products she suggested. I just think there are some people who don’t know when to quit no matter how subtly you try to tell them. It is starting to make me not want to be around her because I am hesitant to bring up any topic or idea because I know she will know more or think she does.

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What do you cook…

…when it’s cold and snowy outside? Or chilly and rainy if you live where it doesn’t snow LOL.

I love a big pot of soup! Potato, veggie or chili is great when the weather is nasty! In Oct. we went camping with some friends of ours. We had 5 couples ranging in ages from upper 30′s/low 40′s to a couple in their 70′s. We had 4 kids too. It was SO cold that weekend. It was windy and rained one day……ugh! We got together on food and one night we had potato soup, chili and veggie soup! It was so nice!

I made veggie soup earlier this week but I’m thinking of maybe making some potato soup tonight. It’s just the kids and me so I might make homemade chicken nuggets instead. Can’t decide LOL.

I also love hot cocoa on cold days! I like to have it all made early in the storm so I can curl up with the kids, books, games, movies and the scanner (it’s always interesting to listen to those reports during a storm!), and just relax for the duration…that’s all provided I’m not trying to get to work, or home from work during the storm.

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He called me tiny.

My husband described me a couple weeks ago to a stranger in a way that I never thought I would hear him do. He told the nurse at the hospital to be looking for a short, tiny, blonde haired woman who looked worried. I don’t think I have every heard myself referred to as tiny. It was a really nice thing to hear despite the awfulness of the situation. Later that same night friends came to the hospital who hadn’t seen me since I lost the weight. You would have thought I had discovered some new secret weight loss formula. My friend was convinced I must have taken ephedra diet pills and refused to believe the details of my diet when I told her. I had a really hard time convincing her that I hadn’t found a secret to rapid weight loss. It was even weirder when I told her that I planned to loose more weight and to hear her tell me not to get “too thin”. I guess the vision of myself in my head hasn’t caught up to the reality of what my body looks like.

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Stockpiling

I stockpile groceries and make no excuses. I save tons of money. I have several family member who think this is absolutely ridiculous. One of them stopped by this week and looked through my pantry. I only have two shelving units, not even full, that’s it!! I am afraid she is going to have me committed. I tried to refer her to research online but she does not get it. I explained my last shopping trip I saved 71%, and she doesn’t get it. She thinks I should only buy what I need for 2 weeks. But she didn’t have a problem raiding my stash, or raiding my coupons! this is funny but her reasoning is I should be saving my money! She doesn’t get it that THAT IS what I am doing! It’s not like it’s all over our house. It’s only on two shelving units in basement at bottom of stairs. I am beginning to think both kids turned against me on everything. I must be one horrible mom. But at least my money saving/ stockpiling excites DH! I love the feeling of opening our pantry and seeing it stuffed with boxes and cans, all purchased on sale! When times get tight, just opening those doors and taking a peek inside really does calm my nerves.

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Toddler skin.

My youngest son has the most sensitive skin I have ever come in contact with. He very easily breaks out in allergic rash to most soaps. If he isn’t plagued by allergies it seems like he is covered in patches of eczema. This week he even had a couple of pimples on his cheek. I was tempted to use a bit of acne wash on them but decided against it. I am thinking that he also has food allergies that we just can’t pinpoint right now. It seems like as soon as I get one area of his skin cleared up another one breaks out. I almost hate to use any soap on him because I can never tell what is going to happen as a result. I finally found some unscented and allergen free soap that seems to be working for now. I just hope that it continues to be available for the foreseeable future. It makes me wonder if this is something that he will outgrow?

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Lower water bills.

Our bill is about 65/month in the winter, and over 100/month in the summer due to watering lawn, garden, etc.

I now keep a 5 gal. bucket in the shower, and when I turn the water on to heat up, I just aim the shower nozzle into the bucket. When the water is warm, I push the bucket to the side and hop in. Later, I haul the bucket out and dump it on a plant. Now we are having to use the hose less to water!

Sometimes I’ll scoop the water out of the tub after my son takes a bath, then dump it on various plants. MANY gallons saved, and we ae seeing a smaller bill!

This was our first gardening season with our rain barrels. We love them! We made our own, but then at the end of the season, we bought “official” ones from a near by county. They are made from the same barrels we had, but with faucets and towards the top there is an overflow hole. You just connect a hose to the next barrel. Plus it’s a program where trouble teens make them and earn money, so good cause.

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Who knew?

My husband was in an automobile accident two weeks ago that landed him in the hospital. This was a very scary and stressful time for our entire family. It reminded of a great many things that I have been intending to do but haven’t gotten around to doing. For example, I could not find people’s phone numbers when I needed them. I need a list posted somewhere for emergencies. The other thing I need is a list in my purse of what medications and over the counter pills I take. My husband would not know for example if I took conjugated linoleic acid or a multivitamin each day. I was surprised to find out that my husband took an aspirin daily and some fish oil. I told the emergency room workers that he didn’t take anything only to find out later that he did. The aspirin was an important piece of information when it came time to schedule the surgery he needed. I now know what he take and he is going to know what I take each day.

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Goodwill recycles.

This is a very good task and recycling must take place in order to utilize our preexisting resources and produce new resources out of them with all the creative efforts and innovative techniques with new products. We used to just recycle cans and paper and what not…but I’ve just discovered a newer and easier way. If you go into the Goodwill, they give you a cardboard recycling bin that fits a big black trash bag. Then just throw anything that’s recyclable in it (without separating!) and when it’s full, just take that bag to the bin at Goodwill. They separate everything for you so it makes it SO much easier! Just thought I’d share! Not all Goodwill’s do this so you will want to check but I think it is AWESOME :)

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Jealousy is not good.

I have written several times in the past that few months that I have been trying to loose weight. I guess I shouldn’t refer to myself as “trying” to loose weight because I actually have been loosing weight. It is amazing to finally finding out which diets that work for me! I am feeling great and love fitting into my clothes. It is funny how many people have nothing good to say when you tell them about your diet plan. I believe this is due to jealousy. There is one person in particular in my life who has never said a positive thing about any diet plan that I am on. He will say things like “that diet will give you a heart attack” or “good luck keeping it off”. I wish he would just keep his opinions to himself and not say anything at all. I know that the biggest struggle with weight loss is not loosing weight but rather in keeping it off. I look at it that at least I am trying and not sitting back critiquing everyone else and doing nothing about my own health.

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Tax time.

We were recently discussing with a friend the topic of taxes. Our friend was debating between using an online tax program and going to a professional to have it his taxes done. So, I thought I would compare the two myself. OK, I just sat down and went through the online tool at H&R Block, with the documents from my CPA in front of me to make sure the amounts I entered were the same in both places.

Keep in mind that I’m just your average person with basic tax document knowledge. It’s highly likely that I may have made a mistake or two, especially when getting into some of the hairier parts of the return, like investments (and ours are still pretty straight-forward). But, I entered everything as I understood it (with the help of their little pop-up info boxes), just like I would have if I’d been doing the return for real.

The H&R Block return came in at $501 LESS than what the CPA came up with. I think I’ll stick with paying my CPA! For us, it’s worth every penny. We’ve never tried to do our own, but we did use H&R Block one year and came away not feeling satisfied. We took the documents to the CPA and he found several mistakes. We paid H&R $85 for their services, and the CAP $50 for his. We’ve stuck with him ever since. We just feel like he knows tax stuff inside and out and it’s better to pay a small fee and make sure they are done right than screw it up ourselves!

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Changing careers.

There are many decisions in my life that I wish I could go back in time and make again. Some of these are simple things like picking a particular room color or a different type of car. Most of us can relate to these types of decisions. Other decisions are not as easily understood by other people. For example I would love to be able to start from scratch and choose my profession over again.

I have spent over half of my life in school pursuing the four degrees that I now hold. What no one ever made clear to me in all my years in school was how limited my career choices would be once I graduated. My profession is so narrow that there really just aren’t many options available unless you live in a metropolitan area.

If I were able to relive my decision in pursuing a college education I know that a career in nursing would be one of my top picks. Having worked in a medical field for over a decade I can attest to the wide variety of professional opportunities afforded to those in the field of nursing.

I was recently asked to spend some time looking at programs options on www.wgu.edu and found some very interesting information. I was surprised to learn that you can obtain a rn to bsn online. I didn’t realize this was possible. I honestly thought pursuing all areas in nursing required on-campus participation. Programs like those offered by WGU offer student the flexibility to obtain an affordable education that challenging and competency based.

It was really informative to know that there are a tremendous number of options out there in today’s educational arena for distance learning. As an adult learner, with the accompanying responsibilities, you are no longer locked into a particular set of career choices based on the offerings your local education providers.

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Reading nook..

We just finished putting together a reading nook for our kids. This has been a great addition to our home. We put two super soft & disliciously squishy normal-sized chairs in our reading nook. The kids (3 and 10) love to snuggle up and sink down in them to read. Plus, I can have any of them sit on my lap and read to them that way, too. Have good lighting, for sure. We have both short and taller shelves–baby books (in dish tubs so that the littlest ones can just flip through the tub & find the covers they like instead of emptying the entire shelf to see what they want) on the bottom, picture books in the middle, and chapter books at the highest level. We have lots of pillows and blankets and have added an electric fireplace w/ mantel, too. The kids can turn it on themselves and sit in front of the fire and get toasty warm as they read. Simple pictures of animals in frames are fun because they can be changed up as often as you like–or even use it to display your kids’ current works of art. Vinyl lettering (a fun quote about reading or from a family-favorite picture book or even just the alphabet) is great because it isn’t too expensive (if you own a Cricut or know someone who does), isn’t permanant, or can be changed in just a few minutes. Take pictures of your kids reading and blow them up (cheap at Sam’s or Costco) and hang them on your walls. This is a fantastic project that I urge you to try in your home!

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Education where you are.

When I tell people that I have four college degrees they are often somewhat surprised. I have spent about half of my life in college pursuing one degree or another. When I went back to school to pursue my Doctorate everyone assumed we would need to move in order for me to do this. To their surprise I was able to obtain an advance degree right from the comfort of my own home. Obtaining a college education is now as simple as logging onto your computer.

It always amazes me when I learn about the ever expanding opportunities available for online learners. Today you can pursue everything from criminal justice degrees online to health information technology studies from wherever you happen to be. The technologies available to today’s distance learning students are absolutely incredible.

Schools such Northwestern College offer regionally accredited programs geared for career oriented students. These programs are designed to enable students to meet the demands of a busy life while improving there education and future career prospects.

Online learning made it possible for me to juggle the responsibilities of working full-time while raising a rambunctious toddler. This would never have been possible had I been required to physically attend an on campus classroom.

There are so many wonderful options for students in today’s world. Online classrooms offer flexibility without sacrificing a great education.

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Stinky hair!

My son is ten and it doesn’t matter if I wash it or if he does (me really good, him not so good) but it always smells dirty. He is a very active boy and plays sports everyday so he does sweat alot. He can be out of the shower 10 min and as soon as his hair dries it stinks. It has only been going on a couple of months but it is gross. Different shampoo’s do have an impact though. I personally love Pantene, but I stopped using it on my kids hair because their heads seem to smell more quickly with it. Biolage is very helpful, but it is more expensive so we don’t always buy it. We’ve tried about everything there is. Some things work better than others, and it’s different for each kid.

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Grumpy and mumbling…

We have had our bedroom furniture for around 10 years. We bought it just before the birth or our oldest son. During those tens years we have moved at least a dozen times. I have to think that moving that many times has taken a toll on the strength of the furniture. This weekend I came home and heard my husband muttering something under his breath that sounded like “mmf drawer” or some similar utterance. I hesitated to inquire what the problem was but did anyway. As it turned out the drawer on is dresser had gotten stuck inside the dresser. As he tried to pull the drawer out of the dresser it came apart. His dresser drawer is now sitting on our bedroom floor in 3 pieces. We are hoping that some glue and clamps will repair the situation but it doesn’t look promising at point. I really didn’t want to have to buy a dresser right now and hope to get several more years out of the one we have.

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Replacement wedding bands.

My husband broke his wedding band a few weeks ago. He has had it for at least 16 years. He lost his first wedding band around our second year of marriage at a softball game. We bought a very cheap band to replace it that was almost paper thin. Last week I ordered him a tungsten carbide ring and gave it to him as an early Valentines Day present. There are amazing deals online for these types of rings. We looked at some in a local jewelry store that was price hundreds of dollars more that we paid. We are very happy with the purchase and would recommend this to anybody. I can’t say enough about how wonderful this product is. It’s very sturdy and you’d think we had paid a lot of money for this. I now wonder why people spend so much money on wedding bands that never hold up. There is no reason why you couldn’t get a ring like this for your wedding ring as it is just as good, if not better, then some of the rings that are out there that you pay much more money for. I like his so much I kind of wished I had one to match.

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Things I keep forgetting…

I know everyone has this experience but lately I can’t seem to remember some things. This relates mostly to going shopping. I will head to the store for something in particular like batteries and end up coming home with everything except batteries. I write lists and still manage to get sidetracked. We use a great many batteries in our house and it seems like every toy the children want to use has dead batteries. I have re-chargable but apparently not enough of them. My three year old is always walking around saying one toy or another is broken and “neeeds batteries”. I wish when people bought toys for Christmas they would consider how many batteries the toy might need in normal use and include some with the toy. This might sound greedy but I can’t help feeling this way. We have one toy that takes 8 batteries! When it goes dead I never seem to have 8 batteries in the house to replace them.

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Finally had pasta!

Tonight was the first night I had pasta since starting my diet in November. It was amazing! I chose a low carb pasta and made my own sauce and low carb meatballls. I had my doubts about the pasta since I have had some miserable experiences with low carb items in the past. I had been eating whole wheat pastas, which are okay, but recent reading convinced me that even whole wheat provides too many carbs.

I was skeptical about Dreamfields, so I bought one box at my local market. I made macaroni and cheese with it and I couldn’t tell the difference between it and regular pasta, even plain.

I love the fact that it has low net carbs. I try to keep my simple carbs low because there is type II diabetes in my family and I’d just as soon avoid that. There certainly isn’t anything wrong with avoiding simple carbs whenever possible.

A caveat: Do NOT overeat this pasta or you will regret it. I heard an interview with the president of Dreamfields & he said that the serving size is THE serving size and overeating the pasta can lead to nasty gastro effects and my hubby can tell you that’s true :) . They also emphasize that the pasta should not be overcooked. Be sure to always cook al dente. It’s definitely nice to be able to include pasta in my repetoire of recipes again!

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It will be fine.

One of my most recent dietary objectives has been to get my family to eat more fruits and vegetables. I know this is something that most parents struggle with when it comes to feeding their children. My younger son eats pretty much nothing that isn’t beige. He seems to be in a streak where the only things he wants are peanut butter, wheat bread, and cheerios. You would think that asking him to eat some fruit was a matter of life or death. The way the child carried on about trying some apple wedges was crazy. I am sure the neighbors thought somebody had better be shopping for online life insurance soon given all the screaming that was going on. The child screamed at the top of his lungs and sobbed at the sight of a new food on his plate. I finally gave up trying to force the issue and removed the apples from his plate. My mindset is that these things happen in their own time and it will all turn out alright. I don’t remember anyone making me eat certain foods I am turned out okay. I am sure he will as well.

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Counting calories

I have been trying to find a good way to track the calories in homemade meals. This has been a process of trial and error. If you have an iPhone or iPod Touch, the app LoseIt! Is the most valuable tool. I liked SparkPeople for awhile until I discovered this app.
It is fantastic, and has been the number one app in the Health category for over a year now. And it’s free. But if you don’t have either of those, SparkPeople is pretty good.

Whenever I cook things from scratch I just manually add in everything that the recipe asked for. Don’t know if it will end up being the same, but I usually cook with few ingredients so it comes out similar enough. Another thing you can do is Google the recipe you are using like “Calories Mashed Potatoes” or something to that affect. I realize that was a bad example, sorry. I know there is another website you can search for the calorie content of various foods but I don’t recall it. I’m sure it would be easy to find in a search engine as well.

If you want to find low fat versions of recipes, Hungry-Girl.com has some good ones, and that way you will know that what you are making is below 300 calories per serving.

The nice thing about calorie counting is that you can modify it however it works for you, and there are so many great tools available to keep track of them.

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It won’t work.

Do you have someone in your life who you feel tries to undermine the positive things you do? We all have these people in our lives to some degree. For me that person is my mother. I love my mother but she has never wanted to see me succeed with a weight loss diet. Even when I was an overweight teenager she would do or say things to make me want to give up on becoming a thinner person. This I believe stems from her own inability to diet or loose weight. What makes me sad is that this behavior continues into my adulthood. For example she knows that I am not eating any sugar or starch and have lost 25 pounds as a result. In response to this she decides to invite me over for dinner and bake all of my favorite foods including cream puffs, chocolate chips cookies, and scalloped potatoes. Any other time I would love that she actually cooked foods for me but this time I couldn’t see past the underlying meaning. Fortunately, something in me has changed and I explained that I had brought a salad with me to have instead of the starchy side dishes and that I would be having some of the sugar free desert I had also brought along. It was a moment I am actually quite proud of because it showed how far I have come in changing my eating habits.

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The same bed time?

Do you go to bed at the same time as your spouse? I am a morning person and my DH is a night person. I remember being shocked when we first got married that he didn’t want to go to bed with me at 10pm! I’m so over that now! I fall asleep at the drop of a hat and he has to wind down, watch something on tv in our room (doesn’t keep me up at all) or try to read. He usually nods off around 12:30 or 1am. There are times when we go through cycles where I will stay up later, he will stay up later, or we go to bed together. Currently I’m the one going to bed several hours before he does. When we do go to bed at the same time it seems like it is the only time we can be together and carry on a conversation without being interrupted every 30 seconds.

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Bumpy little boy.

Our youngest son seem to constantly have one thing or another going on with his skin. We have tried everything we can think of to keep his skin clear but it always seems to break out again. I have scoured the internet for information and think I have seen every ad that says click here for eczema information on the web. The bumps are on his arms and legs and they don’t seem to bother him but I wished they would go away. I use a gentle soap and keep him moisturized but the issues with his skin persist. The doctor treated him with prescription medicine but it didn’t make much of a difference. I hate to put him through allergy testing but that may be where we are heading in the future.

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Kitchen theme?

Do you have a “theme” in your kitchen? I’ve seen a lot of apple, stars, grapes, and watermelon themes. My kitchen has a vintage theme (like Grandma’s kitchen). The color scheme is dark red, brown, and cream. I went to Home Depot and bought a sheet of panel board that looks like bead board,and put that halfway up the kitchen and dining area walls, and used decorative trim to make a chair rail (very cheap to do). I used canisters that have old time writing on them (ex. flour, sugar, coffee, tea), antique kitchen utensils,and wicker baskets to decorate above my cupboards. Old 1/2 gallon canning jars (from the ’20′s and ’30′s) are used for storing bulk items. I have a vintage 1/2 pint wide mouth jelly jar holding my scrubbies and bottle brush sitting by the sink. An old #2 pickle crock holds my cooking utensils. I used decorative tea towels from the craft store as cafe curtains with a berry sway for a valance. I got most of my stuff from a discount decorating store, thrift stores, and my DH grandma’s storage shed. I see vintage kitchen items at auctions all the time, and most go cheap! My next purchase is going to be some old half aprons. I want to tie the aprons strings together, and hang them on the wall over my basement stairs (it looks fabulous in my head!).

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It looks yummy.

Just about every day I have a protein shake for either lunch or dinner. You would think that after two months my children would start to realize that I am making a protein shake. For some reason the minute I start the blender they come running. I know that they have hope that what I am making is not a nutritional mix of my weight loss supplement and ice but instead a milkshake for them. I always feel bad because I know they think that what I am drinking looks like a milkshake and therefore must taste like one. I offer them a sip each time I make one but for some reason they won’t take me up on the offer. I know that if they just tried my protein shakes they would realize that I am not having some secret dessert that I am keeping from them.

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Negative talk.

One of my friends is having problems with her daughter talking negatively about herself. She wanted to know how I dealt with this or if I had encountered it in my own child. I explained that we counteractit like this: for every negative thing they said, they had to say 3 positive things. We started a gratitude journal as part of the tuck in routine. We also didn’t allow the negativity to go on. I’d try to determine if there was a real problem- if there was, help them solve it or just deal with it. If not, I’d ask “How is your attitude helping you feel better or making you feel worse?” We can always change our attitude. If they begged for constant reassurance, I’d start asking them to tell me things they liked about themselves. If they had specific fears or concerns, we’d read books that addresses those issues and try to come up with ways to deal with the issue.

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Cute comments.

My older son is very confused by the diet plan that I am following. He is constantly asking me questions in an effort to understand exactly what I can and cannot eat. I took him to the grocery store this week and it ended up being a constant barrage of questions as to whether I could or could not eat each and every item we passed in the the store. He wanted to know if I could eat muscle builder supplements, Oreos, and virtually every snack item in the store. I have tried explaining to him that it is really pretty simple but he still seemed confused. For some reason the idea of not eating sugar, starch, or processed foods is troubling to him. I believe he thinks that in some way I must be starving myself or putting my health at risk by not eating all these things. I haven’t yet told him that over time he will find himself eating fewer of these items as well.

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Planning the garden.

We have spent the last six months going from a very unhealthy, mostly processed diet, to a mostly whole-foods, sugar, wheat and dairy-free diet. I am really looking forward to veggies that I know are organic and fresh and free (well, sort of…). I also want to grow herbs this year. I’ve never grown them before, or even used them in cooking until the last few months. This will be fun! If you by organic or non genetically modified seeds (and they are not hybrid) you can save seeds from your produce to plant the next year. Harvest your seeds by squishing your tomatoes on newspaper and let it dry then pick seeds off and store in a cool dry place or in the freezer (store them wrapped tightly in plastic wrap so ice crystals won’t form if you put them in the freezer) until the next year. Things like peas, beans, squash, cantalope, and watermelon just harvest and rinse them and dry on a mesh screen or newspaper in the sun or a warm place until they are “petrified”. Then store them just like the tomato seeds. You can start your tomato, pepper, and squash seeds yourself if you have a warm sunny spot that gets sun at least six hours a day. Use yogurt cups with two or three drainage holes poked in the bottom. Fill with potting soil, dampen soil, plant your seeds and set cups in a plastic trays or aluminum cake pans on a shelf or windowsill. Cover with plastic wrap to create a green house and watch them grow. I usually start my seeds around the first of February so they are ready to plant around Memorial Day. OOOH I’m so excited to get started!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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They are done.

Over the holidays we spent some time with friends that we haven’t seen in a long time. It was funny because they have come to the realization the having more kids is not something they want to do. I never thought I would hear them say this. For as long as I have know them they have wanted a huge family. They have had a child each year we have known them. I don’t know what made them change their mind about having more kids but I have to admit I am kind of glad. It has gotten a little bit old listening to my friend complain about nursing a baby and needing to the find best hemorrhoids treatment. I almost wonder what we will talk about now that she isn’t going to be having anymore babies. It will be interesting to see our friendship changes over time. I am hoping that we find out we have more in common than just having young children.

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Protein day.

I have lost 25 pounds since December. Now that I am adding new foods into my diet it is interesting to see how the scale reacts. This weekend I tried many new foods and found out the scale does not appreciate these changes. To compensate for this I am having nothing but protein today. So far I have had 96 grams of protein. I intend to have another 48 or so before bed. The theory behind this is that my body will be forced to use the extra weight I gained this weekend to make up for the lack of fat in my diet today. I am hoping this is true! I also think the weight gain could be due to the fact that I have been working out very intensely since adding the new foods. It should be interesting to see what the scale does in the morning after my first day of protein only on this phase of the diet.

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The advice that never ends.

Can I just say that I am really glad the holidays are over? As much as I love getting together with friends and family it can get to be overwhelming. We have one particular family member who tends to wear on me after an extended visit. He is one of those people who is constantly trying to share his wisdom and advice with us. If he is not trying to convince my husband to change jobs. He is telling me that the we should be doing something like investing in Outer banks foreclosures. We are fairly happy with the status of our lives. It is hard on my husband to have to listen to how the choices we have made for our lives are not meeting with this particular individual’s standards. I realize that people reach a certain age where they feel they have wisdom to share. In some way I also know that this is done out of love and concern. We may very well be making choices that we will regret in the future but we won’t know for years to come. At least we have a few months to clear our heads before the next holiday is upon us.

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Parenting differences….

We have some friends that for the most part we get along with great. They have boys; we have boys and DH’s get along great. Every once in a while we run into a snag though. Not just a ripple but a big nasty snag…..

I parent in black and white for the most part. You make a choice and you reap the consequences of that choice- good or bad. Certain behavior is simply unacceptable at our house- no lieing, stealing, or back talking. What mom and dad say goes! You may be given a warning but if mom says something she means it.

At our friends house, nothing is ever stood by. The do it or else….well “or else” never ever comes. Consequently I have seen there boys really manipulate their mom and totally disrespect her knowing full well she will not follow through with her threats.

The problem is influence and 3 yr old DS is picking up these habits. I don’t like it and we constantly reinforce OUR RULES. The proverbial “straw that broke the camels back” is when DS comes home saying Santa doesn’t exist because this friends says he doesn’t. They don’t believe in Santa, that’s fine, but for me Santa represents sooo very much good. We have talked about this lots and I just reinforce that I Believe in Santa!. DS#1 was always excited about Santa this year. I am just really bothered by someone else affecting our traditions. This friend is also sneeking around to take DS’s toys home because he no longer has his. UGH! Am I out of line to be frustrated over this? How do you limit friends influences at such a young age? It’s bad enough when they get older.

*sigh*

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Poor little dog.

This morning I believe it is the coldest morning that we have had here this winter. I know it is cold when the dog goes out first thing in the morning and then turns around and runs right back inside. Our dog is usually the type that takes forever to choose the perfect spot to do her business. This morning she just wanted no part of sniffing around and around. I don’t blame her! I wish I could just find a deal on cheap hotels miami and just spend the rest of the winter in the south. Since this isn’t going to happen I am just going to spend as much time inside as possible. I guess I should be glad I am not like the dog and have to wake up first thing in the morning and go outside to use the facilities.

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Our new diet.

There are a number of things that we have been slowly changing in our diet. I am trying to move towards eating no processed foods. This has been a gradual adjustment and we are almost completely there. Several things we now avoid are : all partially hydrogenated oils. Which are found in sooo many things!!

Refined sugars and flours. I try to make all breads, pancakes, rolls from scratch so I know what is going into them. It is amazing how much sugar they put in store bought bread. I also can beef up the fiber content when I make it myself.

Nitrates which are found in lunch meats, or any processed meat. There are several varieties that have taken these out! Hormel’s Natural is nitrate free. Nitrates are found to cause cancers.

We avoid butter and other processed fats. I use olive oil or apple sauce as a substitute for just about anything that calls for butter. We put olive oil on our popped popcorn, and substitute good parmesan cheese on veggies for butter. When you buy milk and butter that are from an animal that has been given hormones, it goes straight to the fats that are processed into milk and butter. The butter that I do keep on hand for rare occasions, I buy organic. I can’t afford to buy everything organic, but when it comes to animal fats and milk, it is worth it.

Food coloring is avoided in this house too! What about you?

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Exactly right.

This was a Christmas that could not have been anymore perfect. Everyone remained healthy which was a huge thing. It seems like every year around Christmastime one us is sick but this year was the exception. As for spending time with family, we were able to see everyone a couple of times. Our children were incredibly blessed in the gift department! I got a couple of things I needed that I hadn’t mentioned to anyone. One of them was a gold chain to replace one I had broken. I am now able to put my pendants, that have some special diamonds, on a proper chain. I felt bad about not being able to wear them because they were a gift from my husband and son. The other thing I received that was neat was a sewing machine. My old sewing machine was about 30 years old and drove me absolutely crazy. I can now sew quickly without any hassles which makes me want to sew again. I just wish we had a decent fabric store in our town. It is really hard to buy fabric over the internet because you never really know what something is going to look like when you get it. All in all it was a perfect holiday season and I couldn’t be more thankful.

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Allowance and chores.

The topic of giving our children an allowance is always in flux in our house. We tend to go in spurts. We do really great for a while and then allowance falls by the way side. (I guess you can tell my kids are not motivated by $$!) We have tried a quarter per year old per week, $1 per grade level, and pay by the chore. I hated pay by the chore…ugh. It is ok when it is a special occasion and they want to earn extra, but weekly? NO.

I think we liked the $1 per grade level the best. The kids all have certain chores they have to do separate from allowance such as make bed, clean room, fold your own laundry, etc. Additional chores like bathrooms, dishes, etc. are expected and $$ deducted if not completed. Unfortunately my kids don’t care much about $$ yet, so this wasn’t a big deterrent. It really depends on your kids and what you want/expect them to do with allowance.
My SIL gives each child $1/wk/yr old. They put it in a savings account and the girls have to use that $$ for shoes, clothes, etc. It works really well for them.

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The perfect gift.

I have posted in the past about how difficult it is to buy Christmas gifts for my in-laws. They have no want or need of anything. They are also the type of people who will readily let you know if they don’t like your gift and intend to return it. I really do not like buying gifts for them at all. This year I decided to get them digital photo frames. Neither of them had one and surprisingly they very much appreciated these gifts. Of course I neglected to buy a flash drive for them and was very quickly reminded of this. I could have screamed when my father-in-law commented on how nice it would have been if I had given them the frames loaded with pictures in addition to buying a flash drive. I had thought about this but quickly realized that I would then have to listen to comments about my choice of photos to install on the frames. I figure that for the most part my gift was a hit and they can work out the details themselves. Now at least I have 11 more months before I have to worry about gift buying again.

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Constantly cold.

My extremities–hands and feet (even my nose)– are always cold–even in the summer! I talked to my doctor about it. She told me I have poor circulation and gave me a prescription for niacin (vitamin B)–it helps with blood circulation. Don’t take niacin without talking to your doctor though because of the side effects.
In the winter I always wear socks and lined slippers. I wear Dearforms that I bought at Costco (they don’t have a back). I also wear socks to bed–my husband told me that I am the only woman he ever knew who wore socks to bed. Also Smartwool socks are pretty awesome. When I sit at my computer in the basement on the hard floors I will put my feet on a blanket to keep them warm.

I know there have to be other people out there like me. What do you do to keep warm?

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Heart warming.

This weekend I read a really heart warming article about some teenage boys in our area. The teens were out walking late at night and happened to notice flames coming out of the roof of a home. They then went to the house and managed to get the family inside awake. One of the boys called for emergency medical assistance while the others helped get people out of the home. It was neat to read that these teenage boys helped dress the children and carry them outside to safety. In a time when we hear and read so many negative stories about young people this was a nice change of pace. Once the family was safe the boys proceeded home because they were concerned they would get in trouble for being out after curfew. I happen to think they were exactly where they were supposed to be that night and that despite breaking curfew they should be honored for what they did.

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Spoiled and happy.

Christmas is now over and it is nice to not have to plan for it anymore. We had a truly lovely Christmas holiday and I could not have asked for it to be any better. I don’t think there is a thing that my children received that they haven’t really liked. They were spoiled rotten by both sets of grandparents. This was nice because it really took the burden off of us to buy things that just weren’t in the budget this year. I love that their grandparents are so willing to give with just the expectation of seeing the smiles on the kids faces. I have to say my children were really well behaved and remembered to say “thank you” for each gift. Sometimes I worry that being so spoiled will make them greedy but I didn’t see any evidence of that in them. We also made it a point to take the children to their rooms and go through their old toys and choose some to give away to charity. This is a great way to reinforce the giving aspect of the holiday and also teach them about not keeping everything forever.

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Dry, dry, dry skin.

This is the time of year when we all seem to start being irritated by dry skin. My youngest son seems to have particularly sensitive skin. I have to be very careful about what type of soap we use on him as well as making sure to use allergy bedding on his bed. He seems to become irritated very easily when ever I change soaps or lotions. Right now his skin is about as dry as I can ever remember it being. We have been very diligent about moisturizing his skin but he is still so dry. I am hoping that this is something he out grows in the future. It is no fun having such sensitive skin. I had the same problem as a child and remember constantly itching and always being drenched by my parents in lotions and potions. At least he seems unfazed by it all.

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Feeling great!

This morning I stepped on the scale expecting to see a bit of a gain. Yesterday was the first day since I started my new diet on November 27th that I actually cheated. To be honest my cheating involve eating low carb icing that I made for my son’s birthday cake. The diet that I am on is very strict and does not allow for any type of “non-protocol” foods during the first 40 days. Thankfully I am actually down another half-pound this morning. I was feeling a little dizzy but after taking my B-12 and magnesium supplements this has totally gone away. I cannot say how great it feels to be down 16.5 pounds and looking forward to ringing in the New Year as a thinner me!

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Personal space.

Teaching boundaries is something we seem to be constantly working on in our house. With my younger son it is seems like I am forever trying to get him to grasp what he can and cannot play with in the house. With my older son it am on a real kick to get him to understand personal space. He his forever looking through things around the house or other places that just aren’t his to look through. It doesn’t matter whether I am looking for travel insurance online or working on my blogs he wants to stick his head over my shoulder and read the screen. It isn’t like I am writing or looking at things that are in appropriate for him but it is a personal space issue. I understand that this is part of his spectrum disorder but it drives me crazy at times. Other people wonder why a kid his age doesn’t understand these things when he should. I keep reading different suggestions for teaching him but it hasn’t quite clicked yet. I am hoping it does really soon because right now he is trying once again to stick his head over my shoulder.

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Renewed spirit!

Today I have reached a new weight loss low! It is leaves me just 1 pound shy of my first weight goal. I couldn’t be happier with the results of my diet plan. It is a lovely thing when you do something that offers such fast results from your efforts. I feel absolutely wonderful about life today! It has extended to so many aspects of my daily life. My work seems more important as does spending quality time with my children. It really makes me wonder just how much of a funk I was in when I weighed more. This kind makes the term “something is weighing you down” make sense on a different level. Not only does excess weight make you feel awful it spiritually drags you down. I am now on a path to being the me that I know I can be and feel so positive about the future.

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On my way.

In the last two weeks I have lost 11.5 pounds. This has been the result of hard work and serious self-control. By the way, I am not interested in hearing comments about how this is too much too fast. It is something that I need to do and am very intent on doing. I am looking forward to ringing in the New Year as a trimmer version of myself. I am also looking forward to being able to buy a new wardrobe that maybe includes a pair of Hudson jeans or something similar. I am very close to fitting in some jeans that I last wore about 10 years ago which is a major accomplishment on my part. My husband is very impressed with my results and my ability to control myself and not overeat. I have to admit it is really hard when I am crazy serious amounts of sugar and chocolate. I know at some point I will be able to have these treats once again but for now I need to just repress my need to indulge even though this is the season for indulging. My body is going to thank me even if it is now very happy right now.

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Meat at your door?

Anyone have any insight on door to door meat sales? Someone just came to my door (literally HOURS after I took the No Soliciting sign down!) selling meat. It looks like really good meat, but he wouldn’t say how many pounds it actually was. He said he didn’t know, which I don’t believe for a minute. So anyway, I said “No Thanks.” I searched a little online and found quite a few articles about door to door meat scams. One of the reasons I wasn’t interested was that they had a lot of pre-marinated meat included in their package deal, and I generally don’t like the taste of anything I buy pre-marinated. So I was never really interested….I just thought I should ask because if these guys are out and about, it’s good to informed! To be fair, the meat did look fantastic. It was packaged nicely, had very little fat on it, and didn’t look like it had been refrozen. He told me it averaged out to be about $2.50 a lb., then later corrected himself to say 2.50 per cut. That would really add up quickly when it comes to feeding a family of four.

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Nasty protein shake.

For a couple of weeks now I have been on a diet and trying to loose weight. I am doing this on my own but have considered fat burner or something along those lines to speed the process. One thing I have been doing is drinking protein shakes. For the most part I like protein shakes and have no problem with them. Today I made the mistake of following a friend’s advice and tried to “spice” up my shake. She said that if I added a cucumber to my strawberry shake I would get the benefit of a vegetable without forcing myself to eat one. I cannot tell you how much just a little bit of cucumber overpowered the strawberries in the shake. It really was like drinking a cucumber milkshake that was colored pink. I am going to stick to my plain shakes from now on and disregard the idea of changing things up. If I want a cucumber I will just eat a cucumber.

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Netflix.

We are thinking about trying Netflix again. We haven’t have it for several years. A friend of mine raves about it now. She loves it and says that you put the movies in a queue, when you send one back it will send you the next one you have at the top of you list. No gas to get the movies, also saves time. You do have to wait sometimes to get a new release, but same thing happens at redbox, blockbuster etc. You keep as long as needed not extra fees. They do the 2 movies at a time deal. That way they can watch one while one goes back. If she puts one in her mailbox on Tuesday they have the next movie in their mailbox on Thursday.

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Reward ideas…

Today is the 5th day of my new eating plan. I stepped on the scale this morning and found myself 5 pounds lighter. I am now trying to think of little rewards I can give myself as motivational tools. I would love to have a final reward like one of those wonderful orlando vacations when I reach my target weight. For right now I am thinking that new clothes would be a great reward along the way. I don’t spend very much money on clothing so it would be really nice to have a little something new every so often. I am thinking that every 15 pounds might be a good pattern to follow. This seems like the right amount of weight for my clothes to start feeling loose. I haven’t bought anything new in so long it will be fun to go shopping. Now I only need to loose 10 more pounds in order to set a date for that first shopping trip.

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HCG diet thought…

My husband asked me if I had a goal weight. This was a hard question to answer. As someone who has always carried extra weight no matter what age I was it is really hard to envision myself at a healthy weight. I have lost serious weight at various points in my life. Even in these times where my weight was much lower I still was not at my ideal weight. If you have been 5’4″ and 120 pounds as an adult it seems easier to me for someone to set that as a goal for themselves. Even in high school I think the lowest I weighed was around 145lbs. That however was ummmm 22 or more years ago LOL. I don’t remember what that weight feels like.

I do remember being 155 at around 22 years old and feeling great at that weight (I had just lost 20 pounds or so). As an adult my weight has always hovered between 165-190 pounds. My primary goal is going to be to get below 160 using this protocol. I will then reset my goal weight when a skinny little me is more easy to visualize.

Today the first of my hcg protocol supplies came. I went a little crazy ordering stuff and first ordered homeopathic drops followed immediately with enough injectible hcg for 3 rounds. I had second thoughts about going homeopathic and putting the effort in and not having the drops work. I decided to do the protocol strictly as in P&I with the exception of SQ vs. IM injections. I am half tempted to give the drops a whirl since my injectible hcg isn’t here yet but am going to hold off. I will save the drops for later rounds if needed.

Still weighing what SQ dose to start off with ?? Any thoughts are welcome.

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It feels good.

Both our vehicles are paid off. This is something that was really important for us to do. For many years we carried a great deal of debt related to frequently buying or trading in different cars. We were kind of caught up in having the latest car and the newest car accessories. It wasn’t a big deal until we decided that I need to stay home rather than work. Once our priorities shifted it then also became important to minimize the amount of debt we are carrying around. After selling our previous house the first thing we did was pay off our vehicles. It is nice to know that we don’t have that monthly payment hanging over our heads. I rarely drive anywhere and that makes the need for a fancy ride so much less important than it used to be.

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Ironing

Does anyone on here iron their kids shirts? Like play shirts, school shirts, etc ? A friend of mine does. Nope. I don’t even like to iron for myself so I make sure the clothes I buy them are not clothes that need ironed. I hang most stuff before it is completely dry so I rarely iron anything. All of dh’s clothes need ironed (for work) but he knows that is one chore I hate so he irons all of his own clothes. On the rare occasion that something of mine or the kids needs ironed he will usually do it for me too. I’m lucky to get the laundry folded and put away. If I had to iron everything first, I would be doing laundry 24/7.

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Giving up soda.

Last week I read an article about the dangers of drinking soda pop. I am someone who enjoys one can of diet soda a day. It usually takes me all day to drink a can. This article explained how carbonated drinks are bad for your waistline and your bones. I am now trying very hard to drink more water. I don’t like the taste of our local water and am wondering if water filters might help the situation. I have tried adding flavoring to our water and this has made it more drinkable. It is still hard not to want a soda in the middle of the afternoon. It is probably the caffeine that I am really craving. I have read that diet sweeteners have an addictive feature to them which is another reason I am trying to avoid diet soda. It does seem like some days that everything you eat has some bad aspect to it.

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Happy Birthday.

Today is my 39th birthday. I am not sure how I feel about being that old. I certainly don’t feel like I should be pushing 40 years of age. It likely has to do with the fact that I have a 3 year old at home. I honestly believe that having young children makes you feel younger than you are. Truth be told I don’t feel any different that I did at 28 years old. My medical records would suggest that I am indeed of “advanced maternal age” but there is no other proof in my mind that I am getting to be middle aged. I do hope that this day passes without incident because I really don’t like birthdays and would rather just move on to the next day as soon as possible.

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Tech guru.

Now that my older son has become more computer savvy he is constantly asking questions about our computer network and different terms he runs across. The other day he wanted to know whether our virus software was up to date. I think this is pretty funny for a nine year old to be concerned about. It is actually pretty amazing to realize what he is able to to accomplish using the computer. It wouldn’t surprise me if one day he owns a website similar to onewaytextlink.com or another internet enterprise. He seems to have a natural gift for figuring out things on his own when it comes to using various software. I remember struggling for a long time to figure out how to use programs like Excel. The other day my son called me into his room to see a spread sheet he had created in Excel to log his various hours spent studying different topics in school. We are required to account for our hours daily as part of his cyber school education and he thought his system would be easier to use than the one the school supplies. I have to admit I agree with him and applaud his ingenuity. I just wonder what the future holds for my creative son?

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Bystanders.

The other day we were discussing recent criminal events and whether bystanders should be prosecuted. I believe that they should in a situation where acting would be as simple as placing a phone call. The recent rape of a 15 year old girl while so many people stood by an watched is one example. With this and the other recent case of the honor role student who was beaten to death, it brings a question to my mind. Are the youth today more desensitized because of the horror movies and violent video games they watch? Is it almost an unreal thing to them now, because they see it all the time on TV, movies and video games? I definitely think that bystanders should be penalized. Especially those who take pictures or record it on their phones and post it on Youtube. I don’t understand how someone could stand by and watch that being done to another person and not try to help. Even if it is to step away and call the police.

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Why do this?

What is it with people and bragging? I was raised that telling everyone about the cost of the latest thing you bought is rude. Maybe times have changed and I just haven’t kept up with them or I am just in a really foul mood? It just bothers me to end to listen to someone tell me about how much they spent on a new car or a Outer Banks rental vacation. I am more than happy to hear about your trip or how much you enjoy your new car. I do not want to know how much you spent on that trip or vehicle purchase. We have several friends who are forever making conversation out of describing in detail how they bartered to get a certain price on a purchase. Isn’t it enough to say that you have a new car and what you love about it? It would be far more interesting to know what you loved about your recent vacation rather than how much you spent to take it. Maybe if I had more disposable income I would feel differently but I seriously doubt it. Telling people about my personal financial transaction just isn’t something I can see myself doing under any circumstances.

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Cat question?

I am an animal lover but am a little leery about cats. I haven’t been around many that I would want to make my own. We moved last year and there is a cat constantly on our property wandering about and getting into thing. It tries to into the house or basement whenever doors were open. Now it’s cold out and the cat will scratch at the door and come running over whenever it sees us. As the weather has now turned for the worst and it was going to be below 20 the other night we decided to let him in for the night. As soon as we shut the door it jumped onto the door wanting to get out. Then once we let it out it won’t stop scratching to come in. It is ok as long as the door is open but freaks out when it’s shut. I’m worried about it surviving the winter. Our local shelters are filled past capacity due to the economy and people giving up or abandoning their pets. So I am not sure what to do.

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Plunger anyone?

This is one of those days where I feel more miserable than I can remember feeling in a long time. I am very sure that the cold my older son has is now invading my body. I wish clearing my head and sinuses were as easy as taking a plunger to a Toto sink. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could just use some sort of device to force all the gunk in out when we feel ill. I always try to remind myself when I am sick how blessed I am that I have my health. Reminding myself that a cold is a small thing in the big scheme of all the illnesses in the world seems to put it in perspective. It does not stop me from wanting to burrow my way under the covers and not come out for a week. I know this isn’t going to happen because there are children in this world who need my care and attention. It doesn’t however stop me from daydreaming about bedtime coming sooner rather than later.

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Drives me crazy.

I am just not in love with the fashion trends that seem to be happening right now. One thing that really irks me is hate skinny jeans — especially on guys! Yuck! What would prompt a guy to go and buy girls jeans in the first place? Also I know it isn’t a recent trend, but for the love of everything holy in my life can we get rid of pleated pants for men AND women? Ugh. Flat fronts, people. Flat fronts. Or how about wearing a scarf with a spaghetti strap long torso top during the hot summer months. It’s about as silly as wearing 20 pounds of jewelry bling.

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Christmas lists.

This year I am intent on simplifying our Christmas shopping. I tend to go overboard when it comes to buying gifts for our kids. I might see a deal on bluray movies and actually consider buying them for “when” we get a bluray dvd player. This year I am very determined to set a budget and stick to it. The kids are getting gifts valued at a set amount. I always have a hard time with this when the gifts are small in size. I know my son has no concept of money and doesn’t realize that the Wii games he just had to have might cost $50.00 each. These don’t make for a large pile of presents under the tree but that is just how it is going to be this year. I think we need to spend some time with him out shopping and spending money so that he begins to understand how much things really do cost. I know it won’t be until he has to spend his own money that he fully grasps how our economy works.

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Typical homeschooling day.

My son attends a virtual charter school. I have had many people ask me what his day is like. This is the best way I can describe it:

math – computer for skills update (kind of a quick review of what they’ve been learning. Some families just skip this, it isn’t required but my kids like to do it). Check computer for lesson. They then go to their math textbook to do their lesson. They also have printed worksheets and assessments (quizzes) that go along with their lessons. Quite a few people don’t like the current math program – K12 is aware of that and next year students up to 5th grade will be getting a new program. I believe it is more online learning as opposed to textbook learning.

language arts – they check the computer to see what their lessons are for the day. It will send them to various text books and work books to see what they need to do. Starting in 3rd grade they get to choose 4 novels to read each year. K12 chooses the rest of the literature that they read.

history – up until 5th grade the majority of history is done online. K12 is well-known for their great, engaging history lessons. your child will sit at the computer and flip through screens to be taught. There are also other books to go along with some of the lessons. again, There are workbooks with pages for them to do. They also encourage you to keep a history journal and make an entry for each day of what you’ve learned. 5th and 6th grade history is the series History of US by Joy Hakim. They do some learning online, but mostly from the books. There are also reviews online at the end of each unit.

science – very similar to history. Lots of the lesson are done online. Expect a science experiment with probably 70% of the lessons. Most kids really enjoy science and the experiments. They send most (but not all) of the materials you need for the experiments, so it’s basically just taking the time to do them.

art – ties in to the same time period they are studying in history. Also similar to history in that a lot of the learning is done online. they do send prints for the kids to look at, books that have art in them, and art supplies for the kids to use.

music – I’m online as the teacher to teach the lesson. however, my kids haven’t been online for music. I just sit at my desk and instruct them. They are up moving around and interacting during music.

K12 is based on the core knowledge series. They have your children reading lots of classic literature. They also do require writing – lots of parents really don’t like the composition program either. In fact, most parents complain that the entire program is too much writing. However, you don’t have to do it all. If your child prefers to answer orally, then you can do that.

How much time your child is online really depends on their age and grade level, but they definitely do not spend their entire day sitting in front of the computer. Quite a few subjects can be taken with you if you are on the go.

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It is not ours.

This year the school my son attends upgraded all of the students computers. Last year we were issued a regular computer and monitor. There wasn’t anything special we had to do with computer and we were not barred from using it for personal use. This year we were issued a laptop computer that is “locked down”. This has been a bit of an adjustment for my son. We are now required to log into the school network each day. This enables us to make us of the school’s online backup, system security updates, and other things. What it does not allow us to do is install software or just browse the internet. His computer usage is monitored and recorded. I am fine with this because it isn’t our computer. He is still coming to grips with the fact that he can’t just randomly visit Nickelodeon or Disney online.

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Don’t do it!

A friend of mine told me that she was preparing to can all of her extra pumpkin this year. I tried to tell her that this was not a good idea. According to the USDS (is that right the people who set the regulations for canning?) you can NOT can pumpkin. Someone asked this at a canning class i went to in august. Something in the pumpkin makes it unreliable and there for unsafe to bottle. I called the extension service one year and asked them how to can them, and they told me this, too. Because pumpkin puree is so dense, there just isn’t a safe way to can it at home.
However, you can freeze the puree–I do it every year. You just bake it or boil it like you would a winter squash. Then scoop the flesh out of the shell and puree it in a blender or in a victorio strainer, and put it into freezer bags. I usually measure out how much pumpkin I will need for certain recipes and put it pre-measured into the bags. Two cups of frozen pureed pumpkin is the equivalent to one (15 oz) can of pumpkin. Put the pumpkin in freezer bags,and lay them flat to freeze. Then you can stack them in your freezer.

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Snow is falling.

The temperature dropped dramatically today. It rained most of the morning and afternoon. I looked outside just now and am pretty sure I can see snowflakes falling. I love when this happens and the world looks like a winter wonderland in the morning. I think this is because my children enjoy it so much. They are so happy playing the snow in the backyard and are such a blast to watch. You would think they are on a ski vacation to see the smiles on their faces. Flopping and rolling in the snow is the highlight of their day. I love the first snow of the year because the temperature is usually still warm enough that no one complains too loudly about the cold.

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What do you spend?

This holiday season we will spend about $300.00 -$375.00. I buy lots of things on good sales throughout the course of the year, so its really hard to put a figure on it because I don’t really go and spend more than a couple hundred during the “holiday” months. I’ve already bought it little bits and pieces throughout the year. I have most of my kids’ presents bought already from the Target 75% off toy clearance deals in January and July this year. They are still too young to care too much about what toys they get, they are just happy to be opening presents DH and I don’t get much for each other, we draw names in our families, $40 each side, then the kids cousin present exchange is just $5 gifts. We will be spending less this year than previous years because we just don’t have the money to spend. We typically include one big “family” gift in the above amount. This ends up being something we will all enjoy and use throughout the year. This year it will be a GPS system for geocaching.

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What to do?

A while back I thought it might be a good idea for me to learn a new career. After researching many different options it seemed like medical transcription would be a good idea. It seemed like a good idea because I have a strong medical background and good typing skills. We also have great office furniture and a fairly new computer. The only thing holding me back is that I am now homeschooling our older son. I also intend to start my younger son in a virtual preschool next year. This doesn’t leave me a great deal of time for working on my own school courses. I am now leaning towards doing whatever it will take to keep my certification current in my former profession. I don’t intend to enter the workforce outside the home anytime soon but it can’t hurt to leave my options open.

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Selling homemade things…

A friend asked me about a good place to sell homemade things and I suggested Etsy. Etsy is all handmade stuff (for the most part at least). In my experience with selling stuff on there it’s just other crafter’s that go to that.

I have seen them sold at children’s activity areas such as MyGym. I imagine something like that would be more successful than selling them at Etsy. Talk to small businesses near you and see if they’d be interested in allowing you to put them there – salons; children’s activity places (dance, karate, etc), etc.

I also wanted to add that if you enjoy making them just for the fun of it – you can always send them to a charity – the one I’m most aware of is Operation Write Home (http://operationwritehome.org/). They collect handmade cards, sent them to soldiers over seas so that those soldiers have nice home made cards they can send home to their loved ones since they don’t have access to greeting cards, but can send home letters for free. I found out about it on Memorial Day, and am working on sending some cards tomorrow. It’s especially close to my heart since my husband has been deployed 3 times, and is preparing for his 4th.

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When will he be done?

Potty training our youngest son has seemed like a never ending process. Just when I think he really has a handle on what all in involved in using the potty he does an about face and takes a few steps back. Yesterday it seemed like I was going to need to invest in pond supplies because every time I turned around there was a new puddle somewhere on the floor. Then for some reason the dog decided to join in and out of the blue she decided to pee on the floor. I really had thought she was house broken and beyond the point where this would be an issue. Thank goodness we have taken all the carpeting out of our house and cleaning up after my two piddle puddle maker’s was pretty straight forward.

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Feeling behind…

Typically by this time of year I am nearly done with my Christmas shopping. This year everything seems to have gotten away from me and I have literally nothing done. It gets harder every year to decide what to buy for my children. My older son has reached an age where he is not happy with traditional toys. His interests are now leaning towards more technology based gifts. These are so expensive that it seems like the pile of gifts under the tree shrink and shrink. The decision comes down to either buying two gifts that he really wants and several that he may only use a little bit. I guess this is just one of those coming of age facts that all kids needs to face. If you want big gifts it is going to be a short and sweet time of gift opening.

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What to do?

Along with so many people out there I am now worried about the swine flu. It was declared a national health emergency today and that is only adding to the fear and concern out there. This is one of those things that you just can’t get away from by packing everything you own in shipping box and moving. Swine flu is everywhere now and seems to be hitting harder than initially predicted. I want to keep my children healthy and safe but it seems that there isn’t a great deal you can do to really prevent yourself from getting it. Hopefully the vaccination programs do something to stem the rampant spread of this illness.

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Simplify Christmas

My mom has has everything and really needs nothing. The BEST gift that my siblings and I ever gave her was the year we each wrote down a few childhood memories, slipped them in page protectors and placed them in a binder. She cried as she read them.

It took some time in writing and editing, but it was so much fun! I served as the editor to by siblings, and that was fun too reading about their experiences. It was over ten years ago that we presented Mom with her memory book, but she continues to ask for memories every year. We still give her other presents, but nothing is a treasured as those little notes and thoughts.

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Wound up!

Last night we had our first snowfall of the year. It seems much too early in the year for this to be happening. The site of snow just doesn’t sit right with me when it comes so many weeks earlier than we are used to having it. My children could not be any happier. My older son has been bouncing around like a ball on one of those ping pong tables. He is already planning his first sled riding outing and what type of snow fort he is going to make. We don’t quite have enough snow for that but his enthusiasm is not dampened in the slightest. I only wish I could feel the same way about it as he does.

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What a deal!

We were visiting the different hardware stores in our area (Lowes, Menards, Ace, and The Home Depot) last night to price windows. We don’t have the money to hire a company to do it, but they need to be done, especially in the kids’ rooms. We first went to The Home Depot because it is closest. We hardly ever go there. We are walking through and I see a big two shelved card with a bunch of light fixtures on it. There was a recessed lighting kit sealed in the box but totally dirty. We are almost to the point of putting in the shower, so we are going to need one. There was also a track light that has the coolest globes on it. Everything else had a price on it, but they were mostly sconce lights and we don’t need anything like that. They end up calling the manager over and he rings up the recessed lighting kit. It’s so old, it’s not even in the system. He says, “I’ll give it to you for a dollar.” He then picks up the track light and says, “I’ll let you have that for a dollar too.” The track light was obviously a display light, but there was a totally different, but not near as pretty track light in a box right next to it and the clearance price was over a hundred dollars. So we get to the register. It was late and no one else was there. She tells us the manager already told her about us, but then she can’t figure out what SKU to put them under. She called the manager. He says he doesn’t have the generic SKU on him, but to go over to hardware and see if she can get theirs. She leaves and comes back a minute later and says, “You are okay. Go ahead.” My brain immediately says, “We haven’t paid yet.” She said the manager told her that if it was going to be to much trouble, just to let us have them. So I guess she decided that she has spent two minutes on it and that was enough. As we are walking out, dh looks at me and says, “Watch the alarm go off as we go through the door.” Yep!! The alarm went off as the cashier is telling us, “Don’t worry about it. You really are fine! Go ahead.” For once, the alarm really was correct!

We love The Home Depot now!

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Really clean garage.

This weekend my husband is once again cleaning out the garage. I have posted previously about how he seems to have to clean out the garage just about every weekend. This time he took everything out and sorted it and moved it to areas of the house better suited for each item. He found everything from a missing Logo usb drive to a set of keys that we have been hunting forever for. What is going to be nice is that I can now park the car in the garage. I am looking forward to not having to sweep and scrape the car each time I have to head out with the kids this winter.

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Applesauce

This year I decided to try something new and make applesauce. My boys absolutely love the stuff and I believe that half of my grocery budget goes to buying it. There is a produce stand down the street from our house which makes getting fresh fruit really easy. A bushel of apples is about $18.00 around here. The apples I chose to use are McIntosh. They are really easy to cut and cook down very quickly. So far I believe I have gotten about 12 quarts of applesauce from one bushel. I don’t know how much money this will save but at least I know exactly what my kids are eating.

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5 years ago…

It doesn’t seem possible that 5 years has gone since you left us. In my heart it feels like just yesterday. I can feel the broken little pieces of my heart that remain from saying goodbye to the world that was supposed to include you. I once read that in every family there is a child who was “supposed” to be. It could be the daughter than turned out to be a son or the spouse that wanted 5 children but stopped with four. In my heart you are the second child of three given to me. Your place on my earth was too brief but my heart holds you forever.

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Cream puffs.

We all have foods that just make the world seem right. Foods that no matter how bleak things feel somehow add a layer of security and comfort. For me there are many foods that fall into this category. This as you can probably guess has been a problem for me over the years. Turning to food for comfort is not healthy. I now try to make my favorite comfort foods even when the world around me is “good”. I hope that this will make me less likely to overeat and later wish for weight loss pills. One of my favorite things to make is cream puffs. I don’t know why so many people are in awe of my ability to make cream puffs because in reality they are fairly simple to make. Eggs, flour, butter, milk, and water is all it takes to make cream puff pastry and pudding is almost foolproof to make. I made a batch of cream puffs yesterday and you would have thought I made my husband a gourmet dinner.

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Undressing.

Children are funny creatures. My youngest son has a fascination lately for taking all of his clothes off. This was cute the first dozen or so times but has quickly lost its “cuteness”. He is driving me crazy with undressing at every whim. I try to ignore it but when you are trying to get out the door this is frustrating. The other day I had him all dressed to run errands and ran upstairs to get my purse. I come downstairs to find him mostly undressed. I realize this is a normal developmental phase but I really hope he passes through it quickly.

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Game night.

We try to have a family game night about once a week. In theory this is a great way to bond as a family and enjoy each the company of one another. What I really need to do improve game night is to go through our game closet and either throw some of the games away or replace them. Nothing ruins game night more that not being able to find the rules or half way into the game finding out important tiles are missing. It is nice to be able to find rules online but not having all the pieces is often hard to fix. It never fails that the game my children are dying to play is the one that has fallen prey to the game piece black hole. Somewhere out there is a place where all the missing games pieces have gone. I wish someone would point me in that direction.

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Too mature.

I don’t think of myself as a prude but maybe I am. As I sit here watching the Disney channel with my children I am astounded at how teenage girls are dressing. This particular show features three teenage girls who are completely focused on chasing boys. That doesn’t bother me so much as how they are dressed. One of the girls is wearing a micro mini in a school setting with high heels. These heels are so high is is crazy. I don’t think I have ever seen a girl wear stilettos in a school setting. In fact I didn’t even think this was allowed? I may have been living under a rock for a few years but are we really cool with young women thinking looking like a hooker is a good thing?

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Professional photos.

Our older son was always super easy to get professional photos of him taken. Our youngest son is and entirely different story. In fact I don’t have very many professional photos of him at all. He is just one of those kids who wants nothing to do with the entire process. I would love to get photo holiday cards this year but I am worried that he won’t comply. I have some great candid photos from home that might work but it just isn’t the same as having a professional photo to show off to family and friends. I feel bad because my family always drops hints about wanting photos of the kids but I haven’t taken them recently. It is hard to pay so much money for pictures of a tear stained little boy who is completely distraught with having to get dressed up and sit still.

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Don’t do it.

A few weeks ago I had the bright idea of painting my kitchen cabinets. They were a very dark dated wood style cabinet. It wasn’t until about the fifth coat of paint that I began to realize what a bad idea painting these cabinets was. I didn’t take the time to sand them down and just jumped into painting them with primer. No matter how much primer I put on them this brown staining kept occurring. I then realized that what was seeping through the primer was cigarette smoke. Like everything else in this house the cabinets were very coated in smoke residue. We had washed the cabinets down when we moved in but it is now clear just how much residue there was on everything. If you are going to paint your cabinets be sure to know what you are doing before you start. This job is a pain under the best of circumstances and poor preparation will only make it worse.

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Pudgy dog

It came to my attention this week that our little dog was getting rather round. I decided to discuss this at the dinner table this week and see if anyone had any insight. I was fairly sure that I was the only person feeding her. As it turns out this was not the case and the dog was getting fed by two or three of us a day. We now know that only one person needs to take responsibility for this job. My son suggested we look into the best diet pills for dogs but I think this can be solved pretty easily. Since the dog is in theory my older son’s dog it seems that he should be the one feeding her. I assumed he would forget to do this but he really has been doing a good job. I need to have more faith in his ability to be responsible and stop taking on this job for him.

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New window

My husband in the midst of putting a new window in our living room. The children were playing several weeks ago and stumbled into the old window breaking it. Fortunately neither of them was hurt! The other good thing is that we had a storm window we could use to cover the opening in the meantime. What we found surprising is that is was actually cheaper to put plexi-glass in rather than regular glass. This seems like a good idea considering we plan to live in this house a long time and also given that we are raising two active boys. I have some concerns about how the plastic will fair over time but it has to be better than someone getting cut or breaking yet another huge pane of glass.

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Where do they come from?

For some reason I am once again getting a slew of magazines. This comes as a bit of surprise because these are not magazines that I have signed up to receive. I use to sign up for every free magazine offer that I could find but quickly found this was not a good idea. Once you receive the magazines you also have to dispose of them. Unless you are one of those people who hang onto weight loss supplement reviews and recipes for future reference this can become a hassle. I try to recycle as much as possible and magazines are no exception. Getting 10 magazines a week may seem like fun but lugging them all to the curb each month is most certainly not. Magazines can very quickly take up space you don’t have in the recycling bin and they really weigh a great deal when you amass them in bulk.

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Poorly organized

We have spent several months attempting to get services for our older son for specific problems he has. This has been a very frustrating process. We were first referred for an evaluation for these service back in February. It wasn’t until June that we were seen for an evaluation to determine how best to help him. We were then referred to a service provider who took 2 months to schedule an appointment to determine what services to offer. We have now waited another month for them to call us to schedule a meeting to agree on how often he will participate in services. Is it just me or does this seem like a ridiculous process? I am very close to saying that we are going to look elsewhere for help but I suspect the process will be no simpler elsewhere.

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Motivation

I know that I need to start being more active but I just can’t seem to make the time lately. Now that school has started my entire day is consumed with teaching or watching children. I would love to be able to spend a few minutes doing elliptical exercises or something but every time I turn around there is a child there needing help with something. I love having my children at home and being able to have an active role in teaching them but I am paying a certain price for this. Somehow I need to find a few minutes that I can devote totally to myself. The problem seems to be that this time comes so late at night that the last thing I want to do is workout.

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Almost there.

My three year old is finally very close to being potty trained. After many attempts and many tears on my part I gave up trying to teach him and waited for him to express an interest. After about three months of me not pushing he finally started to use the potty. He pretty much has done every thing on his own. The only hang up at this point is that he won’t poop in the potty. He wants a diaper put back on in order to do this. My gut tells me to just back off and he will once again do it in his own time. The thing that frustrates me is what a waste of money this is. I am tempted to just stop buying pull ups and leave him with no option other than going in his underwear or in the potty.

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Technology club.

Just when I think the school that my son attends couldn’t offer anything more they seem to surprise me. This week my son was invited to participate in the gifted program at his school. This program is absolutely incredible and offers all types of educational opportunities. Children can participate in everything from Lego Robotics to Technology club. My son is extremely excited to join both of these clubs and is already asking me what stuff like ecommerce fulfillment means. Apparently this may be among some of the topics that will be discussed. I am so pleased to see his excitement about learning. This is something I feared was being lost when he was in a traditional learning environment. In fact this school offers so many enriching experiences that I am worried about how we will ever do it all!

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A good man.

I have a great husband! I probably should say this more often. He is constantly doing things around the house and for his family to make our world a better place. It is easy in the hustle and bustle of daily life to overlook the little things we do for one another to just make life more enjoyable. My husband just finished putting up doors that will make our home more energy efficient and make it easier to keep the general living areas warm. This may seem like a a simple thing but it is huge to me and greatly appreciated.

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Fire Safety Administration Skills Online

If you have been following this blog you already know what a huge proponent of online education that I am. When I decided to pursue a doctoral degree one of the deciding factors in choosing a school was the availability of online education opportunities offered by each school. Online education makes it possible for working professionals to juggle the responsibilities of work, schooling, and a home life.

Over the years since I first attended college the availability and diversity of quality online degree programs has literally exploded. Given the current economic environment it has never been more important for everyone to expand their skills set in order to advance in any career.

One such example is the field of fire safety and service. This demanding field has an ever expanding need for fire service professionals with well honed managerial and administrative skills. These are exactly the type of skills that are taught as part of the Bachelor of arts in fire service administration program at Lewis University.

This program is designed for fire service professional seeking to enter into managerial or administrative roles within federal, local, state, or private agencies that provide fire related or emergency services.

There is no longer a reason for putting off obtaining the skills needed to obtain the job of your dreams. Online education eliminates so many of the obstacles that once prevented working professional from returning to school. Quality education is now only as far away as your computer.

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Service

Yesterday we had an appointment for a chimney sweep to come and inspect our fireplace. Never having used a fireplace we wanted to be sure it was safe to use prior to the winter season. The sweep arrived promptly and seemed very nice. The problem was that he clearly was in a hurry to be somewhere else. He spent no more than 5 minutes looking up the chimney with a flashlight and proclaimed the fireplace unusable. He state that midway up our chimney that there was a steel plate blocking it and the only way our chimney could be used would be to put an insert in the fireplace. This made no sense to us. When my husband got home we opened things up and shined a light up in there. Sure enough the chimney at first glance seemed blocked but as the wind picked up we noticed this “panel” was moving. I went and got a pole and we poked at this thing and it immediately became clear the blockage was a spider web. My husband then called the company to complain to the owner. The owner arrived today and was flabbergasted at the report that the technician provided us. He spent a great deal of time educating us about our fireplace and apologizing for the technician. He even offered our money back. I was very impressed with his sincerity and have to say I would call the company again but made it clear if we did he would need to be the one to service our fireplace!

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Goals not realized.

As happy as I am with how we spent our summer there are a couple of things that I did not accomplish. One of those was to loose weight. I know I could have taken something like Fastin but I just didn’t think about it. Between packing up to go camping and unpacking from camping the last thing I had time to think about was dieting. Now I am feeling the effects of that lack of effort. I went to try on my jeans today and found them not nearly as loose as I would have hoped they would be at this point.

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Summer…

It seems as if summer has just passed us by. This isn’t to say that we didn’t do anything but rather to say that we did everything. Between running the kids to camp and going camping we managed to keep our schedule filled to the brim with fun activities. This meant that some things needed to go by the wayside and one of them was work. It seemed that after the last couple crazy summers our family needed to spend time together. As much as this stretched our finances I wouldn’t have had it any other way!

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Not worrying right now…

Typically I am driving myself crazy worrying about my weight. For a long time I would weigh myself several times a day. If I wasn’t weighing myself I was reading the latest phenphedrine review or some other type of diet information. Since I started homeschooling my son there just doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day to worry about this. I am quite sure my weight hasn’t gone down but I just can’t obsess about it right now. I would love to loose weight but when it comes down to thinking about everything I put in my mouth or teaching my son the choice is easy.

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Trash diving?

Ok, confess, we’ve all went by and seen some ” good stuff ” out by the road. Whats the best, or maybe your favorite thing, you got from the trash? Mine is a small yellow chair, my dad found in the trash one day, when I was with him in the car. It went to a child’s dinette set. There was nothing wrong with it. It was in the 50′s and it was part of a ” chrome ” set. I still have it and now use it ( with a cover over it, ) for the cd player to rest on. I know its there and every time I see it, I think of that day we found it. I used it as a chair until I was almost 10 ( I was small for my age ). I will keep it until I am old, and love it.

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Drippy faucet

My husband is generally pretty good about fixing anything that needs it around the house. For some reason I can’t get him to fix my drippy kitchen sink faucet. It isn’t like I am asking him to install a undermount sink or anything! I have been trying to catch the dripping water in a pitcher and use it on my flowers but it is really adding up. I have calculate the faucet drip amounts to about 2 gallons a day of lost water. This really adds up over the course of a month. With our water bills being as high as they are you would think he would want to save money on them but he isn’t concerned. I suppose I am just going to have to try and fix it myself if it bothers me so much.

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Cloth napkins

A few years back I stocked up on cheap kitchen towels. I now use these instead of paper towels and it has worked out very well. Now I am working on getting out of the habit of using paper napkins. We use tons of them if given the opportunity. Right now I need to get enough to always have some on hand. My goal is to buy darker colors. I have red, a sage green, and a white background with the red and green plaid over it. I’ve never used any stain remover on them and they aren’t stained at all – and that’s with 2 kids ages 9 and under. Someone told me that Target has them at a reasonable price.

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Technology overload

I think there comes a point when technology just starts controlling your life. I am the first person in our house to want the newest gadget on the market. This is kind of funny when you think about the fact that I am the only female in the house. If given the money you better believe I would have the newest television complete with LCD mount but it just isn’t in our budget. My problem is when it comes to handling the business of daily life and being forced to use technology to do it. It really is kind of sad to think that I can more expediently complete my grocery shopping, bill paying, and scheduling from my computer than I can by interacting with real live people. I seriously think I could almost never leave the house at this point and get by just fine. What does that say for the future of our society?

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Buy on get one

I know it’s really tempting, particularly at the supermarket, when you see the sign or grocery ad that says – BUY ONE, GET ONE FREE. Not all of these ads a good buy. The other day I was looking at roasts on sale – BOGO at one of our local grocery chains. There was an elderly gentleman looking as well & he turned to me and asked if I noticed the price. I replied I did notice that the roasts were running anywhere from $18 to $30 depending on cut and size. Based on previous shopping experiences we both came to the same conclusion – per pound the roast had gone up 250 to 300% — so you really didn’t get a free roast. The increase in price per pound was equivalent to what 2 to 3 roasts per pound would cost.

But you need to be an informed shopper because sometimes it is a good deal. I recently both a package of sirloin strip steaks for $17 and get two packages free. Each package contained 3 to 4 steaks & when I added the weight and divided by the $17, I paid about $2.75 per pound for sirloin strip steads. That’s only about 32% of the normal costs. This was a great deal.

So be careful, know your prices & bring your calculator if necessary.

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On the books!

For some reason I have been feeling like summer is slipping away from us. Today I finally made reservations for 3 different weekends to go camping. I know it isn’t the same as going to a Sahara hotel but it is what is in our budget this year. It feels to good to know that we have plans and that rain or shine we will be having fun. Our camper really takes the worry out of how the weather will impact our camping fun. I would like to get one or two more weekends on the books but am satisfied knowing that at least three weekends are now planned.

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Soft night gowns

I love the all cotton gowns for spring/summer. I looked in all my cataloges after not finding any at wally world, at Penneys, they were $29.00. While out and about yesterday, I found an all cotton sheet from Neiman Marcus, high thread count and very soft. I purchased the sheet for $2.00 and will be able to cut out 3 gowns from this…the only difference from the high end gowns is that mine won’t have the embroidery at the yoke. However, I have failed to enjoy that embroidery previously, while sound asleep…I am going to cut these out and hand sew them while watching tv. I may make me some winter ones if I find a nice sheet in flannel, or some pj’s….A set of flannel sheets, would make a gown and robe to match with some left over.

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It is all good.

This was one of those mornings when I woke up feeling good about myself. Instead of worrying about my weight and looking for effective diet pills I just looked in the mirror for a good long time and smiled. For once the curves and softness of my body didn’t bother me and I felt just fine in my own skin. I gave myself a pat on the back and reminded myself that those curves brought two beautiful children into this world and they are the result of a miracle. I may wake up tomorrow with a different attitude but for today I am just fine with what I see in the mirror.

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Staying home.

I’ve given our vacation some serious thought lately. Although I would love to take a family vacation is seems that I have pretty well talked myself out of it for many reasons. The main reason is because DS2 would not remember it and it would be a hassle with talking all the extra gear he still uses. As an alternative I think I have come up with an idea that we can all live with and enjoy for years to come. I think we’re going to take the $ we would have spent on a vacation and make our own oasis in the back yard. So now I will have to check prices of stone, sand, gravel. I also want to put a flowering hedge at the border of our property with an arbor/gate combo leading to the veggie garden. Now all I need to do is get DH to think that it was all his idea!

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Silly dog.

What is it about dogs and eating anything they can put their mouth around? Seriously I think our dog would eat literally anything we put in her bowl from to tin foil to Apidexin diet pills if given the chance. Her favorite thing to do is pull down my kitchen towels and chew on them. I know this is a real problem and do my best to keep them up and out of the way but somehow she manages to find one whenever possible. The other day I gave her one of those candy “Red Hots” and she had the best time with it. It was like she couldn’t figure out whether she liked it or didn’t. It would go in her mouth and then she would throw it up it the air and watch it fall and then repeat the process all over again.

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Trying something new.

I am trying the tightwad gazettes recipe for laundry stains on some pretty tough stains tonight, the cleaning cloths….these are always stained even after bleaching them. They have been stained for years and nothing took the stains out. I will post tomorrow how they turned out.

her recipe was;
1/2 c all fabric bleach (like clorox 2)
1/2 cup dishwasher powder
5 gallons hot water

to make it simplier for me I calculated the rate for my lowest washer settin, which is 12.5 gallons, adjusted the ingredients accordingly, and put everything in there to soak. (that way i don’t have to lift the bucket and make my back sore).

Tomorrow I will just add some laundry soap and run through a cycle, then dry.

I should have an answer for you all about 12 noon or so.

Since all these cleaning rags had already been washed and dried already before, I did add some old burp cloths in there that too, had been stained by formula….think its a good experiment.

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Is that camping?

When we went camping last weekend were found ourselves surrounded by RV’s. Our little pop-up camper was literally surrounded by those big 40 foot mobile houses on wheels! I just don’t understand how people consider that camping. Do you really need satellite radios and flat screen televisions to enjoy the great outdoors? I know when we were tent camping that we would look at pop-up campers and think the same thing. I suppose given another year of camping in our pop-up and we might be singing a different tune. For now I am happy to be up off the ground but have no need to watch my favorite television shows while I am camping.

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Give canning a try!

Here is a list of what you will need~

Water Bath Canner(if you are only doing high acid stuff)
Pressure Canner
Canning Rack
Jars
Lids
Rings
Jar Lifter
Funnel
I would suggest getting a good canning book. They have them at walmart for around $5 and they have tons of recipes in them.

I have always just used a water canner but this year I am expanding what I can so we are buying a pressure canner. Good luck! Its very addicting. I love canning.

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Not selling it.

I have tried every bribe in the world and nothing works with my youngest son. No amount of sales training is going to convince this little guy that using a potty is the right thing to do. I have tried stickers, toys, charts, and any number of motivating tricks. He knows what the potty is for and why we use it. The problem is getting him to actually use the potty. I just keep telling myself that in his own time he will do it. The little bugger just needs to decide that using it was his own idea.

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Favorite things.

As I crawled into bed last night and smelled the sheets that had been washed yesterday and dried outside in the sunshine I thought about how that has to be one of my favorite things.. I love freshly washed.. line dried bedding. So as I am falling asleep and DH is starting to snore I really got to thinking about all the things I really love and you know the biggest blessing is that none of them really cost anything..

These are a few of my favorite things…

freshly washed sheets
raindrops on tin roofs
my husbands touch
my son’s gratitude
my grandma’s new innocence
the smell of coffee brewing and bread baking
watching the dogs play in the yard
sitting in the sunshine with a book
giggling with my girlfriends
parades ( like last night)!!
the sounds and yes even smells at the county fair
dinner as a family
Prayer and the peace that comes with it
hugging my church family every Sunday
laugh lines on my face
unexpected invitations and unexpected company
the way my husband heads our family
the bond I see between my children
Faith
friends and family who comfort me in times of need

I know there is so much more but it was such a wonderful feeling last night to think about how much I really love in my life and if come tomorrow we would find ourselves without a penny that none of those things could be taken from me.

Now.. try to get that song out of your head!

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Potty training woes.

This week makes two weeks that I have been trying very hard to potty train my youngest son. He is absolutely the most stubborn kid I have ever met. Right now he is walking around whining because he has been holding his pee for so long he is uncomfortable. With my luck the minute I get up from this desk he will relieve himself on my office furniture. He is more than happy to go to the bathroom anywhere except in the potty. It is driving me nuts but I know that he has to decide the time is right and he will eventually get on board with my plan.

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Silly me…

I just have to tell you all how excited I am that the new Sims 3 game has a “frugal” option for the sims you create! lol dh thinks I am nuts to be excited about the fact that I can make the sims “frugal” of course he thinks I am nuts for loving sims so much to start with but hey we all have our “things” right? lol

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It is about time.

I know the state of PA is finally going to look into how the child labor laws are enforced with filming the show and are the kids getting any of this money put up for them.

I agree that they are both at fault.. Kate has let fame go to her head and there are stories all over about how she has lost contact with her parents because she refused all the donations her father had gotten for her when she was pregnant because cribs didn’t match ect. I have seen interviews with her brother and he has nothing kind to say.

As for Jon.. even if he did not have an affair.. he is a married man. Why was he out clubbing? We all have stressful lives.. if you need an outlet or a night off.. go golfing with the buddies not out to a club.

Call me old fashioned!

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Too much television!

For many years our house was television free. Last year when we decided to begin home schooling our older son it seemed like a wise idea to get television. As much as we wanted to shelter our son from some of the harsher realities of public school we did not want to shelter him from the world entirely. Now almost a year later I am beginning to question that decision. There isn’t a day where he isn’t asking some really tough questions and I am sure it is all because of television. This week I have been asked wide ranging questions about topics such as getting an international background check and why people kidnap children. These are just a few of the things we have discussed at the kitchen table and I know this is all thanks to television.

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Washing soda?

I have some questions. I have looked ALL over for this in town. Not a single grocery store carries it. I even called WalMart in the laundry section AND the pool section and they don’t carry it!

Where do you all get this? Is it cheaper to get it on line? Is the pool cleaning “soda ash” the exact same thing as laundry “washing soda”? (They are both sodium carbonate, so I am assuming so.) If so, does that mean I can use it to make laundry detergent at home?

If you have any on-line places to get this really cheap, I would appreciate it. I have seen it for $4 something at an old-time laundry place… but then I’ve seen it for $2 something at an on-line grocery store… would like to pay the cheapest amount and decent S&H.

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Going green.

I have been making small steps towards going “green”. Last week I ordered some reusable shopping bags and a low flow shower head. The other thing on my list was to order low flow adapters for my sink faucets. Prior to installing them I really would like to update our existing faucets with newer hardware. If only I could find a Moen faucet sale then I would really be happy. I am hoping that aside from lowering our water usage the new faucets will brighten our bathroom and kitchen.

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Toothpaste and toddlers.

We took all our kids to the dentist last week and both had cold sores. The dental hygenist said they have found that SLS (sodium laral sufate) inhibits the healing and eggravates them. This will also help in the spreading of them. Tom’s is the only one that we found without it that didn’t cost an arm and a leg. Some of their does include it, but they have some that doesn’t. Oh and all SLS does in toothpaste is make it bubble when you brush. When we started with the toothbrush, I always just gave it to them while I was brushing my teeth (lets them know it’s important if you are doing it) and let them chew on it. After they were bigger and understood not to swallow it we went to a small amount. My grandmother brushed all her life just with a little baking soda and rinsed with salt water. She died with ALL her teeth.

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Sitting back and relaxing.

Tonight I am spending the night working in my wonderful enclosed porch. It is so awesome to sit back with cold beverage and enjoy the warm evening air and still get some work done. I can’t imagine how this would ever be possible without my wireless router. The router has given me back so much of my freedom that I would say it is one electronic device I wouldn’t want to be without. Now my children can play outside under my watchful eye while I get a bit of work done. It is so nice to have these little luxuries!

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Cookbooks are my friend!

I collect cookbooks and just found one that I love!
The Ultimate Ice Cream Book : Over 500 Ice Creams, Sorbets, Granitas, Drinks, And More!

Very few commercial ice creams can stand up to homemade. Oh, I know. I have my commercial favorites too. When you make your own, however, you’re in control of everything. Too sweet? Cut down the sugar a little. Too rich? Substitute half and half or milk for some of the cream. You want a flavor that doesn’t come in the stores? Then it’s time to bite the bullet and make your own.

You’ll find details on ice cream machines in this book, as well as the differences between (and pros and cons of) ice cream made with and without eggs, details on flavoring ice creams, and tips for making “mix-ins” (cookies, crackers, etc.) that’ll stay crunchy longer. You’ll even find three recipes for ice cream cones in here!

This cookbook packs a lot of punch into a surprisingly small amount of space. Let’s use Pumpkin Ice Cream as an example. Below it you have four variations listed: Pumpkin Pie Ice Cream, Pumpkin Raisin Ice Cream, Pumpkin Rum Ice Cream, and Pumpkin Seed Ice Cream. Mr. Weinstein could have done this a number of ways. He could have printed up a new recipe for each variation. He could have left them out entirely. Or he could have put the traditional paragraph of “oh, and you could try adding this, and this, or this.” In the first case you pay more for a cookbook that could have been smaller. In the middle case, we would have been bereft of many extra fantastic recipes. In the last case, when we sat down to pick a recipe and make out our grocery list, we would have failed to read the last paragraph, and we’d eternally find ourselves saying “Oh, next time,” without ever making the variations. So this is PERFECT. I wish more cookbooks did this. The variations are 1-3 sentence quick directions, but easy to pick out and implement. They’re also listed as individual recipes in the index, so you won’t have trouble finding them if you lose them.

You’ll find a fantastic array of flavors. Apple Butter Ice Cream, for instance. Avocado Ice Cream, with a Gazpacho recipe to accompany it–I guess you can eat ice cream for dinner! The Banana Ice Cream and the Banana Ice Cream Philadelphia Style (no eggs) come with a stunning array of variations. When Mr. Weinstein suggests Bubble Gum Ice Cream, he even provides the toll-free number of a company that sells bubble gum flavoring! Now that’s service for you. The book also includes sorbets, granitas, toppings, and ice cream drinks.

In all, this is the best ice cream book I’ve ever laid my hands on, and we have at least four such cookbooks. Mr. Weinstein has created a true treasure of ice cream creation, and deserves no less than a full five stars for his glorious work.

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Discouraged.

As always seems to be the case I am trying to loose weight. Nothing that I do seems to work. I watch what I eat and exercise and yet I seem forever stuck at this one weight. I wish I knew if an appetite suppressant would help me. When I was under a ton of stress I lost weight but I wouldn’t want to be in that situation again just to be thinner. I am just discouraged right now and wanting so very much to see the scale edge downward.

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Freaky Friday!

Yesterday I had a bit of a scare to say the least! This woman (stranger) walked into my house this morning when I didn’t answer the doorbell. She actually came to the second floor bedroom where I was with the boys because I didn’t answer the doorbell! She said she was looking for someone who used to live here! Apparently the completely redone interior and 9 zillion little people toys didn’t clue her inthat single and 60ish Susan no longer lived here. It was bizarre incident that I finally made a report to the police about. You just never know these days. They talked to her and found that although not a good idea she really was looking for Sue. They informed her that doing what she did is a good way to get shot! They offered to let me press charges for trespassing which I opted not to do. I always lock the doors but the one day I don’t look what happens.

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It feels so good!

The last two days here in the north have been amazing! It was so warm and gorgeous I felt like I was vacationing at the Outer Banks. The big difference was that instead of sitting out sunning myself and reading I was doing yard work. The work didn’t bother me because I just felt so happy to be able to be outside in shorts. Sunshine does so much to lift ones spirits even when you are hard at work.

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Homemade ice cream

I treated myself to an early present and purchased the Hamilton Beach 68330R 4-Quart Automatic Ice-Cream Maker. Just received this afternoon. Ran down to the store, bought all the ingredients, and just threw our first gallon of ice cream in the freezer. It’s so cool … and FUN! We did the quick and easy vanilla recipe that came with the recipe book, chopped up some brownies and reeses PB cups, and the motor stopped like it’s supposed to in just 30 minutes. Soft serve ice cream as good as anything from the store … and better for us. The directions are VERY simple to follow. We’ve never made ice cream before and didn’t know squat about how to do it. Including time spent going to the store, we had our first batch within two hours after FEDEX delivered the package. We were skeptical about the loudness of the motor based on a prior review we read; the motor is really not that loud, but the sound it makes is rather obnoxious after about 10 to 15 minutes. However, it sounds just like I thought an electric ice cream maker would sound like. So, no surprises and SOOOO worth it! The price was awesome too!

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Do I keep going?

Today was my third session at physical therapy. I really cannot say that I think for my particular problem that it is worthwhile. Honestly I think the place is simply too busy to provide real attention to each person. I have been given more attention by when buying a car than I have received at physical therapy. Maybe it is because car salesman are trying to build their sales career whereas physical therapists are assured of a job. I just find it hard to justify paying for sitting on a heated pad for 20 minutes and doing some stretches by myself before being sent home. I am pretty sure I am going to give it one more week and then I am done.

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Thought provoking speech~

The following is taken from an email I found in my box this week. On so many levels I can understand where the author is coming from. I wish there were clear answers as to how we as a nation get ourselves out of the mess we seem to be in. I thought I would share this email here and ask you to share your thoughts~
I got this email today and thought it was pretty powerful.

Guess our national leaders didn’t expect this, hmm? On Thursday, Darrell Scott, the father of Rachel Scott, a victim of the Columbine High School shootings in Littleton , Colorado , was invited to address the House Judiciary Committee’s subcommittee. What he said to our national leaders during this special session of Congress was painfully truthful.

They were not prepared for what he was to say, nor was it received well. It needs to be heard by every parent, every teacher, every politician, every sociologist, every psychologist, and every so-called expert! These courageous words spoken by Darrell Scott are powerful, penetrating, and deeply personal. There is no doubt that God sent this man as a voice crying in the wilderness. The following is a portion of the transcript:

“Since the dawn of creation there has been both good & evil in the hearts of men and women.. We all contain the seeds of kindness or the seeds of violence. The death of my wonderful daughter, Rachel Joy Scott, and the deaths of that heroic teacher, and the other eleven chi ldren who died must not be in vain. Their blood cries out f or answers.

“The first recorded act of violence was when Cain slew his brother Abel out in the field. The villain was not the club he used… Neither was it the NCA, the National Club Association. The true killer was Cain, and the reason for the murder could only be found in Cain’s heart.

“In the days that followed the Columbine tragedy, I was amazed at how quickly fingers began to be pointed at groups such as the NRA. I am not a member of the NRA. I am not a hunter. I do not even own a gun. I am not here to represent or defend the NRA – because I don’t believe that they are responsible for my daughter’s death. Therefore I do not believe that they need to be defended. If I believed they had anything to do with Rachel’s murder I would be their strongest opponent.

I am here today to declare that Columbine was not just a tragedy — it was a spiritual event that should be forcing us to look at where the real blame lies! Much of the blame lies here in this room. Much of the blame lies behind the pointing fingers of the accusers themselves. I wrote a poem just four nights ago that expresses my feelings best.

Your laws ignore our deepest needs,
Your words are empty air.
You’ve stripped away our heritage,
You’ve outlawed simple prayer.
Now gunshots fill our classrooms,
And precious children die.
You seek for answers everywhere,
And ask the question “Why?”
You regulate restrictive laws,
Through legislative creed.
And yet you fail to understand,
That God is what we need!

” Men and women are three-part beings. We all consist of body, mind, and spirit. When we refuse to acknowledge a third part of our make-up, we create a void that allows evil, prejudice, and hatred to rush in and wreak havoc. Spiritual presences were present within our educational
systems for most of our nation’s history. Many of our major colleges began as theological seminaries. This is a historical fact. What has happened to us as a nation? We have refused to honor God, and in so doing, we open the doors to hatred and violence. And when something as terrible as Columbine’s tragedy occurs — politicians immediately look for a scapegoat such as the NRA. The! y immedi ately seek to pass more restrictive laws that contribute to erode away our personal and private liberties. We do not need more restrictive laws. Eric and Dylan would not have been stopped by metal detectors. No amount of gun laws can stop someone who spends months planning this type of massacre. The real villain lies within our own hearts.

“As my son Craig lay under that table in the school library and saw his two friends murdered before his very eyes, he did not hesitate to pray in school. I defy any law or politician to deny him that right! I challenge every young person in America , and around the world, to realize that on April 20, 1999, at Columbine High School prayer was brought back to our schools. Do not let the many prayers offered by those students be in vain. Dare to move into the new millennium with a sacred disregard for legislation that violates your God-given right to communicate with Him. To those of you who would point your finger at the NRA — I give to you a sincere challenge. Dare to examine your
own heart before casting the first stone!

My daughter’s death will not be in vain! The young people of this country will not allow that to happen!”

Do what the media did not – - let the nation hear this man’s speech…. Please send this out to everyone you can

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When will it stop?

I rarely wear makeup and hardly ever handle my face. Despite being scrupulously clean I am plagued by acne. If ever there were a person who needed acne treatments for adults it is me. I don’t know what to do but I can’t stand looking in the mirror and seeing the face of a teenage girl. What is it going to take to have bright and clear skin? If you know the answer please share!

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A little more frugal.

I decided to finally working really hard on my frugality. Yesterday I bought 3 tennis balls for the dryer. $1.50 and they work GREAT!!!!!! I use tennis balls instead of fabric softener. Even my towels come out soft.

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What a trip!

My parents are not the type of people who make rash decisions. For some reason they have decided to head off on one of those Vegas vacations you hear so much about. It really came as a shock to me to hear this is where they are headed on vacation. Typically they choose to travel to some remote place where the Amish live or drive from state to state looking at the scenery. I have never known either of my parents to gamble. As you can guess I am more than a little anxious to hear what they impressions of Vegas are when they get back. I just can’t for the life of me picture my mother sitting at a slot machine!

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Circle time?

Help!!

Does anyone know where to find recommended maximums for circle time for pre-schoolers? Google isn’t finding me what I want.

My son’s class is regularly having 40, 45, and 50 minute circle times! He has a 1:1 aide in the room reporting to me, and I’m sure other parents have NO idea how bored their kids are!

I’ve read that a common rule of thumb is 5 minutes per year of age. I really need some state or national recommendations before I address the head of the pre-school.

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A little tacky.

In general I would not describe myself as tacky. I have to admit that I recently did something tacky. Our front porch is a very large enclosed area. Basically it is a 3 season room that is primarily windows. I love this room but sitting out there makes me feel like a zoo display. In an effort to give our family and guests a bit of privacy when we are on the porch I ordered some discounted curtains to cover the lower half of the windows. I thought given that the lower half was the only area covered and that the curtains were sheers it would be a tasteful way to accomplish my goal. When the curtains arrived they were not the color described by any stretch of the imagination. When I went to check about returning them I found this particular curtains was no longer in stock and that returning them would cost almost as much as the curtains. Being my frugal self I decided to keep them and my husband begrudgingly hung them up. The upside to the curtains is that when I give directions to people to find our house all I have to say is look for the brown and yellow house with the horrid pink curtains on the porch. Discount Blinds would be a wonderful alternative but I never looked into them prior to ordering the curtains. I keep hoping the sun will somehow fade them but I doubt that is going to happen any time soon. On a positive note no one to date has had any trouble finding our house!

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How often do you shop?

Most frugal types say to shop less often, but I stop in my grocery store every few days. I buy most staples in bulk including meat and dairy, so I mainly shop for produce. I go often and get whatever has been marked down and build my meals or fill in with whatever I find. I’m so picky about food ingredients, that impulse buying isn’t an issue for me. I check out the organic section often, too. Sometimes things are discontinued and I’ll stock up if it’s something we use. My grocery is right near our house so it’s easy for me to stop in often.
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What will it take?

Recently it became clear to my family that my father is starting to slip a bit mentally. It took a bit of a crisis to realize that there are certain plans we need to make as a family to make sure my parents are taken care of in the future. The problem is that whenever we try to discuss things like senior life insurance or living trusts my parents both fail to react. Essentially they sit an listen to everything we have to say and then do absolutely nothing about it. They agree they need to make certain plans but we just seem to talk about it year after year and never get anywhere. It breaks my heart to think of what might happen to one of them in a health crisis all because they don’t want to face their own mortality.

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A theory.

Now, with all the global economics and the downturn, it got me to wondering. Maybe, this is the wakeup call we all need. Let me explain. How crazy is it that 7 yo’s now have cell phones, how many people are obsessed with labels, how many kids bedrooms are bustling with toys, and the best of everything. My theory is that, in the great depression, families learned to live much more simply. Kids ate what was given to them, they never got toys/clothes unless it was for a special occasion, not just because they wanted them. The centre of the family was the family and the relationships themselves. Maybe it is our wakeup call that the important thing in life is the family itself, and this is what has to be cherished. Maybe as a society, we are not living the way God wants us to, and this is His way of making us see this. I think as a society we will go back to the old fashioned values of our grandparents, as we can’t exist as a society as a whole, with the way we have lived in the recent past. I’m thinking a much simpler existence will have to be the answer. By simpler, I mean getting back to the basics again of what is important.

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Shabby footwear.

Since beginning to work from home I haven’t spent very much money on clothing for myself. I really don’t see a need for having a ton of things sitting in my closet that will only get worn a few times. I was looking at my shoes this week and realized they are in a sad state of affairs. I need to spend some time looking to see what is out there. I require comfortable footwear and love the look of UGG Australia but can never seem to find them in my local stores. I am hoping this weekend I will get a bit of time to spend looking online to find something because my poor old shoes need to go out with trash as soon as possible. I thought about it and remembered buying them when our older son was born and he is now 9 years old. I do believe I have gotten my money’s worth out of them.

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Total money makeover.

We have just started this. I got the Total Money Makeover audio book so i can listen to it while I am commuting. We have our emergency fund and we are starting to work on getting the debts together and starting the Snowball. I am so excited to get out of debt, even though we don’t have that much to begin with. I just don’t want our kids watching us struggle like we watched our sets of parents do over the years.

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No concept of time.

Not having been around many children I don’t really know what is normal development for a child. I always take this into consideration when it comes to my own children and try to give them the benefit of the doubt. Our older son understand how to tell time on any type of clock from a digital timer to a Chanel watch. The problem is that he has no idea how to gauge time. For example he thinks it is perfectly acceptable to stand in the shower for a half hour or sit in the tub for 2 hours and then take an hour dressing himself. I know there must be a point where children really begin to grasp that a great deal of time has passed. I just hope it comes soon for him because we are never going to get anything done at this rate.

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How do you tip?

So how do you determine how much to tip at a restaurant? Do you tip the 18-20% regardless? Or does it all depend on your server? I had a friend that used to double the tax as her tip, but then I read an article saying that you shouldn’t do that. I think there was only one time where I actually didn’t tip anything because the server was just sooooooooooooooooooooo horrible and rude! I felt bad because maybe she was having a bad day or something, but it was just ridiculous.

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Crazy puppy.

We have a 6 month old miniature Schnauzer that we simply adore. The only thing driving me crazy about her is the fact that she refuses to walk at a normal rate on a leash. We are either going to have to take her to obedience classes or look into pvc fence installation because she nearly got away from me today. For a ten pound dog she tugs on the leash as hard as the bigger dogs we have had in the past. I don’t let my son take her out anymore because I know she will get away from him. I am hoping she settles down a bit but in the meantime I am going to look into what options we have for containing our littler beast.

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Suze says.

Did anyone else out there catch Suze Orman recently? She says that instead of paying off credit cards, you should just pay the minimum, and toss the rest in savings.

She says this is because credit card companies are cutting limits and closing accounts with zero balances, and if you DO find yourself out of work, you don’t want to be out of credit available as well..?

What do you think about this? I’ve been racing to pay off debt for a few months now, thinking if we’re out of work, at least the bills will be basic, and not all credit card debt….but when Suze talks, my ears perk up!

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Shakes like a dog.

It is time for me to fess up about one of my pet peeves. Call me anal after you read this because I know I am and can take your criticism. My current pet peeve is the way some people shake their hands after washing them. Why do people insist on flapping their hands all over the place like a wet dog? Is it so hard to gently squeeze the excess water into the sink instead of splashing it all over the bathroom? It is so gross to walk into a public restroom and look at the mess all over the bathroom vanitiesfrom these people. I really don’t want to be standing next to these people and end up with this stuff all over me. Is anyone else out there on the same page?

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Expired stuff?

Because I stockpile most of my household items I sometimes find myself with expired stuff. For example I have 3 tubes of expired deodorant. Is there anything useful I can do with this? I found some that hasn’t been opened so it’s still ‘fresh,’ but with all the cancer-from-deodorant stuff I’ve heard over the years I won’t use this on myself if it’s this old. BUT in art class I was taught to use old hairspray as a cheap way to seal up a charcoal drawing, so I was wondering if there was anything at all I could use this for

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Time for something new.

In general I am not a very picky person. There is one thing that I am really particular about and that is the bed that I sleep in. Lately my bed just doesn’t seem as comfortable as it used to. I would love to have a sleep number bed but that isn’t going to happen in the near future. I am debating about trying different linens and maybe a new pillow. I have this problem where I buy a pillow and hate it. As a result of this I have amassed a fairly large collection of pillows that now live in our attic. I don’t know what I need to do but I need to find some comfort somehow.

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Smelly house or so it seems.

I used to sell Girl Scout cookies at a house that smelled like Tuna Casserole. I only visited them for 10 minutes every year, 20 years ago – and I can still remember it. It was a lovely, clean, charming home – but it STANK!

We just got back from the In-laws for 4 days and our “house smell” is getting in my nerves! I’ve noticed it before, but now I want to do something about it. Thankfully we don’t have pet smells, or cigarettes, or even mildew to deal with.

70% of the house’s floors are hardwoods – and the big carpeted room is in the way back of the house. The same “way back” room is the only one w/ upholstered furniture. They even have slip covers that are washed often (thanks to grimey kids). Despite this “the smell” hits me as soon as I walk in!

It’s a dusty kind of yucky refrigerator smell. Not rotting food or old garbage – just that kind of stale, air smell you get sometimes in a fridge or an old cooler. It smells not like I would want it to smell.

I’m going to do a thorough mopping of all the hard floors, wash the curtains I can – but we have no way to shampoo the carpets w/o renting a machine.

We regularly have all the windows open to air it out – no houseplants w/ old soil to stink, no central air to be blowing stale smells.

I think it’s just our regular family “stink”, but ideas to finding another source of the smell are appreciated.

Without repainting the whole house – any way to “Change our Family smell”?
Candles, potpourri, boiling pots of spices? I just want it to smell fresh and clean!

Help!!

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Where oh where …

When I want something I never seem to be able to find it! I have spent the day looking for old pictures and just can’t seem to find them. I have found everything from video cards to baby clothes but not a single picture. I know they are here somewhere packed safely away. I love the feel of a real picture in this digital age but am so thankful for flash drives and SD cards. I can always find my digital pictures when I want them right on my computer.

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Potty training woes.

My ds will be 3 in August. He has never peed or pooped in potty chair or toilet. He refuses! He likes to sit there but won’t even think about actually using either.I think he has seen me go 1 too many times because even though he isn’t actually going he asks for paper(toilet paper.) Any ideas on how to get him to actually use either of them and not insist on using toilet paper? My ds is almost 9 and if I remember correctly he was fairly easy to potty train. Please help!!!

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What is it with wood?

We have a 5 month old puppy that we absolutely adore. We have had a couple of dogs in our married life and I just can’t say they were wonderful pets. This little dog however is the perfect addition to our family. She is as happy sitting on the furniture as she is the floor and just loves to be held. The weird thing is she loves to chew on the corner of our kitchen cabinets. She has every dog toy known to man and yet goes for the cabinets. In fact every dog we have ever had has done this and not in the same house. What is the deal?

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Things I notice…

I noticed at the many thrift stores I frequent, many of the same type items, always coming through there, usually these are little used and good condition. I thought I’d compile a list, for easy reference, I added the prices my local stores charge. I try to always think, thrift store – dollar stores – wal mart. In that order, when I shop. I can usually get a better product than what I could afford new, this way. Also if you stumble across something like new with tags or not, you can send them to a resale store and make some $$
1. toaster ovens $5.00 and under
2. coffee makers $5.00 or less
3. britta filter pitchers ( dishwasher safe ) $75. to $1.00
4. charger plates ( usually less than $.75 )
5. themed coffee mugs (sayings and holiday cute ones ) $25 to $.50
6. casserole dishes ( good for taking dishes somewhere, that you may not get back etc. ) $1.00 to $2.00
7. crockpots $5.00 or less
8. breadmakers $5.00 or less
9. rice cookers $2.00 or $3.00
10 tea kettles $1.00 or so( boil water in them, while hot add some vinegar, let set overnight and rinse, you can clean the outside by running through the dishwasher )
11. knives $1.00 or less ( good also to “take ” somewhere and you won’t loose one to your set )
12. simmering pots $1.00 or less ( for making the house smell good )
13. george foreman grills $5.00 or less ( most barely used )
14. rubbermaid and tupperware items $25 and up, ( even if the T. items have a part missing, you can always get a replacement for free from your local T. dealer )
15. odd flat sheets $75 for $1.00 ( work for quilt backing after washing
16. blankets $1.00 or so ( washable, can be used for the middle of a quilt you make )
17. throw pillows $1.00 or less ( again run through the washer )
18. toys always less then $2.00 ( especiall plentiful, right above and right after Christmas ) holidays they always put out the themed items for that holiday.
19. Stuffed animals, $1.00 or less for the 15 to 18 inch ones. sometimes they still have the tags on them and look new! A lot of the Christmas ones have been discarded cause the “year” embroidered on the bottom of the bears foot, is not current. Those threads can easily be removed, ( seam ripper ). ( I put them through the dryer with a dry cleaning sheet )
20. shopping bags $.25 – $.50 (canvas reusable ) most are really nice, hardly used, trip through the washer does the job )
21. candle warmers $1.00 or so ( also work for keeping coffee/tea hot )
wicker baskets $1.00 or less ( many flower shops get theirs there )
22. hair dryers $1.00 or so, I got a expensive one with a dial type heat setting on it so you get like 50 different levels of “warm ” for $1.00 It was a matchabeli or something like that.
23. purses usually under 2.00 ( I got a Brighton purse, cell holder and billfold that matched. It had never been used.
24. backpacks also, some have embroider of some company, threads can be removed with seam rippers, most are like new, received at work and didn’t want.
25. luggage $2.00 – $5.00
26. winter coats are always cheaper than new ones. $5.00 and under I either wash them or take them to the dry cleaners, whichever they need.
27. robes $1.00 – $2.00

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Valentines

This year I am really trying to go out of my way to make Valentine’s Day special for my older son. This is his first year of being home schooled and I don’t want him to feel like he is missing out on anything. I have sent him some online greeting cards and am putting together a little party. He loves getting cards wherever they come from. We also sent cards to several children who attend the same cyber school as he does. Cards are such an easy way to show someone you care without breaking the bank. In today’s world we are all being reminded how simpler things can be truly special. I hope he will look back at his time at home and remember how his family made many special memories together. I personally love looking back over all the sweet greeting cards I have received over the years and recalling those special moments in our lives.

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How are you saving?

We do so many things to save money I hardly know where to begin. We shut off all the lights – all the time. Our house has fairly light colored walls for just that reason, so the light coming in the windows reflects off the walls keeping the rooms bright enough by day that the lights can be off. Almost all the light bulbs in the house are CF’s now, and it’s actually is noticeable on the electric bill. We also try to keep things not in use unplugged, and use timers on things like the Christmas tree lights etc.

We’ve added lots of insulation to the attic, plus we also gutted the house 10 years back and put new insulation EVERYWHERE. That alone cut the winter heat bills by more than half. We’re also on the budget plan with the utility companies, so we never get a big fat surprise in the winter. We also have a programmable thermostat and keep this house pretty chilly at night, it also dips below 65 during the afternoon when the baby is napping and it’s just me awake and wandering around. I can do 67 no problem, but 65 requires another layer of clothing and a physical activity.

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He knows but doesn’t know.

My son has a clear concept of telling time but still just doesn’t seem to get what it is all about. If you ask him to look at anything from Torgoen watches to grandfather clocks he can tell you what time it is. If you ask him to tell you when ten minutes is up he can tell you that. The problem is he isn’t actually aware of the passing of time. One hour to him is pretty much like 5 minutes or 3 hours. This can be a blessing or a curse depending on what the situation is that we are dealing with. I just don’t know if this is normal for kids his age.

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Just don’t get it.

I am going to say here and now that I think this mother with 14 kids needs help! I cannot help but watch her and read about her and worry for the future of her children. She really seems to be mentally unstable and in fact her own doctors seem to agree. She has a history of depression and paranoia among other things. Let’s just pray that someone is watching over these kids to make sure they aren’t just another pawn in their crazy mother’s plans for her life that don’t seem to account for the needs of her children in any way shape or form.

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Upgrade your skills online.

In this economy many people are recognizing the need to upgrade their skill set. The problem with this is finding a way to juggle the responsibilities of work and home while attending classes. This is a situation where online or distance learning is an ideal opportunity.

Today, online certificates and degrees are available in a wide array of fields. One such program is the online Project Management certificate from St. Joseph’s University. The great thing about this program is that it addresses the needs of a variety of managerial fields which include but are not limited to Construction, Engineering, and those in Emergency Services management.

With the training provided through this program graduates are prepared to take lead roles in project and program management positions. Having this type of specialized training is a great way to enhance not only your skill set but also to open doors to more challenging and rewarding career opportunities. St. Joseph’s University affords an incredible opportunity to remain competitive in this economy without making sacrifices to your current life commitments.

Having personally completed a degree through online learning I can attest to the high quality educational experience today’s online programs can offer. From the convenience of home I was able to learn at my own pace in a learning environment I found to actually be superior to many of my traditional classroom experiences. There is absolutely no way I could ever have completed a doctoral degree in a traditional classroom setting while working and raising a family.

With affordable payment plans, a flexible learning schedule, and a top notch educational institution behind it the Program Management certificate from St. Joseph’s University is a wise investment in your future.

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Octuplets???

I’m honestly not quite sure how I feel about it. I didn’t realize that she already had 6 kids to start with and no husband or significant other. I wonder how she can afford all of this. I think I can see how this might be appealing to her….after seeing all of the attention that other parents of large multiples get. I don’t know though…

I’ve got 4 and that’s more than enough for me to handle! I’m glad to hear that the babies are doing so well though. That’s awesome for them. I hope that the babies and their siblings can grow up OK without the troubles of negativism towards them because of people’s feelings on their mother. It has been all over talk radio out here, and from what they say she isn’t working, lives with her parents who just lost a home to foreclosure and filed bankruptcy last year. Her mom says she has been obsessed with babies since she was a teen..but 14 kids basically on your own? My question is for the drs who did the ivf…if she already has 6 children and ivf is known for producing multiples….um why oh why? There was a story on the radio shows that said she used her student loans to pay for the procedure and people that “know” her said she was hoping to get her own show like Jon & Kate! WE ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO HAVE LITTERS. It is unethical in my book. Fertility docs all over are screaming that no one should ever implant 8 embryos at the age of 33 when one already has kids it is supposed to be 2 embryos at the most according to interviews from CNN.

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Do over?

Someone asked me the other day what I would become if I had my life to do over again. My answer surprised them for some reason. The truth is I honestly wouldn’t waste 20 years going to college to end up in a career I detest. Instead I would have spent time learning all I could about running a business and then spend my time making it successful. Ideally I would have bought a Subway franchise in a great location. I know this is not what you would expect from someone with 4 college degrees but right now I am not using any other them. Most of them are in very focused and highly competitive fields where making a living can be extremely challenging unless you own the business and work for yourself.

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Shred?

Has anyone tried Jillian Michaels “30 Day Shred” dvd? I’ve been doing it for less than a wee and can already see results!!! I’m going to do it every day for 30 days, then do it every other day after that. It’s just over 20 minutes. It’s a 3..2..1 program. 3 minutes of strength, 2 minutes of cardio, 1 minute abs. She does 3 circuits of each. There are also 3 levels. I did level one for 2 days but felt I could handle more. Level 2 is all I can handle for now. I might go out and buy some of the Biggest Loser DVD’s as well.

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Light at the end?

It has only been in the last few weeks that I have started to feel like we are finally on a smooth path in life. The last couple of years have been full of various challenges that always seem to leave me on edge. Now that everything is out of self storage and moved into our new home it at last seemed like we were where we are supposed to be. Now our state government is sending a message that jobs are going to be cut at all levels. This is not good news at all for our single income and very modest income family. My husband works for the state and we are all very worried about what the future now holds as no clear answers are forthcoming from our governor.

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Worried.

Our state is facing serious budget shortfalls in the coming months. The governor has issued a statement that jobs will be slashed throughout the ranks of the state employee system. My husband is a state employee and a fairly new one. We are very worried about the coming months and how we are going to make ends meet should he be laid off. Just when I think everything has finally smoothed out and we can sit back and relax for a moment it all seem start to crumble. I just pray our nation and our leaders can find some sort of way to turn this situation around and soon.

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It seems to work.

We are all eating healthier in our house. About two weeks ago I decided that something needed to change. I wasn’t about to put my family on diet pills or anything but I knew we needed to improve our health. What we have been doing is eating tons of whole grains, fruits, and vegetables. We have also incorporated healthy proteins and more natural food choices. We seem to have more energy and much less of that carbohydrate slump we all seem to have mid morning and afternoon.

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Once a month cooking.

Right now I don’t do OAMC, but cook extra and freeze them. I am thinking about getting more into since things around here are so hectic. As of now I do things like chicken and noodles I cook double and then put half in a freezer bag for later. Same with meatballs and cookie dough. The cookie dough I use a cookie scoop for, scoop onto wax paper and freeze, then put in the freezer bag.

Lasagnas I will assemble in the pan then cover with saran wrap, then foil, and then put in a freezer bag with the baking directions included….same with chicken noodle casserole.

My DH is also pretty picky about leftovers and “freezer-cooking”. If he doesn’t know it’s been frozen though, he never complains!

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Time to start planning.

Last year we didn’t get to take a formal vacation because my husband was training for a new job. We did have one of those vacation rentals reserved but had to cancel because of the him changing jobs. This year I think we will once again try to go away for at least week. We have really enjoyed renting a cabin in the past and will likely do that again. It seems funny to be thinking about it already but if we don’t all the good cabins will be gone! I personally can’t wait to be sitting in a lawn chair basking in the sun rather than here looking out my window at 3 feet of snow!

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Container gardening.

Ok, my hubby has ” lost it “. This year he is going to try planting upside down tomatoes. He says he will plant them right side up, then after they start, he turns them over, with some type mesh on the pot to keep the dirt in place, hangs them from a heavy wire contraption. The tomatoes are supposed to grow better that way, no broken stalks, gathering is easy on the back because they are all in the air. Supposedly they produce more because the stalks are not weighed down…they are not bothered by insects and worms…the list goes on and on. Another goodie we have is ” container ” potatoes. I guess when we are ready to ” dig “, we just up end the pot onto the ground and voila! there they are. Almost everything is in containers this year to made it less of a chore to not have to weed etc. We don’t use pesticides so I guess we are ” almost organic “. The onions are also container grown. Hubby has a friend who is gardening the regular way and they are going to compare since they will be helping each other plant.

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Indulgence.

My older son is an awesome kid and is loved dearly by his entire family. I sometimes wonder if he is getting a bit spoiled. When it comes to Christmas the child got virtually everything on his Christmas list this year. In fact it was a little over the top. It doesn’t matter what he asks for his grandparents seem to buy it. For example he wanted stuff that he could take apart and build other stuff out of. His grandfather bought him a new cordless telephone set and some cheap computer memory for his “robot”. I don’t know why but I have a problem with a 9 year old being given a perfectly good telephone to take apart and for the most part destroy. I try to remind myself that it isn’t my money but it still irks me. Maybe he will end up as the next Bill Gates and it will all be worth it.

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Cut your water bills…

When we moved our water bill shocked me the first time I opened it. There is a huge difference in the charges for water with our new supplier as opposed to our old one. This left me scrambling for ideas to cut our water bill. These are a few ideas I thought I would pass along:

Set the water heater temperature at 120 degrees – about halfway between low and medium. This will help save energy and prevent scalding, while keeping unhealthy bacteria from growing.

Install a water-saving showerhead. Don’t worry – it won’t reduce your water pressure. A family of four, each taking a five-minute shower a day, can save $250 a year in water heating costs by switching to a low-flow showerhead.

Fix leaky faucets, especially if it’s a hot water faucet. One drop per second can add up to 165 gallons a month – that’s more than one person uses in two weeks.

Use aerators on kitchen and bathroom sink faucets. If you have hard water, clean aerators and showerheads with vinegar regularly to reduce deposits and build-up.

Take showers, not baths. A five-minute shower will use about 7.5 gallons of hot water, while filling a bathtub can use up to 20 gallons.

If your water heater is more than 15 years old, install an insulating wrap to reduce “standby” heat loss. It’s also a good idea to insulate hot water pipes where they’re accessible.

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Why does it matter?

We recently paid off both of our vehicles. For some reason I was under the impression that this would save us money when it came to our auto insurance. It made absolutely no difference in what we pay. I am not really that happy with our insurance agent and really should look into getting a new auto insurance quote elsewhere. I just can’t understand why they make such a deal out of finding out whether you have lien on your car if it makes no difference in what your premiums are in the long run.

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Money saving wintertime tips.

We are all trying to save money given the current economic situation. There are always areas that we overlook when it comes to this topic. One area I am fervently looking into ways to cut costs is home heating. These are a few tips I have run across:

If you have a wood-burning fireplace, have the chimney cleaned and inspected regularly, and burn only fully dried hardwoods to produce the most heat output.

Check the seal on the damper by closing it off and holding a piece of tissue paper inside the firebox. If drafts blow the tissue around, repair or replace the damper.

When using the fireplace, turn down the furnace to 55 degrees. If you don’t, all the warm air from the furnace will go right up the chimney, wasting energy and money.

Add fireproof caulk where the chimney meets the wall, inside and outside.

When the fireplace is not in use, make sure fireplace dampers are sealed tight, and keep the glass doors closed. If you never use your fireplace, plug the chimney with fiberglass insulation and seal the doors with silicone caulk.

Insulating your home
Check insulation levels throughout your house. Measure attic insulation with a ruler, and check behind switch plates for sidewall insulation.

Install more attic insulation. Upgrading from three inches to 12 inches can cut heating costs by 20 percent, and cooling costs by 10 percent.

Add pieces of batting insulation to the rim joists – the area along the top of the foundation where it meets the exterior walls.

If your basement is unheated, install blanket insulation in between exposed floor joists.

Choose the new “no-itch” or poly-wrapped insulation products. They’re much easier to handle and safer to work with – making them worth the extra cost.

Install additional attic insulation at right angles to the previous layer. You don’t have to use the same type of insulation – it’s fine to use batts or blankets over loose-fill, or vice versa.

When using loose-fill, be sure to distribute the insulation evenly. Any inconsistencies can reduce the insulating value.

While shopping for insulation, remember that R-value measures the amount of thermal resistance. The higher the R-value, the better the insulation.
Never cover attic vents or recessed light fixtures with insulation, and allow a three-inch clearance around chimneys and flue pipes to prevent overheating and avoid the risk of fire.

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Time for a new one?

We seem to go through digital cameras very rapidly for some reason. I bought a new one less than a year ago and it is already behaving the same as our old one did. Considering they are two different brands I don’t really know what the deal is. I have heard good things about the Canon Powershot and am considering using my Christmas money to get one. It is so frustrating to want to take pictures of the kids only to find out the camera is not working. Hopefully, it is just bad coincidence and a new one is indeed the answer.

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Think ahead to spring!

With the economy the way it is I think more people will be trying their hand at gardening. We have done this in the past with success. I thought I would share some tips we found useful~
We dug ourselves a garden bed out across the back fence. We dug it over, got rid of the grass and then dug in compost. Despite the cost, I prefer the big bags you get from the hardware stores than a trailer full from a gardening place….the gardening place stuff seems to bring in new weeds!!!!! You could dig in chook poo or cow poo or blood and bone. Anything that will enrich the soil until your own compost is ready for use ~ probably next season.

Once all the goodies are dug in, I’d leave it a week or two, depending on what you use. We use seedlings, but if you’re brave and have time before planting you could try raising seeds. I’m lazy…but it is cheaper. You just need a seed raising tray and seed raising mix. It’s not that hard.

When you’ve planted out, we use a seeping hose (due to water restrictions) connected to a timer we set for when we’re allowed to water. Then we cover that and the garden bed with a thick layer of sugar cane mulch. Even in our harsh summer and us being away for 3 weeks on holidays our vegie garden survives very nicely.

Why sugar cane mulch? It’s not too expensive, it’s good for the soil and the best plus is that you don’t get any extra weeds. When you use hay or pea straw they send out little shoots….not things you want growing in your vegie patch!

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9 Years Old!

I can’t believe my oldest son turned 9 years old today! It seems like just yesterday when we bought him home. I still remember that day so vividly. We came home from the hospital on Christmas Eve. As new parents we were so full of emotions about how were we ever going to manage caring for this little person. It is funny how in the midst of those moments you just figure it out.

You are so caught up in the moment that you don’t spend a single moment worrying about loosing weight and finding the best diet pills to get back to “who you were before”. Suddenly and overnight there is a new and improved you that focuses all your energy on this one tiny, helpless, and beautiful little being.

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Just finished reading…

I just finished reading “We Were the Mulvaney’s”. I thought it was so interesting how the individuals reacted to a really bad thing- short term and long term- and how it affected themselves and their family. I don’t want to say too much for those who haven’t read it.

The premise is a close look at a family and what they go through. the story is written by the youngest son, yet you get inside each character for different parts of the story. the book is so well written, though while some descriptions were just magical, other times I found myself skimming when it got “wordy”. It took me a few chapters to settle into it, but then I was right there with these people.

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Not good!

If you know about what might be the best diet pill please tell me! I have gained a bit of weight since we moved and am seriously not pleased with myself. I know what the problem is but until after the holidays there isn’t much I can do about it. It is just impossible for me to not make cookies and cook a delicious Christmas dinner and worry about fat and calories. There isn’t anyone to blame but me and I intend to take drastic measures right after Christmas but until then please send me some diet pills!

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Selling on eBay?

A friend was telling me that she knows a woman who buys clothes at places like Old Navy when they are on clearance for just a couple of dollars, then resells them on EBay.

It sounded like a good idea to me, but then she said that she actually thought it was illegal to buy retail merchandise with the intent of turning around and re-selling it online. Is that true??? It doesn’t make sense to me, but I don’t want to do anything illegal, so that I’d ask “the experts”, who read this blog, what they have heard.

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A little here and a little there…

I tend to stockpile just about everything. When I see a good sale on everything from cat supplies to pasta I will buy as much as I can afford. Many people I know don’t understand this line of thinking or find it funny. To me it is about two things- the first is saving money. Why on earth should I spend more than I have to on something we routinely use just because we don’t want to have stuff sitting in our basement? The second reason is convenience. It is SO nice to just go downstairs and know that I have what I need and don’t have to load up the kids and run to the store every day. It may seem silly to you but oh well!

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Twitch…

Last night we drove through our old neighborhood on the way to visit family. As soon as we turned the corner my eye started to twitch. This twitching is something it did the entire final two years that we lived there. I believe it was related to stress. I can’t helped but wonder how the new people living there are doing. Question pop into my mind and I wonder if they too have had to install security cameras? I truly hope that the neighborhood is being kinder to them than it was to us. It would be nice to know we battled living next door to such evil people for a reason.

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Did you struggle?

I dont think I will ever remember how to…cook for just 2 people. Of course both of my kids are athletes and both are good eaters so I always make good size meals. I am a huge believer in eating as a family at the table at home as many nights a week as possible and if there are more people at that table that is just an added blessing. On the occasion that its just DH and me.. I still end up cooking too much because I am so used to it. It will be a huge adjustment when its just the two of us every night. My friends who have empty nests all say it takes a while to relearn how to cook for just you and DH. I could always open a restaurant or get a job as a house mother at a fraternity if I get to missing the huge pots of food.Of course this all a long way off with a toddler in the house and all…

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Time for a test.

Our older son got his first pair of glasses last year. I noticed yesterday that he is squinting and adjusting his eyeglasses quite a bit. Luckily, our vision coverage from my husband’s job went into effect this month! It will be so nice to take the entire family for vision testing and not have to pay the $50 fee for each of us out of pocket. It just surprised me that his eyes have changed so much already. Hopefully, his eyes do not take after mine and he needs adjustments yearly for life.

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Spending limit?

What do you think is a reasonable spending limit for Christmas gifts for children still at home? I have one friend who spends about $20 on her children. I find this a little absurd but they tend to indulge the kids throughout the year with many toys and activities. I on the other hand buy toys only on birthdays and at Christmas. I would have to guess that I spend about $100-200 on my two boys for Christmas if we have the money. I buy a little bit throughout the year and put it away so it isn’t that much all at once. This works for our family and teaches the children not to beg for gifts throughout the year because it just isn’t going to happen.

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A little spoiled…

Throughout the year we make it a point not to buy our children an excessive amount of things. Christmas is the one time of the year that I tend to splurge if our finances allow it. This year is no exception! Our old son has desperately wanted a video game system for some time. I finally have relented an found a place that sells wholesale electronics. He is going to be one happy boy this Christmas. From the sounds of it his Grandparents have also gone overboard. I don’t really consider it being spoiled given that it only happens this one time of the year. Our children are not showered with gifts any other time so I don’t think being a little spoiled for one day is going to turn them into little greedy monsters.

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Tightwad Gazette

Anyone read it? I checked it out from the library yesterday and have hardly been able to put it down since. Really eye opening and thought provoking. I already want my own copy…I can see myself reading this one over and over for new ideas and inspiration.
Not sure which ideas I’m ready to implement right now though :) It also makes you very aware of the amount of waste in our everyday lives. My friend is very wasteful, but if I am over visiting she will always ask me ,”Do you want this” or “I have a coupon for that” She will help me be frugal but not herself. Funny isn’t it.

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Dynamic learning environment

Five years ago, I earned a Doctorate in Audiology via a distance learning program. At the time distance learning or online degree programs were fairly new to many people. I remember clearly having my decision to pursue distance learning questions by many people. Today, online learning opportunities extend have expanded dramatically to include everything from elementary school and beyond. I absolutely loved learning in this type of format as compared to traditional classroom learning environment. In fact I found this learning format so much more dynamic than traditional learning we have enrolled our son in a virtual charter school. Having completed an advanced degree through this learning format I can attest to not only the quality but the convenience of these programs. I truly believe that once you participate in these types of learning programs you gain a entirely new appreciation for the role of technology in creating a truly stimulating and challenging learning platform.

Given what a fan of online learning I am it often comes as a surprise to people there is one thing I would do differently in my career path. Tens years of working in health care afforded me a clear perspective on what various health professions offer in terms of career opportunities. Had I known in advance exactly how narrow the field of audiology could be in terms of professional opportunities I would have chosen another health care field such as nursing. Nursing is a field for which there will always be diverse and challenging career opportunities.

Today, it is possible to complete online MS nursing studies from St. Xavier’s. St. Xavier’s online Master’s in Nursing program affords students who already possess a Bachelor’s degree from a regionally accredited college the opportunity to pursue a graduate clinical degree studies without uprooting their lives to do so. Distance learning at St. Xavier’s enables nursing students to participate in a dynamic learning environment. These learning opportunities are led by a team of professional faculty driven by a common goal of preparing nurses who are empowered to succeed in ever changing health care arena. I encourage anyone who has wanted to pursue advance nursing studies to investigate learning opportunities at St. Xavier’s.

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Christmas traditions

Do you have a special Christmas tradition?

I as a child remember getting PJ’s ever Christmas eve. That was the one present I was allowed to open on Christmas Eve. As a kid I didn’t like it because I always knew what I was getting every year. Then when I got married and moved away I found myself missing those PJ’s. After the kids were born I found myself wanting to only give things that they really need since grandparents spoil them with so much. What do you think a kid who had everything would need? PJ’s for Christmas Eve. I wash them before I wrap them, they open them and we have hot chocolate. I make it a point to get everyone in the house new PJ’s for Christmas Eve.

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Making a house feel like home.

About two months ago we moved into our new house. We love our new house and can’t say enough good things about our neighborhood. There are so many things that make this house just feel like we were always meant to be here. These feelings are in stark contrast to how we felt while living in our old house and neighborhood.

When we purchased our previous home we new from the start that we would not be living there for more than 5-10 years. This very much impacted what and how we chose to decorate our house. Everything we bought was neutral in color. Over the years I got so tired of living in a sea of beige. Over the years it felt more like we were renters instead of home owners because of every choice was impacted with the prospect of selling the house in the future.

Today, we are fearless in our selection of decor throughout our home. We decided when beginning to decorate our new home that we wanted a home that felt vibrant and alive instead of one that seemed to be waiting for someone else. Our decorating choices today center around reflecting who we are and our passions in life. As most of you know I love shopping online and have really enjoyed hunting decorating ideas and products to complete each room in our new house.

One thing I have learned in the process of decorating is that it is often the little touches that make the biggest impact. For example no matter how perfectly you paint a room the color can see dull and bland without crown molding. To me these little architectural touches are the difference between a nice room and a truly spectacular room. When we added crown molding to our dining room it looked like a truly finished room.

The region where we live is so rural we have found ourselves turning to online merchants like Inviting Home for truly special home decorating products. The Inviting Home website offers a wealth of inspiration for decorators in addition to the array of products available. I really love being able to browse the galleries of Inviting Home to see how a room in my house might look with various decorating choices and themes. This is also a really handy tool for giving my husband a visual idea of the plans I envision in my head for our house. We often butt heads when it comes to decorating because he can envision what I describe as an ideal look for a room in our house. By showing him a similar look in the gallery it simplifies things by giving him a more tangible idea of what our house could look like.

Inviting Home is a great resource for everyone from decorating novices like myself to seasoned professionals. It is so nice to shop from the comfort of home for everything to make a house a home from the vast selection of products that include everything from wood carvings to home lighting. No matter what room or what detail I am hoping to highlight I have been able to find products I love and inspiration for what our home can become at Inviting Home!

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Energy saving tips…

One thing I am passionate about is trying to save on my energy bills. I hate the idea of throwing money away needlessly on this expenses. These are a few tips for saving on your energy bills.

1. Do a home energy audit. This survey analyzes your home’s structure, appliances and insulation, as well as your family’s lifestyle. Alliant Energy offers customers a free energy audit called My Home Comfort Check Up that provides a personalized report detailing specific ways to save energy throughout your home.

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2. Change or clean your furnace filter once a month. Dust and dirt can quickly clog vital parts, making your furnace run harder and eventually break down.

3. Have your heating system inspected regularly – especially if it’s natural gas. A $50-100 annual tune-up can help reduce your heating costs by up to five percent.

4. If you have a forced-air furnace, do NOT close heat registers in unused rooms. Your furnace is designed to heat a specific square footage of space and can’t sense a register is closed – it will continue working at the same pace. In addition, the cold air from unheated rooms can escape into the rest of the house, reducing the effectiveness of all your insulating and weatherizing.

5. Install a programmable thermostat. If you use it to set back the temperature by 10 degrees for eight hours every night, you’ll lower your heating bills by 10 percent. A $50 digital thermostat can pay for itself in energy savings in less than a year.

6. Don’t set the thermostat higher than you actually want it. It won’t heat your home any faster, and it will keep your furnace running longer than necessary.

7. Vacuum registers and vents regularly, and don’t let furniture and draperies block the air flow. Inexpensive plastic deflectors can direct air under tables and chairs.

8. If your home has a boiler system, avoid covering radiators with screens or blocking them with furniture. It’s also a good idea to add a reflecting panel behind radiators – you can purchase one at a home center or make one yourself with a plywood panel and aluminum foil.

9. If your home has electric baseboard heating, be sure to keep furniture and draperies away from the heaters, and leave at least a three-inch clearance under the heating unit.

10. Keep curtains and blinds closed at night to keep cold air out, but open them during the day to let the sun warm the room.

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Annoying habit.

Have you ever known someone who had to tell you how much everything they buy cost them? This has to be one of the most annoying habits a person can have in my opinion. Maybe it is because I never have had expensive things and there is a little part of me that is jealous. I really don’t want to know that your Patek Philippe watch cost. I am one of those people who appreciates beautiful things whether they are free or cost a million dollars. I recognize I probably have a touch of this habit my self to a degree. My problem is I love telling people about bargains I get. I am working on this habit because I am starting to recognize it is just as annoying. You probably really don’t want to know that I spent $50 on groceries that cost you $150 do you? I am sorry if I have annoyed you and I am trying to mend my ways.

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Sleep over.

My older son has invited his Grandma over for a sleep over this weekend. I know the typical routine for a sleep over is for the parents to stay home and monitor the children and make sure they don’t get into trouble. Do you think there would be anything wrong in this case if we just went and slept somewhere else? I have to giggle to think of my son and his Grandma needing yelled at to go to sleep at 2 am when they are still up giggling.

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Two year old joy…

There are so many things I love about raising little people. One thing I especially appreciate at this time of year is shopping for them. Those of you who are raising young children can appreciate this statement. It is so nice not to worry about finding Seiko watches or Wii accessories. Two year olds are just as happy with a cardboard box to sit in as they would be if you gave them the latest technological gadget. In fact most two year olds that I know are more fascinated with the Christmas tree than any other aspect of Christmas. I wish everyone on my shopping list had a little bit of the “two year old” gift spirit in them!

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So much sadness.

The young mom I posted about a couple of weeks ago passed away shortly after my post. Although I didn’t know her personally I feel so very sad for this family and situation. It just breaks my heart to think of this first time mother dying without getting to enjoy the little person she brought into the world. I pray daily for her husband and family because I can’t fathom what life must be like for them right now. How do you begin to grieve the loss of your wife while going about the process of raising a newborn? Every night I squeeze my kids a little extra just because I feel so blessed to be able to be here to do it.

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Empty closet.

It is now dawning on me that getting rid of almost all of my clothes might not have been a good idea. Prior to moving it seemed like a good plan rather than to put things in storage for what could have been a long time. Now that we are settled and all my clothes are hanging in the closet I am finding myself with nothing to wear. The only things I can find look about as appropriate as equestrian riding apparel would at a garden club tea. I went to 4H with my son the other day and felt so overdressed it was funny. People in my new circle are just more casual and relaxed than what I am used to. I really wish I hadn’t sent all my track pants to Goodwill.

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We waited 4 years.

About 4 years ago we tried having a dog. This particular dog just didn’t work out for our family despite our best efforts and ended up being a fairly traumatizing experience for all of us. The dog we adopted had been surrendered by another family which should have been some sort of clue to us but her sweet face won us over instead of common sense. In the months we had her she became increasingly aggressive towards our son and virtually anyone other than me. In the end it became clear that for the safety of our child and others that she needed a home other than what we could provide. This ended up being a good experience on some levels because it cemented for us exactly what we needed in a dog and made it clear that the time and fit had to be perfect. I am so hoping that waiting 4 years to get another dog and one from a loving home will make all the difference.

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The only thing missing is…

My last post got me to thinking about things that our house is missing right now. For some people I am sure the first thing they would look for when they come in our house is the exit sign simply because of our bold color choices. Truth be told I could care less what you think of my purple bedroom or my son’s brilliant orange room with dragon pictures on the wall! What I need to make our house feel like home is pictures on the wall. We have yet to hang anything on our freshly painted walls in just about every room. No matter how much I love the house or the colors within the walls I need to see the smiling faces of my children on the walls!

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Color!!!

We painted our old house with the idea that we would one day very soon be selling it. Because of this we picked neutral colors for just about every room. Living in a sea of neutrality just doesn’t work for me and really doesn’t reflect our family. I like to think we are vibrant and life loving. When we went to pick out colors for our new house neutrality was the farthest thing from our minds. Should you come to visit bring your sunglasses because we are living life in FULL color. Each and every room in our house is a different color and I am quite sure your first words will not be this color goes with “everything”!!! Our house does not go with everything but it sure is going to go “with” us!

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Crazy woman.

A friend of mine asked me last week if I was crazy. The reason she said this is because I indicated that I must be seriously off my rocker to be taking on a puppy at this time in life. Clearly the many job descriptions you might read for the role of “Mom” is ever changing in this world. So call me a little crazy for taking on a new puppy in addition to raising a rowdy two year old and home schooling a head strong 8 year old for the first time! The truth is I like a challenge and after having lost so much time focusing on things in this world that just don’t matter I want as much joy in my life as I can find. It just may come in all these little people and critters.

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Funny funny little dog.

Right now I am watching my husband try to introduce the new puppy to our two cats. So far we have kept them apart because our cats are very big and like to play quite rough. This little puppy doesn’t seem to recognize their size which is more than twice her size. She thinks nothing of just taking off after these huge cats and trying to instigate a little fun. I will have to post some pictures of this little lady and the two big boy’s she keeps teasing so you can see just how silly she is.

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Always a problem.

It is that time of year again when we start thinking of Christmas gifts. For almost everyone on our list shopping is not a problem. When it comes to my husband’s family buying gifts is difficult. You see my husband always feels we need top of the line gifts like Nautica watches and Cephalon cookware. I would love to be able to give gifts like this to everyone on our list but we just can’t afford it. I feel like it is not right to spend more on one set of parents than we do on the other. Every year we have the same discussion and every year we spend twice as much on one family. Am I wrong to think we should only spend what we can afford?

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It is that time of year again…

The weather here has been crazy. One day it is 70 degrees and the next freezing cold. The cold weather always gets me thinking about hot chocolate. This is one of favorite mix recipes:

Powdered dry milk, enough to make 8 qt.
1/4 c. regular cocoa
1 c. confectioners’ sugar
2 tsp. cinnamon
1 tsp. cardamom
1 lb. Nestle’s Quik
1 pkg. Dream Whip
Dash of salt
6 oz. Cremora

Mix all ingredients together and store in big container. Use with 1/4 to 1/3 cup hot water.

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Why do we hang onto stuff?

This morning I had to go up in our attic to search yet again for paperwork that I couldn’t find elsewhere in the house. Our new attic is nowhere near as spacious as the one in our old house. I had to laugh as I moved my husband’s box of well used cds for the millionth time in my life. These cds are a collection he has had for almost 15 years and rarely listens to but refuses to part with. I have suggested a bunch of times that he sell them but he just keeps hanging onto them. I just don’t understand it at all. Until I do I guess I will just keep moving them.

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Finally over.

The race for president is finally over. This particular race has been a real challenge for me as voter to come to a decision about. There are so many things that I agree with the Republican party position about. On the other hand there are so many things I agree with the Democratic position on. When it finally came down to two candidates I was extremely torn as neither really seemed to represent “me” and what I believe. I just have to say I am glad it is finally over. I pray our leadership takes this country in a direction that moves us toward a brighter tomorrow. It will be good to not have to defend one position or the other four another four years.

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Amazingly happy.

The last 6 weeks have been wonderful. I can’t tell you how great it feels to be living in a new house in a new town. I couldn’t be happier if you sent me to a las vegas hotel for a vacation. You just can’t imagine after the crap our old neighbors put us through living near them what a relief life today is for us. I can actually look back now and see how much joy was stripped from life because of those people. It is easy to say “no one can make you miserable unless you let them” but it is not true. There are times when nothing you do can change the immediate situation and you just have to live in the state of misery you find yourself in. I am just so thankful to not be living life like that!

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Serious puppy parent.

Technically my son is the owner of the new puppy in our house. For the most part he is taking this responsibility extremely serious. He has taken the dog outside almost every time that she has needed to go. The three books he was given about this breed of dog have already been read within hours of getting the dog. A strict feeding schedule has been adhered to and grooming tools purchased. It is so encouraging to see this side of my son who usually is so wrapped up in his world of books. I can just see him in 20 years taking care of his own children with the same earnestness.

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Should I worry?

The new little puppy in our house is a real snuggle bug. It is funny how some pets evoke the same feelings in us that our children do. This little puppy seems to breathes so fast sometime I wonder just how many bpm is normal for a puppy? She was just at the vets office and was deemed healthy so I am sure it is just my motherly instincts kicking in. It seems to be something that only occurs occasionally but it does freak me out to watch her little lungs work so much while she is just relaxing.

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Newest addition

Our new puppy arrived on Tuesday night. The puppy was a VERY early birthday gift for our oldest son. We promised him a dog when he turned 10 which isn’t for another year. This little puppy came to us by way of Nebraska and is the sweetest little thing. She is a miniature schnauzer and is about 9 weeks old. So far she is doing just fine and my son is beyond the moon to have her in his life. The joy on his face is so precious. I love seeing him talk to her and take an interest in her well-being. I know the new will wear off at some point but seeing this tender side of him is something I want to treasure. The teen years are just a little ways in the future and I know this tender side will be hard to find for a while.

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Missing Tim’s

Our new town doesn’t have a place to get decent coffee. Maybe I just haven’t found it yet but other than McDonald’s my coffee cup is running on empty. What I really wish someone would open is a Tim Horton’s franchise. Maybe that is what I should do? Right now it is just a pipe dream but I would love to have my own coffee shop. I would probably drink so much of the coffee that turning a profit would be impossible. I once looked into buying a Subway’s franchise that was for sale in our old town. The time it takes to run a restaurant is just not something I can do right now with so much on my plate. Maybe in another 5-10 the time and economy will be right. Until then would somebody please bring decent coffee to my town?

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Just plain scary.

Another mother in the town near to hear has disappeared. It is just scary to think of this happening to anyone. This woman is the a relative of someone I know which brings this even closer to home. I can’t imagine the anguish her children and family are feeling. Prayers and more prayers go out to her family and all who knew her that she is found safe and soon. How do you begin to explain to school age children that their mother has just gone missing in the middle of the day while running errands? I fail to understand the evil of this world.

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Back at it.

Now that we are pretty much settled into the new house I have decided to get myself back on track to live a healthier life. One thing I am doing is taking fat burners to give me a bit of jump start. I am one of those people who needs to see the scale move in order to feel motivated to continue. Even if it takes a little supplement to get things off to a good start it is important for me to successfully stick to a diet and exercise plan. You can disagree with my methods if you want to and that is fine. I fully admit to needing a little crutch to be a good dieter. It is what it is and that is how I need things to work.

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You just never know.

This week has been one of those weeks where life has reminded me to be thankful for what I have. Two young mothers in our area are fighting for their lives after giving birth to healthy babies. It is so heart wrenching to know that families are enduring this type of pain at what should be one of the most joyful experiences in life. If you read this and haven’t felt thankful to be able to hold your children in a while please do take a minute and hold them. I know two young women who may never feel that joy. Say a prayer that they might get that opportunity.

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Toe Woes

If there is one thing I am familiar with it is sore toes. For some reason I seem to be constantly stubbing my second and third toes on something all the time. I think it is because of the freakish fact that these toes on both my feet are partially grown together. It just seems like every time I bump them into something I feel double the pain. Recently I think I may have broken one of them because I can barely touch it. I really need to find some comfy shoes like those Asgi shoes you hear about. Right now I am sporting slippers because all of my other shoes just are too stiff and hurt my poor little toes too much to wear. If you see me out and about on the town in slippers you will know why okay?

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Need a little more joy? Try Ghosting It Forward!

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Just this week I was having a conversation with a friend about the state of the world around us. It just feels like everyone is caught up in a negative state of emotion. Daily we are inundated with news of rising prices, economic downturn, and countless global crisis issues. This seems to have created a general state of anxiety in so many people and a desperate need for more joy. I believe that the greatest joys in life are simple and unexpected. I further believe that joy is contagious. Why not bring a little more joy into the world around you starting today with a simple act of kindness to those around you?

“Ghosting” is a fun Halloween tradition of doing something nice for your neighbors and friends. In the spirit of “paying it forward”, everyone needs more positive touches in their life. In our current world filled with constant negative news, Ghosting It Forward is an effort to spread some positive touches to neighbors locally or friends virtually. Whether it is an anonymous note of thanks to your neighbor, a bunch of flowers, a bar of chocolate, an inspirational book or movie, or just a smiley face, Ghosting It Forward will energize people who send and receive the positive touches.

To learn more about “Ghosting It Forward” visit CLICK HERE to find instructions and all you will need to get started “Ghosting It Forward”.

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This is the life.

Life is so good I cannot begin to tell you how thankful I am! Living in a nice neighborhood has changed my entire perspective on life. It is so nice to not have to worry when the next drunken party is going to occur next door or when the cops are going to make a drug bust of your neighbors. I love looking out my kitchen window and having the only thought be how beautiful the view is. I love worrying about where my Nikon binoculars are instead or where I left the number for animal control, CPS, or the drug task force. Life is a blessing it really is and I am just as thankful as I can be for all I have been given.

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Reading over my shoulder.

Part of my daily tasks is to sift through my spam mail folder looking for important emails that somehow are filtered inappropriately. I REALLY wish there some way to filter spam mail better than my settings allow. My older son is constantly home now and there is no way to block him from reading the computer screen if he walks into the room. It is one thing if he reads an email heading about diet pill reviews. I about died today when I was trying to delete a email about male “anatomy” enlargement products and he read the title before I could get rid of it. I sat there praying he would ask why someone would want that type of product. Thankfully, he didn’t!

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Not a minute in the day.

I knew when I decided to home school our son that it was a huge decision. I did not realize how much time it would take every day to get all of our lessons finished and complete everything else I need to do in the course of the day. There are so many things I am letting slide it isn’t funny. I really need to clean the bathroom and get some painting done but just can’t seem to find a hour in the day. I barely have time to open the mail and sift through all the auto insurance quotes, pizza coupons, and circulars we get each day to find the bills so I can pay them. Anyone who thinks that home schooling parents are slackers has no idea the work and dedication it takes to really do the job right!

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Welcoming a puppy.

In about 3 weeks we will have a new addition to our family. Our older son has desperately wanted a puppy. We told him we would get him one when he was ten years old. This December he will turn 9 and we have decided to ignore our rule and go ahead and get him a puppy now. We will be getting a miniature Schnauzer puppy. A friend of ours knows someone in Nebraska who has a little of puppies in need of homes. So now not only will I have to buy cat supplies but also puppy supplies. I am hoping to be able to paper train the little guy and am looking into various housebreaking products. Do you have any good suggestions?

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Time to start decorating.

This is the second week in our new house. Aside from allergies being absolutely terrible I love this area and our house. For the most part we have everything unpacked and put away. Because the house is bigger I am now seeing some areas that we will definitely need to buy some stuff to decorate around. The fireplace looks pretty bland and need either a pretty painting or a nice sconce or two above it. Our stuff matches the current wall colors perfectly but looks pretty sparse when spread out through the entire house. I am so thankful to have this type of problem that this is absolutely not a complaint in any way!

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How do they find out?

We just bought a new house and I can’t believe how quickly advertisers are alerted to this. Our mail box is stuffed every single day with advertisements for home security systems, auto insurance, home repair services, and everything you can imagine. These letters are always targeted to us as “new” home owners which makes it very clear that someone involved in the home buying process has sold our information to these companies. This kinds of drives me crazy because it isn’t like everyone involved in our home buying experience is already being compensated for their time. Why do they think it is permissible to make a few more bucks selling my information?

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Scary numbers!

It is now very clear that I need to pull out my bottle of alli diet pills and get back on track. I have gained 5 pounds in the last month. My weight had been holding pretty stable but it seems to have gotten out of control. I think all the stress of moving caused me to loose control and shove anything and everything in my mouth. I had really good luck taking Alli before and think I am going to give it another run. At least winter is here and it is going to be a long time before I have to try to fit in my shorts again!

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What is girl to do?

We all have bad habits. Well my bad habit is coffee. I love coffee just a little to much. This isn’t to say I drink gallons a day. Quite simply I need to have one good sized mug of really good coffee a day. I used to have a special place I would buy coffee until last week when we moved. Now I have nothing. There isn’t even a place around here to buy Starbucks coffee in a bag or anything. I am just a sad girl who needs a good cup of coffee. I have always had a special place for coffee wherever we have lived and I really miss having that right now! Maybe this is someone’s way of telling me I need to change my habits?

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Go away!

Stress and my complexion just don’t go together. I am just one of those people who you can tell by my face what is going on in my life. This isn’t to say I wear my emotions on my sleeve but rather that my skin wears them for me. You can tell if life is a bundle of stress because my skin will look like a 12 year old boy. I have tried everything from Proactiv to homemade remedies in an attempt to clear it up. Right now I am just trusting that once life become more relaxed my skin will once again be clear. This is something my mirror is very much looking forward to seeing :)

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Looking forward…

We are about a week away from closing on our new house and our old house. It is nice to be at this point because I honestly never thought we would be here. The sale of our house has been such a blessing. Aside from getting us away from a crummy neighborhood, we have made enough money to pay off some debts. Sure, our house payment will be more but it is going to be okay. About the time our first house payment is due we will qualify for group health insurance through my husband’s job. Instead of paying $400.00 per month for insurance we will be covered for free. This is more than enough to cover the difference in our house payment today and what is to come.

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Worn down.

Sleep has been elusive for me lately. It doesn’t seem to matter how much I try to avoid caffeine or anything else that might make me stay awake I still can’t seem to sleep at night. At this point I would take anything even the best diet pill on the market if someone told me it would also make me sleep. That is how desperate I am to sleep well. I kind of have that drunk feeling from being so tired. Maybe once all of this moving business is behind us I can tuck in for a long winter’s sleep…

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Just a dip…

This mommy is tired. This mommy is so busy she can’t believe it. This mommy is somehow managing to get it all done! Packing, home schooling, and raising kidlets with my husband away. This mommy is drinking a TON of coffee! Guess what? This mommy needs to bathe in acne treatments because between the stress and the coffee I have the skin of a teenage girl. Here a zit and there a zit and everywhere a zit! It will calm down and things will be better because of all of this stress I just know it. If you can please ignore my skin until such a time as my normal 37 year old complexion returns. Thank You!

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Hopefully only a phase.

I sleep very lightly. So lightly in fact that I hear noises in and out of my home likeChicago personal injury lawyers hear an ambulance 20 blocks away. So when my son started sleep walking he didn’t get two steps before I heard him and steered him back to his room. I asked him in the morning if he remembered anything but he just shook his head No. He has done it several times in the past but has recently started to do it more frequently causing me fear that he will fall down our stairs. My husband says we should put a baby gate up but then I would be afraid of him falling over top of the baby gate. Hopefully he will grow out of it.

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Dreaming of the farm.

Today is one of those days when I want to be anywhere but where I am. My toddler is experiencing one of those phases where he can’t ask for anything without screaming. It doesn’t matter if he wants more milk or to watch a video, it all comes out in a screaming demand for attention. Where I would really like to be is at parents house. My parents live on a farm. If you have ever been to a farm or grown up on one you can appreciate what farm life is like. If we could I would return to country living in a heart beat but we simply can’t. As often as possible I try to take my children to visit my parents so they can experience a taste of farm life. My older son can’t get enough of my parents barn and outbuildings. He spends every minute possible outside exploring. Our younger son has just one thing on his mind when he gets there and that is my father’s truck. My father has a Ford F150 and couldn’t live without. A truck is an indispensable piece of equipment on the farm. It get used for everything from hauling wood, animals, and feed to plowing the drive. When the rest of us are stuck in our city driveways my Dad and Mom are out cruising the streets. You just can’t beat F150 wheels for getting you where you need to go in rain, snow, or other inclement weather. We have been really thankful for my Dad’s truck now that we are in the process of moving. It is simply so much easier and cheaper to load up the truck and take a bunch of stuff whenever we want to the new house. Renting a moving truck is both expensive and inconvenient. On particularly cranky days with my two year old I would really, really love to have one of these trucks. He loves nothing more than to sit behind the wheel and pretend to drive the F150 just like Grandpa! He doesn’t every have to leave the driveway and his world is a happy place. That sort of describes how most men feel behind the wheel of an F150 doesn’t it?

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Put your feet down!

Have you had one of those days where if you said something once you have said it a thousand times? That is how my day has been. Our older son must have been told a dozen times today to get his feet down off the television stand. For some reason he like to lay on the floor with his feet up in the air and watch television. Granted, we don’t have home theater seating in our house and comfy chairs are at a premium but this isn’t an excuse to put foot prints all over the furniture and walls. I am about ready to put a piece of tape on the floor and institute times outs for any feet that go past the line of tape. The thing is that is more work than I want and will just leave a sticky mess. I guess the point is that after the first 6 times it should sink in that he needs to keep his feet on the floor.

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Cyber school.

This year our son will be going to a cyber school instead of a traditional brick and motor school. So far the support from this school has been exceptional. There is just one thing that is driving me crazy and that is the fact that we haven’t yet received our text books and supplies. School starts in two weeks and I really want to start organizing and preparing. I am not worried about the computer,hard drive, printer, or accessories that the school supplies because we have more than enough computers. What I am worried about is starting the first day of school and having to scramble to get ourselves together to accomplish something.

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Details and more details.

We have moved so many times over the years that I pretty much have it down to a science. It isn’t the actual packing and moving that wears me out but rather the little details. Things like having phone service turned on or getting a new auto insurance comparison just test my limits. For one thing I despise talking on the phone. I am just one of those people who would rather deal with you face to face or handle things online. The last time I had to have phone service connected I ended up in tears and hung up on the person because they kept talking in circles and were not answering my questions. It was very clear they were trying to sell me more service than I wanted or needed. Hopefully this experience won’t be a repeat performance.

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Boyle’s Furniture $10,000 Dream Room Giveaway!

We are in the process of looking for a new house which is always a great deal of fun. The only thing that is driving me crazy right now is that we are looking at much larger houses than we currently have. I am having a really hard time envisioning what our new house will look like with our furniture in it since we really don’t have very much. I think I am going to seriously have to look into getting some discount furniture.

What I really, really, REALLY need to do is win the $10,000 Dream Room Giveaway at Boyle’s Furniture. Boyle’s is a North Carolina’s furniture retailer that sells both online in and in their 3 brick and motor stores. With pricing at as much 50% lower than what other stores sell similar furniture for shopping at Boyle’s is a great way to stretch your buying dollar.

Now through August 31st Boyle’s is having a contest in which a lucky winner be given $10,000 to create an incredible dream room. You can enter this contest by clicking the above image. Entries are allowed daily until the contest deadline so don’t delay! As much as I would love to win the $10,000 myself it would be fun if one of you did as well!

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Please be real…

I tend to be a bit of a pessimist. As hard as I try this just isn’t something I can get over. The truth is I come from a long line of pessimists. As a child I remember my Grandmother being famous for saying “Maybe so”. It didn’t matter if you handed her the tickets and said “we are sending you on a one of those Vegas vacations or stated a known truth like the “sky is blue” is was a given that my grandmother would respond “Maybe so…”. Right now my mind is whirling with all the things that could happen to prevent the sale of our home going through. Even if we need to live with my mother-in-law for the next year I just want so badly to be able to move. My prayer is that this will become a reality and not just be a “Maybe so…” in my life.

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Little ears.

Having children around the home is an amazing adventure. What never ceases to intrigue me is how when it come to some things children have minds that emulate the capabilities of the best computer memory available. For example if you casually mention that you might be going to Walmart this week they will ask every hour when this trip is going to take place. This is not just every hour but every hour of every day for as many as it takes to get them to the toy department of Walmart. Ask this same child to take a shower and brush his teeth (something he does every day) and somehow only half of these things will get done.

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Counting down.

For once in my life I am not counting the pounds I loose or gain on the scale and am not worrying about whether I need diet pills. It is an exciting relief to at long last be counting the days until we can pack up our belongings in a U-Haul and hit the road to better days. Despite the stress of trying to find a new and house, it is infinitely better to be wondering if we can manage a wet basement in a quiet neighborhood than worry about when the next police bust is going to happen next door. We may have to settle for less than the ideal house because we simply aren’t able to keep up with the “Jone’s” in our social circle but I don’t care. Life away from the trash that now populates our neighborhood is better than any in-ground pool or jacuzzi!

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What a day!

It is almost midnight and I feel like I just stepped off the treadmill. Today, was a very long day but a good day. The day started off with us having someone over to fix our pipes which decided to start leaking at midnight the night before. Then our older son had a lemonade stand with his friend which lasted most of the afternoon. Our families stopped by for a visit and then the noisy neighbors backed into my mother-in-law’s car. We had dinner and then our good neighbors came over for snacks and a game night. I am just tuckered out but there is still work that needs to be done!

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A little help here…

We are having our home inspected on Monday as part of an offer we have to buy our house! Yes, you read that right someone has actually made an offer on our home. I couldn’t believe the news when I heard it and almost cried with joy. Right now though we have some minor repairs that I think need to be done prior to the home inspection. Do you have any idea who in our house is trying to fix a leaky pipe right now? Not the man of the house because he is to busy looking at websites like authorize.net or whatnot. I realize he goes to work all day but I also work and raise kids. I think that selling our house should be a priority over watching YouTube or visiting random websites.

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Just as much a slob

So since my husband has decided that I cant clean up after myself I have decided to change my ways and, in the process, do him a favor and clean out his beloved basement. I am tired of having to maneuver my way around unfinished projects to get to my laundry room and continually move the 500 feet of CAT5e cable, he just had to save from the dumpster, away from the door of the laundry room. I am sure he wont miss the two weed eaters, two TV’s, and the chainsaw (don’t know where that one came from) sitting in front of my craft area and on my sewing table. I hope he enjoys those two diapers I shoved in his tool box. Ha Ha.

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Whoa!!!

I need to clean the van out more often is what my husband has been telling me for quite some time. After this morning I now have a deeper appreciation for those words. The smell started about a week ago and has steadily grown worse to the point where even my oldest refused to ride in the back of the van. I put it off for as long as I could but could bear it no longer and pulled the van in the driveway to clean it out. I started in the back and worked my way forward to the area from where I thought the stench was coming from. I reached under my seat and could not find any thing so I assumed that opening the storage drawer under the seat would be harmless…..I was wrong. My eyes stopped burning just long enough for me to start wretching as I slowly pulled two dirty disposable diapers from the drawer and put them in a Walmart bag. Needless to say they went straight to the garbage.

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Welcome home!

As soon as we got in the door today my youngest son begged to watch a Thomas The Tank Engine movie. In order to get things done I thought this was a splendid idea. The thing was that at some point during our trip our tv decided to develop this incredible humming sound. How this happens when no one is watching it is a wonder to me. The sound is so loud you can barely hear the audio that is supposed to be coming from it. I suppose this is what I get for complaining about my kids watching too much television. When I want them to watch it it doesn’t work. Fortunately, my son really doesn’t sit and listen to the video and more or less like it to accompany him while he plays.

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Why we don’t have television…

Three weeks in a hotel with my kids watching television excessively was the perfect reminder for me as to why we chose to forgo cable television. By the end of the first week I noticed an ever increasing amount of begging on the part of my son for products he was exposed to by watching television. Suddenly, he was interested in ipods, video game, snow cone makers, and candy of all sorts. My son naturally likes to ask questions about the world around him but watching television clearly shifted his priorities from wanting to know about to materialism. I have to admit this mom loved being able to watch the Food Network, Animal Planet, and Discovery. I don’t however like the fact that television makes my children think “things” are the answer to joy and happiness.

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Gonnabe an actor?

This summer my oldest son will be participating in two different summer camps. Last summer he chose to try out basketball camp and a nature camp. This year he decided that basketball is not his thing and has chosen an theater camp. He really seems to enjoy all things dramatic but has never taken any formal training. I am just hoping he feels comfortable at the camp because some of the kids I know who will be going to the camp have been taking acting classes and are already very talented in this area.

A select few of these kids already seem to have that inner drive necessary for truly reaching stardom. If you know a child like this who has talent that really should be shared with the world? Then take a minute or two and get acquainted with Gonnabe
. Gonnabe is a social networking center for families and talent industry professionals to make connections. There are numerous resources available to Gonnabe users to make launching an on screen career possible.

Gonnabe even goes so far as to guarantee that each child using their services will at the very least be an extra or have a role in a show at some point during their career. As I see it that is a strong statement of belief in their services. Recently, Gonnabe signed with the well known G4tv which gives them firm ground to make these types of career promises. G4Tv has produced shows such as Kids Unlimited and Say What. G4tv programming appears in over 61 million homes every Saturday. For those children who dream of stardom and really want to do the work that this dream requires Gonnabe can streamline that process through their range of networking, training, and career development resources.

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Do we have to go back?

In the morning we head back home for the holiday weekend after being away for 10 days. Given all the stress our neighbors have caused in our lives over the last year being away this long has been a real treat. It makes it really hard to go back even for a couple of days and live next to people whose lifestyles we absolutely cannot stand. If it weren’t for the cost of renting a hotel for the weekend and our two cats we would probably just stay here. I wish there were type of cat condo in the area where we could house the cats for the next month. My boys are loving living the hotel life and especially the big old breakfast buffet every morning. Usually when I travel I simply cannot wait to get home and it kills me that our neighborhood has taken so much joy out of living our lives from us. We are trying to sell our house and leave this all behind us but that doesn’t seem to be going anywhere at all. I don’t know what else to do so I am simply going to take advantage of the chance to get away from it all.

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Me oh my.

What was supposed to be 6 weeks of training for my husband’s new job has now become 8 weeks. This wouldn’t be so bad if he were training closer to home. He is about 4 hours away and gets to come home for Friday and Saturday night. I have to admit I am just a wee bit envious of him. I know it is not like he is away on one of those fabulous Las Vegas travel getaways but still he is away from all the stress going on here at home. Not only am I left to manage the day to day lives of our children but also having our home constantly ready to show to perspective buyers. Yesterday, I had outpatient surgery so that is just another kink in the works. I was dealing pretty well with the idea of only having 3 more weeks of him being away but not it is 5 more weeks and that is just aggravating. I really hope this will all be a great thing for our family.

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I like pressure washing!

My parents lent us their pressure washer and I have to say I find it a great deal of fun to use. I found myself pressure washing everything from the children’s swing set to our outdoor furniture. It really does a great job getting off any mud or mold that has developed from being out in the elements. There is just something refreshing about being able to just stand back and point the gun at something and see it look like new before your eyes. Maybe I have found my new vocation LOL!

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One more thing to worry about.

When I was at the hospital yesterday getting registered for my surgery the hospital stated that I had no insurance coverage. After much discussion and phone calls it was determined that the insurance company had made and error and neglected to enroll anyone but my husband on the new insurance policy. With all the traveling we are doing back and forth to visit my husband while he is away I am wondering if we need to look into travel health insurance just in case the problem isn’t entirely fixed. It worries me to think that we could be traveling several hundred miles a week with no insurance.

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Want to loose weight?

If you want to loose weight I have found the secret answer. It doesn’t require you to do any research looking for diet pill reviews or scour the internet for answers. All you have to do to loose weight is send your husband away for 6 weeks, add two high needs children, neighbors that need tri-weekly police intervention, and a dose of insomnia. For extra fast weight loss put your house up on the market and add in a part-time job as wells as impending surgery. Mix all of these things together and shake vigorously. This recipe guarantees a weight loss of 5-7 pounds per week.

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I almost forgot!

With everything that is going on in our lives I almost forgot that this weekend is Father’s day. My husband could really use some new golf shoes. Things are a little tight right now because of some other unexpected expenses so I am going to have to search around for the best buy possible. We have so much going on that I don’t know exactly when or how I am going to get it all done. He may just end up getting a card promising a new pair of golf shoes when things have settled down a bit more.

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Network with other pet lovers at Zootoo

I come from a family of animal lovers. It has been really fun as a parent to watch my own children develop the same affinity. My oldest son has been begging for a dog for the last several years and has been told that when he is 10 he can get one. We have been searching for the perfect type of dog for our family for quite a while. We already have several pets in our home but do not have a dog. I find networking with other pet owners is a great way to get a solid idea of the realities of owning various pets is a good idea. One place I have been doing this is at ZooToo.com.

This site offers a wealth of information about pets of all types. The Pet Social Network at ZooToo is a great way to connect with other pet owners on a regional and global scale who share common interests. Better yet is the fact that ZooToo is a wonderful support network for pet lovers who want to create the best world possible for all animals. I really like the idea that by participating in the ZooToo community is possible to earn points to help local animal shelters. When members aren’t connecting with each other in the ZooToo community ZooToo is a place to have fun, learn new information, participate in various events, and research pet related products and services. We have been learning about various breeds of dogs as a family and have found ZooToo a great resource. Right now my son thinks the perfect dog for our family would be a Boston Terrier. I can’t wait to hear what the other ZooToo members have to say about this breed!

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Warm but not personal.

Selling a house is a kind of weird experience when you are still living in the house. What is even funnier is when your neighbors are trying to sell their house also. To make the situation more interesting we are using the same agent. The advice we have each been given is entirely different. We took steps prior to placing our house on the market to make it as welcoming as possible. This included taking down all of our picture frames and decorative items and painting each room in warm but neutral colors. Our agent said that these were really great moves to make. On the other hand she told our neighbors that this was not necessary because they still had to live in the house while it was on the market. Maybe this is because they haven’t really taken steps to depersonalize their home. I just find it odd. She does say our house shows very well and is warm and welcoming.

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Where to put things?

We have placed all of our office furniture in storage. This was done in an attempt to make our home feel more spacious when people come to look at it. It has left me with a bit of a dilemma as to what to do with our computer. We don’t really have an office space or room making it a bit difficult to determine what to do with all of the office equipment we have. I suppose I could buy another desk to put in the dining room but this kind of defeats the purpose of moving the desk we had into storage. For now it is sitting on our breakfast bar which is not very appealing to look at but serves the purpose.

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Wrong address.

We have a new mailman. For the most part he does a very good job of making sure our mail makes it to our house. Every so often we do seem to get someone else’s mail. It makes me giggle to think that our mailman possibly thinks that I am shopping for renaissance costumes in addition to getting a monthly subscription to Big Rig Trucker. Obviously, as a stay at home mom I try to keep informed of the latest developments in a number of areas but trucking and costumes are not on my list right now. Ask me when things have settled down and I might feel differently but for now all I can focus on is raising my kids and planning for the future.

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Alone (sort of)

For the first time in a very long time my husband is traveling without me. He started a new job which requires him to go away for 6 weeks of training. Right now I envy him although I am sure after a few weeks of living in one of those cheap hotels he will be dreaming of his own bed. With everything that is going on here I would love to be able to just step away from it all even for a few days. Six weeks is a very long time to live in a hotel but I would certainly take a week or two off his hands without a bit of complaining.

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What we have is…

Our meeting tonight with the real estate agent went really well. It was nice to hear from an unbiased source what our house is like. While we don’t have fancy features like one of those custom built home gyms we do have what she called “a nice home”. That is really reassuring to hear after all the work that we have put into to it over the last few months. Now we just have to hope that someone else out there walks into our house and get the same impression. What would be even better is if they give us a solid bid on the house! Even better than that would be if that offer is within our range of acceptable offers! It is time for the waiting game to begin.

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Renew vows?

We will celebrate 17 years of marriage soon. For a long time I have thought about having a simple ceremony to renew our vows. The thing is I don’t think that they need renewing because we haven’t strayed from them. What I really want is a celebration of our marriage. I don’t need a big bunch of hoopla or the worry of looking for the right bridesmaid gifts. It would just be nice to a have recognize the joys we have shared together over what amounts to half our lives with those who mean the most to us.

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Spring blues.

This spring really isn’t as pretty as it usually is around here. Things have just been cold and damp for so long it doesn’t seem like spring is really here. In my mind I envision myself staying at one of those North Padre Island rentals. The problem is when I open my eyes all I see is gray skies and gloominess. Hopefully, this all goes away soon and we can finally start to enjoy warm breezes and sunny days. If it doesn’t we may just need to plan a getaway because I am not sure how much longer I can stand this gloom. It feel like I have up and moved to Seattle or something. At least the people in Seattle have chosen to live in that kind of climate. We are suppose to get hit with bitter winters and then be rewarded with glorious spring and summer weather. Someone forget to send the glorious weather this year.

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Where is it now?

In packing up my entire life into boxes we seem to have lost a number of items. Lost may not be the right word in this case. I am sure that when we finally collect our belongings from our storage unit and move them to our new house it will probably be like Christmas. I am really hoping to find our missing SD card, my date book, and a number of other things I just can’t find. No matter how carefully I tried to pack things somehow stuff that wasn’t supposed to be packed up ended up being slipped into our packing crates. My packing “helper” gets frustrated with the process and creates these wonderful collections of items that all get thrown together in a box and labeled “stuff”. My boxes on the other hand have detailed listings on the outside and contain like items grouped into corresponding crates. Who do you think might have accidentally misplaced my date book and SD card? I think we all know who to point the finger at right? :)

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Bad Tim Horton’s Manager!

I love Tim Horton’s coffee. In the last few years I would almost say I am addicted to it. In fact my toddler already says “coffee, double double, Equal”. This is toddler slang for the slang I use to order my morning coffee. As much as I love Tim Horton’s I read a new blip that got me riled up about the recent firing of a Tim Horton’s franchise employee in Canada. Apparently store cameras filmed a worker giving a Tim Bit to a frustrated toddler while waiting in line. The manager considered this stealing since the employee did not charge the child’s parent for the pastry. The employee ultimately was fired over a 16 cent piece of pastry. When the story hit the new she was backed up by outraged patrons who felt the firing was unjustified. The employee is reported as saying “I should have gone to my purse to get the change but it was so busy I couldn’t”. You have to wonder if this manager has EVER stood in any line anywhere with a screaming, hungry, fussy child either in their arms or in the arms of someone nearby. This thoughtful employee acted in the best interest everyone and likely actually promoted business for store by displaying a caring a compassionate “Tim Horton’s” identity. To bad that wasn’t true. Anyhow, the employee was ultimately offered her job back after the public outcry that resulted.

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It is the end?

I love working form home and have made enough money to supplement my husbands income quite nicely. When I first started I had 2 blogs and loads of ambition and now I have steady weekly work through multiple blogs. Now, hopefully, there will be reward for my diligence. I have recently signed up for an on-line medical transcription course and have been guaranteed a job when I am done and I learned about it through the blogging community I talk with. My husband is thrilled and realizes that if I finish this then this could be a full time job for me. There are risks though, like anything you do, something could happen and put a kink in our plans. If this is the case there is always my dream of being an online futures broker.

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Talk about POP

My husband and I have been working all winter to get the inside of our house finished to put it up for sale. Now that the weather has changed we can start to give the outside some needed attention. They say you need to have curb appeal to make a house POP to a potential buyer, you need to have something to grab their attention right off the bat. My husband has started to put the finishing touches on our porch that we screened in last summer. The last thing he had to do was to paint the porch the same color as our trim. To give it that finishing touch he even added a great hammock chair to match the all weather carpet. If he does anymore work like that I am surely going to have a hard time selling the place because it is just too cute.

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It will be fine.

We are going to be homeschooling our son next year. This is something I never ever thought I would be doing. After much research and discussion we have found a virtual charter school to enroll him in. This means he will be a public school student following a standard curriculum that meets all state requirements. The curriculum is awesome and offers tons of added things that you can’t get in elementary school such as foreign language options. We recognize many people don’t get the whole homeschooling thing but in our situation we have to do what is best for our son and this seems to be it. My in-laws are definitely going to have problems with the idea. I already discussed it with my mother-in-law who stated she was fine with it. The next day she was at our house requesting a private lunch date with my husband. I know my father-in-law is going to expound on how my son will never get into college and all that nonsense. What they will refuse to believe is that when it finally comes time for our son to start filling those resume templates is no one is going to care that he went to a virtual elementary school. They will be too busy drooling over the fact that he attended Harvard.

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Normal, normal, and normal.

In the last few weeks I have had several different types of tests performed. Thankfully all of them came back normal. There was few tense moments after my mammogram but the report in the mail said everything was normal. I also had an MRI of my neck which was normal. The other tests were lab work and whatnot. This is all good stuff because I would hate for anything to be wrong. You never know when stuff like this will come back to bite you when you are getting life insurance quotes or whatnot. Aside from that my family needs me to be okay and I need to be here for them. The only troubling thing is when you go to the doctor for something pain related and they can’t find anything wrong with you. This is especially bothersome when you are like me and never go to the doctor unless something is really bothering you.

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Read this~

I just finished reading a book called “Every Good and Perfect Gift”. This is book ended up being not quite what I expected based on the cover. This book depicts the life long friendship between two women. The story centers around a pact they made when getting married to their husbands )who also happen to be best friends) that they would never bring children into this imperfect world. Well, at the age of 40 one of them suddenly decides that she wants a baby. This of course is not an easy road to hoe and requires infertility interventions of all types. I thought this might be where the story ends but it only begins here. After the miracle baby enters the world strange things begin to happen to the mom as her memory begins to fail. Thus ensue a journey no one expects that tests the limits of friendship. Read it.

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He’s fascinated.

Our littlest man is suddenly fascinated with coloring and drawing. Given that he isn’t even two this seems a little weird to me. Anytime he sees bic pens, crayons, or markers he immediately cries “color” ! This means he wants a piece of paper and a writing implement or else. Besides coloring he has already gotten a hang of the entire temper tantrum thing. My older son absolutely hates to color and always has which has been a problem in school. The only temper tantrum I am hard pressed not to give into is the little man’s desire to color. I would rather give in and let him color than have to battle him later to do so when he has no interest in it at all.

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I miss walking.

When school started last year my walking partner bailed on me. Since then the only exercise I get is chasing my kids here and there. I really miss walking and talking with another adult. This time was great for my body, mind, and spirit. My friend has more things on her plate than she can find time for and I apparently am now one of those things. Maybe I will just crack open a bottle of diet pills and be done with it. I am sort of in one of those moods where I am tired of people who only need you when they need you and forget you are alive the rest of the time.

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Light and bright.

We are down to the wire in terms of getting our house ready to sell. It is funny though you can put a ton of work into something and people will only notice the little things. For instance I took down all of the window treatments in our house and replaced them with roller shades. Our window treatments looked okay but didn’t let much light in. We had my mother-in-law over and these were the only thing she commented on. Not a word about the fresh paint in every room or new wall coverings but there was much said about the roller shades.

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What gives?

Why is it that some of us are doomed to have crappy skin? I thought acne was a thing only teenager dealt with. During my pregnancies my skin never looked better but any other time it is hit or miss. I can pretty much guarantee o ne week a month that my favorite acne treatment will be my best friend. No matter how much I change my diet or whatnot my skin still breaks out. I know stress plays a role as does caffeine but those are two things my life seems destined to contain. It would just be nice to be able to walk out of the house confident that my skin looks great without the application of various makeup tools in my arsenal of beauty supplies. Maybe one day I will live a stress free life and give up caffeine and my dream will come true.

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A normal “mommygram”

This week I went for my first “mommygram”. Really it was my first mammogram but my older son overheard me scheduling the appointment a few weeks ago and asked what a “mommygram” was and the name kind of stuck in my head. Anyhow after a nervous couple of days I got a letter in the mail stating I am “normal”. These were words I wanted to hear because the technician had to retake a few pictures. She said I had “calcifications”. Of course my knowledge seeking self immediately got online and learned far more than I needed to about this process. Given all the fertility drugs, progesterone treatments, and medications I had to take in order to bring my babies into the world I always worry about long term effects these might have had on my body. Considering how helpful as these medical treatments were to me I wouldn’t change a thing. I am however very glad to be “normal”.

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Toddler antics.

What do you do with a toddler who thinks everything in the house was meant for him to climb on? The littlest boy in our house is always on the move. The child never stops moving from morning until night he goes and goes just like the Energizer Bunny. He is always on the hunt for new things to climb on. It is as if every piece of furniture is a mountain that he must scale. Today’s project was to sit on top of the television. His fascination with climbing on the television waxes and wanes. Today he simply could not let go of the idea that it would be good to sit on the television. I have tried everything from stacking crates around it to blocking it and he stills manages to wiggle around stuff and start his journey to reach the summit. I really wish there was something along the lines of a plasma tv mount for regular old televisions that didn’t look ridiculous. I can just imagine our big old television sprouting off the wall! Maybe tomorrow he will choose something easier to climb and less dangerous like the toy box.

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Spring break fever.

We aren’t even 1 week through our two week spring break and my older son already has cabin fever. What is compounding this is the fact that all the children in our neighborhood have gone away. There isn’t a soul around for him to play with. His little buddy down the street is away with his parents and grandparents at one of those Hilton Head rentals. I must say I am just a bit envious of them but we just can’t afford that type of luxury at the moment with all the home rehab projects we have going on. I am trying desperately to get the kids outside to the playground and whatnot. Thank goodness he is spending a couple days with his grandma so both of us have a diversion from the boredom he is feeling and persistently verbalizing.

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Stocking up.

We have made a huge decision about our older son’s education. Next fall we will begin schooling at home via a charter school program. The school will supply the curriculum, a computer, printer, and most of the supplies we will need for assignments. My son is super excited about the prospect because of all the cool science and art project we will get to do. He is already planning what he wants to build for the robotics competition the school hosts and is pestering his dad to let him try out his air tools and soldering supplies. I am thrilled to think that finally he might be in an academic situation where he will truly be challenged and his learning needs met. Now I just need to start budgeting for all those robotics supplies!

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Itchy!

Why is when someone starts talking about itching suddenly the listener (me) starts feeling itchy also? If I even overhear a conversation about psoriasis treatment for the rest of the day my own scalp will feel so itchy! It sometimes gets so bad I will have to take a second shower just to try to wash the feeling away. Then because of the scratching my scalp will feel raw for the next few days. The moral of the story is that if you have an itchy scalp condition please don’t talk about it around me.

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Nice space!

The last couple of months I have had several doctor appointment. It seemed like the time had come to take care of myself. It had been a really long time since I had a routine physical or anything else. My doctor ordered a boatload of blood work. I didn’t realize our hospital had gone through so many renovations. Not only was I the recipient of first class clinical laboratory service but really appreciated the clean, spacious, and state of the art office space. It was really nice to sit in a comfy chair with a big screen television and new magazines. The best part was not having to spend the entire morning there waiting to be seen!

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My online life.

Some people need the hustle and bustle of running from here to there for everything in life. I am not one of those people AT ALL! There was a point in time when I like to be on the go. This was sometime before 9/11 and sometime before when gas hit $3.00 or more a gallon. Now that I have high speed internet and a connection to the world that is unparalleled for what my small town offers my life is almost completely managed online. I order many of my groceries online and they are shipped for free to my front door. My husband and I both have attended college classes online and our son will begin a virtual charter school in the fall. I have even shopped for auto insurance online. This isn’t to say I am a hermit but it does make life ever so much simpler and really frees me up to enjoy time with family and friends because I am not always out running errands.

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Too big to whine.

Someone in my house is whining and complaining about something trivial in the big scheme of things. What that someone wants me to do is to tell them to just leave well enough alone and that I will handle the situation. What that someone really wants is to go and hide in the basement and play with his DeWalt tools while I put this problem to bed. This is one time where whining is not going to get him anywhere. I am burnt out at this time of night and just can’t give in like I tend to do. This is one of those moments when I am very thankful for ear plugs.

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Don’t ever say never.

If you asked me a few years ago what I thought of the notion of home schooling my response would have been pretty negative. Home schooling was always something that overly controlling parents opted to do. My standpoint was that this was fine for some people but not for our family. As my child approach school age this perspective started to shift to a more middle of the road standpoint. As our son has now just shy of 3 years of public school experiences under his belt my viewpoint has changed radically. Public schools have failed him on so many levels. This week, after much soul searching, we began the enrollment process for a virtual charter school. It be nice to not have to worry about how his needs aren’t being met by public school or how his self-esteem is being eroded by less than nice classmates. What is great about the school we will be working with is that it is a self-paced program. This means he has control over how fast or how much he learns about a topic. For example, if he get a yearning to know more about religious jewelry then we can spend time doing this. If he wants to learn about volcanoes then we will learn about volcanoes. No longer will he have to be held back by the learning needs of other students or the stringent rules of a typical classroom.

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Brown spots.

Getting older? I think that I am finally starting to feel older than say 28. One thing I have noticed is more and more little spots on my skin. Each week it seems like there is a new little brown spot here or there to greet me. I wonder if any of the skin whitening products on the market would fade these? I can only imagine how gorgeous they will look after I spend my summer days outside in the sun with the kids. Maybe I need to invest in one of those giant wide brimmed hats you see all the celebrities wear. I don’t quite think I could carry it off with the same pizazz but it probably would be better than looking polka dotted by the end of summer.

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Stupid head!!!

I am almost positive that the dent I just found in my van was put there by our lovely neighbors. I am not sure when it happened but I think it had to be when they came barreling up our shared driveway, which I wouldn’t recommend anyone ever getting, at around three in the morning from their most recent round of bar hopping. I am sure that my car insurance will cover it but that is hardly the point. I am very close to filing a civil suit as I am also sure that there is something that I can sue them for. Knowing my luck, and due to the amount of beer that they drink, I doubt there would be much return on my judgment.

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Where did they go?

The ding dongs next door disappeared. This has been a blessing in our lives that I can’t describe. I can only hope they bought some Branson property or something else that far away. The reality is they are probably hiding from the police or something more along those lines. For tens months they made our lives miserable with parties, drugs, and fights in the street. Where I live is not the type of neighborhood that is used to this type of lifestyle. My prayer is that they never come back. The reality is that at some point I am sure they will because I haven’t read about them in newspaper.

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100,000 mile check.

I never go to the doctor but the time has come when I can’t put it off anymore. There is almost no part of my body that will go unchecked in the next few months. I kind of figure that if I am going to have to meet my deductible I might as well take advantage of the coverage I have. Tomorrow I will finally see someone about the pain that has been plaguing my neck, shoulder, and back. It gets to the point where I can’t sleep or lift my left arm. The last time this happened about 8 years ago the doctor gave me some injections that worked wonders. I am hoping the same thing happens this time. The only thing more appealing to me right now would be if he said that I needed to pack my Rimowa bags and head off for a nice long vacation in the sun. Since I don’t think that is going to happen I guess I will just daydream about a nice cortisone injection instead.

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Does it matter?

The thought occurred to me that if our house doesn’t sell that we could always rent it out. This isn’t really something we want to do but something we would consider if need be. What I wonder is if this would require any kind of special home owner insurance? It seems like there must be something you can do to protect your home when you aren’t there to do so. I imagine it all depends on the type of financing you have whether renting is even possible. These are all things I really need to look into just to be sure.

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Everything goes!

There is something really liberating about purging your home of stuff you have been hanging onto for years. In 17 years of marriage we have accumulated a lot of stuff. So many things we have kept thinking that someday we will need it. The problem is that we never really get around to using the majority of these things. Finally, I have reached the point in life where I am no longer needing a bunch of stuff to make me feel safe. Therefore the Salvation Army has been our new best friend. Rather than wait for summer to come so we can have a garage sale we decided to donate everything. When I say everything I really mean it. We have hauled off not only clothes but a couple of van racks and many pieces of computer equipment. It feels really good so see spacious and uncluttered areas in our home.

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Thoughts in my head…

Have you ever played “In A Pickle”? One thing this game asks you to do is announce for each play you make “there are thoughts in the head”. Today my thoughts are straying towards the topic of mortgage lenders. It occurred to me that we haven’t even considered whether we will have problems qualifying for a new mortgage should our home sell. The news is saying it will be much harder for people to get credit in this economy. I would hate to sell my home only to find out that for some reason we don’t qualify for a new mortgage! What do you think?

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Doing it again.

There are moments when I cannot believe that I am once again finding myself packing up to move. The last time I did this was four years ago. At that time as I slid a box across a truck bed liner I swore it would be the last time. Life has a way of showing you that you just can’t ever say “never”. The strange thing is that this time I really have no clear idea about what the future holds. Normally I plan everything the most finite detail and this time I am just sort of winging it and trusting that someone smarter than me is in charge.

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Will it sell?

Every day the news keeps talking about how bad the housing market it. They never really specify if it is everywhere or just in big cities. I would love to know how things here in Western New York compares with Winter Park real estate. Our newspaper recently reported that the market was still solid here but things change so quickly it really is hard to tell. Since we are getting ready to put our house on the market my mind if filled with thoughts about what we will do if our home doesn’t sell.

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Tantrum time.

One of those miraculous times in childhood is creeping up on us. It is becoming very clear that my almost two year old son will without a doubt test the limits in every way possible. This includes stretching the limits of the “terrible twos” as much as possible. For the last three days he has had a tantrum over something. These are brief little bouts of pouting but full out screaming for 1 hour or more. Finally, when nothing else would soothe him I popped in a movie and sat down next to him and waited it out. Thank goodness for closed captioning! It was definitely made for mommies of two year olds.

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Freshening things up.

One thing I have always hated is overpowering fragrances. Some people love the smell of strong candles and air fresheners but I am just not one of them. This is really because most of the time I end up having an allergic reaction to these scents. This is the time of year that for some reason I simply can’t stand the way my house smells. I think it stems from being shut inside all winter. Recently I discovers soy candle tarts online and decided to give them a try. I purchase a tart warmer and set it up in the kitchen next to freshly painted walls, newly redone faucet, and sparkling sink. It took a great deal of work to get the sink as shiny as the new faucet but it looks almost as good as one of those Blanco sinks. Somehow the new faucet, fresh paint, and the decorative tart warmer my kitchen has really warm feeling it didn’t have before. What is great about the tarts is so far my allergies have not been driving me crazy. It is really nice to walk inside to a nice smelling and fresh looking home.

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I think I’m thinking ahead??

My husband makes fun of me for how far i advance I will do something. The joke was that I was planning my wedding before I met him and already had the color of his tux already picked out. Well the summer will be here before you know it and so will camping. I thought it would be a good idea to get a jump on it and go and get some travel supplies that I know we are going to need while they are on sale. My husband does not share my enthusiasm for thinking ahead and when I asked him if he wanted to come with me I knew the answer before he opened his mouth to make the crack that, “You probably planned for that to didn’t you?”. Actually I did because if I take him with me I wouldn’t be able to get the grocery shopping done that I have been planning all week.

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You gotta be kidding

My son is in Cub Scouts and fund raisers are part of the gig of being the mother of a Cub Scout. What really gets me is that the cost of popcorn this years is not even close to what it was last year. I can understand that the purpose is to raise money for things like camp and the pine wood derby but to raise it $3.00 is just highway robbery. I feel like I need to go get one of those popcorn machines you see in a movie theater and go into business for myself and give troop 115 a run for their money.

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Up UP and away!!!

I love my son. He has always been one of those kids who has a book in his hand and loves to talk to you about what he has read or reading about. Recently we got him a copy of this years Farmers Almanac which he took to like a duck to water. After about an hour or so of flipping through it he went over to our staircase and asked for a tape measure. Being that it seemed to be sa harmless request I told him where he could get one from and went on with what I was doing. Later on I found him at our desk writing a letter. I asked him what he was doing and he said he was going to order us a stair lift from the almanac as he found an advertisement for one. His reasoning was, as usual, simple and concrete as he knew we were going to be too old some day to climb the stairs and he didn’t think he would be able to carry us. Gotta love him.

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Clean up in aisle five

So now that the flu has past it’s time for clean up. Don’t get me wrong, I have been cleaning right along now for the past two weeks and have seen more laundry than I care to, but now comes that deep clean. Door knobs have to be washed, handles have to be disinfected, and there is a group down comforters that I just have to send out to be dry-cleaned as they seemed to be the only thing that my kids would wrap themselves in before and after some bodily fluid left their body. The goal for this is to make sure that all of the germs are gone and no one can get re-infected. Granted, I risk getting it all over again but if it means just having to clean up after myself and getting away from my family for a while the risk would be worth it.

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Alaska here I come

It’s funny how a couple weeks of the flu can change ones mindset. It started with my oldest son and seems to have worked its way through the entire family with the end finally in sight. I have washed at least 30 loads of laundry, bought several two liter bottles of soda, and have seen more bodily fluids than I care to see. I want a vacation and I want it now!!! My husband agrees and had good albeit crazy suggestion for a trip. We are actually thinking about one of those cruises to Alaska. The part about working on a fishing boat is not part of my plans but if it gives me some alone time without dealing with some form of sickness I guess I could learn how to pull in a net and chum.

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Time for a security box.

Most of our stuff is going to be going into storage while we try to sell our house. It occurred to me this week that I really can’t keep my good jewelry in our home with strangers coming in and out of it randomly. I am thinking that the best thing to do it to get a security box at the bank to store my fine and designer jewelry in while the house is listed. It really is weird to think that people will be looking in my drawers and cupboards. I suppose that is just one of the things you have to deal with when selling a house that you are still living in. At this point whatever it takes to sell the house is worth dealing with in my opinion.

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Choose wisely.

We have been giving stuff away left and right lately. This has become an increasingly pain free process as the weeks have progressed. The only bumps in the road have been in deciding who to offer this stuff to before taking it to charity. My husband has always felt we should offer stuff to our parents first. My problem with this that both of our families tend to hang onto to more stuff than they really should. I really don’t think we need to offer every blanket or baking sheet to our parents. Certainly, if I were giving away a Patek Philippe watch or something really special it would only seem right to offer it to our family first. My husband finally saw my point when he realized that everything we give to our parents now is one more thing we will inherit 20 years from now and have to deal with again. Now we only offer free stuff to friends or those we know who are really in need.

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Would never have dreamed

I had, what was a one point a close friend, call me the other day. We had been out of touch with each other for many years as both of our families had been on a moving spree. Eventually it just became too much of a chore to track her down which is what I assumed was difficult for her too, boy was I wrong. She struggled with it for most of the conversation but eventually admitted that she had been struggling with methamphetamines for quite some time and was trying to hide it from her friends and her family. After her recent divorce and almost losing her kids she decided that it was time to go somewhere for addiction treatment and went to an inpatient rehab for 90 days. She has been clean now for 5 mos and has her kids living with her. She almost made me cry when she told me she wanted to rekindle healthy relationships with people and could not think of anyone she would rather start that with than with me. We are having coffee with our kids this week.

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Letchworth here we come

My family has really gotten onto camping over the last couple of years and we have just recently scheduled a nine day stretch at Letchworth Park in early May. Upon researching different camping areas in New York I found a number of websites that, should the opportunity arise, would give us great travel deals to campsites around the US. Most of these deals are based around a particular event that is happening at that time in that park. Strange though, I could not find any mention of the Rainbow Peoples convention at Allegheny Park in the early summer.. You would think that a band of loud stinky hippies would be a great attraction for those looking for a quiet, peaceful weekend at Red House.

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What to do…What to do

My husband and I have come into some money recently and are trying to figure out what to do with it. We have passed those impulsive ideas like going to Vegas, getting a new car, buying a small island in the south pacific, and have settled on the logical grown-up choice of investing it. We have started to do some market research and have quickly become overwhelmed with this choice also. My father in law suggested we go to a financial investor such as Dean Witter and talk to someone about a direction to start the journey in. Between you me and the wall, going to Vegas is sounding better and better all the time.

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Something must be done!

The pain in my neck and back has returned with a fury. For a while I thought it might be due to my pillow needing replaced. A new pillow made no difference so I tried getting one of those physio balls to use as an office chair. I read that these were great for people who work at desks to improve posture and relieve back pain. After about 2 hours I have to switch back to my regular chair because my lower back goes numb. My old office chair makes my shoulder and elbow hurt because the arms are too high. I would adjust or take them off but they are mounted in one place. Maybe what I need to get is a massage chair? It certainly would feel so much better than my current arrangement. My parents have a sofa that heats and massages and it feels wonderful. If my couch weren’t so new I would get one for our home. A massage chair would be a great compromise and I could work at the laptop while getting a great massage. Now, I just need to convince my husband this would a good business “investment”.

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Squeezed at the dump.

Last weekend my husband took a van load of stuff to the dump. Usually when we have done this type of thing the fee was only a few dollars. This time because most of what he had was old computer equipment the fee was a per item charge rather than a flat fee. He came back complaining about being ripped off. My only thought was that maybe now he will be less likely to take every piece of used cisco or computer equipment that someone offers him. His father and my brother both work in the computer industry and are always trying to give us one thing or another that we really don’t need. Maybe they new just how much the dump charged to take the stuff and thought they would save a few bucks and pawn all of this stuff off on my husband.

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What to do now?

If there is something to climb on or into my youngest son will find it lately. This weekend he fell and hit his head three times in a row. Our home is as secure as I can possibly make it yet he still finds a way to get into trouble. This weekend he decided that dancing on the television stand was a good idea. I caught him just in time before he tumbled to the ground. I don’t know if a tv lift cabinet would solve the problem but we have to do something. Almost every piece of furniture has been removed from our living room because he either climbs on it or stacks something on it in an attempt to reach something else. Short of sitting on the floor there isn’t much left to be removed. I love to see him test his abilities and problem solve but there has to be a better way to go about it.

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Budding athlete?

My youngest son is clearly his own little person. Until we had two children I never believed that children could be so different at such a young age. This little guy is clearly going to be the more adventurous of my two kids. My older son is thoughtful and cautious whereas my little guy just dives into anything and everything. My husband is convinced that he takes after him and will be extremely athletic. If this is true I had better start looking for Sports Authority coupons now because he is going to break my wallet for sure! That is of course if he doesn’t break something else first. Having no fear is a wonderful quality in some situations but it is proving to be a test of not only my nerves but my ability to baby proof our home.

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Hospitalization worries.

My Mom called yesterday to tell me that my Dad is in the hospital. This is always a cause for concern but even more so in his case. The last time my Dad was hospitalized he became extremely ill once there. Despite have notes in his chart detailing his allergies he was given a medicine that he is extremely allergic to. He now wears a medical bracelet and hopefully this prevents the problem from happening again. The last time he ended almost being placed in a nursing home not because of the original illness that caused his hospitalization but from the long term effects of the drug he was accidentally prescribed. His legs became so swollen he couldn’t walk for for quite some time.

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Liam and the Bee

My son loves words and is not shy about showing you haw well he can spell them. Words such as catalog, mississippi anddirectbuy are just a few that he has recently learned. The interesting thing is that he has just learned how to use the dictionary. So now it is not uncommon to find him in his reading chair not with Robinson Crusoe or Moby Dick, but with his copy of Webster dictionary. So now my days is filled with the beginning sentence of, “Mom, do you know how to spell…” , with his only intention being to spell it for me as it is the word he is currently looking at. Heaven help us if he figures out what an encyclopedia is for.

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Just a little behind.

This weekend I found myself with a rare bit of time on my hands. I decided this was a good time to catch up on my email. I keep several different email accounts for various purposes. One account I almost forgot about entirely. When I went to check this account there were over 1200 emails in the inbox. There was notices offering me everything from Cat5e to Pizza Hut discounts. Amongst the hundreds of emails I found a couple of emails from friends that I don’t even remember giving that email account address. I feel lousy because one of my friends had emailed me to announce the birth of her fourth child! Do you think it would be really tacky to send a gift 6 months later? The truth is that I really just found out but it just seems awfully late on my part. I suppose a gift now is better than no gift at all.

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Searching high and low.

For the last week I had been looking for some way to relieve the pain in my neck and back. I have looked everywhere for a comfortable desk chair and a decent pillow. I have looked at everything from Coaster furniture, ergonomic task chairs, and even memory foam pillows. My husband thinks the solution is to go to the doctor but I don’t see how that is going to help muscle aches and pains. The problem lies somewhere in the way that I am sleeping and the position in which I sit at my desk. I keep thinking if I correct one of these the problem will go away. I just hate that I will have to keep trying one thing or another to find resolution. This must be one of the few downfalls to working for yourself. I can’t really blame the company for giving me a crappy work station or a poorly designed chair can I?

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Easy Entertainment

My oldest son is going on nine years old and still loves to watch heavy equipment at work. To his joy a large assortment of earth moving equipment came to the house next door allowing him to sit on his porch and watch them work. Apparently they dug up some cables they needed to call the cable and electric company for before they could go any further. My son, being the inquisitive person that he is, walked up to the group of workers and asked them what they had found. Turns out that they were a cluster of fiber optic cables that they needed to figure out how to dig around to get to a pipe another two or three feet below. They ended up staying there for 5-6 days keeping my son busy watching and them busy answering all of his questions from the porch.

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A little help please!

For the most part my family is fairly neat and tidy. We do tend to go through spurts of messiness from time to time. I don’t know what happens but it seems like everyone seems to collectively forget that they aren’t living in a hotel in Vegas. There is laundry stacked knee deep in the basement and toys strewn from one end of the house to the other. I have to remind myself that underneath the clutter things really are clean. The chaos of it all does wear on me. Maybe, I need to send them all a bill for “housekeeping” since they seem to think I am the maid at this hotel.

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Wants and needs.

In preparation for shopping for a new home we have started to make a list of things we want versus things we need. One thing that is an absolute must is to have our own private driveway. Currently, we have a shared driveway which has been a huge hassle this last year. The good thing is that my husband and I are on the same page for most of these things. We would love to find a home with one of those tankless water heaters but it isn’t a deal breaker. Having two bathrooms is almost a must have item. We are finding that getting the entire family out the door on time can be a real pain with just one bathroom. For the most part our needs are very simple. A bit of land in a quiet area is all we really need at this point. After the chaos of living in this neighborhood sharing a bathroom is a small price to pay for regaining your sanity.

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What is mine?

Selling a house is completely foreign to me. I really think that we are going to need to do some homework before putting our house on the market. When we bought our house it was completely empty. Even the windows were barren of curtains. There was no question whether the light fixtures or appliances came with the house. Trying to sell your house while you are still living there seems like it could really be a hassle. For instance, will everyone looking at the house assume that stuff like the curtains or the porch swing come with the house? There are so many things to think about it makes my head spin. We are trying to get everything possible out of the house so there won’t be a question but some things just have to stay in order to continue living here as long as possible.

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Purging.

This weekend proved to be quite productive despite the bad weather. We were able to accomplish quite a bit more in terms of purging our attic of unnecessary items. The goal is that we will put our house up for sale this spring. Should the house sell we will likely live with family for a short time while we very carefully look for a new home. Because our stuff will be going into storage we are being very liberal with what we get rid of. The only thing I can see being a problem will be when the time comes to purge the basement. Our basement is essentially tool storage for all of the endless collection of “toys” my husband has amassed in our 16 plus years of marriage. Asking him to part with any of these items will be like pulling teeth. Mind you some of these things are still in the box they came in many years ago. We may need a separate storage locker just for him when it is all said an done.

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He cares about the environment.

Our 8 year old is an amazing kid. He knows stuff that just astounds me when I hear it coming out of his young mouth. The other day he asked me about the things I was interested in. When I was done telling him I asked about what he was currently really interested in. He informed me that he wants to start a club at school to work to save the rain forest because it is in danger. He went one step further to suggest that we become more environmentally aware in our house. Aside from recycling his other plans for our home include buying different eco products that are environmentally safe. The funny thing was when I suggested he be put in charge of rinsing out the various things he wants to recycle he suggested that “maybe” I should be in charge of that job.

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The image in the mirror.

In between loads of laundry today I decided to do a little self assessment and spend a few minutes looking in the mirror. What I found was not entirely objectionable. Having lost a good twenty pounds in the last years I certainly feel more confident in what I wear. My clothes definitely hang better than they once did. No longer am I drawn to long tops and bulky layers. There are certain things like my “mummy tummy” that will always be there to some degree but that is a badge of honor in my humble opinion. It felt good to not walk away from my inspection and feel like beating myself up afterward or run for the nearest box of cookies.

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Small business planning.

About a month ago I began taking courses to prepare me for starting my own small business. I have always wanted to have my own business. Working for myself from home, for the last year, has given me a really good taste of just how much of a market there is for specific types of small businesses. While building up my skill base I have begun looking into various services I will need to make my business a success. One thing that will be essential is a high quality telephone system. At first the costs of such services really put me off thinking there was no way I could afford a great service and also get a business off the ground. Then I discovered Talkswitch. Talkswitch is one of the many business phone services and solutions offered by Neobits.

Talkswitch is a feature packed service that can truly be customized to fit the individual needs of each business. No matter how small a business offering customers all the luxury of a much bigger phone system is completely possible. In my case this will be ideal considering the business staff will initially consist of just me. Having a great phone system will definitely help to free me up to attend to other aspects of building my business.

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Take a seat and don’t move.

What is it about men and YouTube? What is it about watching people make fools of themselves for hours on end that is enlightening or entertaining? If you know please enlighten me because I have completely had it with this programming and all discussions of it. A grown man could certainly come up with a better way to spend his time instead of staring blanking at a computer screen all night. Especially considering all the chaos in our lives right now. We have a home to get packed and ready to sell. His wife has classes she needs to find time to work on in the midst of working part-time and raising children. There is discount furniture to be found to replace the worn out items we recently gave away. Most of all there are little boys who need quality one on one time instead of a view of the back of his head. Granted this isn’t the way it goes in my house but if it were this is how I would be feeling right now!

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What a Man!!

My wedding rings are special, charred, but special. My husband is the same way, just not charred. On a particularly busy day I placed my rings on our coffee table and forgot they were there. After a couple of days, and my cats knocking them on the floor, my husband thought he would be nice and vacuumed the floor, the rest is a nightmare. In the area we were in you could burn your garbage so he then decides to remove the vacuum bag and promptly burn it, and my rings. I come home and start freaking out as I take my marriage very seriously and look at those rings as something besides jewelry and my husband knows this. So he calmly goes to our laundry room where we keep the cat pan and grabbed the litter scoop and went out to the burn barrel. While it was still smoldering and getting burnt every so often, he sifted through the contents of the barrel for three hours until he miraculously found my rings. To this day I still have them and, even though he has offered to buy me new ones every year since then, I won’t give them up. These rings still represent my marriage to a wonderful man in that no matter how much “fire” we go through we will always work it out because, like these rings, our marriage is worth it.

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My Little Fighter.

My 17 month old is impossible. Eventually he will drive me to drink and then to alcohol rehab but when it is all said and done I will still consider him a miracle for being here. He fought very hard to stick around after his birth and seems to take that line of thinking with everything that he does, he just doesn’t quit. You could battle him 12,15, or 20 times to keep him off of the couch but in the end he will still get up there to “pat” the cat on the head to the point of a feline concussion. Thats just how he is. So right now he’s just simply impossible to deal with. Later on in life though that attitude will come in handy with some of the obstacles life will throw at him, like his own impossible child or children.

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Just another Toy…..NOT!!!

My husband got another toy the other day and I must say I think that this one is a keeper. The Bose home theater system he just got is so good that you swear that the person breathing in the movie is sitting next to you as they are doing it and that they are going to steal your popcorn. The only down side is that if you watch a movie like Star Wars and the volume is turned up too loud, you practically blow your eardrums out. The neighbors called the cops yesterday because my husband was watching The Matrix and they thought the gunfire coming from the movie was actually coming from our house. It’s a good thing we are not into watching adult movies.

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Good as Gold

My husbands works in an office where pens are like gold, in short supply and easily stolen. It’s nothing that anyone will be fighting over soon and my husband is just as guilty as anyone else. People get in a hurry and need to write something down quickly, they pick up the nearest pen and when they are done they simply forget to put it back. My husband has started putting his pens in his desk with the hopes that if they are out of site they will be out of mind. These pen pilferers are jokingly now being called “Bic Bandits” but I think the wanted posters are a long ways away.

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Lookin’ for a two piece.

It’s almost the end of the year ladies and it’s about time for those lame resolutions that revolve around losing weight and laying off the 2 gallons of ice cream that you usually have in a week and hitting the treadmill…….yeah right!!! This year my husband and I are going to shed those excess pounds with the help of a hoodia patch. Using this product while exercising will safely help me to a healthy body and into that two piece that my hubby got me for Christmas.

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Big Decisions, Big Changes

My husband and I have been discussing how we should update our term life insurance. The choices when we first opened each policy were either term or whole life which, we were told would provide a better return and act as a type of savings account after each policy is paid off. Our agent has been very good to us over the years and we are going to stick with them as we explore new options as I am sure that there are more than the two choices that we had originally started with to mke our future and possibly our childrens future a little more well off.

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Decisions Decisions

My hard drive is broken and for me this is a bad thing. I work at home to supplement my income with my husband’s so this has the potential to be really bad if I don’t get it fixed soon. I could talk to my geeky father-in-law but he seems to have the Tim Allen mentality about fixing things. My fear is that him replacing our hard drive could turn into an upgrade to disaster. My brother is also a computer geek but up until they caught the actual guy we considered turning him in for the reward for the unibomber. Between the two of them, pickins’ are slim.

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Moving to a big boy bed.

My youngest son is a very big baby. In fact he is the size of a three years old and is only one and a half. At his recent well child visit the pediatrician suggested that he might sleep better if we moved him to a bigger bed. Getting a good night of sleep would be a good exchange for having to pack up our beautiful baby furniture. My husband is concerned about how I will feel when we use the furniture for the last time. Since we aren’t having any more children this is a bitter sweet time of our baby’s childhood. It is amazing how many wonderful memories we tend to associate with simple furniture like baby cribs and rocking chairs. For now I am leaving the crib in the room beside the big boy bed for just a little while longer. Time really does fly doesn’t it?

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Time for a career change?

Having worked from home for the last year I question whether I ever want to return to the formal workplace. I love my current job but it is a temporary 1-2 year appointment. This has led me to look into all types of options for long term work at home opportunities. I have looked into working for a business performance management company and many other fields. Right now I am seriously considering taking some courses in medical transcription. The money is really good and there will always be a need for skilled people in this field. This job might at least in some way utilize my medical background and allow me to stay home with our young son for years to come.

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Where is the mail?

Somehow I must have gotten on every mailing list known to man. It seems like each day I go to the mail box and it is absolutely bulging. When I finally weed through all the fliers for orthopedic shoes, drug rehabs, and pizza coupons there may be a single envelope that is actually something I need to look at. It kills me to think of all the trees that are being cut down just so I these papers can enter my mail box only to be promptly filed in the trash.

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Almost done!

The majority of my Christmas shopping was done in the summer. I am just one of those people who cannot stand to pay seasonal “sale” prices or battle the crowds around the holidays. I love having my shopping done and being able to sit back and truly relax during the holiday break. I still need to get a few stocking stuffers for my children and husband. My husband has a great deal of paper work associated with his job so I am thinking about getting him a few custom pens for his stocking. The boys are pretty much happy with anything which makes filling their stockings an easy task. Pens, candy, and some trinkets and my holiday shopping is complete!

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Toddlers and Christmas trees?

It has been quite a while since we have had a really little person in the house. This year our son is just about 1.5 years old and there is nothing that he can’t get into given the right tools. If the right tool isn’t handy he will find a way to stack different items together to achieve his goal. Now that it is time to pull out the christmas decorations I am questioning just how much decorating we will do this year. I know that if we put a tree in the usual location he will pull it down on himself in a matter of minutes. Our older son still believes in Santa making it important that we keep every tradition going in full effect. I am wondering how silly a Christmas tree would look in our kitchen? The little one can’t get in there but Santa could definitely maneuver his way over the baby gates and safety locks! Any suggestions for pairing toddlers and Christmas trees?

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Thoughtful gifts.

My husband is one of those people who is just gifted at buying truly thoughtful gifts. Somehow he knows exactly what it is that each person on his gift list will appreciate. This is a knack that I envy. The only downside to his gift giving is that he really doesn’t concern himself with comparing prices and often pays far more for the gifts he gives than is necessary. For example, every few years he gives me a piece of pearl jewelry. This all started when he gave me a beautiful pearl ring for our first anniversary. Over the last 16 years of marriage I now own several beautiful pearl jewelry items. The hard part is when I see the over priced bills for these gifts roll in. I wish somehow I could direct him to look at the jewelry available at premiumpearl.com.

These are some of the beautiful pieces available at Premium Pearl. This pair of earrings is very similar to a pair I have in my jewelry chest. These earrings are priced at PremiumPearl.com at just $145.00! I can tell you that my husband spent at least twice that much at our local retail jewelry store. Premium Pearl offers an incredible selection of all types of pearls including Akoya, Tahitian, Freshwater, and South Sea Pearls. These items are available in all types of jewelry such as bridal sets, bracelets, and pendants. I can only imagine how large my pearl jewelry collection would be at this point had my husband discovered PremiumPearl.com before he purchased that first ring so many years ago!

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Changing rooms.

The idea occurred to me this week that one possible solution to coping with my noisy neighbors would be to change bedrooms. This would be quite a bit of work with no guarantee of a good nights rest when it is all said and done. Our son can sleep through just about anything and everything which would be great considering the proximity of our bedroom to the neighbors. Maybe before moving all the little stuff like the wall sconce, pictures, and knicknacks we should just move the bed and see how it goes. Of course there is always the chance the people on the other side will start acting up again and we will be no better off than we were in our old room. Moving really is the only solution to our problem but that is a couple years away at this point.

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Dear Santa,

Whenever somebody asks me what I need for Christmas I can never come up with something that I actually need right at that moment. Not long after I am usually able to come up with several ideas that I could really use. This year if anyone out there could direct Santa Claus this way I would really appreciate it. Maybe you could just tell him that I have a keen interest this year in microwave ovens. Both my microwave and regular stove decided to go on the fritz this week. All but one of the burners on my stove is working properly and my microwave seem to only be good for defrosting things.

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Out of touch.

I am beginning to think that I am loosing touch with the world. It has been several month since I have watch any thing on television or even read about current events. This is actually the way I prefer things except when it comes to keeping up casual conversation. During Thanksgiving dinner with my family a couple of people were discussing Jane Iredale and I had no idea what they were talking about. I suppose I really should look her up on Yahoo to find out what they were talking about. Maybe I will do that after the 10 loads of laundry waiting in the basement are done.

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Fees left and right.

What is the deal with some banks and outrageous fees? I just finished looking at our checking account and noticed that a fee was charged almost every time we used one of our local ATMs. Then I looked a little deeper and we were charged almost $10.00 just for the privilege of banking. I don’t understand why our bank charges so much when WaMu offers a Free Checking account. There is no monthly service fee for this type of account at WaMu and it comes with many free services. WaMu free checking means no more ATM withdrawal fee and free checks for life. I seriously need to make the switch to WaMu!

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He needs a crash helmet.

Our little guy is into absolutely everything he can find these days. With his new found mobility it seems there is a weekly boo boo to accompany it. Last week he fell twice into the television stand. It is something my husband made and is sort of like a plasma stand. I am hoping that at some point the little fellow will start to take more of an interest in looking at the world around him rather than using it as a jungle gym. Quickly we have found out that there isn’t anything he can’t climb or scale if given the right leverage. Hopefully, his ingenuity is something that remains with him for life but on a slightly safer dimension.

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One lousy video.

When our first child was born we diligently took a video every month for the first two years of his life to document his accomplishments. I am ashamed to admit that we have not been so good when it come to our second son. At almost 1.5 years old he has just one video documenting his life. It seems like whenever I want to tape something either I can’t find the camcorder batteries or the blank tapes. I keep beating myself up thinking that he will discover this difference when he is older and think we loved him less or something ridiculous like that. There is nothing farther from the truth but it there certainly won’t be video to show that at this rate.

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Secretly wishing for a maid.

There are some things I never in a million years thought I would find myself wishing for but I secretly am at this point. Now that I am working part-time once again I simply cannot keep up with my house work. This has left me secretly wishing I could hire a maid. It seems that every minute of the day that I am not working is spent attending to someone or something around my house. Granted my house is far from being a pig sty but it could use a more serious cleaning that I can give it right now. It would be divine to have someone come in and scrub the nooks and crannies like one of those luxury homes you see in magazines. Being the weirdo that I am I probably would feel like I had to clean before the maid came so she wouldn’t think badly of me.

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There is a fine line.

There are some people who just seem to be able to pull off being quirky. You know the type of person I mean. Someone who can dress or act a little on the eccentric side without coming across as crazy. I think there is a fine line between the two and know only a handful of people who manage to do this well. One lady I know dresses in a bohemian style and yet somehow always look classy instead of that sloppy style reminiscent of the 60′s. Another couple I know have one of the fish mailboxes that they dress up for seasonal and holiday occasions. I love people who are true to themselves and walk to the beat of their own drum while still fitting into the bigger social structure.

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What drives you crazy?

For the most part I am fairly happy with our home aside from the neighbors. There are a couple of quirks about our 104 year old home that get on my nerves. For example, I cannot dry my hair in the bathroom without throwing the circuit breaker. Instead I dry my hair in our kitchen. This probably seems weird but it actually works out because I can watch the kids and get ready at the same time. The other thing that is weird about our home is the absence of a ceiling light in several rooms. There is just something about having light coming down from above that you really need from time to time. Lamps and floor lights help but it would be nice to have the option of a ceiling light. If anyone could rewire my house and transplant it to a different location I would be really grateful!

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Time for chocolate!

This recipe put a semi-healthy twist on a family favorite~ Brownies!
I suggest making alterations to suit your families individual tastes. We don’t care for nuts in our brownies and I never keep stuff like raw sugar in the house.

Healthier Brownies~
6 ounces semi-sweet chocolate chips or carob chips
3 teaspoons butter
3/4 cup quick oats
1/3 cup unsweetened toasted wheat germ
1/3 cup non-fat powdered milk
1/2 teaspoon baking powder
1/2 cup chopped nuts (optional)
4 large egg whites
1/3 cup raw sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla

1. Melt chocolate chips and butter in the microwave about 45 seconds; stirring occasionally until completely melted; set aside.
2. Combine the dry ingredients, except for sugar, in a bowl.
3. In another large bowl, beat egg whites with sugar and vanilla until slightly thick.
4. Stir in chocolate mixture and then the dry ingredients.
5. Spread into an 8-inch square baking dish sprayed with cooking spray.
6. Bake at 350° for 25-30 minutes; until edges are firm and top is crisp.
7. Cool completely before cutting into bars.

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Some things don’t make sense.

Someone very close to us is having a ton of work done to her home. Some of these renovations were definitely a long time in coming. Other aspects of her home overhaul make no sense at all to me. She lives alone in a very large house and comments frequently about wanting to downsize. She has mentioned looking into condos for sale or a smaller home because hers it too much to take care of. This week I drove by her home and noticed an addition being built on the house. Why would you spend the money to make a house bigger is you already thought that it was too big? Oh well, it isn’t my money so I guess I should concern myself with it.

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Teaching “no”.

Our 14 month old has one of the strongest wills I have come across. No matter how many times I tell the child or redirect him if he wants to keep doing something that he will. For instance his favorite activity is turning the television on and off. It doesn’t matter if someone is watching it or not he will spend a countless amount of time engaged in doing this. Short of getting a tv lift we have yet to find a solution. It is clearly just going to take some creative techniques and consistency with this little guy to teach him the meaning of the word “no”.

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Tough calls.

Life is full of tough calls. Have you ever just known in the pit of your soul that someone needed serious help and just couldn’t see that fact? After numerous restless nights pondering what to do about the situation I made one of these “tough calls”. Making this call someone left me more unsettled than all the restless nights looking out my window wondering what would happen next because of my decision. Hopefully, the people so desperately in need of help actually get it and the system works the right way this time.

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What a mess.

Living in my neighborhood lately has been like living in a real life episode of cops. I am really starting to wonder just how safe we are in continuing to live here. Having mortgage life insurance is some reassurance should anything happen. The reality is that the neighbors on either side of us are living crazy lives that put everyone around them in danger. Saturday night the police were called to the houses immediately adjacent to us on both sides. One of the houses received a total of 3 visits from the police in one night. Even the police said that where we live is a nice neighborhood and we should not have to tolerate people who choose to live outside the law. I am very much hoping that we are able to move in the next year or at least one of these families does.

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Addiction is a complex problem.

For the last several weeks I have been trying to come up with a way to encourage an acquaintance to seek help for drug addiction. Not being familiar with what a person experiences as a result of addiction I have been researching the topic. In my journey to learn more about addiction I have been reading a very enlightening blog called Drug Rehab Mobile. This blog contains an extensive collection of posts that depict individual experiences with drug addiction, drug rehab, and the journey to sobriety. One thing I really appreciate about this blog is that it offers a varied perspective about this challenging topic. Drug addiction is not a problem that only effects the person who uses drugs but has far reaching implications. It is clear from my reading that no two people experience this problem in identical ways and everyone has to find their own path to recovery. I would love to think that getting someone the help they need to would have a simple solution but clearly this is as complex as the problem itself. As I learn more about drug addiction and recovery, on Drug Rehab Mobile, I am comforted to know that others have faced this problem and a through great deal of hard work found a way to lead a drug free life once more. Hopefully, this will be true for the person I know should they choose to face their addiction and begin to work towards getting clean.

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Chores are important.

Even very young children are capable of helping a little to accomplish tasks around the house. It really is important to begin assigning chores when your kids are little if you expect them to help as they get older. So many kids grow up as if they living at the Rio Las Vegas hotel. This is to suggest that their meals magically appear before them along with clean laundry and an exquisite living environment. One mommy I know complains constantly about the state of her home and how exhausted she is yet her children have never been required to lift a finger. You simply can’t hand out privileges without having some expectation on behalf of your children. Try making things like watching television contingent upon a clean living room prior to turning on the set. We don’t have formal chores list in our house but there is the expectation that if you are asked to do something it will be accomplished. I think this is a great way of preparing children for the real world.

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Friday Quick Meal

Another week has passed and it is once again time for a quick meal recipe. When the end of the week rolls around there is nothing I dislike more than spending hours in the kitchen. With quick and easy recipes like this one that is not something I have to do. Enjoy!

Tomato Tortellini
Cook frozen tortellini according to package directions along with frozen stir-fry peppers and onions. Drain and stir into heated spaghetti sauce. Top with Parmesan or Romano cheese.

Add some nice bread and bagged salad and you have a meal the entire family will love.

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Stage debut.

Our oldest is making his stage debut in a couple weeks. Actually he will be making his debut with dozens of other aspiring violinists when Barrage comes to town. The Suzuki violin students in the area have been invited on stage to play a song with Barrage. Today we received our package of tickets that we are required to sell for the performance. When my son was handed them he was as happy as if someone had given him Super Bowl tickets. I have to say I am excited for him because the theater where they will be performing is beautiful and seats about 1400 people. For a second grader I would say this show definitely qualifies as a momentous occasion. I only hope it is as exciting as he envisions it will be.

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Resume tip~

A friend recently requested I help her with her resume. Having put together countless resumes over the years I gladly provided what insight I could. There are several things to consider when putting together the perfect resume. One detail that few people think deeply about but can actually make a difference is paper quality. I cannot tell you how many times in my career while in the process of hiring for positions I would receive resumes on standard copy paper. This is fine for many entry level positions but when you are vying for a professional position. Investing in good quality paper is a wise choice that presents a professional image of you right out of the envelope. When choosing consider what your resume will look like when photocopied and even test this ahead of time. If faxing a resume be sure to use white paper as your original. Textured papers and certain colors may detract from your print and draw the eye away from your qualifications!

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New, Used, and Refurbished Telecom Hardware

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I am hired!

It took a year but I finally was hired for the work at home job I have been wanting. This job requires no phone work and I set my own hours. The best part is I am actually able to use all of my internet experience in completing the work. Last week I spent the entire week testing for the job. It was actually a very intensive process that left me unsure of how I had actually performed on the test. Luckily, I received a job offer and should start this week. Hopefully, they have great human resources software because the employment forms required for the job were numerous. Once the forms are processed I will then be able to begin accepting tasks. I can’t tell you how thankful I am to have gotten this job!

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What is for dinner tonight?

Dinner is always a dilemma for me. I realllllllllly do not enjoy cooking dinner. When the end of the day rolls all I really want to do is hand everyone a bowl and a box of cereal. Since it is not very often that I can get away with this I am forced to look for quick and easy alternatives to cereal.

This is what is for dinner tonight (the cheese goes a long way toward getting my kids to eat broccoli):
Chicken ‘N Broccoli Casserole
INGREDIENTS:

* 2 cups cooked rice
* frozen broccoli
* 1 can of chicken (like swanson)
* 1 can of cream soup
* Cubed Velvetta cheese

PREPARATION:
Mix all ingredients; bake 20 minutes or so at 350 degrees

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Should I learn?

My husband very much wants me to learn to play golf so we can enjoy the sport together. This is not exactly what I would choose as an activity but it seems to be important to him. If I am going to take up golf I am going to need equipment. As it stands I don’t know a thing about golf clubs. They pretty much all look the same to me. If you showed me Mizuno golf clubs and those from Target I wouldn’t be able to tell you which was the better set. Considering the fact that I am seriously athletically challenged I really don’t think that even great equipment will help in this endeavor. I do like driving a golf cart so there is a bright side to this new hobby.

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What makeup do you use?

I am really sick of using the same old makeup. Well, not the same old makeup but the same brand of makeup. I have used the exact same brand since high school. Aside from some changes to the colors everything is pretty much the same. I would love to have that fresh and natural look so many people have. The problem is my coloring is such that I need the exact boost that makeup gives me. Without makeup I pretty much look pale and worn out. So, what makeup do you use because I am open for suggestions (except Avon).

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He thinks it is broke.

In previous posts I have commented that we are a television free home. We made the decision to go tv free when our oldest son was about 3 years old. At the time the only way we could find to explain why his favorite programs no longer came on was to tell him the television was broken. In the last four years he never really has questioned this until now. This week he commented that since I had gotten a new work at home job that maybe we could buy an LCD TV since ours is broke. When I said that we would not be getting a new television he asked if we could maybe now afford to have the repair man come and fix our old one. The funny thing is that he thinks he doesn’t have television because we can’t afford to have our broken television fixed instead of it being a lifestyle choice we have made. Oddly enough the child watches countless movies on the same television every week but hasn’t questioned how that is possible if the television is broken.

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One grumpy baby.

I am the proud mommy of one grumpy baby. My poor little guy is just beside himself today. Nothing I do seems to make him happy. My intuition is telling me that I will soon be visiting the pediatrician with a sick child. Both of my kids get very moody before the onset of a cold. Hopefully, I am wrong about this but I doubt it. We have been really healthy for the last few months and it is about time for cold season.

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Emotional memorial of a beloved pet.

The picture of Buddy’s cat urn on the HAL Woodworking website is
amazingly life-like. Such high-quality pet urns would make a beautiful resting place for anyone’s pet. Gryphon’s owners, the Marquardt’s had such nice things to say about the urn in their testimonial. Pets are truly a part of the family.

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December baby.

Christmas is just around the corner. In our house this also means that so is our oldest son’s birthday. Being born the same week as Christmas is always a hard thing. We have yet to figure out a perfect time or date to celebrate. If you send out party invitations for the same week it is almost guaranteed that no one will be able to come to the party. If you have the party too early then your child wonders why he isn’t having a celebration when his birthday does roll around. What is a person to do? In the future we will likely be able to find a great middle ground but not many second graders understand it really is okay to celebrate your birthday a few weeks early.

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Does anyone actually bake it?

Fund raiser cookie dough that is. Who really bakes the stuff. This delightful little tub of wonder was made for only one thing in my book. It was designed by a mommy who needed a secret stash of cookie dough on tap. Buy a tub and hide it in the back of the freezer. It is there whenever you need it and far safer than baking a few dozen cookies. You can only eat so much raw cookie dough but it is easy to pack away a handful of the real thing. I admit that I buy a tub every year and have never baked a single cookie and unless someone finds my stash I never will.

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Play time is on.

Each day is an adventure as a parent. Recently my littlest has started to actually play with toys. There is a distinct difference in my book between throwing stuff about the house and using it for a purpose. Toy phones have started to actually be used as phones instead of objects to be propelled about the room. The cutes thing I think I have seen this week is him holding stuffed animals and hugging them like a baby. It really goes to show that these little people are sponges just soaking up the world around them. To bad more parents didn’t think twice about what they are teaching their little “sponges”.

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The cat earned brownie points.

Cats have always been a part of my life. This doesn’t mean that I am crazy about them but I have always had one or more in my life. A couple of years ago we adopted two cats. In that time these cats have found ways to get on my ever loving last nerve. I care about them but a few nasty habits detracted from me “adoring” them. These habits took some serious sorting out to resolve. Now that they aren’t engaging in the nastiness anymore and I am no longer threatening to deport them things are looking up. In fact one of them is seriously earning brownie points. He has turned out to be the most tolerant critter imaginable and allows our 1 year old to love him all over. Any cat that can sit back an handle the antics of a one year old surely has earned his place in my home.

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Finding a part-time job has never been easier.

Sick of checking out the same old jobs in the newspaper classifieds or driving around looking for “Help Wanted” signs? Now there’s an easier way to find a job where you don’t have to waste time or gas. SnagAJob.com is the largest part-time and hourly job search website, and they make it easy to find jobs in your area, whether you’re looking forChicago jobs, Irvine jobs in California or anywhere else in the country. Once you find a job you like, you can apply online. And if you’re looking for job tips and advice, SnagAJob.com has a comprehensive library of helpful articles.

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A mail box full of nothing….

My mailman must just love me. The reason I say this is because I get an endless supply of magazines and junk mail. There was a period of time when I received about 30 free magazines a month. As a result of this I am convinced I ended up on every mailing list in the free world. Now my mailbox is stuffed with everything from recreational vehicle brochures to Mesothelioma cancer information. My son gets his hopes dashed just about every day when our mailbox is bulging with mail and yet there is not a single thing in it for him. I would sign him up for some magazines but then I would probably need a second mailbox for all the extra mail that would result in.

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Let them make the snack~

This is a quick snack my son likes to make with me. It is a good way to let them learn about measuring and mixing without the mess of liquids. The actual amount of each ingredient is up to you. You can make it as “nutty” or sweet as you like.

Trail Mix: any kind of oat, corn, rice, or wheat cereal; chocolate chips, raisins, other dried fruit bits; shredded coconut; peanuts or other chopped nuts.

We make these in individual snack bags and they are ready to go for lunches each week. He loves the idea that he is “cooking” and I like the idea that there are no sloppy messes to clean up.

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Guess what? I don’t know everything.

There is a certain age where young boys seem to become question machines. I can’t really say exactly when it starts or when it ends but it does seem like it is endless. I do everything I can to encourage my son’s inquisitive nature but there is a point where the endless question do start to wear on me. I imagine he must thing I really don’t know very much when after a million questions I start mindlessly responding that I do not know anything about the topic. The truth is that when I am driving and listening to a crying baby I am not going to know much about anything. Even with the fanciest Girard Perregaux watch there are still only so many minutes in the day I can devote to solving the mysteries of the world.

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Mindless munching…

We have started to notice a pattern in our oldest son where he wants to eat when he is bored. I recognize that growing children need nutrition but I seriously don’t want him battling food the rest of his life. In order to differentiate if he is really hungry or just bored we only allow healthy food options when he asks for a snack. My thinking is that a person who is really hungry will choose a healthy option whereas when you are mindlessly munching fruit or yogurt isn’t nearly as appealing.

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Hope on the horizon.

One of the families in our neighborhood has been in a state of chaos. This home had been quiet and a typical family for a couple years. This all changed when the father of the children entered the picture again. For weeks on end the father and his friends have been partying until all hours of the morning just about every night of the week. Last weekend the police showed up and hauled off several people. It is really nice to see the children back outside playing and looking happy and healthy. I do hope that the father gets the help he needs and is sent to drug treatment or something. I can’t honestly say I would ever wish him back in the picture as he has been choosing to live his life. The children deserve so much more from life than the chaos they have been living with.

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Fears already?

The weather today has been really awful. Typically, I love a good thunderstorm but this just hasn’t been fun. For some reason my little guy seems to be really afraid of the the thunder. At just one year old I guess I just assumed he was oblivious to these noises but it doesn’t seem that way. Each time the storm whips up he wants to crawl in my lap and I have noticed him glancing out the window. He has always been a very observant baby and I suppose this is just more evidence of that.

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What goes in…

In the world of parenting there isn’t a subject I can think of that doesn’t come up in conversation. Before having children I would never have discussed the bowel habits of a family member in a public forum. Once you have a baby you will discuss peeing and pooping virtually anywhere. All of us at one time or another have had a constipated baby or child. With little people who need a good colon cleanse life can become quite miserable until the problem is resolved. Everyone seems to develop their own tried and true method of moving nature along. My secret recipe used to entail a couple of tablespoons of dark Karo syrup dissolved in a bottle of warm milk or formula. Our pediatrician many years ago recommended this and it never failed. We even nicknamed this concoction the “magic bullet”.

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How do you handle “users” ?

We all know these type of people. You know the ones that don’t have the time of day for you until they want or need something that you can offer. I struggle with doing what my giving spirit tells me to do and turning down their requests. It is hard not to start feel more like a lending library than a friend when things are so one sided.

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Brotherly love.

Having children almost 8 years apart has a number of upsides in my book. So many parents I know get completely hung up on having children spaced exactly so many years apart. I am not sure what it is that makes people think that two years is the ideal spacing to promote an ideal childhood or family. I think the spacing for my boys is perfect in so many ways. There is no way a three year old would get the same joy out of his brother attaining certain developmental milestones as an 8 year old. For example, older son become so excited when his little brother walks or talks it is hilarious. His reaction actually scares his little brother at times. There have been a couple of times I think the little fellow had his breath taken away in fright when his older brother shouted “he is walking”. I wouldn’t change this for anything in the world. Although we might have to invest in a pulse oximeter if the little guy spends to many more breathless moments.

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Now the fun starts!

My littlest son has decided the time is right for walking. He is braving the waters of independence and toddling about the house. His preference is still for crawling or cruising about holding on to things. Because he is a very big guy with a lot to hold up I imagine it will still be a while before walking is his main mode of transportation.

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One of my favorite things~

As a Doctor of Audiology I could expound in detail about the benefits of closed captioning for the hearing impaired but that would likely bore most of you to death. Instead I would share why I love it in my own life. I have the hearing of a bat. That isn’t exactly factual but you get the point. Closed captioning enables my husband to maintain his late night viewing schedule without keeping me awake. This wondrous technological miracle also provides my children with a read along version of their favorite movies. I honestly think this reinforces reading. Closed captioning makes life wonderful when the kidlets are little are you just want to watch a grown up movie and still have them in the same room. You know what I mean ? There are just times when you can’t take another round of Blue’s Clues and the kids are content to play with their toys. I love to pop in a romantic comedy and turn off the volume and hit the closed captioning. It is a great way to get just a little “mommy” time while still being in the same room with your children. The best part is you don’t have to worry if little ears are going to pick up any new words that you don’t want them to.

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Not your ordinary mini van mom.

Yesterday while waiting at the school to pick up my son a mini van mom pulled up beside me. This mom took driving a mini van to new heights. The actual mini van she was driving was the exact same year and model as my own Dodge Caravan but this van had been tricked out on so many levels. The first thing I noticed was that the windshield said “Baby Girl” in giant white letters. I couldn’t see if the van had one of those billet grilles but it wouldn’t surprise me. There were actually spinners on the rims of the van that just made me giggle. I can only imagine what the stereo system is like in this vehicle given the attention paid to the other details. Undoubtedly this van has GPS, satellite radio, and a ceiling mounted DVD player if my speculation is correct. I have to say it takes a certain type of mom to get behind the steering wheel of that ride and carry it off. Somehow I don’t think I have that particular make up.

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A little something for me.

When it comes to shopping I am not one of those women who wants to spend hours at the mall. Add in the fact that I really don’t like crowds and you can see why I love online shopping. There is nothing I can’t find online and usually it comes at a big discount given my bargain hunting skills. I do get a bit of a thrill at the anticipation of placing an order with an online clothing store or other retailer. There is just something about knowing that I will be getting a package in the mail. I just think it is so much more fun to open a box that has been shipped to me than to drag home a bunch of stinky plastic bags from the mall. Yes, I think the bags that most clothing stores use stink but that is worthy of an entirely different post. Even the smallest of purchases gives me something to look forward too. Everyone has their quirks like pricey coffees, designer labels, or whatnot but just give me a small brown box delivered to my front door and I am a happy woman.

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Teething returns with a vengence.

My littlest son had 7 teeth come through in a matter of two weeks right around 11 months of age. He was completely miserable beforehand for quite some time. Once the teeth busted through the surface he once again became the happy little man we knew. He must be on the verge of getting more teeth as that grumpy little boy seems to have resurfaced. I don’t see any teeth on the horizon but he is chewing feverishly on his hand and whines endlessly for me to hold him. I hold him as much as possible but there is only so much sitting in one place I can do before the duties of life call me to action. For the life of me I can’t recall when teething became less of an issue in my older son. I simply remember there would be day where suddenly a new tooth appeared seemingly out of nowhere. Given that he is just a bit over one year old I doubt we have reached that point quite yet.

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Why we are tv free.

It always surprises me when people say they “can’t live without television” or they “need television to stay up to date on current events”. There are so many options in today’s world to keep up on current events ~ radio, internet, newspapers, and so much more. We have not had television for about 5 years now and don’t miss it one bit. The time we find to spend as a family is readily available. I am convinced this is why my son would sooner read a book than do virtually anything else. Personally it is the reason I find time to keep my house clean, fit in a couple work outs a day, and actively engage in life. Here are some interesting facts about television:

* Number of 30-second commercials seen in a year by an average child: 20,000
* Number of minutes per week that parents spend in meaningful conversation with their children: 38.5
* Number of minutes per week that the average child watches television: 1,680
* Percentage of children ages 6-17 who have TV’s in their bedrooms: 50
* Percentage of day care centers that use TV during a typical day: 70
* Hours per year the average American youth spends in school: 900 hours
* Hours per year the average American youth watches television: 1500
* Percentage of Americans that regularly watch television while eating dinner: 66

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Every baby should be celebrated.

There is something about being able to celebrate the miracle of a child with friends and family that is a blessing to me. I think every child deserves to be celebrated even if it is just a small gathering of close family and friends. Whenever a family member is expecting I love to be the one to host her baby shower. It is so much fun planning and ordering special baby shower decorations. There are so many cute and unique options at PartyPail.com it takes me forever to make a decision about a baby shower theme. Sometimes it is really easy and the mom-to-be already has a theme in mind. For instance my girlfriend is expecting her first little boy this spring and already has started to decorate the nursery in Noah’s Ark decor. After looking over all the different baby shower ideas at the PartyPail.com I think that this Noah’s Ark baby shower theme is absolutely perfect. There is just something timeless and classic about this theme that strikes me as exactly what she would choose for this occasion.

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Don’t fool yourself they understand.

There are people who seem to believe that toddlers are just these little lumps that don’t really understand what is said to them. Nothing could be further from the truth. One of my family members was commenting on how pointless it was for me to tell my littlest son “no”. She said he doesn’t know what you are saying. I just laughed to myself and went on parenting the way I normally would. A few minutes after our interaction she went to take something from my son that he didn’t need to be playing with. To her surprise my little fellow looked right at her and said “No” as loud and meaningfully as could be. Clearly he did not like the course of events and was letting her know how he felt about the situation. This is a great example of how these little minds are soaking up the world around them. Like it or not they are learning the good and the bad from us. Think before you speak or act unless you want to see that same language or action reflected in your child’s behavior. In most civilized social circles no one like appreciates a kid who cusses like a sailor ;)

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Even I can learn to dance.

I have never been what you would call graceful. That hasn’t stopped me from dreaming about someday moving with the grace and elegance of a dancer. In college I actually took a course in dance thinking it would help. At the conclusion of the course I received a “C” for my hard work. I distinctly remember the instructor commenting that I “had no style or rhythm”. You can probably guess my response when my husband suggested we take a couples dance class together. Without some serious practice beforehand there is no way I am attempting any dance moves in a public forum.

This is why the idea of Salsa BootCamp appeals to me. Without setting foot outside our home we can learn to Dance with Salsa Dancing BootCamp. Salsa BootCamp is perfect for people of all dancing skill levels but especially for someone like me. Having dance lessons on DVD means that I can practice a move over and over until I am absolutely comfortable with it before moving on. It also means not having to endure the scrutiny of classmates or instructors. Salsa BootCamp takes the pressure out of learning Latin dance in a classroom environment. By providing clear and professional in-depth instruction even the most novice of dancers can become proficient right from their own living rooms.

Trying out Salsa BootCamp is as easy as signing up for a free 3 day membership. Joining Salsa BootCamp automatically includes 3 free DVDs to start learning to dance immediately. There are so many different dances lessons available such as Salsa, Merengue & Bachata Dance BootCamp and more lessons are added every week. With thousands of lessons to choose from and affordable monthly membership rates Salsa BootCamp is a great way to get up off the couch. I think this is the perfect way for my husband and I to spend some quality time together, have fun, and for me to rid myself of my two left feet.

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Nuby is getting my laundry bill.

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I just finished changing my littlest fellow for the 4th time in a row. The first time was because of the reason stated above. The second, third, and fourth times were all the fault of Nuby. Apparently I bought a couple of bad sippy cups. After the first change I gave my son his sippy cup full of milk only to turn around and find him absolutely drenched. The lid was still on the cup so I figured it must have been somehow my fault for not having things screwed on tight enough. I then bathe the child and put on clean clothes. I refill the same sippy cup and check everything to make sure there are no leaks and give him the cup. I leave the room to take the milk covered clothes to the washer and return to find the sippy cup lid entirely off the cup and the little man yet again soaked.

Wondering what super human strength my child has developed I once again wash and change him from head to toe. On our return I decide to give the suspect sippy cup a good going over. Somehow the threads on this BRAND NEW sippy cup are worn out making it possible to if you twist very hard twist the lid entirely off the cup. Irked but realizing that my son is not as tricky as I might have thought I set the cup aside and pull out another NEW sippy cup. Still needing to clean up the milk covered floor and rug I fill the cup test the threads and give him the sippy cup. While mopping up the floor I notice yet AGAIN my child is soaked in milk. This time the leaking part is the actual part you sip on. It seems in just a few seconds of sucking/chewing his little chompers stripped the nipple making a big hole for the milk to freely run out ~ “spill proof” my rear.

Oh yeah and thanks to my pediatrician who recommended these great sippy cups :)

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Blog of note: MacEwan.org

In my travels of the blogosphere I am constantly on the prowl for blogs of note. Today’s blog of note is MacEwan.org. This blog is the total package from clever and insightful writing to “packaging”. MacEwan.org delivers information on everything from technology to business in a way that brings people back time and time again for just a little bit more. Be sure to bookmark this great blog and join the 1,000 other MacEwan.org daily readers!

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My wackiest eBay purchase yet.

I like to shop on eBay every now and then. If you are a savvy shopper and willing to wait for what you want there definitely are deals to be had on eBay. This all brings me to my most recent eBay purchase. Last year just prior to our littlest being born my husband pulled out in front of a car in a moment of distraction. The result left me with a dented left front fender. Because the other car wasn’t damaged we decided not to pursue the matter with our insurance and would pay for the repair out of pocket. After calling junk yards we couldn’t come up with a decent match. Online you can buy this fender primed for $32.00!!! Where you are out of luck is trying to get your local garage to paint the thing. We were quoted as high as $500.00 to paint a $32.00 fender.

Enter eBay~

For $150.00 I am getting the fender which cost me $19.95 (also from eBay) painted and delivered to my door. How they package a fender I don’t know but I sprung for the extra $10.00 to get the fender from a more expensive eBayer who promised extra care in wrapping and shipping the item.

Yeah eBay!

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Need a laugh? Check out Yo Mamma.tv

Ok, so I know that you’re probably already familiar with Wilmer Valderrama’s show on MTV, “Yo Momma,” but what you might not know is that MTV just recently started an online part to the show – it’s basically an enormous online bank of yo momma jokes and slams. Check it out at yomomma.tv and you can start battling other users around the world, or come check out their yomomma myspace page to meet other people that are just as interested in Yo Momma as you are.

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Little girls and short skirts.

The world of raising girls is foreign to me. I don’t profess to be an expert in this area by any stretch of the imagination. My eyes do however work just fine. Every morning we are treated to a steady flow of children walking by our house to school. What I cannot understand is how the parents of even the youngest girls let them out of the house with their rear ends hanging out of their skirts? Can you not see that your child is showing more of herself than anyone should? Sure pleats are cute but when your little girl flounces up the street at a good pace everyone for blocks is treated to a peek of her Barbie underpants. Is that really a good idea? No, I am not saying we need to be nuns but come on set a rule now when they are little and maybe it will be implanted when she a little older.

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Two cars again at last.

For the last few weeks we have been a single car household. Normally, this probably wouldn’t be a huge burden but it has been. My husband works about 30 miles from our house and my son now goes to school across town. To get everyone where they need to be has meant the entire family getting up and me driving everyone to and from their respective destinations. This has completely messed up the babies schedule and stressed me out because I am spending most of the day in the car. Tonight we picked up our “new” car. It will be nice not to be screaming at everyone to hurry up in the morning because we are all rushed to try and get ready and get out the door. While the car is not new it is the first really decent car my husband has had in a while so it should be quite a treat for him to get to work also :)

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Fireplace solutions.

You’ve been wanting to add one of Agee’s ventless gas fireplaces to your house for a while, but you’re not sure if you’ll be able to find a mantel that will fit around it. I had the same worries until I found out about their custom work. Agee has the best quality custom mantels and fireplace cabinets that can be made to fit any fireplace and any décor. Check them out and I think you’ll be happy that you went to Agee Woodworks.

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I am done Christmas shopping!

Yes, I am one of those people who has my Christmas shopping done in July. Well, maybe not July but it is September and I can say that aside from a couple small things I am completely done with shopping. I have decided that anything else my children ask for will go on a list for Santa (their grandparents) to consider. So far our list has things like rock tumblers, ant farms, and scooters on it. These are all things I can definitely see “Santa” wanting to buy the kids. Thankfully, no one has asked for anything big and alive because I would have to put that on a “special” list for Santa. You know the list that ends up in the circular file folder?

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Pre-owned Quality

Finding the best in quality Missouri used cars just got easy thanks to the guys down at Conklin Fangman. This Missouri car dealer has the best selection of pre-owned and new cars from all the top manufacturers. The only thing that impressed me more than their selection of pre-owned vehicles was their service. They’re committed to finding the right car for you at a great price. The next time you’re looking for a car, whether it’s brand new or seen a bit of the road, check out Conklin Fangman – the Kansas City, Missouri used cars experts.

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So far so good!

After a miserable couple years of school we made the tough decision to move our oldest son to a different school. He is a bright child but a child who needs a very, very, very structured classroom. In his first two years of school he had more substitute teachers than he had regular teachers and I believe he suffered for it. There were other issues but we simply could not allow him to have yet another year of being held back by a disorganized system that is more focused on the under achieving students than anything else. It is only one week into the school year but I already feel better about this school that I ever did at the other one. He says his teacher is “really fussy” and there are “strict rules”. Yeah for fussy and strict :)

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I despise car shopping.

For the last week we have been on the hunt for a second car. Our former car was graciously gifted to us by my parents. Little did they know the problem it had from sitting unused for quite some time. Here in the north sitting is the worst thing a car can do and our finally gave in and died. Having worked in a profession that is very heavily based upon your ability to sell products I am very distrustful of salesman. Yes, even health care is about selling :( That is one of the main reasons I took a break from hearing health care was because I hated feeling like a used car salesman. I wish the car fairy would just listen to our budget and our needs and leave a safe, reliable car in the garage. We even have the financing all set up so all the car fairy would need to do is find the car. That isn’t asking to much is it?

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Make all your reservations at LodgingHunt.com

When it comes to making travel arrangements for our family the responsibility typically falls to me. As those who read this blog already know I love finding a bargain and being able to do so from the comfort of home. That is why using LodgingHunt.com is the perfect way to combine all these things. Right from my computer I can easily track down discount accommodations across the country and around the world at LodgingHunt.com.

This comprehensive site offers everything travelers could desire from small independent hotels and motels to large chain style options. One trip we have always wanted to take is a cross country road trip. Using LodgingHunt.com I was able to quickly and easily track down everything I wanted to know about hotels and motels from one end of the route to the other. It was really fun to look at the different choices for everything from Ohio to Arizona lodging along across the country.

This site is a great tool not just for planning a trip but also budgeting for a future trip. I expected there would be a difference in the price between Illinois lodging and Nevada lodging but couldn’t begin to guess how much. By spending some time on LodgingHunt.com I was not only able to narrow down great options for our trip but also develop a working budget for the cost of accommodations.

Making reservations will be a snap when the time comes because this task can be quickly and easily accomplished right from LodgingHunt.com. If you are planning a trip and want not only convenience but a bargain to boot then be sure to bookmark and visit LodgingHunt.com!

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She is a what!!!!

I have posted a few times about my new neighbor that leaves her children alone for days on end. When she isn’t gone and is at home the only thing I see her do is sit on the porch or in the back yard drinking. Well, apparently despite the fact that I am home all the time I have been missing some of the finer details of her life. My neighbor on the other side of her house was painting his house and overheard some “business” transactions taking place that cause him to flee to protect the ears of his children. It seems that our new neighbor is a prostitute. I have to say it explains quite a bit. I do live in a working class neighborhood but it is not that type of working class. I have apparently also missed the man in the car across the street who has been watching her house and writing stuff down for hours on end…..

We share a driveway with her (rental) house :(

We installed motion sensors on every door this weekend and started using our security system again :(

This explains the kids talking about “Mom staying at the hotel tonight” (and it seems every night for the most part).

Yikes!

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Should we just get cable?

I have been having this ongoing internal debate with myself about getting cable. You see for the last 3 or 4 years we have been a cable free home. We watch our fair share of movies but have simply chosen to not have cable or satellite television. Initially the reason behind this was to eliminate the distraction of television from our lives while we were both in college. Honestly, I can live without it entirely but my husband will sit and stare at anything from Penn State football to PBS documentaries for hours on end. Now that we are done with college not having television seemed a great way to protect our young children from the influences of the world. The thing that is troubling my mind is this summer we spent more per month on renting movies than if we just had basic cable. Maybe we need to cut back on the movies and keep things the way they are? I would however love to watch Lost on something other than my laptop :)

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OnlineDiscountMart offers bargains throughout the year.

One of my favorite topics to blog about is my passion for finding bargains. Having a small child in the home I don’t go out to stores like I used once did to hunt for bargains. That doesn’t mean I simply concede defeat and pay the outrageous prices charged by my whatever store I happen to be in when I do go shopping. Instead I have found incredible bargains right from the comfort of home via the internet. One great place to find bargains on everything you can imagine including windmills, seasonal decor, and home decor is OnlineDiscountMart.com. This all inclusive website offers something to dress up literally every area of your home, garden, yard, and even office. Right now OnlineDiscountMart.com is offering great sale prices on gorgeous summer decor. If you are like me and dreaming of the splendor of autumn be sure to check out their fall line of merchandise. I am really drawn to this leaf wall decoration as it would be perfect in my freshly painted orange kitchen all year round.

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Marketing is everywhere.

One of the reasons we have a television free home is to prevent our children from being exposed to the wonderful world of marketing that targets children. Despite our best efforts to limits this exposure it seems to seep in from every direction. Just the other day my son suggested we get him a cell phone. It seems his friends gave rave cell phone reviews to him about the various phones their parents purchased for them.

The child is in second grade! Either his father or myself drive him to and from school every single day. There is not a minute of the day that he is not in the company of some adult responsible for his care. My question is what on earth are these other children doing that requires a cell phone? At the tender age of 7 years old it seems unfathomable that their communication demands are so great that they need anything beyond the family phone. I remember asking my parents for my own phone at sixteen, long before cell phones, and being laughed out of the room. Can you imagine if at seven I had asked for one?

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Become an educated home buyer.

We began looking for our first home during a very hectic time in our lives. Our oldest son was a few weeks old and my husband was changing jobs. Because we were moving several hundred miles away our home shopping time was extremely pressed. We needed to find a home in a matter of days not weeks or months. In the process we made several regrettable mistakes.

It doesn’t matter if you are considering West Palm Beach real estate or somewhere in Iowa buying a home is a huge decision. In our case we overlooked some very important factors that have since greatly impacted how much we are able to enjoy our home and community. Among our errors were not researching neighborhoods, schools, and crime statistics.

Just because a neighborhood looks quiet and unassuming when you visit does not mean it truly is. Visit the neighborhood at all hours of the day and try to meet the neighbors. Even if you don’t have children research the local schools because this could become an issue should you have children or even want to sell the home in the future.

Lastly, don’t over estimate your abilities. By this I mean do not buy a home that needs a great deal of work if you lack the ability to get the job done. It is incredibly stressful on a family to live in the midst of a construction zone year after year. Think of every project as a chunk of time that is taken away from spending time together as a family. In hindsight I regret not spending a few thousand dollars on a home that was move in ready considering every weekend for the last three years has been devoted to home rehab.

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This year I am ready!

For the most part I am a parent who really likes having my children at home. For some reason this summer has flown by and I find myself REALLY ready for school to start. I think my son has a touch of cabin fever and has been constantly dinging me for the last two weeks to entertain him. Throw in that the house next door seems to have turned into a drop in center for any child whose parent have dropped off the face of the earth and I am going just a tad crazy. Between the perpetual screaming next door and my son bugging me to build obstacle coursed for our cats and I find my head is throbbing before the day is half over. Seriously, I am giving consideration to trying Botox for migraines because my head has been killing me for three days straight. Considering that my child just fed the cats an entire bottle of cat treats trying to lure them through his obstacle course the rest of my day is either going to be spent cleaning up cat vomit or giving myself time-outs.

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School supply lists.

Last night I picked up the last item on my son’s school supply list. As I made my purchase I thought about my own school years. Never do I recall having received a list of supplies like those given out today. Granted I went to a two room school in the middle of nowhere. My parents might have picked up some crayons, pencils, or pens for us to use at home but that was it. Given how little money my parent’s had it probably is a very good thing we weren’t given lists like those sent out today. Simply putting together a decent lunch was often a challenge let alone buying paper cups, glue sticks, crayons, paper towels, kleenex, and the other 10 items on our list. I know our list is a drop in the bucket compared to what some children are asked for but you have to wonder how families with many children and little funds swing buying it all.

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Getting dressed is fun again.

Prior to the start of summer I began a fairly strict health and diet routine. For at least the first three months there seemed to be little change in my body as a result. Finally, about 1.5 months ago the weight started to come off. It is amazing what loosing even 15-20 pounds does for your entire outlook on life. No longer do I make my first choice for attire a pair of track pants and t-shirt. Long forgotten jeans and cute shirts are now seeing the light of day again. My husband was shocked to see me wearing fashion jewelry because I am someone who rarely wears anything other than my wedding rings. My next project is to go through my closet and attic and at long last give away all my “big girl” clothes. I believe that if I don’t have anything big to grow into there will be more motivation for me to stay on track. The only problem is the miser in me has a hard time parting with stuff.

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Have a little common sense.

Where we live is a fairly economically depressed area. For some reason this seems to have a bearing on the number of people who smoke. Everywhere you turn it seems there are scads of smokers. What drives me crazy more that the fact that most of these people collect welfare is the fact that they think nothing of smoking around their children. Granted many of these people seem to have no concern for their own health or future welfare but at the least they should think about their children. For instance my neighbor not only smokes constantly in front of her young children but has sent them to our house to “borrow” a cigarette lighter. She might as well take out term life insurance policies on them now because their little lives are being cut shorter and shorter with each puff. You literally have to be living under a rock in this world not to be aware of the dangers of second hand smoke. It is rather crazy when you consider how many social welfare programs, like WIC, exist to provide a healthy life for children and their own smoking parents are one of the biggest health risks they face in life.

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Get real-world career experience with a part-time job

Sometimes it’s tough to get real-world working experience in the classroom. That’s why part-time gigs make the best student jobs, whether you’re talking about high school students or college students. You can find a part-time job with the skill set to get a leg up in almost any career. For example, if you’re interested in business, a customer service job behind a cash register can give you some practical experience and building blocks. Plus, part-time jobs have flexible hours so you can tailor a job to fit your busy class schedule.

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School art work ?

How do you decide what to keep when it comes to your children’s school projects? I seriously love everything my son creates and feel guilty getting rid of any of it. The reality is my small house and I don’t need to keep all of it. Do you have a system for storing your children’s papers etc. and how do you decide what stays and what goes?

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Purging.

My house is making me feel claustrophobic lately. After reading this WONDERFUL book titled Quaker Summer I have been seriously thinking about the excess in my life. We tend to hand on to things for that garage sale that never happens. Today, I decided to just give all this stuff away to charity. I think so many of us try to fill our lives with the “right” stuff and whatnot looking for happiness that never happens. I was raised to always plan for a rainy day and part of that is hanging on to things for whatever may happen in the future. I think the time has come to just deal with those what ifs when they actually happen.

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SlingLings: A perfect fit for my baby!


When our littlest son was born I immediately purchased a couple of second hand infant slings. The idea of having my hands free and being able to keep my little guy close really appealed to me. Baby wearing turned out to be a life saver for our little guy who suffered from colic for the first 8 months. The only time he didn’t cry was when he was in one of the baby slings or in our arms.

Now, at one year of age, he continues to be a child who needs a great deal of holding to feel secure. The problem with this is that he is a big kid. He is 32 inches tall and weighs 26 pounds. That is a lot of baby to be carrying around all day! Since he no longer fits in the other slings I had resigned myself to lugging him around in my arms. This has resulted in some fairly exhausting days since many of the places we go make using a stroller impossible.

Thankfully, the opportunity presented itself for our family to try SlingLings baby slings. After using a SlingLings for one week I honestly can’t say enough good things about this product or the company. Prior to sending my sling SlingLings worked with me one on one to make sure my order was perfect. Right out of the package the SlingLing baby sling not only looked lovely but fit PERFECTLY! There was no adjusting or fumbling for a comfortable fit. The best part is that my son absolutely loves sitting in the sling. He snuggles right in and enjoys the ride. This week I used the sling for 5 consecutive days while helping at VBS and it was perfect. My hands we free to assist and my son was able to stay with me avoiding his inevitable bouts of separation anxiety. I must have been asked by half a dozen moms at the playground this week where I had purchased my sling from :)

Check out how pretty the fabric my sling is made from is:

It is called Katherine Stretch Twill. I love the slight stretch of the fabric and the vibrant colors that match just about everything in my wardrobe.

I highly recommend SlingLings as a perfect gift for new parents or even experienced parents like myself. Baby wearing is a great way to keep those little people close and still accomplish the tasks that life places before us!

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How do you relax?

When life has just got you over a barrel what do you do to relax? I know we all dream about someone whisking us away for caribbean cruises but that has yet to happen in my world. I am more interested in what you do in the course of a typical day to bring your stress level down a bit? When I am feeling out of sorts I like to read, bake, or take a bubble bath when I get the chance. The problem with baking is that I then want to eat what I have created. Even my morning walk seems to help me get the day off to a good start lately. Maybe I should add in an evening walk to counterbalance whatever goes on during the day.

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Halloween already?

It seems crazy to me that stores are already pushing Halloween items. At the mall today I noticed one store had already put together a display of sexy costumes and gruesome looking Halloween decor. We aren’t even ready for school yet and I can’t begin to wrap my mind around getting ready for Halloween. Maybe in another month or so it will actually seem like time to start making costumes but for now I need to focus on buying crayons, erasers, and pencil boxes. I seriously doubt I can convince my son to dress like Spider Man again this year but I can dream right?

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The fruits of my labor…

After almost 6 months of working out religiously I am finally seeing the fruits of my labor. For a while I thought exercising was going to be a worthless endeavor. In the last month or so it like I have taken Miracle burn because the weight has started falling off. I can see why people so easily become discouraged with their fitness goals because I certainly did. In my case it was probably half a dozen different things working against my efforts that I had to overcome. I just hope my metabolism doesn’t slow down anytime soon because it took so long for it to get started in the first place.

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My aching back!

For the last week I have had a backache that is quite literally making me nauseous. It is more that the pain in my back is making me feel sick. It has been a really long time since I have felt pain quite like this. Considering I work out every day I can’t quite understand why it would start hurting now. Maybe I need some muscle milk or something to give my body a boost. My friend suggested it might be from carrying my son around but I haven’t been doing that any more that usual. Normally, I deal with pain pretty well but this is so intense it just dragging me down. If you have any suggestions to relieve the pain short of prescription medication let me know.

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Mommy is working…

Working at home with children around can take some creative juggling. After almost a year of being a work at home Mom I would say we are just now getting into a good routine. What has been the biggest hurdle is getting everyone from my children, husband, extended family, and friends to recognize that I truly am WORKING at home! There really has been a learning curve for all of us. I have had to lay down some serious rules and constantly reinforce the idea that what I am doing is different from surfing the internet or playing games online for fun (which is what the rest of my family uses the computer for). I realize this last week that my family FINALLY started to get it when my oldest son asked about my “work” and my husband referred to my online activities as a my “business”. All this is not to say I haven’t had a learning curve of my own as well. I have really had to remember to turn work off and focus on my family. It is very easy to sit down in front of the computer for “a sec” and get caught up in hours of work. I would say we are getting very near the best it can be.

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One year old!

It is hard to believe but my youngest son has turned one year old. Actually his birthday was a couple weeks ago but we celebrated it this week. Because we were away on vacation at the time it didn’t seem right to celebrate sans our family and friends. I almost forgot to send out invitations in my haste to pack for vacation. Luckily at the last moment my older son reminded me. The theme of the party was an obvious choice and the same one my older son had. This time my Elmo cake was slightly better looking thankfully. My little guy actually loved the birthday cake and considering how shy he is really seemed to enjoy his party. I just can’t believe he is already a year old!

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Coupon codes for everything!

Taking two children out shopping is not my idea of a good time. That doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy shopping but I prefer to go alone. The opportunity for me to shop alone rarely happens given our hectic schedules. Just about the only time that I find free for shopping is late at night after the children are in bed. In the last few years I have become a huge fan of shopping online. I love the fact that I don’t need to leave home to make my purchases. Shopping online is an absolutely enjoyable experience especially when paired with my comfy PJ’s and a cup of good coffee. Online shopping has the added bonus of opening the entire world marketplace to shoppers. This means that shoppers really have an advantage as merchants are forced to compete head to head for consumers.

In order to snag consumers merchants are now offering more and more great coupon codes. Coupon codes are an incredible way to turn online prices from being a bargain and make them into a steal. Deal Locker is a wonderful online resource for free online coupons. The deals offered on Deal Locker are always fresh and genuine. This means that you won’t find the expired deals or bogus offerings often featured on other “coupon sites”. Users have the opportunity to rate codes so that other shoppers can take advantage of their insight and experiences with features sites and coupon codes.

Just last night I used this site to find a 1-800-Diapers coupon code to save $5 off my first $50 purchase. At the same time I noticed a great One Step Ahead coupon code on the side bar in the related stores listing. Within just a couple of seconds Deal Locker found exactly the coupon codes I needed and directed me to others codes that were really helpful. I now look forward to having diapers not only delivered to my door but at a price that is great as well. My poor children may never see the inside of Walmart again thanks to Deal Locker!

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I am a snobbish cook.

For the most part I pride myself in being a low maintenance woman. I don’t need expensive gifts, unending compliments, or attention to feel secure in who I am. It has taken me a bit of work to be able to confidently state all those things. I am not to proud to shop at thrift stores or use coupons to give my family a little extra money. Now that I have made myself sound flawless I must admit to having one area where I am particular and that is my cookware. It all started when I was working on my Doctorate. To motivate myself to complete each course I give myself the gift of great cookware, such as Berndes cookware, at the end of each class. Nothing compares to creating even the most basic meal using a great pan or bake ware. So the truth is out! I shop at the thrift stores but I cook like a celebrity.

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Fantasy football at AFFL.com

If you are a parent of boys or have any men in your house the likelihood is very high that someone in your home loves football. In my home there are two football enthusiasts and one in the making. When it get near football season there is a great deal of talk both at home and work about fantasy football leagues. Joining a Fantasy Football League is a fun way for fans to really get involved in the game and possibly even win awesome prizes if they really know their football. Fantasy football at AFFL.com is definitely a place for football gurus to challenge their skills and compete in a fun arena with other fans of the sport. This is one fantasy football league that will not disappoint. Sign up today at AFFL.com because football season is coming fast!

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By the way I love blogging!

One of the best things I have ever done was to get into blogging. Blogging is not only a great creative outlet but has become a job I love. There are several ways to monetize blogs including blog advertising. I get to review great products and services and share them with my readers. How great is it that I get to do something I love and earn extra cash doing it? Advertising on blogs is also an incredible way for businesses to spread word across the web about their products. Be sure to drop a comment if you have any questions about blogging or the fun stuff that goes along with it!

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You don’t have to live there.

One of my friends has taken a job for the summer rehabbing some local apartments. She comments daily on just how awful these apartments are and that they should be torn down. As much as I empathize with what she is saying I really want to remind her that she doesn’t have to live in them. Our town is a fairly economical deprived area and it is not like she is cleaning a nc waterfront property. In my mind I think that somebody will be thankful for all her hard work and look forward to calling this place home. Listening to her makes me very thankful for the home I have no matter how stressed I get with out neighbors.

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Just one night!

We leave for vacation in just a little bit and I am so ready. It will be so nice to relax with my family and spend time just soaking up the great outdoors. I am really looking forward to trying out my new Dutch oven on the outdoor fireplace and testing a few new recipes. My son is very concerned about what we are going to do for fun. Even though he has been camping a number of times we have never gone for this long before. I am really hoping the rain holds off because he is sure to go stir crazy if he has to spend a week indoors without his DVDs and computer.

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Wouldn’t it be nice??

Today I went to a garage sale that gave me insight into how the other half lives. Offered for sale were literally dozens of new or nearly new items that the people just never used. There were clothes with the tags still attached and a number of luxury items. My husband would have loved the golf cart they were selling because it needed a few minor repairs. Surely the cost of golf cart parts would have been less than the new cart they had recently purchased? Then again I don’t have a yard so big that I need a vehicle just to get around it.

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Drowning in debt?

There was a time in our not so distant past where we were literally drowning in debt. It seemed like we would never climb our way out of from under the mounting bills we had piled up. In order to put an end to the misery that debt was creating in our lives I investigated every possible option to help us get out of debt. Bills.com is a great service that exists to help people struggling with debt to finally gain control of their finances. At Bills.com you can find a number of great resources such as links and information about credit cards, mortgage, budgeting, student loans, insurance, medical debt, bankruptcy and debt resolution. This site is a great resource for anyone who really wants to make the debt in their life a thing of the past. I can honestly say that finally having control of our financial future is an awesome feeling and I will do everything possible to make sure we never find ourselves in that kind of situation again!

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Outgrowing asthma

My oldest son went for a well child visit last week and the doctor inquired about his asthma. Until that moment I hadn’t thought about the fact that our lives have been pretty much free of the effects of asthma for the last year. I am wondering if he has just outgrown it or if we are doing the right things to control it. When the doctor first diagnosed him with asthma I was quite concerned. My mind immediately raced with thoughts of a lifetime of breathing treatments, carrying around a portable oxygen concentrator or other breathing apparatus. Obviously, I was off base on some of my worries but as a parent every issue with your child is somehow magnified. The doctor even suggested that we could possibly wean our son off one of his medications to see how he does. It is exciting to think that he may be on the road to living life free of medications and worries about asthma.

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Hold that pose!

Every time I turn around it seems like my youngest is up to some new trick. In the span of a month he has learned to stand up, cruise, sit up, crawl, speak a couple words, and had gotten 5 teeth all at once. My problem is that I am one of those parents who wants to preserve each of these “firsts” for all eternity but never seems to have the digital camera handy to do so. You really can’t ask an infant to “hold that pose”. The best I can hope for is to capture his “second”, “thirds”, or even “fourths” and pass them off as “firsts”. In 20 years I doubt it will really make that much of a difference. What is important is that I have some sort of memory of the event right?

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Baby clothes…

This is just my opinion but it should be a requirement for anyone designing baby clothes that they have to actually be a parent! Furthermore, they should have to try to dress a squirmy wiggly baby on a changing table before ever putting any product on the market. You have to wonder what type of market research ,if any, is conducted before a product finds its way to the racks of your local department store. This idea hit me yesterday as I was trying to work my son’s flailing body into a complicated outfit that we received as a baby gift. Not only did the outfit feature far to many snaps and flaps but also incredibly wrinkly fabric. Who wants to iron let alone iron baby clothes? Seriously, baby attire should be wash and wear with simple yet functional designs. You shouldn’t have to sacrifice comfort and quality just to look cute at the tender age of one year old.

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A good night’s rest.

The very first thing we purchased as newlywed’s sixteen years ago was a bed. We looked at a number of different options but were keenly interested in waterbeds. At the time both my husband and I worked in very physically demanding professions that predisposed us to frequent backaches. A waterbed offered the ideal solution for this because waterbeds evenly distribute your weight over the surface of the bed. Over the years I have slept on many different types of beds but nothing compares to the feeling of a warm and cozy waterbed.

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Tips for getting ready for school.

When my son first started kindergarten I had no idea what I was in for. I was trying to give my friend tips that my spare her a bit of the aggravation we endured those first few hectic weeks of school. Having a child in school is an adjustment for the entire family. These are a few of my favorite tips for parents of first time students:

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1. Start the school schedule early. Break the summer sleep-in/stay-up late mode. Begin the morning and evening school routine at least two weeks before school actually starts. Don’t expect that you child will be able to make the adjustment to getting up for school quickly or easily without a break in period.

2. Create a positive attitude about going back to school. Talk to your children about being able to see their friends, meet their new teacher and all the opportunities that being at school provides.

3. Visit the school. Go to the school and play on the play ground, meet the new principal or office personnel, talk to the janitor.

4. Set goals for the upcoming school year. Help your children create realistic expectations for themselves about school. Talk about what they want to accomplish this school year, not what you want them to accomplish.

5. Model learning. Model learning year round, even through the summer months. This will set the stage for homework. A study time can be a logical extension of the learning time you have in your home.

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Give your opinion on movies and more.

Before I go to see a movie or rent a DVD I like to read what other people have to say about the film. For the most part I feel professional movie critics tend to see movies entirely different from the average person. Most of the “critically acclaimed” movies I have seen left me wondering if there was something I missed or didn’t get. That is why I like to read reviews on sites like CriticsRant.com. Critics Rant gives readers the chance to read reviews and comments written by average people. Not only can you find movie reviews but there are also reviews of tv shows and video games. CriticsRant.com is a great place to find lively movie discussions and entertaining comments. You might even score a free DVD just for giving your opinion!

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What is the deal?

This morning I head to cupboard to get a cup and there is not a single clean cup in the cupboard. Considering there are only 3 people in my house using cups and the fact that we have dozens of cups this was a bit surprising. I remember my mom complaining about the exact same thing when I was young. She even personalized cups that we each were responsible for in an attempt to control our getting a new glass for each drink. So, I am wondering if possibly cup use is something I passed onto my children genetically. How many cups can a person use in a single day? I think my Mom had the right idea :)

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Retail jobs are the way to go

Whether you want a job in the middle of the shopping mall or just down the road, you should check out retail jobs. Department stores, home improvement warehouses and toy shops are just a few options in this job industry. The best way to find a job in retail close to your home is to simply plug your ZIP code into SnagAJob.com and wait for the results. Another good thing about retail jobs is that they often have flexible hours, which is really convenient if you’re a student, have another job or just want to work nights. Good luck in your job search.

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Another golfer in the family…

My husband and I share many interests but sports is not one of them. Aside from hockey and the occasional basketball game I have little interest in sports. Until recently our oldest son showed absolutely no interest in any sport at all. Then out of the blue he started playing around in his Dad’s Ping Golf bag and started asking questions about golf. Over the last few weeks he has quizzed my husband on everything known to man about the sport of golf. They have now started going weekly to hit balls at our local driving range. It is fun to watch the two of them bonding over something that they are both actually enthusiastic about. I just hope they don’t expect me to learn the sport as well!

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The Diamond is just the beginning

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The world is a jungle gym…

Just when it seems that life can’t get any crazier I go from having and infant to having a toddler. Our son somehow bypassed crawling and decided to go straight into cruising. For ten long month he was content to sit on my lap and then virtually overnight the world became his personal jungle gym. If he isn’t trying to pull down everything in sight he is trying to climb the office furniture. I really thought I had everything pretty much childproofed but clearly if there is something dangerous lurking in or under the furniture this child will find it. Every morning I sweep the “perimeter” to be sure it is clear before turning him loose and even then he manages to find something that belongs in his mouth, pulled down to the floor, or shredded. I can only imagine how crazy it will be when he moves into full out walking.

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Books delivered to your door!

There are a select few things that I would call myself “passionate” about. I am not talking about my husband or my children but rather those interests that are mine alone. If there is anything that I have always been passionate about it is reading. Books are a fabulous way to explore the world without ever leaving home. My Mom used to say that I would read wallpaper if it had words on it because I was so thirsty for new ideas and information. Since having children I haven’t had quite as much time to get out the the library as I would like. To compensate for a while I joined every book club known to man. There are so many problems with these clubs in my book that I swore off any mail order books forever. Not only are the books REALLY expensive but if you don’t keep up with your account they just send books to you that you either have to pay for or return at your own expense.

I was recently given the opportunity to test out this new book lending service called BooksFree.com and based on what I read decided to give it a try. BooksFree.com is perfect for people like me who just want to read books and not own them. It is also great because the books come right to my mailbox and all I do is ship them back in a prepaid envelope. Upon receipt BooksFree.com will then ship out the next selections on my list. For as little as $9.99 a month I can have 2 paperback books of my choice delivered right to my door. BooksFree.com even offers MP3 downloads and audiobooks, which are perfect for those long car trips with the family.

My first two selection arrived quickly and I can’t wait to dive into them. I have always wanted to read Angela’s Ashes by Frank McCourt and hope to read most of it this weekend. The other book I chose based on the handy reader reviews on BooksFree.com and is called The Time Travelor’s Wife by Audrey Niffenegger. The service and selection at BooksFree.com is outstanding. You can also buy a book if you find one that you want to add to your personal collection. BooksFree.com also accepts donationed books that in turn earn you cash. I would highly recommend this site for anyone who loves to read, appreciates convenience, quality, and value!

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Being Me again!

I have been at long last focusing on my health as part of my “Shrink My Rear” campaign. My life over the last 3-4 years has been consumed with either trying to get pregnant, being pregnant, grieving not being pregnant, trying to get pregnant, trying to adopt, being pregnant, caring for a newborn, and nursing said baby. In short it has been so long since my body has felt like my own I can’t really remember. You forget how nice it is to take a cold pill, drink a regular coffee, or yes even exercise without worrying how you might be affecting you (would be) child. Don’t get me wrong I am so incredibly blessed to be a Mom I wouldn’t change it for a minute. This is just the first time in SOOO long where I for once feel settled and at peace. After a very stressful first 8-9 month our littlest boy is at long last on some sort of a routine and has successfully slept through the night for 3 nights in a row. It is amazing what sleep does for your mental outlook :) I realized how much I had been shutting myself off from the world just trying to keep it all together in the midst of our “adjustment” period. It is nice having a moment to myself, taking care of myself once again, and having a happy family at last :)

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Mortgages for every need.

Owning a home is a dream for people worldwide. Nothing compares to the feeling of walking through a door knowing that you have set foot in a home that is truly your own. When it comes to choosing a mortgage broker there are many aspects you should consider. Obtaining a mortgage isn’t just about terms and interest rates it is also about finding a broker that can meet your mortgage needs. Finding a broker who offers a variety of mortgage loan options is an important part of the process. It is wise to be sure that the company you choose for your loans needs has professional expertise in the type of loan you are seeking and truly has your best interest at heart. This description typifies the staff at Mortgage Mart because they will take care of your financial needs with expert care and attention.

Mortgage Mart will be glad to assist you in obtaining finding the perfect solution for your mortgage needs. Mortgage Mart offers a variety of loan products and services including various types of mortgage loans, refinancing, home equity lines of credit, and services to provide a home loan quote. I know when we first looked into mortgages the process seemed overwhelming but that was long before the advent of the internet. How great is it that right from the convenience of home you can quickly and easily begin the mortgage process using the online tools featured at Mortgage Mart?

Mortgage Mart is completely dedicated to walking you through the mortgage process every step of the way and making your dream of home ownership a reality. Take a moment and put the expert services of Mortgage Mart to work for you and your family.

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Tip to encourage reading

Reading is a huge part of our family life and something we encourage as much as possible. We began reading to our son as an infant and this became a part of our daily routine. This I believe is essential to promoting young readers. There are however other ways to sneak reading into your children’s lives. One of my little rules has always been that when my children watch a movie we automatically turn on the closed captioning. This in my opinion is every big as good as those expensive toys where they drag the pencil along the story in a book and the story is read to them. This is also a great way to keep the noise level in your house down once you have strong readers. I knew it was having some effect when my son was first learning to read and would pause the movie to look more closely at words he recognized. Why not give it a try today :)

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Find the Time

It’s now easier than ever to get a Caribbean vacation rental thanks to CVOA. Why not take a relaxing vacation in one of their St. Thomas villas, or at one of their scenic Cayman villas? With the vacation season on us there’s no reason not to take some time for yourself and your family and relax on a beautiful tropical island. Just remember who gave you the advice when you’re soaking up the rays on the beach.

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A family first

In just two weeks we will head off for our very first REAL family vacation. Over the years we have taken a number of weekend trips but never an extended trip like this. It is funny how excited I feel about this trip. What we are doing is fairly laid back and not nearly as exciting as something like a Kissimmee vacation but it is a big deal for us. It should be fun to see how our almost one year old does away from home. He is a pretty inflexible little fellow so I am not setting my hopes to high. Either way just getting away from home will be so nice.

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Take the stress of out moving

One of the things I dread most in life is having to move. It wasn’t so bad when it was just my husband and myself relocating but it is entirely different with children. Because we have both been in school for most of our adult lives we have moved far more than you average family. In order to complete training, internships, or fellowships we have moved well over a dozen time in the last 15 years. Even though I consider myself a fairly detailed person when it comes to planning a move there is always something I overlook. That is why I love online services like Relocation.com.

Relocation.com makes planning a move as simple as a few clicks of your mouse. They leave no stone unturned when it comes to planning a move. Relocation.com can assist anyone with literally any aspect of moving. There is absolutely no reason to look elsewhere when you are researching moving companies, apartments, real estate, or jobs. It doesn’t matter if you are moving across the country or around the world this site has the information you need. Even complicated tasks like arranging auto transport or arranging international shipping are a breeze using this incredible site. Even the most experienced movers, like myself, overlook something and find themselves in race to take care of something at the last minute. By using Relocation.com you can easily eliminate that last minute moving stress by knowing that every detail has been taken care of.

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Glasses Galore!

If there is one thing I love it is saving money wherever I can. In the last month three people in my house have needed new glasses. Because our insurance does not cover this expense I began looking into different options to save money on our eyeglasses. Having several college friends in the eye care field I decided to consult them on how to go about doing this. Surprisingly one of them suggested a few online retailers. She told me that the mark up on glasses at an independent optician could be as much as 1000% for the same frames and lenses I could get online. So we decided that I would be the test case for buying glasses online. I was amazed that you can get anything from swim goggles to motorcycle sunglasses online at a fraction of the cost from an eye care center. My vision is the worst in our family and requires very high index lenses to avoid that pop bottle lens look. Usually, I spend about $160.00 on lenses alone. Online I was able to purchase a complete pair of rimless, memory, titanium frames with high index lenses for next to nothing! The glasses I received were perfect in every way. Because the glasses are so inexpensive we have since ordered a few pairs for each of us to switch our looks up a bit. Of course some people think this is crazy but I don’t really care :)

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Plan a great vacation with Eurobookings

This year I have procrastinated a bit when it comes to making vacation plans for our family. This afternoon I spent the better part of it trying to finalize our summer vacation plans. Unlike the majority of people in my life or social circle I am not someone who enjoys crowds. My idea of a relaxing vacation is as far away from the hustle and bustle of life as I can get. When it comes to planning our vacations we strive for a peaceful and relaxing getaway. That is why I am particularly drawn to the idea of visiting Madrid or Sevilla during the summer. With the Spanish people leaving the city during the intense heat of summer these towns tend only to be populated by tourist who might visit the area. After looking at several different websites in order to Book a hotel in Spain it was clear that Eurobookings.com offers the widest selection of accomodations at incredible values. Even at this late date in the season Eurobookings has an array of hotels to choose from. It is great to know that even when I put things off until the last minute incredible services like Eurobookings make it possible to plan a great summer vacation!

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A different kid :)

Yesterday my oldest son received his first pair of glasses. This was inevitable considering the genetic predisposition his parents have gifted him with. If you wear glasses you undoubtedly can recall the details of getting your first pair of glasses. My first pair was a brilliant blue plastic number that my mom took me to get in the first grade. While I don’t remember actually picking them out or picking them up I do remember wearing them to school for the first time.

My son’s first pair are definitely more attractive than my own. He is now sporting a lovely pair of half-rim, very small metal frames. What is funny is he looks like an entirely different kid. It is like his face was just waiting for those glasses to come along. They suit him in every way. I love him either way but he really looks like his own person now. It is so cute to watch him rediscover the world he hasn’t been seeing quite so clearly and familiarize himself with his new look.

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“What’s for dinner?”

It is time I come clean about something. Don’t tell anyone but I am what I consider a “shoddy” cook. Most everyone who knows me can tell you that I am an incredible baker. Mistakenly they quite often assume that my culinary expertise extends to other cooking realms like main courses and such. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. Yes, I know a great deal about cooking but putting those skills into practice is something else. In fact most of my “knowledge” is amassed from online resources. In essence most of what I know is from reading about something on the FoodNetwork.com website and not actual practice in the kitchen. I secretly wish I could enroll in culinary classes at http://www.miamiculinary.com/ but I don’t see it happening anytime soon.

There are three words that I dread hearing each and every day. Simply uttering the words “what’s for dinner” is paramount to finger nails on a chalkboard to my ears. Life would be so dandy if I could simply in some nutritional fashion feed my family brownies, cookies, breads, and pastries for each meal. Baking takes on an almost therapeutic feeling for me whereas inviting anyone to dinner sends me in a tizzy. Crazy, I know but it’s who I am.

By the way are you hungry for cinnamon rolls?

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A little less of me.

For the last three months I have been working out like a mad woman. As I enter the fourth month of my journey to become a “little less of me” I can’t help but feel a bit of frustration. You seen despite my very active lifestyle the scale has not spiraled downward as I would have hoped. I have been watching what I eat and drinking water to the point of almost needing incontinence supplies and still almost nothing. Yes, my clothes fit better but I am someone who needs to see the scale move. I mean I REALLY need to see the scale move so now I have embarked on a very low fat diet to supplement my other attempts. My next step is to add in some strength training exercises to see if I can’t get this sluggish metabolism of mine moving. I realize that as much as I exercise I have to be building muscle that is counteracting the scale moving downward but there has to be a point when things balance out right?

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They keep evolving!

Just when I think I have some idea of what my children will eventually look like at adults they seem to change before my eyes. For the longest time my oldest son has had the bluest of blue eyes. In the last month they have started to take on a brown appearance. I mistakenly assumed that after a certain point eye color was set. This change pleases my brown eye and brown haired husband who had begun to wonder if the child had even a smidgen of his DNA floating around. My children thus far have very similar appearances to myself as a child. My husband says this doesn’t bother him but yet he is always looking for some attribute that resembles him. Until the change in eye color the strongest similarity he could come up with was that both boys have toes shaped like his. I now believe we won’t really know who they resemble until they are fully grown and the “evolutionary process” is complete.

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Not Your Average T-Shirts

When you work in a very formal business environment during the day nothing feels better than to come home and slip into something comfy. For both my husband and I this generally means shorts and T-shirts. We don’t however want to wear just any old t-shirt as we are frequently running someone in the family here or there. Personally, I like my clothing to say something about who I am and what I am about. One of my favorite spots for t-shirts that are anything but “average” is Vjucool.com. The products at Vjucool.com are eye catching and cover a wide array of topics. It doesn’t matter whether you are interested in comics, music, fashion, or just plain great style Vjucool.com has a the perfect t-shirt. Even better is the attention to detail that is a part of every VJUCool product. Every component from the quality of the material to the design and message is scrupulously assessed before the product every hits the site. With collections such as “gorgeous”, “dream“, “graph”, and more you can not only look great make your own unique statement. I am trying to narrow down my next selection but I think this will be it:

What do you think? Check out the Vjucool.com site and drop a comment with your favorite!

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Make time to eat together!

Given the hectic pace of life today, the average American dinner time has turned into much less than what it once was. Many families find themselves eating dinner on the run or everyone ends up eating at a different time. Eating together as a family is such and important thing to make time for. If you can’t always get together for dinner then strive to make eating breakfast together a priority. There are so many quick and easy breakfast recipes out there that take only minutes to prepare and offer the same “home cooked” feel as a having dinner.

If you think you can’t make time to eat together? You might want to rethink your schedule given the following research findings. The number of teens who have regular family dinners drops by 50 percent as their substance abuse risk increases sevenfold, according to a survey of 12 to 17 year olds released by the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse (CASA) at Columbia University. Family meals also help improve school performance. Family dinners foster healthy child development and help children cope with the stresses of life. Eating meals together results in improved nutrition and encourages a healthy lifestyle. These few points alone should provide strong motivation for families to rethink their schedules to make time for each other.

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How can they be bored already?

We are just ending our first full week of summer vacation here in this part of the country. I have to say it takes a bit of adaptation for all of us to get used to a different schedule. Unbelievably my oldest has already started to hint that he is “bored”. The child seems to expect that something new and exciting is going to happen everyday that he is home. What he doesn’t seem to realize is just how many activities we have planned for over this summer. Sure, it would be lovely to leave tomorrow for a vacation international points club or other exotic location but that doesn’t mean we aren’t going to have fun. It just isn’t going to happen every single day of the week.

If your child is already wondering how to fill the seemingly endless hours of summertime freedom they are gifted with here are a few ideas for passing the time:

Scavenger Hunt: Make a list of 10 things children might find outside, such as sticks in the shape of a letter, giant leaves, yellow (or any color) flower, (make sure they understand not to pick flowers from someone’s garden), and whatever else you might think of. You might even want to take a walk around the area your children are allowed to be in and make a list based on what you see. Don’t make the list too easy or they will be done in a minute and don’t make it so hard they lose interest.

Treasure Hunt: Hide some type of “treasure” somewhere and write hints on papers to lead to the next clue. Use several clues in different places so they need to read the clue and try to figure out where the next clue might be.

Treasure Map: If you have more than one child, they can each hide a treasure somewhere in the yard and draw a map showing where to go, starting from the door and ending at the treasure. They exchange maps with someone else after they have finished and try to find the treasures.

Make A Bird Feeder: Use a two liter plastic soda bottle. Cut a large hole in the center of the bottle, so that there is a large opening that the birds can use to enter the bottle. Attach a string around the neck of the. Make two small holes below the opening and push a branch through the holes for the birds to perch on. Place bird seed on the floor of the bottle and hang from a tree branch.

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Never ending home rehab….

This is the 3rd summer in a row that we will spend scraping and painting our house. At this point I truly regret ever having started the job ourselves. It likely would have been much more cost effective to hire someone who could devote 40 hours a week to the job rather than a few hours in the evening here and there. As it stands we have something started on all 4 sides of the house but not one of the side is completed. I would be happy just to get the front porch done and be able to at least rehang my house marker. It would just be nice to have the house look finished from the front. I keep reminding myself of how fortunate I am to own my own home and so many people would be grateful to have a home whether it is painted or not. Maybe just maybe this will be the summer it gets done.

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No one should have to experience this…

A fellow blogger and his family have experienced every parent’s worst nightmare this week. While I don’t know Dawg personally his love for his dear little “Puppy Monster” radiated in his blog. Take a moment to send this family your thoughts and prayers and if you can help them by donating here. A series of badges has been created in tribute to “Puppy Monster” and Dawg by Amy of Amy’s Musings considering getting one of these badges to help this family… Dawg is an EMT and has dedicated his life to helping others. This is a chance to give back to a family in need.

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Making Melbourne Affordable

One country my husband and I have always wanted to visit is Australia. For quite some we have been saving in hopes of making this dream a reality. It looks like we may be able to visit sooner rather than later because I just discovered incredible accommodation options that make visiting Melbourne much more affordable than I had anticipated. In the process of searching for “Accomodation in Melbourne” I discovered a service that allows you to book accommodations at 25,000 properties worldwide at savings that are far superior to what hotels charge. Not only can you book accommodations well in advance of a vacation you can also book last minute stays at your choice of hotels, hostels, and apartments. Maybe we will see Australia for our 17th anniversary instead of our 20th thanks to www.cheaperthanhotels.com!

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What do you do?

When you know something about a friend that they didn’t tell you?

Let’s take it one step further and say that this “something” is a crisis they are currently experiencing but are ashamed for anyone else to know about? You want to help but if you stepped forward and asked if they needed something it would be obvious you were privy to their personal dilemma.

Do you sit back and do nothing knowing that they will quietly face this situation on their own?

What if your friend was staying in a situation that they absolutely should be thinking twice about?

So many questions to ponder….

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No More Teachers…

Today was my son’s last day of school for the 2006-2007 school year. Silly as it is they have to go in tomorrow for a half an hour to pick up their report cards. That is just long enough for me to drop him off and drive to Tim Horton’s for a large double double and back be back to pick him up. Just a few hours into his vacation he has already started to plan the entire summer out. What he forgets is all of the activities he is already enrolled in like Audubon and basketball camp. Then there is our week long camping trip, vacation bible school, a trip to his great grandma’s, Sunday afternoons at the zoo, playing with the neighborhood children, and swimming at his uncle’s pool. Despite having a list and a calender mapping out of these activities today he came up to me and asked if he could go to a game design school. Where this idea came from I really don’t know. Considering all the games he like to make up this really wouldn’t be a bad idea if something existed like this for children.

Among the many things I love about my son is that he sees his summer free time as a chance to learn. I feel lucky to have a child who instead of dinging to go to the playground wants one of our first unscheduled activities to be a visit to the library to get books on saving our environment. In fact he his sitting here right now asking me to buy him a website of his own and wants to call it something along the lines of “One kid against pollution”. Mighty ambitious for a would be 2nd grader don’t you think?

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Things I keep putting off…

For the most part I am a very prepared person but there are a few things that I (we) just keep putting off. First on the list is having a will prepared. For some reason I just can’t seem to narrow down who should raise our children in the event we are not able to do so. There are a few strong contenders on my list but the reality is that I can’t decide. It is kind of like buying child life insurance. In both cases you are considering someone else’s mortality and that is just so difficult to do. We also really need to up the limits on our life insurance policies considering that we now have one more child to consider financially. I guess we just need to sit down and get it all done in one swoop so I can stop worrying about it.

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More Food Ideas For Self Feeders

It can’t be all about cold foods because even little tummies need a warm meal every now and then. These are a few suggestions for early self feeders. I highly recommend getting a splat mat and doing everything you can to support any attempts at self feeding. I made the mistake with my oldest of being obsessed with having a neat and tidy toddler and ended up dashing his attempts. I honestly think this contributed to the picky eating we continue to battle at the age of 7.

Here are some hot foods that can be served for healthy meals and snacks:

* Oatmeal or cream of wheat with whole milk
* Pancakes or waffles topped with applesauce
* Mini omelettes or scrambled eggs and toast
* Congee or rice porridge with small pieces of meat
* Soft tortillas filled with beans or ground meat
* Soups made with milk, and a whole grain bun
* Vegetable, split pea, or bean soup with crackers
* Fish chowder with bread sticks
* Macaroni and cheese
* Spaghetti with tomato or meat sauce
* Meatballs with pasta
* Chicken with vegetables
* Rice or pasta and meat with vegetables
* Fish served in a bun
* Baked beans and toast
* Chili, dahl or lentils, and rice

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Improvement without Discipline

I know that Employee Performance Management has long had the stigma of punishing those employees that didn’t perform as well as they should.  What’s great about the Discipline without Punishment® system is that it encourages your employees to improve their performance by taking personal responsibility.
Grote Consulting, the developer of the Discipline without Punishment® system, is a leader in Performance Management Consulting, and after working with them, I’m sure you’ll see why.  There’s no reason your company can’t be working more efficiently with better productivity, and I know Grote Consulting can help you achieve that goal.

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Self Feeder Food Ideas

I can already see that my 10.5 month old is going to be a head strong little man. Although just 10.5 months old he already is determined to feed himself and loves just about everything I put in front of him. This makes me a nervous wreck because I worry about choking but don’t want to dissuade him in being an adventurous eater. My older son is and was as picky as could be so I am determined to let this little guy have at it when it comes to trying new things.

These are a few great suggestions for one to three year olds:

* Whole grain, cold cereal with whole milk
* Milk or yogurt shakes blended with fruit
* Yogurt with fresh fruit pieces or applesauce
* Yogurt with crackers or roti
* Rice and raisin pudding with whole milk
* Dessert tofu with fresh fruit
* Sandwiches made with egg, tuna, chicken salad, sliced cheese or tender meat
* Grated or small cubes of cheese with whole grain crackers
* Small muffins and orange wedges
* Whole grain crackers or rice cakes thinly spread with cottage cheese or mashed avocado
* Banana bread spread with cream cheese
* Whole grain toast spread with peanut butter, fruit puree, or non-hydrogenated margarine or butter
* Whole wheat pita and hummus

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One way to ensure she says “Yes”

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What makes us do this …

to our kids?

There is something in us as parents that leads us to dress our infants in funny outfits and take pictures. It is almost as if we can’t help ourselves. My children have worn every hat and sunglass combination possible that my husband can devise. I personally am not drawn to costumes but do think there is nothing cuter than finding matching shirts for my husband, 7 year old and infant son (not that I get a great deal of cooperation on going out in public like that)…

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Baby Number Three

If you know me this title probably caught your attention right away I bet? Let me get right to the point and clear the air that I am not expecting baby number three but know someone who is. There is a part of me that feel sorry for second and third babies because they never seem to be celebrated in quite the same way as the first child. Whenever someone close to me is expecting a I make a point to give a unique baby gift to celebrate the miracle that every child truly is.

One key thing I look for when choosing a special baby gift is handcrafting. Even if I don’t make the gift myself I like the idea that someone somewhere personally created my special gift. Every mom no matter how new or experienced deserves a special keepsake in honor of the precious little life she brings into the world. Children grow up so fast that is wonderful to have a tangible memory of their babyhood.

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Make them smile with flowers

Making somebody smile isn’t always easy, especially when the person you want to make smile can’t see you. That’s why I recommend a Fresh Flower Delivery to make that special somebody in your life smile. It’s now easier than ever to order flowers online and have them shipped to either a home or office. Why not brighten up somebody’s day with a lovely bouquet of their favorite flowers with a special note attached? It’s an easy way to let them know you’re thinking of them.

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Raising Money At School

Tonight we attended my son’s first Suzuki violin concert and it was phenomenal. I was so proud of my son up there on stage. It was fun to see the progress he has made in just one school year. His teacher is wonderful and really works well with him. The program is backed by a number of very involved parents who actively work to raise money to support scholarships for promising students to attend Suzuki camps. My only wish is that they had let new parents like myself know they would have so many opportunities to buy things and contribute to their fund raising efforts. Fortunately I had a bit of cash on hand or else I might have needed to ask my parents for a cash advance. I would have definitely contributed more though if I had been informed ahead of time. Oh well, there is always next year :)

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Research Your Schools Before Buying!

When we bought our home sending our children to school wasn’t really a concern because they didn’t exist. Had I known then what I know now I never ever would have bought our home. When I went to school there was one school to attend so it was pretty straight forward. In my town I could go 2 miles in any direction and hit an elementary or middle school and they are not created equal. Our son has had a disappointing first two years of school for an extremely bright and gifted child. Our requests for him to be challenged more academically have repeatedly fallen on deaf ears and he is already becoming disinterested in a school that “doesn’t teach science”. Today after much soul searching we filed papers to transfer him to a school across town. I have now discovered online that our current schools test scores are among the lowest in the district evidencing their desire for him “not to move too far ahead”. Save yourself a hassle and kids or no kids research the schools in your area before buying a home.

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Little Details

Frequently I find myself getting caught up in a bit of wishing I had more of this or that. It is so easy when people around you live more extravagant lifestyles that you. I have to giggle when a select few people I know complain about not having enough money when anyone with a clue could very accurately guess their family income (which is 3-4 times that of my own). While they complain about the size of their houses and wardrobes I need only to think about how far my own life has come over the years to be reminded of how blessed I truly am. As I sit in my kitchen with my fabulous under cabinet lighting I am keenly aware of this. There was a time a few years ago when our apartment kitchen was so small I couldn’t fully open the oven door without smacking it on the opposing wall! Needless to say I have to giggle when people who shop at the most expensive stores, refuse anything except brand names, and live in prime locations declare themselves “broke”.

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My Poor Parents…

This weekend I was cleaning out the attic and stumbled across a journal I started as a teenager. This was a real eye opener as a parent because I can now look back and see exactly why my parents might have been exasperated with me at times. One entry detailed just how angry I was that they wouldn’t let me spend my hard earned money on def leppard concert tickets. Mind you at the time I was very young and naive but very much wanted to be able to travel alone with a bus group headed to the concert. Wisely my parents refused to indulge me and I spent the next week sulking in my room. Now I know that sometimes you just have to make those hard calls and be the bad guy when you know your child is just not ready for the situation. To this day I have still not been to a real concert !

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“Mommy he is floating upside down”

As we sat down to dinner tonight those are the words that came out of my oldest son’s mouth. He is just 7 and still not quite familiar with many of the heartaches the world has yet to cast down on him. We rushed to his urgent cries to come and rescue his much loved pet Beta named “Bushtail”. Bushtail came into our family at another very low point for our son when we his imaginary friend “Pete the Dragon” had to leave to take care of another little boy. That is a story for another day. About two weeks ago I moved Bushtail into a swank new home that was a serious upgrade from his small goldfish bowl. Bushtail swam gleefully during this time in his 10 gallon tank that he shared with 2 African Dwarf clawed frogs. The tank has everything a fish could want from water purification system to colorful rocks. The water purification system has been a real point of interest for my son and he has asked a million and one questions about it. In particular he wants to know how it is different from the Portable Water Filters we use when camping. I really don’t know anything about what aquarium water filters do to water but we are now well versed in how adept they are at sucking in an drowning much loved childhood pets….

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Fairwell Mr. Sense~

In light of some of the recent news headlines this little article seemed entirely appropriate to share. Just when you think you have heard it all something comes to light that just leaves your jaw hanging. In my case it was news that a young mother decided to take the lives of her 4 young daughters and herself by hanging last week. This sad case left a her 5,4,and 3 year old daughters dead and her 8 month old clinging to life….

Obituary of Common Sense !

Today, we mourn the passing of an old friend by the name of Common Sense.

Common Sense lived a long life, but died from heart failure at the brink of the Millennium. No one really knows how old he was since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He selflessly devoted his life to service in schools; hospitals, homes, factories and offices, helping folks get jobs done without fanfare and foolishness.

For decades, petty rules, silly laws and frivolous lawsuits held no power over Common Sense. He was credited with cultivating such valued lessons as to know when to come in from rain, the early bird gets the worm and life isn’t always fair.

Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don’t spend more than you earn), reliable parenting strategies (the adults are in charge, not the kids), and it’s okay to come in second.

A veteran of the Industrial Revolution, the Great Depression, and the Technological Revolution, Common Sense survived cultural and educational trends including feminism, body piercing, whole language and new math.

But his health declined when he became infected with the “if-it-only-helps-one-person-it’s-worth-it” virus. In recent decades, his waning strength proved no match for the ravages of overbearing federal legislation.

He watched in pain as good people became ruled by self-seeking lawyers and enlightened auditors. His health rapidly deteriorated when schools endlessly implemented zero tolerance policies; when reports were heard of six year old boys charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; when a teen was suspended for taking a swig of mouthwash after lunch; when a teacher was fired for reprimanding an unruly student. It declined even further when schools had to get parental consent to administer aspirin to a student but couldn’t inform the parent when a female student is pregnant or wants an abortion.

Finally, Common Sense lost his will to live as the Ten Commandments became contraband, churches became businesses, criminals received better treatment than victims, and federal judges stuck their noses in everything from Boy Scouts to professional sports.

As the end neared, Common Sense drifted in and out of logic but was kept informed of developments, regarding questionable regulations for asbestos, low-flow toilets, smart guns, the nurturing of Prohibition Laws and mandatory air bags.

Finally, when told that the homeowners association restricted exterior furniture only to that which enhanced property values, he breathed his last.

Common Sense was preceded in death by his parents Truth and Trust; his wife, Discretion; his daughter, Responsibility; and his son Reason. His three stepbrothers survive him: Rights, Tolerance and Whiner.

Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone.

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Are You Counting Calories?

There is not a new “Mommy” I know that is not trying to shed those last few baby pounds. In my case despite a very consistent exercise routine the scale simply would not budge until I began calorie counting. Once I began using a calorie counter it was a bit of a shock just how many calories I had been consuming mindlessly throughout the course of the day. It is so easy to pop a cookie in your mouth here or a candy bar there and suddenly you have eaten several hundred extra calories more than you thought. Using the free calorie counter at MyFitnessPal.com anyone can easily track calories and get on the path to loosing effectively loosing weight. It really is amazing that the comprehensive tools at MyFitnessPal.com are absolutely FREE considering everything this site offers. I would encourage anyone who is beginning or in the midst of a weight loss journey to put MyFitnessPal.com to work for them.

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Swim Diapers Yay or Nay?

I am not sure that swim diapers even existed when my oldest was a baby. Maybe we just never went swimming so it didn’t occur to me to check them out. Now I find myself in the fortunate position of having a brother living just a few miles away with a 24 foot pool and an open door policy extended to us. I decided to look into swim diapers today and was astounded by the price! $7.00 or more for 10 diapers. What is the deal are they worth this investment? I recall having a swim diaper thing for my oldest that really was nothing more than glorified rubber pants. I never really used it because there wasn’t a reason and I couldn’t deduce if I had to use it with a diaper. Silly I know. I did pick up a pack of generic swim diapers to try until I pin down the Mommy’s I know about their opinion. Almost a dollar a diaper is CRAZY! I guess if you leave it on all day and only use one occasionally it isn’t so bad.

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What’s The Deal With Baby Teeth ?

Always full of questions my oldest son wanted to know today “why we have baby teeth”? He assumes I know everything (which I hope continues for quite a while longer) and was surprised when I didn’t have a great answer. To satisfy his curiosity I decided to investigate the reason behind baby teeth.

Baby or primary teeth:

* Help the child bite and chew food
* Make the child look more attractive
* Help the child speak correctly
* Save space for the child’s permanent teeth
* Guide the permanent teeth into place

That is why it’s vital that you take good care of your child’s baby teeth.

Now we all know and you can be better prepared than I was for when your child asks you this question!

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How Long For A Booster Seat?

My in-laws keep asking how long my oldest son needs to be in a booster seat. He is fairly tall for his age but doesn’t seem to mind riding in his seat so we haven’t considered changing the situation. I did start to wonder though if for safety he should still be in the booster and found the following test to determine an answer:

The 5-Step Test.

1. Does the child sit all the way back against the auto seat?
2. Do the child’s knees bend comfortably at the edge of the auto seat?
3. Does the belt cross the shoulder between the neck and arm?
4. Is the lap belt as low as possible, touching the thighs?
5. Can the child stay seated like this for the whole trip?

If you answered “no” to any of these questions, your child needs a booster seat to make both the shoulder belt and the lap belt fit right for the best crash protection. Your child will be more comfortable, too!

The back seat is the safest part of the car for all passengers. Recent research shows that children should ride in the back seat until they reach age 15.

There are of course state laws to be aware of. I have not found anything suggesting the booster poses a risk but be sure to drop a line if you know okay?

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Is Your Mom Gray?

A friend and I were discussing gray hair the other day. I proudly remarked how neither of my parents went gray until very late in life. My friend on the other hand detailed how her Mother had become fully gray haired at a very young age. When I found this little story all the answers became clear in my mind :) So ask yourself just how gray haired is your poor mom and then take a long look in the mirror…

One day a little girl was sitting and watching her mother do the
dishes at the kitchen sink. She suddenly noticed that her mother has
several strands of white hair sticking out in contrast on her brunette head.

She looked at her mother and inquisitively asked, “Why are some ofyour hairs
white, Mom?”

Her mother replied, “Well, every time that you do something wrong
and make me cry or unhappy, one of my hairs turns white.”

The little girl thought about this revelation for a while and then
said, “Momma, how come ALL of grandma’s hairs are white?”

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Show her how much you really care!

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The New No Average Mom

After much fussy and fiddling I am so pleased to present for the very first time the “New” No Average Mom! The banner is once again the tremendous work of Zorn at Don’t Fear The Truth. Be sure to stop by and drop a comment here and at Don’t Fear The Truth to let Zorn know just how impressive his work is! You can see more of Zorn’s work at my husband’s blog The Tech Inspector.

So motivated by my spiffy new banner, I spent two hours last night playing with css code to make some improvements to other areas of this blog. Frequent visitors will immediately notice a color change and the absence of those cute but unknown to me children. I would love to hear what you think of the colors for the body of this blog as I am not completely convinced they are quite where they should be. The girly me is mad about them but the male consensus, based on my DH and my pal Jimi, is “that’s a lot of pink”. Ladies what do you think?

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Who Pay’s The Bills?

In my circle of family and friends it is typically the man who manages this responsibility. I don’t really think it matters but it often says something to me about different characteristics that make up family dynamics. Between my husband and I over 16 years of marriage it has become clear who is better at what tasks. My mindset is such that I intuitively think in a way that juggles our finances to stretch each dollar to the limit. Whereas my husband is clearly superior about managing household schedules, accomplishing chores, and other responsibilities. Together we have decisions about student loan consolidation, refinancing our mortgage, and tackling debt that have put us on the road to financial freedom. Without being on the same page on these issues we could never make ends meet. We see the big picture and do whatever it takes to get there. Really isn’t that all that matters in the end?

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Living Like The Johnson’s

Every parent has been there when your child asks why little Johnny or Suzie gets to have this or that but your family doesn’t. Even as a parent it can sometimes be a tough concept to grasp. What I try to keep in mind that while the Jone’s are out enjoying their Orlando vacation home, new boat, or gym membership they will undoubtedly be the same people complaining in a few month’s about “how tight things are” and they just don’t know how they are going to make ends meet. It literally kills me inside to listen to people go on about the state of their finances when they refuse to see they are their own worst enemy. While it would be nice to have a vacation home I will gladly keep my small house, older cars, and roughing it camping trips if it means not worrying about paying the bills or burdening other’s with my current financial dilemma.

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Extraordinary Ringtones

Does this scenario sound familiar? You are in a crowded public place and a cell phone rings and suddenly dozens of people are rifling though their pockets and bags to see if it is their phone. The reason behind this is so many people just stick with the same old dull ringtones that come preloaded on their cell phone at the time of purchase. There really is no good reason not have a unique ringtone when Free Ringtones are available at MSN Emotions.org.

MSN Emotions features 1000+ free ringtones available for immediate download to your cell phone. The possibilities are limitless with virtually every music genre imaginable represented. There are even kid’s, music, video game, television, and theme ringtones just to name a few. Along with the cool ringtones offered at MSN Emotions there also free cell phone wallpapers available for download. MSN Emotions ringtones and wallpapers mean the difference between having an ordinary cell phone and an extraordinary cell phone.

Right now I am downloading Lost In This Moment by Big and Rich to my cell phone. Next week I will mix things up a bit and change my ringtone to Johnny Cash. I seriously doubt anyone else at my local mall with have the same ringer as I do again now that I have found MSN Emotions!

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Communicating With Baby

Our baby is at the age where he clearly has thoughts and emotions he wants to express but lacks the words to do so. I have been investigating ways to help improve how we communicate with each other. These are my favorite tips:

1. Sign Language: Teach your infant and toddler to sign simple words through American Sign Language. There is ample research to show that signing not only works for communicating before verbal communication is possible, it also increases verbal skills and vocabulary.

2. Talk: Talk, talk, and talk some more. Talk to your child from day one. Talk about any subject as the child’s day develops. For example, say to your child as he/she finishes breakfast, “You have finished eating your warm oatmeal and cool applesauce. Ummm, they both tasted good. Now you will take a bath and get dressed.” While you bathe your child say, “Mommy is going to pour warm water on your back. See, it feels good. Now we will dry off with a big soft towel and put on some cool lotion.” When you take a walk later in the day, keep up a running commentary on the sunshine, flowers, grass, birds, wind, etc. Keep that commentary going all day.

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Purchase The Right Electronics Gifts

There is nothing I hate more than when someone in my family asks for electronics for a gift. I know nothing about electronics and hate to make a bad selection. That is why this site called TestFreaks sounds perfect for me. Testfreaks is soon launching and seems interesting because it will feature reviews of the hottest gadgets and consumer electronics. It could help you find the best best lcd tvs, cell phones, digital cameras, Mp3 players, and much more. There is even a continually growing community to join at the TestFreaks forum. Members have the unique opportunity to help shape the future of TestFreaks by testing new features and functions as they are developed. This site is exciting because never again will I make a bad gift purchase thanks to the professional and consumer reviews that will be featured on TestFreaks.com!

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Easing Separation Anxiety

Because your child will be more susceptible to separation anxiety when tired, hungry, or sick, try to schedule departures after naps and mealtimes. Prepare your child before the separation occurs by reassuring him that you will return (Brazelton, 1992). Let him know when you will be back. Because your child cannot understand time, use concepts that he can understand such as “I’ll be back when you are having snack,” or “I’ll be back on the day that you go to the library.” Be sure to stick to that time or call if there is an emergency or something that will delay your return. Stay calm, matter-of-fact and, sympathetic. “I know you are upset that I have to go.” Make your toddler feel secure when you’re around by giving lots of love and attention. “Practice” short-term separations around the house. As you go into the next room out of sight, talk to your baby: “Where did mommy go?” When you return, let her know: “Here I am!” These repeated separations can help your child learn that your disappearance is only temporary.

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Choosing The Right Preschool

As this school year draws to a close for many parents the time has also come to think about sending their child to preschool for the first time. As a parent it can be challenging to determine what is the best type of preschool experience for your child. I decided to compile a few of my favorite tips for choosing a program that I found helpful when I first faced this decision. The tips really are applicable whether you are choosing photography schools, dance programs, karate classes, sports, or any variety of education programs.

Your first step should be to compile a list of schools. I love to talk with other parents about their experiences with different programs. From there narrow your list down to a few top choices making sure to consider factors like time and travel. Is it really worth 40 minutes in the car one way for a 2 hour program? Also consider how much parental involvement is expected? We once found an incredible program for our son that at face value seemed too affordable to be true. Upon visiting the school we found that the program was able to offer such affordable rates because it based on a co-op principle and required extensive parental involvement outside normal preschool hours. Parents were not only expected to support the program through fund raisers but also required to perform maintenance duties around the school and serve as classroom assistance several times per month. Our lives at the time simply couldn’t accommodate this level of additional responsibility.

Once you have a list of possibilities schedule a visit. These are some handy tips for assessing the classroom experience once you arrive:

* Teachers are questioning individual children, encouraging them to expand their thinking and problem-solving skills.

* Children are intellectually engaged, eager, and happy; children are not bored, tense, or unhappy. Look at their faces.

* Children are working on individual or collaborative projects; children are not all doing the same project in the same way.

* Children have physical space to experiment and play, and time to be alone; they are not crowded into a confined or restrictive area for long periods of time.

* Children are creating their own writing or dictating their own stories to the teacher; children are not copying or completing a worksheet out of a book.

Lastly not all children are ready for preschool just because everyone else’s child seems headed off. Our oldest only attended preschool for one year because we could not answer “yes” to these questions with confidence:

1. Is your child ready for the environment?
2. Will they benefit from the experience?
3. Will they be able to communicate if something is not “right” or questionable?

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Help For Little Chewers

Our baby is definitely wanting something more substantial than pureed baby food. He has yet to get teeth which makes finding appropriate items a bit of a challenge. He loves teething biscuits but I really equate most of them to cookies and have been searching for a healthier alternative. This recipe seems like a great alternative to those teether biscuits on the market that are very similar to graham crackers.

Nutritious Teething Biscuits:

1 beaten egg yolk
3 tablespoons maple syrup or molasses
1 teaspoon vanilla
1.5 tablespoons oil
1/4 cup milk
1 tablespoon uncooked oatmeal
1 cup flour (white, wheat or combo)
1 tablespoon soy flour
1 tablespoon wheat germ
1 tablespoon nonfat dry milk.

Blend wet ingredients, add dry ingredients. Dough will be stiff. Roll dough thin and cut into strips or desired shapes. Bake at 350 for 15 minutes on ungreased cookie sheet. They can be made without the last 3 ingredients, but they add to the nutritional value.

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High Tech Tots

Today, as I was chatting with my friend topic of school came up. Her son will be entering kindergarten this coming fall and I was filling her in on a few things she should prepare for. As the conversation evolved we began reminiscing about our own educational experiences. Computers were just beginning to be introduced to students about the time I graduated high school. It was not until well into my graduate studies that the internet was a staple part of my scholarly arsenal. Who would have guessed by the time I decided to pursue a doctorate a few short years later that I would do so from the comfort of my home? Even at that point the idea of completing a doctoral or even business degrees online was a bit high tech for most people I encountered. Just four short years later everyone I know is aware of distance learning in some form or fashion.

Considering that my first grader has two school sessions a week dedicated to learning to use the computer it really is amazing how far things have evolved. In fact there is currently a push in our school district to purchase a laptop computer for each child in the district. For some reason I find the idea of designating a computer to each kindergarten child funny considering it wasn’t that long ago my own young son was trying to put Silly Putty into ours. While I am sure this computers will benefit a great many students I do question just how much a kindergarten student “needs” a laptop.

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Baby May Have Allergies

Our baby has had a runny nose for approximately three weeks. At his well child visit the doctor indicated that given the time of year and our family history he could be experiencing seasonal allergies. He suggested that if the drainage continues for another week that week start giving him a bit of Claritin liquid daily to see if it helps. Since we have not seen a bit of improvement I decided to compare the price of Claritin at my local pharmacy to an online pharmacy to see which would be a better savings. Even with the cost of shipping making a purchase online offered a huge savings for this particular product.

I found it interesting to note some of the diagnostic differences that may point to allergies versus a cold. The runny nose from a cold will start off being clear, it often turns yellow or green after 3-5 days, while children with allergies will continue to have just a clear runny nose. A child with a cold will usually get better in 10-14 days, while allergy symptoms might linger through the whole season until the first frost. When children have a cold, other household contacts are usually sick too. If your child has been sick for a few weeks and no one else at home has caught it, that is a good sign that it is just allergies. Given these considerations it seems we now have yet another allergic child in our house. Hopefully, he responds as easily to treatment as our older son has.

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Home Over Overhaul


Now that I am working from home I am beginning to realize the sad state my home office is in. It has been about 5 years since we purchase our office chair and desk. In that time we have moved half a dozen times and attended school via distance learning. When we purchase the furniture our primary concern was price and not quality. Combine these points and let’s just say our office furniture has taken a beating. I have decide that the time has come to look into new office furniture. This time I am looking not just at price but also quality.

GreatPricedFurniture.com offers an array of high quality furniture for every room of the home or office. In one easy to navigate and well designed site I was able to quickly an easily locate exactly the style of office furniture I have been looking for. I am a fan of Lane furniture and love that on this site I can shop not only by type of furniture category but also manufacturer. Another nice feature is being able to shop by collection. I am keenly eying an American View bedside table that would match the rest of my American View bedroom furniture. This site only gets better with great offers like no interest financing, international shipping, and a 30 day money-back guarantee.

GreatPricedFurniture has so many products to chose from I am going to have a hard time choosing new office furniture.

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Protect Baby From The Sun

As I watched my neighbor letting her two toddler’s run around the backyard on a cold night this week in long sleeve shirts and diapers :???: I started wishing for warm weather. Likely thought if she isn’t concerned with the cold then she probably won’t be concerned with the sun. It is however important to protect babies from the sun and here is why:

* Babies are not born with a developed skin protection system, so they burn more easily . Even children born to parents with deeply pigmented (dark) skin require maximum protection.

* Babies have more sensitive skin because the outermost layer of their skin is thinner.

* A young child has more skin, relative to his body mass, than an adult, so a sunburn would be more serious.

* A baby can’t tell you she’s too hot or the sun’s too bright. Your baby may begin to cry and you won’t know whether she’s tired, hungry or hot.

* Babies can’t physically move themselves out of the sunlight. A six-month old on a blanket is less mobile than a one-year old who can toddle into the shade.

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Professional Responsibilities

Despite the fact that I am on an extended hiatus from my professional career I have had the realization that I can’t just walk away from it. Time has literally flown by since leaving my job to raise my infant son last fall. I have not accomplished one thing I need to do to maintain my state license to practice. It suddenly hit me this week when I received one of my business magazines in the mail indicating I needed to renew or “else”. How could almost a year have gone by already?

The notion of renewing my trade and business magazine subscriptions led me to start thinking about the status of my CEU’s. Fortunately, I had obtained a number of those prior to leaving my position so I should be in good shape for a while in that department. On the other hand I now realize I need to track down my license renewal forms and get those in the mail. Then I need to address the status of my memberships with various professional organizations that are required. When I am done with all that I need to schedule a consultation with my checkbook to determine where exactly the hundreds of dollars that is all going to cost will come from? My employer always picked up the tab before and now that I work for myself I guess it is my honor to pay. It is funny how even though I don’t intend to return to a formal work setting anytime soon the pressure of having a professional career still exists. It goes to show you can’t always just leave it all behind when you decide to stay home.

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1st Tooth

The littlest man in our house is on the verge of getting his first tooth and is a miserable drooling machine. Top that off with a slight cold and be have one happy child in our home. It is hard to believe he turned 9 months old today! I have been trying all sorts of things to ease his teething pain and have come across a few things that seem to be working for short term relief. The cold is another story that the doctor will be attending to at his “well child” visit in the morning.

1. A six month old baby loves to feed herself. Let her do that by giving her a popsicle. Take an ice cube tray, fill it with your baby’s favorite juice and put wooden sticks in each section. The cold popsicle will numb his gums for a few moments and allow him to have a few giggles. I have been putting them in those feeding bags and he loves them!

2. After the first two bottom teeth come in, your baby can chew on a cold carrot or apple. This will make the pain subside, as well as give your baby a little added nutrition. Remember – never give your baby something he can choke on.

3. You want to make sure you have handy an over the counter teething gel, and pain reliever medication. These two combined will let your baby, and you, have a break from the pain. Be sure to ask your doctor what the correct dosage of medication is for your baby’s age.

4. One of the ways a baby learns is through “mouthing” objects. Give your baby a cold teething ring. You can buy one that is made to be put in the refrigerator.

The best thing to help your child get though teething is love. Lots of love and attention is sure to distract your baby from the pain of teething.

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WAHM Closet Confessional

I have a confession to make. As much as I love working from home and being my own boss there are days I long for a taste of my professional career again. For those of you that don’t know my formal background is in health care. For over a decade I worked in private practice settings. I love the feeling of making a difference that comes with working to improve patient’s quality of life. Aside from that you have might have picked up on the fact that I am all about comfort. Going to work was always fun on those days I was able to wear scrubs. Nursing uniforms and scrubs have come so far over the years that I really prefer them to my regular clothes. Who wouldn’t want wear clothes with the comfort of pajamas as opposed to nylons and skirts?

I am going to have to do some serious upgrading to my closet to fit my new work at home mom lifestyle. Today , as I stood trying to find something casual yet stylish to wear I realized that everything I own is geared towards the workplace. Likely, my current sentimentality towards my professional career is being influenced by the fact that I have nothing to wear to coffee with the girls, book club, or PTA. Go in a skirt and you look over dressed. Go in scrubs when everyone knows you work from home and you look crazy. Maybe I should design a work at home mom uniform. Never mind ~ now that I think about it that is what track pants and t-shirts were made for?

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Jean-Claude Backgammon Genius

When it comes to learning new games I have a fairly short attention span. My husband has tried for years to teach me a number of complex games but quite simply I become so bored I give up. One thing he has always wanted me to learn to play is backgammon. This however never materialized because backgammon rules never made sense to me as he described them. Recently be decided to investigate some innovative backgammon software featuring an animated tiger called “Jean-Claude”. This software features a 5 part animated series that explains in extremely user friendly language every aspect of playing backgammon. Jean-Claude even caught the attention of our 7 year old and as a family we have been exploring and testing our backgammon skills using this great software. The software is available as a free download at www.backgammonmasters.com which is a great risk free way to see if the game is something you want to learn more about. We have had a blast seeing which one of us know more answers to the trivia questions and attempting to wins prizes offered. I love the spin Jean-Claude puts on learning the game of backgammon and just how much fun is injected into the learning process for our entire family. This software packages backgammon as the perfect combination interactive computer software and technology along with a good old fashion game of challenge for today’s family.

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The Things We Learn As Parents

Being a mom has taught me so many things about myself that I really don’t think I could have learned any other way. Yes, there are tons of moments where I want to scream or run and hide but I truly love being a mom. Our home is filled with lots of love and laugh and occasionally a few tears. What lessons has parenthood taught you? Do any of these sound familiar?

If you spray hair spray on dust bunnies and run over them with rollerblades, they can ignite.

A 4-year-old’s voice is louder than 200 adults in a crowded restaurant.

If you hook a dog leash over a ceiling fan, the motor is not strong enough to rotate a 42-pound boy wearing puppy underwear and a superman cape. It is strong enough, however, to spread paint on all four walls of a 20×20 foot room.

When you hear the toilet flush and the words ‘Uh-oh,’ it’s already too late.

A six-year old can start a fire with a flint rock, even though a 36-year old man says they can only do it in the movies.

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The “Can We” List

Because this is my blog I am taking the liberty here and now of bragging about my children whenever I want. In my real life I do not and would not do this but here I am going to. It may happen a great deal so if this is a problem go elsewhere :) .

My oldest son, 7, is brilliant. So there I finally said it. I will preface that by saying he is also socially immature and has a knack for whining that drives me up the wall. I will preface the second statement by saying he has a heart so big, generous, and selfless that I wouldn’t trade the whining for anything if it meant him being less loving and caring.

To expound a bit on the way his mind works, think about other 7 year old boys you know…Mine gets up every morning and runs downstairs and grabs a book. One morning he read an entire book (Because of Winn Dixie) before we got up. Moby Dick, The Three Musketeers, and Last of the Mohicans are just a few of this month’s reads. As I type, he is reading the Encyclopedia of Science and asking me some tough questions. Having hit the letter A first he now wonders if the term “abortion” applies to the baby we lost during pregnancy a couple of years prior.

His mind is constantly a whirling with big ideas of things to build, create, make, and do. The number of times the child says “can we” in a day becomes mind numbing. I have mindlessly committed my husband and myself to any number of projects without considering what he is asking and then have to back out realizing the project is unattainable. This is bad form for a parent very, very bad form.

So this morning I had the idea of starting a “can we” list. This seems like a good idea on a number of fronts. The first being the child will get a great deal of handwriting practice (his is terrible). Secondly, it gives him a place to put his ideas. If the idea is truly important he is to write it on the list. Periodically (hopefully each week) we will go through the list and talk about the things on it and why they are import to him and whether or not they are feasible. As a parent this will keep me from mindlessly committing to build a robot while cooking dinner.

The first thing to go on the list was:

1. Build Me A Tail.

Why does he was a tail? According to him he could use this to stabilize himself when doing complicated task or just give one of his legs a rest when he has to stand for a long time…

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Comfy and Cozy

Any parent out there knows that for a large portion of your life sleep is at a premium. I don’t think you can ever fully appreciate a good night’s sleep until you have experienced the mind numbing sleep deprivation that parenthood often brings with it. Because sleep continues to come in spurts in my house I take every measure possible to make it enjoyable. Having a comfy and cozy bed goes a long way towards making those one and two hour stretches of sleep feel more like five or six. Having great down bedding is one gift I have given myself to contribute to a rested feeling. Nothing compares to down for comfort in my book and with DownDeals everyone can experience the luxury down bedding offers. DownDeals offers unbeatable values for down pillows, comforters, and more. Whether it is winter, spring, summer, or fall down bedding creates a perfect sleep environment. Our bed is so comfy I love snuggling in the bed with my kids even if I am only daydreaming about sleep.

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Teaching Children About Different Faiths

In our home our faith is an important part of our daily lives. I also believe that children should be given every opportunity to learn about different religions apart from their own. For example my son had several questions relating to the Catholic faith. This to me is a great teaching moment every parent should seize. To answer his need for information we spent some time online researching all aspects of Catholicism from the history of this faith and its principals to rosaries and everything in between. The message I hope to instill in my children is that there is a big wide world beyond their own vantage point and enable them to make well rounded decision about faith for themselves in the future.

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I Am Blessed!

Today I found myself with a few minutes to spare and decided to visit some of my favorite blogs from days gone by. These blogs were very important to me during our struggle with infertility and building our family. Over the years you start to feel this unspoken connection with people who share a similar life experience. As it has been almost a year or more since I have visited a few of these sites I was overjoyed and sadden in some cases to catch up with the lives of these “blog buddies”. A few like myself have since found themselves enjoying the miracle of parenthood while others are still riding the roller coaster of tears that this particular journey throws at you. I thank God everyday for my two beautiful children but even I have days where I would love a vacation alone at the Outer Banks. Visiting these blogs reminds just how fortunate I am to be knee deep in drippy noses, acting out in school, and middle of the night teething tears. On tough parenting days like today this brief moment of catch up was exactly the message this Mom needed. I am so thankful to be standing on this side of that journey !

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Musical Talent Hereditary ~ Hogwash!

As a child my parents encouraged us each to play an instrument. I fumbled my way through the flute for 5 years before finally being allowed to quit. Quite simply I have no musical talent at all nor the drive to succeed at it. Truth be told neither do my brothers despite my parents believing they did :) My musical failings extend beyond instruments and encompass singing as well. This does not stop me from being quite envious of people with musical talent. I have always assumed that there must be something genetic that predispose speople to this gift. In the back of my mind I believe my children were also destined for musical failure because as far I can tell neither side of their parental gene pool is dripping with musical talent.

My suspicions however have not stopped me from encouraging my son to test the musical waters and this year he began learning Suzuki violin. I braced myself at the onset for what was likely to be a long and tedious school year filled with the squeaking and squawking of a fumbling 1st grade musician. My child however has excelled beyond my expectations and has mastered over 11 songs in his first few months. Yes, he is far from a child prodigy but considering what I had prepared myself for I am astounded at his talent. We are given a new song virtually every week and all the child has to do is listen to it once or twice and off he goes to playing it. I love hearing him say ” I need to get the beat” and then he trots over to turn on the CD to listen to how the song should sound. Within minutes a recognizable rendition is coming from his violin. I don’t know what the future holds for my little violinist but I will encourage him as long as he holds and interest in playing. In the back of my mind I smile knowing that my little boy never ceases to amaze me and genetics won’t necessarily predict his future.

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The Best Big Brother

Our oldest son turned 7 shortly after gaining a new baby brother. We anticipated some moments that he might have difficulty adjusting to not being the center of the universe. This however never happened at least not in the ways that all the literature would suggest. Most of the advice out there is geared toward parents with children whose ages are spaced 2-3 years a part. There is little I have found in the articles to give insight into what the parent of children spaced 7 years apart might anticipate. Our situation was further compounded by our son have been the only grandchild on both sides of the family to date. Our oldest has taken his little brother in stride and has embraces him wholy. My heart melts everytime he grabs a binky and puts it in his screaming brother’s mouth :)

I am so proud of him I thought he deserved a best big brother post!

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Dressing Baby Well

My youngest son will be my last baby. Because of this I have made a point to enjoy every bit of his childhood to the fullest. This means holding him a bit more than I should and savoring every stage. It is funny how tightly you hold on to when you know first what a true blessing being able to have children is and second when you know no more babies will be coming along. One thing I have taken extra joy in is dressing him. He is cute no matter what he wears but there is just something fun about putting really cute baby clothes on him. I have been checking out one particular Baby Clothing Site and have picked up some ideas for a number of really adorable baby outfits. It is reassuring to know that other Mom’s and Dad’s feel the same way about dressing their children as I do.

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What Makes A Good Parent

There are obviously tons of qualities that make a good parent. I thought it would be nice to look at what a few opinons out there are. Please comment if you feel differently or maybe you totally agree.

Some Qualities of Good Parents:

  • Show your love. Every day, tell your children: “I love you. You’re special to me.” Give lots of hugs and kisses.
  • Listen when your children talk. Listening to your children tells them that you think they’re important and that you’re interested in what they have to say.
  • Make your children feel safe. Comfort them when they’re scared. Show them you’ve taken steps to protect them.
  • Provide order in their lives. Keep a regular schedule of meals, naps and bedtimes. If you have to change the schedule, tell them about the changes ahead of time.
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Time Out Tips

For most of my parenting career I have employed the use of time outs. This is just what works for our family. Honestly I believe that consistency is the key to any form of discipline. No discipline and you have an insecure and manipulative child who will in the end attempt to control your life. Please note I know that I am by no means a perfect parent by far but this is what works today in my life:

1. Decide what type of behavior warrants a time-out (such as fighting, arguing or throwing tantrums), and try to enforce this fairly and consistently. All adults involved with the child should follow similar guidelines when using a time-out.
2. Designate a corner (hence the common term corner time) or similar space where the child is to stand during time-outs. Never use their bed.
3. Use an age appropriate time length for the time-out. For a short time-out, approximately one minute per year of age is reasonable; that time may be doubled if necessary if the child pushes their limits during the time-out.
4. Have an incentive for completing the time-out without arguing. This may for instance be a loss of a privilege until the time-out has been completed.
5. The time-out should always have verbal warnings before the discipline to allow the child to make appropriate choices. If their bad behavior continues, they should have an explanation for the time-out as they are being escorted to that area. Even one-year olds understand when they have reached their parental limit, but the explanations should be age appropriate.
6. Afterwards both the parent and the child should try to leave the incident behind.

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Rainy Day Activities

It is just about this point during school breaks where my school age son starts to glue himself to my elbow. This attachment evolves because he is at long last “bored” and hopes that I have the solution to his boredom. He began this morning on our fifth day of “vacation” with the “can we” questions. I have had the child clean his room already this week (which is usually good for 3 hours or more of entertainment), help me swifter the house, vacuum carpets, organize dvd’s, color easter eggs, play at McDonald’s, watch endless movies, play computer games, read a dozen books, and help me bake. Now I have been prowling for more ideas that the Mom’s of the world can use to ease the attachment situation we all experience. Here are a few more ideas:
Fill a large plastic bin with different shaped dry pastas dry beans rice whatever you can buy least expensively. Give them cups and “sand” toys and you have a winter alternative to the sandbox. (Spread a sheet under the bin they will get it everywhere then you can just gather up the sheet and dump it back in the bin.)
Books on tape and stuff like that from the library.
Camp in the house. One of our tents can be set up without the stakes so we have camp outs in the living room and make smores in the microwave. You can always drape a blanket over a table.
Make a tower from paper cups as tall as you can. Then remove the bottom piece and watch it tumble.
Subscribe or go to Family Fun’s website. They always have a ton of creative ideas to try!
Invite some friends over
Learn something new together…. A foreign language, an instrument, how to sew, candle making, jewelry making, typing, etc…..
Think up 100 things you can do besides watch TV
Ask a question and find the answer
Go to McDonald’s playland and get a soda for the morning.
Movie night – a special night a week where we rent a kid-friendly movie and eat popcorn.
Take a nap (you can always try)
Make a teepee
Let them sort your spools of thread or stick pins into your pin cushion (if you think he wouldn’t hurt himself).
Write on a white board we all like that!
Make your own word search puzzles
Make a book of favorite animals, trees, bugs, etc.
Kids’ Aerobics Video.
Play basketball with the Little Tikes basketball hoop.
Line up cans etc and get a ball and bowl
Go to the local appliance store and get large refrigerator boxes etc and make big forts (similar to McDonald’s playland…okay use your imagination). The kids can have hours of fun running through them turning off the lights and using flashlights getting dad to play monster and even sleeping in them. You can also decorate them with paint or turn them into cars etc. My kids love to “invent” stuff out of them. I have even seen playhouses made that include curtains wallpaper etc. Check your local library for “The Great Big Box Book” by Flo Ann Hedley Norvell.
Play chase
Chin up bar we put it in one of the boy’s rooms. This also helps to get out energy. – Diane
Set up an obstacle course in the living room or the basement using chairs with pillows over them (kids crawled under) different things to make circles they could step in with different feet a jump rope and a mini-trampoline.
Play racquetball in the garage or cellar (as long as you don’t mind ball marks all over your walls)
Have an indoor “snowball” fight. Divide; give each one a stack of newspapers yell go and they have to wad up the sheets of newspaper into “snowballs” and throw them. Great fun! Last part is seeing who can gather the most balls into a trash bag!
Jump on a mini trampoline
Clean out a drawer
Clean the house fold laundry do dishes vacuum the rug… – Hee Hee
Mend
Help a child re-organize or decorate his/her room
Let them sort your canned goods or jello boxes.
Plan a treasure hunt
Do a craft
Use large dry beans (limas etc.) and school glue and let him glue beans onto heavy paper or old folders. (You could dribble out a line of glue in the shape of something fun–a car for example–and then let him press the beans onto it.)
Save boxes and containers then give them a roll of foil and duct tape and let them create.
Make & send a card to someone who needs encouragement
Start a new collection of something (besides dust :o )
Color
Make and color paper dolls
Draw a picture together – take turns adding details
Grab a pencil a notebook and practice drawing as a family
Have him draw a picture and tell a story about it (you write down the story) and send it to Grandma.
Start early to plan homemade gift ideas for Christmas!
If he can cut give him some old magazines glue sticks paper and let him cut out pictures and glue them to paper.
Finger-paint with chocolate pudding on a paper plate then lick the plate clean :-)
Work on family photo album together
Perform an experiment
Play with the globe
Make play dough
Make puppets
Sew
Rubber Stamp
Bake or cook
Bake cookies and invite a neighbor over to help eat them
If you have a fireplace do a hotdog roast and make s’mores.
Have a picnic inside on the floor

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Meeting A Need

For those of you who don’t know I am by professional an Au.D (Doctor of Audiology). My focus as an audiologist is to help my hearing impaired patients lead the fullest life possible and offer assistance to manage their hearing loss. One thing I frequently discuss is the importance of having a good telephone specially equipped for those with hearing loss. I often refer patients to online retailers like ThePhoneSource for this type of product. The PhoneSource offers an array of top quality phones including: amplified phones, Polycom conference phones, novelty phones, cordless phones, corded phones, conference phones, and accessories. The ease and convenience of ordering online from a great retailer like ThePhoneSource is wonderful for my patients who are easily frustrated with placing over the phone orders.

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Saying Thank You For Every Diaper

If there is one thing I cannot stress enough to every parent, no matter how tired or frustrated you become, children are a blessing. Don’t ever take for granted just how incredibly fortunate you are to be awake and knee deep in diapers.

Those close to us know that our children were a long hard fought battle to bring into this world. A battle that forced us to endure more heartache than you can imagine if you have never stared infertility in the face. 16 years of marriage has led through infertility treatment twice, the loss of a pregnancy, the road through the adoption process, and subsequently a quiet little surprise sneaking up on us. This quiet little surprise is without a doubt a miracle of miracles as is his brother.

Even in the midst of tear stained sleepless night I thank God for my children. Why he blessed me so very much I don’t know but he did in a big way…

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Protecting A Classic

My husband inherited a classic car from his Father. This rare beauty is a 1969 Dodge SuperBee that was actually the car his Father bought his Mother to drive when she was expecting my husband! We are incredibly thankful to have received this valuable gift but the problem has been our less than adequate garage. Fortunately my husband found an incredible selection of car covers at EmpireCovers.com. Not only was he pleased with the selection but could not believe the value offered by this company. The prices were so affordable that we are considering getting a cover for his regular car that we now park in the street because there is nowhere else for it in the driveway. Maybe with the right protection with a car cover from EmpiredCovers we can gift his car to our son in another 30 years!

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Win The Weight Loss Battle

This video has me so inspired to once and for all get back into shape and feel good about my body. The success of this lady make it evident that Weight loss clearly is an achievable goal for all of us given the right motivation and resources!

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Mini Van Mama

Before I had children I despised everything about mini vans. In fact my husband and I made a pact never to buy one. Mini vans seemed to hog up the parking space where ever we went and were often driven by women to distracted to focus on the road. Over the years these women seemed to have moved on to SUVs in my opinion but that is another post altogether!

When we had our first son our modes of transportation were two mid-sized cars. It wasn’t until our first trip with a child, stroller, luggage, and dog that we realized how truly limited our space was going to be. Still digging my heels in we continued this way for the next 7 years. Then life threw us one of those curve balls and forced us to rethink a number of things.

Looking to build our family to greater proportions and failing we went through foster-to-adopt classes with the intent of adopting a couple kids. With the prospect of several children in our house looming my need to not drive a mini van dissipated. This was spurred on in part by our main car deciding to give up the fight and release its bodily fluid on the world consistently and with fervor. While shopping for a new vehicle we happened upon a car lot and owner who truly seemed genuine and caring about his customers. The man proceeded to tell us how he had 6 adopted children….

On his lot sat a mini van that he urged us to look after knowing a bit of our story. Still fighting the mini van issue we went ahead and took it for a drive. The van had every feature you could want except for a van rack for luggage. Riding in the van was completely unlike I had imagined and suddenly I realized that the “Mini Van Mama” vision in my head was garbage and comfort and convenience was where it is at! I have now been a “Mini Van Mama” for over a year and have never looked back.

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When Is It Not Baby Weight?

The approach of summer has me cleaning out my closets to pack up my winter clothes and bring down my summer clothes from the attic. Last summer I was pregnant for the duration of the season so I haven’t worn my regular summer clothes for 2 years. I decided to try on a few things and came to the startling realization that despite weighing the same as I did pre-pregnancy I no longer and the same shape. This has been a definite kick in the rear sort of motivation I sorely needed. I am now pondering not only a new exercise routine but also healthier eating and diet supplements. The baby is now 8 months old so I don’t think I truly have a valid excuse not to get in shape anymore. I could use that old saying “9 months up and 9 months down” but that only leaves me one more month to whip this body into shape. Anyone else out there feeling a little anxious about summer shorts season?

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Food For Baby

For this baby I have been making my own baby food. It has been a huge success and an unbelievable savings for our grocery budget. I have experimented with a number of recipes and thought I would share a few of those that have been a hit in our house:

4-5 medium apples, peeled and cored – use naturally sweet varieties, such as:
Gala
Golden or Red Delicious
Fuji
Pink Lady
Red Rome

pinch nutmeg or cinnamon
water

Chop the apples roughly and place in a saucepan.
Pour in about one inch of water – (you could use apple juice instead, but this will contain sugar).
Bring the apples to a boil, then reduce the heat.
Cover and simmer slowly until the apple chunks are tender (about 10-15 mins).
DON’T cook the apples to the point where the mixture actually looks like applesauce! Cooking it this long will cause it to be watery and tasteless.
Instead, remove the apple chunks from the pan and either puree them or mash them well. Thin with a little cooking water if necessary.
Sprinkle with cinnamon and nutmeg and serve warm or – as a soothing treat for teething babies – nice and cold.

TIP: If you are going to freeze your baby’s applesauce, DON’T add the spices before you freeze it, because they will lose their flavor.

You can start off with simply boiling ripe fruits or vegetables:

Peaches
Cut an x into the flesh of each peach then blanch in boiling water for 1 minute, cool in cold water then remove skin and pits, then steam for 5 minutes.

Carrots
Peel, trim ends, and cut to 1/3-1/2 inch cubes, boil for 7-12 minutes, until fork tender.

Apples
Peeling, core and slice thickly, boil for 6 minutes, until tender.

Spinach
Rinse thoroughly and remove stems & thick veins, boil for 6 minutes.
(Add spinach to other ingredients to make it delicious for the baby!)

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More Baby Food Recipes

These are a few recipes that my son has really enjoyed. He did eagerly eat the meat that I cooked for him but his tummy didn’t seem to agree so I have decided to hold off a bit longer before trying again. We are also going to give substituting pumpkin for the sweet potatoes and see how he likes it. I have been reading that a bit of cinnamon and nutmeg added to this can make it much more appealing. I will keep you posted as to how it goes over with him.

Puréed Meats
Cut meat into 1/2-inch cubes. Trim off all fat. Add 1 cup of stock (either meat or vegetable) to 1 cup of meat. Simmer until meat is tender – 45 minutes to an hour. Drain stock, reserving the liquid. When you purée, use l/2 cup of cooking liquid for each cup of meat. Freeze extra portions immediately.

Puréed Legumes
Carefully rinse and pick over 1 cup of any legume. Soak in water overnight or bring to a boil for 2 minutes, cover, and then allow to sit for 2 hours. Drain off the soaking water or the cooking water, then add 3 cups fresh water and bring beans to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer, covered, until beans are tender (anywhere from 30 minutes to 2 hours, depending on your choice of legume). Skim the surface often as beans are simmering. Purée with 3/4 cup milk. Freeze unused portions immediately.

Sweet Potatoes
Scrub sweet potatoes and bake at 450 degrees F. for 40 to 50 minutes, testing with a fork for desired softness. Allow to cool. Peel, then mash with a fork, adding vegetable cooking juices, milk, or a bit of apple juice. Acorn squash can be substituted for sweet potato.

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Age Appropriate Jobs

Ages 2 – 3

-Help make the bed (pull covers up)

-Pick-up toys
-Hang clothes on hooks
-Carry laundry to and from the laundry area
-Help feed animals
-Help wipe up spills
-Bring in the newspaper
-Mop a small area
-Pour from a small pitcher
-Help pick up the living room

Ages 4 – 5

Any of the others plus:
-Make their own bed
-Clear dishes from the table
-Set the table
-Retrieve the mail
-Dust the furniture
-Help in the kitchen
-Help carry and put away groceries

Ages 6 – 12

Any of the others plus:
-Take care of pets
-Cook simple foods
-Help wash the car
-Vacuum, sweep and mop
-Clean the bathroom completely
-Rake leaves and shovel snow
-Use the washer and dryer
-Hang and fold laundry
-Take out the trash

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Jobs For Kidlets

I noted in a previous post that I do not tend to refer to tasks I assign my kids as chores. It may be silly but I think this implies drudgery right from the start. Instead I try to put a positive spin on these “assignments” and call them jobs or tasks or whatever pops into my head. We started having our oldest son help out when he was very young and always made it clear that as a family we are responsible for the care of our home and belongings. He is now a very tidy and thoughtful boy about his room and “stuff”. Even a two year old can complete simply tasks like picking up toys and this is a prime age to start getting them involved in being part of “the family”. Make this a fun time and your kids will not battle you. My Mom used to refer to it as “a house cleaning party”. We turn up the radio a bit and try to make it as much fun as we can. The important thing I have found is to guide your child in the step you want completed as part of a task. Sending my son to clean his room is simply to overwhelming and became a battle. BUT if I send him first to put his clothes away, then send him to make his bed, followed by toys up off the floor and on the shelves then suddenly we have a tidy room. Above all realize that it will shatter the spirit of a child if you praise them for a task and they later find you “re-doing” the job they worked so hard on. You have to be happy will less than perfect task completion with younger children. As they age you can expect more and really work on instilling pride in a job well done. If you have superior standards assign fewer tasks to ensure they aren’t feeling overwhelmed and pressured to get it all done. Adulthood brings enough of that pressure let you child be oblivious to it for a bit longer!

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Family Game Night

A few months ago we instituted a family game night. For Christmas I purchased a number of new family games and gave them “to the family”. So far all the games have been a huge hit. I would rather spend money on things like this that will get used for years rather than the closet full of toys that just sit there. We are huge fans of the Cranium series of games and have had a blast playing: Bumpareena, Whoonu, Cadoo, and Family Fun. We also enjoy Gamesmith games like “In a Pickle“. The 12 Minute Card games are also a really nice option when you don’t want to commit to a long game. Even adults have had fun playing Wig Out and There’s A Moose On The Loose. To mix things up we periodically invite other families over to play or alternate homes. This is also a great way to get the Grandparents to really interact with children on an age appropriate level.

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Friday Quick Recipe

20-Minute Chicken Parmesan

Ingredients:
4 skinned and boned chicken breast halves
1 large egg, lightly beaten
1/2 cup Italian-seasoned breadcrumbs
2 tablespoons butter or margarine, melted
1-3/4 cups spaghetti sauce
1/2 cup (2 ounces) shredded mozzarella cheese
1 tablespoon grated Parmesan cheese
1/4 cup chopped fresh parsley

Directions:
Place chicken between two sheets of heavy-duty plastic wrap; flatten to 1/4-inch thickness, using a meat mallet or rolling pin. Dip chicken in egg, and dredge in breadcrumbs.

Cook chicken in butter in a large skillet over medium-high heat until browned on both sides. Spoon spaghetti sauce over chicken; bring to a boil. Cover, reduce heat, and simmer 10 minutes. Sprinkle with cheeses and parsley; cover and simmer 5 additional minutes or until cheeses melt.

Notes:
This recipe really was simple to make and quick. It tasted awesome too! The only problem I have is that I have to use more than one skillet to cook the amount I have to cook or cook them in shifts.

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Goals and Dreams

A few years ago I started a list of things I would like to try at least once. Over the years I have been fortunate enough to cross several things off my list such as white water rafting and traveling the majority of the country. As my list has continued to grow I have added goals like visiting coastal sites on one of those Crewed Yacht Charters. It sounds so relaxing to be able to just sit back and relax out at sea knowing a true expert is manning things. I think everyone should have a list like this full of ideas they may just dream about and those that are truly something they are working towards attaining. My husband thinks it is funny that I want to travel cross country in the cab of a semi. Again, a few things are just fun to think about and others I know I will get to do. How does one dress for yachting these days?

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Drained and Tired

Our baby does not sleep through the night…

He is just shy of 8 months old and still wakes every 2-3 hours. We have tried everything imaginable to get him to sleep through the night but nothing works. Quite frankly the only place he is content is to be smack dab in the middle of our bed. This is not something that we want to encourage. Staying up all night for months on end has left me drained beyond compare. I frequently find myself in need of some sort of energy boost. I believe that is has now been a year and a half since I had 8 hours of solid sleep. They say pregnancy prepares you for motherhood by keeping you up all night but I don’t think this is quite true. Nothing prepares you for this type of exhaustion. It is funny how you forget about this phase of parenthood once you get a few good nights of sleep under your belt. If anyone has any sure fire tips just drop a comment because cereal, formula, keeping him awake more during the day, and crying it out haven’t worked.

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Stressing?

Adapting to a new family member has taken a bit of a tole on our house. It is amazing how much you take for granted your “well oiled machine” of a family until a littel chaos hits. Our family is very structured and we like it that way. We are happier and better people when things move along in a routine manner. Our lack of routine has left me feeling a little stressed. These are a few ideas to deal with stress:

  1. Take your time. Give yourself extra time to avoid the feeling of being rushed. Your children will react better in a low pressure setting.
  2. Think about whether an issue is really worth worrying about? Save your energy for issues which really matter to your family and let the little things go by.
  3. Think positive. When self talk is positive, you are likely to be calmer and more relaxed. For example if you say to yourself “I can do this” or “I’m good at making decisions”.
  4. Include relaxing activities in your daily routine. Your children benefit from a period of quiet time every day and so will you.
  5. Try a simple relaxation exercise. When you feel tension building, use a quick technique to calm down, such as this breathing exercise.
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Allowance Guidance

Two weeks ago my husband and I decided it was time for our 7 year old to begin getting an allowance. He has been learning about money in school and has really grasped the information very quickly. I began to realize that he really needed to get some real life experience with money and an allowance seemed like a great way to provide him with it. I really don’t know (or actually care) what other people consider an appropriate age to begin offering an allowance and think you just know when your child is ready. Furthermore, I don’t really care what other people give their children in terms of an amount. We decided that $2.00 per week seemed reasonable and would be provided under certain conditions. We have a certain standard of behavior that he is expected to maintain in our home and outside of it. This includes behaving in school and completing his work as required. At home he needs to complete tasks when asked and treat us respectfully. I am not a big fan of calling jobs around the house “chores” and prefer to have him understand that as part of a family we are all expected and privileged to be able to contribute to helping the house run smoothly. I believe that instilling a good work ethic is important and that being able to work and be productive is a privilege rather than a “chore”. I want my son to view being active in his home, school, family, and community as something to look positively on and feel good about and try to use positive terminology rather than negative. So far he is incredibly excited about his allowance and even slept with his jar where he is stashing his loot. It is fun to see him putting all the pieces together and begin to understand how our monetary system works. What I believe truly helped was to make sure that before implementing the allowance that he understood that cash or no cash he is expected to behave and contribute to our family and that now the allowance is simply a step forward in his process of maturing.

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Treats For Mommy

In the midst of Mommyhood remembering to treat ourselves just goes by the wayside. Then one day you are staring in the mirror realizing not only do you have one eyebrow but the beginnings of a beard (well not really but close).

Taking care of ourselves gives us the energy to be better wive and parents. Taking just 10 minutes for yourself each day is important. Feeling like a woman and not just a diaper changing, milk making, nose wiping or homework checking machine is important.

These are some ten minute spa treats you might try:

Chocolate Facial Mask

This decadent mask is actually an excellent moisturizer — it leaves your skin baby soft. Recommended for normal skin.

1/3 cup cocoa
3 tbsp. heavy cream
2 tsp. cottage cheese
¼ cup honey
3 tsp. oatmeal powder

Mix all ingredients together and smooth onto face. Relax for ten 10 minutes, then wash off with warm water.

Frozen Egg & Honey Facial Mask
Recommended for dry skin

1 egg
1/2 cup coconut oil, melted (but not hot)
1 tbs. honey

Step 1: Beat the egg in a small bowl until frothy and well-mixed. Slowly add the liquid coconut oil and honey, beating until your mask is the consistency of mayonnaise.

Step 2: Take an empty toilet tissue roll and set it on end in a clean bowl. Spoon mixture into the cardboard toilet paper roll (or consider using an empty deoderant container). Place tube, in the bowl, in the freezer overnight.

Step 3: To use, peel away just the top 1/4 inch of the cardboard roll and smooth the frozen stick over your face (think of it as a push up pop). Leave your mask on for 5 to 10 minutes, then rinse off with warm water.

Return the cream stick covered with plastic wrap and frozen between uses.

Particularly soothing on a sunburn. Keeps indefinately.

 

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More Momisms

These are a few more things that popped into my head that most of us may have heard our Mom’s utter from time to time. I can only imagine what my boys will be saying about me in years to come.

‘ll nag you if I feel like it, you’re my son/daughter.

- If I had wanted you to do that, I would have told you to.

- You’ve been playing with my pen, haven’t you?

- I’m going to give you until the count of three.

- Don’t pick, it’ll get infected.

- I don’t want to hear that again.

- Who do you think you are?

- Not another word out of you!

- What, you want more money?

- If I catch you doing that one more time, I’ll…

- When you don’t listen to your Mom, that’s when you get into trouble.

- Someday your face will freeze like that!

- What if everyone jumped off a cliff? Would you do it, too?

- Look at me when I’m talking to you.

- You’re going to put your eye out with that thing!

- Do you think your socks are going to pick themselves up?

- Your father is going to hear about this when HE gets home!

- How many times do I have to tell you…don’t throw things in the house!

- Were you born in a barn? Close the door — and DON’T slam it!

- Don’t EVER let me catch you doing that again!

- Move it or loose it.

- Be good — and don’t do ANYTHING to embarrass your parents.

- No child of MINE would do something like that.

- You’ll never live to see sixteen!!

- There’s someone either dying or bei

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Does this sound like your Mom?

My previous post about thing we never heard our Mom’s say got me thinking about thing that we did hear. These may or may not sound familiar to you. Please drop a comment about some of your Mom’s infamous sayings:

- I don’t care who has one. You’re not getting one.

- Because I love you, that’s why.

- You learned that from your father/mother.

- You’ve pulled on that shirt so much it looks like a dress!

- You found a mud puddle didn’t you?

- Simmer down!

- That coffee table was not made for you to rub your feet on.

- Now what are you going to do with it? [Usually said after you broke something or messed it up.]

- You need that like you need a hole in the head.

- Take your hat off in the house!

- Eat it or wear it!

- What’s the matter with you anyway?

- How would you like to write an essay on being kind to your brother/sister?

- Stop shaking your leg!

- Nobody asked you.

- If you don’t pick that up, you might get to sleep with it.

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Up and Crawling

My littlest fellow is just about up and crawling. His middle is somewhat plump and that has held him up just a bit in getting it up off the floor. There are some interesting step can take to help your child get to that point (if you want to push it). This is my last kidlet so pushing things is not really a concern as I want to savor every phase as much as possible.

Crawling Training

* Step one place your baby on his or her stomach on a carpet on the floor.
* Step two gently hold your baby by the elbows and encourage supporting him or herself on elbows. Continue to provide support.
* Step three measure, or try to get some measure of the distance between the floor and your baby’s armpit in the supported position.
* Step four get a roller with approximately the same diameter as you’ve just measured. Rollers are soft cylindrical shaped toys, preferably firm. The roller should be placed underneath your baby’s upper body for support. It is important that you do not buy the roller too big. Your baby’s elbows must still reach the floor when lying over the roller.
* Step five put the roller underneath your baby’s upper body with elbows touching the ground in front of the roller. This supported position also allows your baby to lift his or her head and discover the surroundings.
* Step six get down on the floor directly in front of your baby, face towards your baby. Now let your baby look at your face while you talk to, amuse and encourage your baby to lift his head and take part in the conversation.
* Step seven step six is the most important step of this activity. And your baby will surely endure longer sessions and crawl sooner if it is enjoyable.Remember, your baby should focus on you and naturally develop a sense of using both legs for support. In no time you will see your baby supporting the upper body on straight arms and bearing weight on both knees ready to crawl.

Spend three to five minutes daily, results will come even faster if you can do more than one session per day.

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Is Baby Ready For Swimming?

This question has been on my mind since my little fellow truly loves the water. Well, rather truly loves the bath. Our local Boy’s and Girl’s Club offers swimming for infants at least 6 months of age. I decided to investigate if there is any advice out there about this and this is what I found:

Taking your baby swimming has huge benefits for you and your baby:

* Babies get a complete physical workout
* Babies get completely free movement in the water, which they would not get otherwise
* Being in the water improves core muscle development and co-ordination
* Eating and sleeping patterns are improved
* Responding to commands can make your baby sharper mentally
* Swimming in water is the only time a baby can be completely independent
* It is fun and socially stimulating

It is generally agreed that you do not need to wait until your baby has been immunized to take him or her swimming, as the chlorine in the water will prevent any danger of infectious diseases. However do not go swimming if your baby is unwell.

A small baby can become cold and possibly overwhelmed so keep swimming times short and take your baby out if he or she starts to shiver. Water should be at least 32 degrees for a small baby.

When you are in the water let your baby enjoy the sensations and get used to the water. Keep your face at your baby’s eye level.

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Password Security

The age of technology we live in is truly incredible. It does however come with responsibilities. As a business owner I believe I owe it to my customers to keep their information safe and secure. If you really think about it every day we give away tons of very personal information to businesses and companies with the belief that they are doing everything they can to keep our private information secure. But how many truly are implementing things like password management software to ensure that not just anyone can get access to important files and applications? I bet this occurs less often than we think and not as much as is truly necessary. I take security very seriously because I value my customers and the future of my business.

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My Mom Definitely Never Said This~

THINGS YOUR MOM WOULD NEVER SAY

* How on earth can you see the TV sitting so far back?

* Yeah, I used to skip school a lot, too.

* Just leave all the lights on … it makes the house look more cheery.

* Let me smell that shirt. Yeah, it’s good for another week.

* Go ahead and keep that stray dog, honey. I’ll be glad to feed and walk him every day.

* Well, if Timmy’s mom says it’s OK, that’s good enough for me.

* The curfew is just a general time to shoot for. It’s not like I’m running a prison around here.

* I don’t have a tissue with me. Just use your sleeve.

* Don’t bother wearing a jacket – the wind-chill is bound to improve.

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How We Evolve~

THE EVOLUTION OF A MOM

Yes, parenthood changes everything. But parenthood also changes with each baby. Here, some of the ways having a second and third child differs from having your first.

Your Clothes
1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your OB/GYN confirms your pregnancy.
2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible.
3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes.

The Baby’s Name
1st baby: You pore over baby name books and practice pronouncing and writing combinations of all your favorites.
2nd baby: Someone has to name his or her kid after your great-aunt Mavis, right? It might as well be you.
3rd baby: You open a name book, close your eyes, and see where your finger points.

Preparing for the Birth
1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously.
2nd baby: You don’t bother practicing because you remember that last time, breathing didn’t do a thing.
3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your 8th month.

The Layette
1st baby: You perish your newborn’s clothes, color coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby’s little bureau.
2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains.
3rd baby: Boys can wear pink, can’t they?

Worries
1st baby: At the first sign of distress–a whimper, a frown–you pick up the baby.
2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn.
3rd baby: You teach your 3-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing.

Activities
1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, Baby Swing, and Baby Story Hour.
2nd baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics.
3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner.

Going Out
1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home 5 times.
2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached.
3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood.

At Home
1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby.
2nd baby: You spend a bit of every day watching to be sure your older child isn’t squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby.
3rd baby: You spend a little bit of every day hiding from the children.

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Endowment Policy Help

I am always reading about different areas of finance in order to make wise decisions for our financial future. Recently I have been looking into information about mortgages as we hope to sell our home in the next couple years and buy a bigger one. In the my research I read about how many people in the 70s and 80s bought endowments and are now finding themselves in the position of needing to sells them. Many people were selling these at far below their actual value and lost a great deal of potential income. It is wise for anyone looking to sell and endowment policy to offer it for sale via an endowment policy selling service. This type of service may find a buyer offering much more than an insurance company would offer for the policy.

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For Mom’s and Dad’s

Now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray my sanity to keep.
For if some peace I do not find,
I’m pretty sure I’ll lose my mind.
I pray I find a little quiet
Far from the daily family riot

May I lie back–not have to think
about what they’re stuffing down the sink,
or who they’re with, or where they’re at
and what they’re doing to the cat.
I pray for time all to myself
(did something just fall off a shelf?)

To cuddle in my nice, soft bed
(Oh no, another goldfish–dead!)
Some silent moments for goodness sake
(Did I just hear a window break?)
And that I need not cook or clean–
(well heck, I’ve got the right to dream)

Yes now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray my wits about me keep,
But as I look around I know–
I must have lost them long ago!

…Author Unknown

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Creamy Chicken and Rice

This is a family friendly recipe that is so easy to make. I like to make extra for lunches the next day. Even my picky eater likes it!

1. While water for rice comes to a boil and broiler heats for tomatoes:
• Chop chicken
• Prepare topping for tomatoes

2. While rice cooks:
• Prepare chicken
• Broil tomatoes

Quick Tips

If you can’t find roasted skinless, boneless chicken breast, buy a whole roasted chicken and substitute 2 1/4 cups chopped cooked breast meat. Add the leftover chicken to soup, pasta, or a salad later in the week.

Broiled tomatoes: Combine 2 tablespoons seasoned breadcrumbs, 1 tablespoon grated Parmesan cheese, 1/4 teaspoon salt, and 1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper, stirring to combine. Add 1 1/2 teaspoons water and 1/2 teaspoon olive oil, stirring until moist. Halve 4 plum tomatoes lengthwise; sprinkle evenly with breadcrumb mixture. Place tomato halves, cut sides up, in a baking pan coated with cooking spray. Broil 2 minutes or until golden brown.

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Snacking After School

My oldest son comes home from school every day famished. If given the opportunity he would engage in a non-stop foodfest until bedtime. I have recently tried to start planning a healthy snack for him before picking him up from school that amounts to a mini-meal. We then pushed our normal dinner time back a bit to encourage him to eat a better dinner. Some of the problem I believe is that he finishes breakfast right at 8:30 am and then has lunch right around 11 am. He isn’t really hungry at lunch and therefore brings home half of it. These are a few healthy after school snack ideas if you find yourself in the same boat.

* Baked Tortilla Chips w/ Salsa
* Crackers & Sliced Hard Cheese
* Cottage Cheese w/ Pineapple or sliced strawberries
* Dill Pickles Dipped in Peanut Butter
* Flavored Popcorn
* Fruit Slices w/ Peanut Butter or Fruit Dips
* Popcorn in Various Flavors
* Pretzels
* Saltines or Ritz Crackers with Jelly (Grape is Awesome!)
* Slice of Bread w/ Molasses for dipping
* String Cheese
* Trail Mix
* Veggie Sticks w/ Ranch Dip
* Yogurt: for variety add fruits, granola, chopped nuts,etc

Easy Instant Recipes

* Fruit S’mores
* Fruit Kabobs: Chunks of fruit skewered onto pretzel sticks. To make ahead of time & prevent discoloration, dip in OJ before skewering them
* Peanut Butter Crunch Balls
* Pickled Froggies
* Pickle/Cucumber Bites
* Pudding Shakes

Make-Ahead Snacks

* Apple Juice Cubes
* Banana Pops: chunks of bananas rolled in yogurt or honey & then granola or cereal or chocolate, & Freeze
* Chex Muddy Buddies
* Deviled Eggs
* Granola Bars
* Gogurts: MYO
* Hard Boiled Eggs
* Juice Bags
* Kool-Aid Sherbet
* MYO Fruit Leathers
* Muffins: Any kind (make’m, wrap’em in saran wrap & freeze’m, they reheat in the micro in 15-20 second

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Investing In Gold

I have been hearing a great deal lately about different investment opportunities. This is one area I am keenly interested in and always have my eye out for promising ideas. Recently I began looking into investing in gold. People around the world have been fascinated with and associated wealth with owning gold. Gold is available in a variety of forms that would make investing in it easy for virtually anyone. If it was good enough for the Greeks, Egyptians, and Romans it surely is good enough for me. Knowing that my investments have a solid history of return definitely eases my mind a bout the future. Having a comfortable life in my golden years will be very nice.

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Help Fund Neuroblastoma Research

This is Ryan. He is a sweet little boy from my hometown and indirectly my church. He is bravely fighting Neuroblastoma. Please consider donating to this great cause.

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Computer Safety For Families

Children today learn to use computers in preschool and are internet savvy by grade school. With all the recent press about internet predators keeping your children safe on the internet should be a priority for every parent. One way to do this is to install keylogger software. This software records every key stroke, password entered, or web site visited from a computer. Even a parent with the best of intentions knows that you cannot be with your child every minute they are on the computer but keylogger software can be. This software can provide parents with vital information to intercede to protect their children and prevent predators from weaseling their way into a child’s life.

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Mommy Humor

These are a few clues that you have indeed become a Mom. Funny how many of these struck home with me. Either way I will carry on and proudly display my Mommy quirks for the world to mock!
You automatically double-knot everything you tie.

You find yourself humming the Barney song as you do the dishes.

You hear a baby cry in the grocery store, and you start to gently sway back and forth, back and forth. However, your children are at school!

You actually start to like the smell of strained carrots mixed with applesauce.

You weep through the scene in Dumbo when his mom is taken away, not to mention what Bambi does to you.

You get soooo into crafts you contemplate writing a book called 101 Fun Crafts to do with Dryer Lint and Eggshells.

You spend a half hour searching for your sunglasses only to have your teenager say, “Mom, why don’t you wear the ones you pushed up on your head?”

You are out for a nice romantic meal with your husband, enjoying some real adult conversation, when suddenly you realize that you’ve reached over and started to cut up his steak!

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Kitchen Lighting Makes All The Difference

Our kitchen was one of the rooms I least liked when we bought our house. While decorated nicely it just had this gloomy feel about it. The first thing I changed thinking it would help was a fresh coat of bright paint. This helped a bit but the room still seemed gloomy. Then I installed some wonderful light fixtures and cabinet lighting.. Within minutes of turning on the new lights I noticed the room looked dramatically different. The wall colors and decor just popped with life. I now love spending time cooking in the kitchen and am thrilled with the result the new light have made.

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Nutrition For Kids

As tough as it might be to get your kids to eat the things that are “good for them” it is important to try. Tthe U.S. government encourages children to eat more foods with these five nutrients — calcium, fiber, magnesium, vitamin E, potassium — as part of a balanced diet. This may require some creative meal planning on your part and sneaking those good things in here and there. There are a number of recipes out there that incorporate nutritious elements among the less nutritious ones such as this one:

CHOCOLATE BEAN BROWNIES
1 CAN RINSED & DRAINED BEANS
(black or small white beans work well)
3 EGGS or egg substitute
3 TBS. OIL
4 TBS COCOA POWDER
A PINCH OF SALT
1 TSP. VANILLA
½- ¾ C. SWEETNER

MIX INGREDIENTS TOGETHER IN A BLENDER/ FOOD PROCESSOR UNTIL PUREE. POUR INTO A GREASED 8×8 CAKE PAN.
STIR IN SOME Sugar Free CHOCOLATE CHIPS AND NUTS
BAKE 350 APPX. 30 MIN
VERY DENSE CHOCOLATELY BROWNIE…

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Teething or a cold?

Differentiated teething from a cold can sometimes be a tough call. There are a few keys differences that may help to be aware of. As always when in doubt call the pediatrician.

1. Teething mucus is clear saliva and doesn’t run out the nose. Cold mucus is thick and yellow. A nasal discharge usually means an allergy or an infection, especially if accompanied by eye drainage.

2. Teething rarely causes a fever higher than 101° F (38.3° C).

3. Teething may be confused with an earache. Babies pull at their ears during teething, probably because of pain radiating from the teeth to the ears. Some babies just like playing with their ears. Ear-pulling in babies is an unreliable sign. With an ear infection babies usually hurt more lying down and have accompanying signs of a cold.

4. Babies don’t act progressively sicker with teething.

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Does Baby Have Allergies?

A friend is going through some issue with her baby that may be due to allergies. I thought it might be interesting to highlight some of the sign that your baby may have an allergy. As always your doctor will best advise you these are just potential signs.

• Does it seem like your baby always has a cold? (Colds usually wind themselves down in a week to ten days; allergies don’t.)

• Is your baby’s nose always stuffy or running?

• Is she constantly wiggling, wiping, or pushing her nose up in what doctors call the allergic salute?

• Is the mucus that drains from her nose clear and thin (as opposed to yellow or greenish and thick)?

• Does she seem to sneeze a lot?

• Are her eyes itchy, red, and watery?

• Does the skin under her eyes look dark or purple or blue (doctors call these allergic shiners)?

• Does she breathe through her mouth?

• Does she have a dry cough?

• Is her skin irritated or broken out in an itchy red rash?

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Bargains and More!

Any Mom on a budget is always on the look out for the best values for purchase she makes. I am no exception and love to find ways to stretch every dollar to the limit. One of my favorite tools is using online coupon codes from the Coupon Chief. This site lists coupons for virtually any merchant I might need to purchase from. Just this week I used a code for Avon to save 50% on a product I regularly use. With small children in the home the convenience of online shopping cannot be beat. I love having purchases delivered right to my door and I love getting them for a steal thanks to Coupon Chief!

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Baby Has A Rash

Diaper rash is not  fun for baby. Here are a few ideas to help ease your little one’s discomfort. Persistent rashes should be evaluated by your physician.

  • Check your baby’s diaper often and change it as soon as it’s wet or soiled.
  • Carefully clean your baby’s bottom between diaper changes. Use plain warm (not hot) water with or without a very mild soap.
  • Allow your baby’s skin to dry completely before putting on another diaper.
  • Use products that contain zinc oxide ointment (such as Desitin Ointment) or petrolatum (such as Vaseline) to protect your baby’s skin from moisture.
  • Avoid using plastic pants.
  • If diaper rash persists, change the type of wipes, diapers or soap you’re using.
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Sorting out Personal Finances

Last year I left a highly paying professional job to stay home with our newborn. This was a tough decision financially and caused us to carefully assess our personal finances. Our first area of focus was our loans. By researching refinancing mortgages we found we would incur significant savings. The next big areas we looked at were credit cards and car insurance. After making some changes to our credit card and car insurance providers our bills were dramatically reduced. To make sure we were getting the most return possible on our money we checked into changing savings accounts found a bank offering a much higher rate of return. With some careful planning we are no longer looking at my staying at home as temporary but can now really see it as a long term possibility that makes everyone in our family very happy!

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Seperation Anxiety

Our littlest man suffers from serious seperation anxiety. I thought it would be interesting to look a little deeper at what this is and what we can do about it. This is a good bit of information to start with:

Separation anxiety is a normal part of development, in which your baby will cry when you leave the room. It normally is at its worst around ten to eighteen months, and then gradually resolves. Your child will become less fearful when you leave her as she learns to remain comforted in your absence and can anticipate that you will always return.

To accustom your child to your absence, practice situations at home where you child is left alone, for example, after she walks into another room. If she cries, call out to her to let her know that you are still around. She will gradually learn that she is still safe, even when you are not present and that you always reappear.

To minimize crying during separations, do not make a big deal when you leave. Try and downplay leaving and have someone distract your child (with a game or favorite toy) after you say good-bye and leave. She will cry as you leave, but should quickly stop and show interest in whoever is watching her once you are completely out of sight.

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More Qualities of Great Parents

Just thought I would continue with a few more qualities of great parents. These may seem straight forward unfortunately the world doesn’t always raise children the same as us. Please comment if you think of other qualities.

  • Praise your children. When your children learn something new or behave well, tell them you’re proud of them.
  • Criticize the behavior, not the child. When your child makes a mistake, don’t say, “You were bad.” Instead, explain what the child did wrong.
  • Be consistent. Your rules don’t have to be the same ones other parents have, but they do need to be clear and consistent. (Consistent means the rules are the same all the time.) If two parents are raising a child, both need to use the same rules. Also, make sure baby sitters and relatives know, and follow, your family rules.
  • Spend time with your children. Do things together, like reading, walking, playing and cleaning house. What children want most is your attention. Bad behavior is usually their way of getting your attention.
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On Being Littlest Man’s Mommy

Having a high needs baby has been a real challenge for me. I am someone who is very intune to others but has a definite need for my own space. Having a baby who literally is inconsolable unless on my lap for the majority of the day is sometimes an emotionally draining experience. Few people outside my immediate family are really aware of how difficult this little man has been.

Several months ago we simply left it at “colic” or reflux and moved on letting everyone think he had gotten better over time. It is difficult as a parent to admit that you are tapped dry and just don’t want to hear another suggestion of how to “fix” your baby. Well-meaning as people might be I couldn’t fight back the tears any longer while I smiled and listened to yet another cure for my child (mind you I had already tried everything on the internet on my own). Nor could I bare to listen to good friends, with similar aged babies, tell me how content and happy their “sleeping through the night and napping 4 hours at a time” baby was and let them think mine was the same way.

People will tell you all sorts of things that you should do to make your situation better but few are applicable to your child. Really any experienced parent will know this in their heart . It is just the parent in us that needs to offer some suggestion or help. I would love to see any advocate of the “cry it out” method stick to their guns when they have a light sleeping older child and neighbors living so close you could literally hold hands between houses…

What has made my world easier to stick a label on our situation. Funny, but I loathe labels. In the medical community I have seen diagnosis codes just thrown around and they become the child rather than a part of the child. Reading information on high needs babies and being able to say “that describes him to a tee” just makes it okay when I am up for the 3rd or 4th time in the night to soothe the little man.

Quite honestly as tired and strained as I get I just try to appreciate every moment and know in my heart that it is but a moment in time I am witnessing. It will be exciting to see how his firey little personality evolves over time…

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For The Daddy’s

Happy Valentine’s Day to my Daddy

 

Dad you are my favorite man,
And I sure want you to know,
I’ll always respect and love you, Dad
No matter how big I grow!

 

I’m lucky to have you as my dad!
I love you.

 

By Joanna Fuchs

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Will He Ever Sleep At Night?

We are working on the 7th month of our littlest man being in the world. He continues to wake every 3 hours to nurse despite having been introduced to a significant ammount of solids over the last few weeks. The pediatrician suggests he simply is hungry due to his over the top of the chart size. I decided to investigate a little further.

This is what the Mayo Clinic says:

he problem of frequent waking

Most children wake up several times during the night. They are capable of falling back to sleep on their own — they just don’t know it. Giving them the confidence and tools to help themselves sleep is up to you.

It helps if you start when they’re still babies. If you routinely put your 7-month-old to bed drowsy but not fast asleep, he or she will be familiar with the feeling of drifting off alone in a quiet room. If you wait a few minutes before responding to middle-of-the-night crying, your 8-month-old may quiet down and doze off without your help.

I still have a couple weeks then LOL

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Little Man Starts Solids

My youngest is now 6 months old this week. Our previous pediatrician had told me at 4 months to start him on solids – veggies, meats, fruit, and fruit juices. I ignored this advice because well like I said he is our “previous pediatrician” . I did give littlest man rice cereal for the last 6 weeks. Yesterday, I decided to introduce sweet potatoes to the mix. He took to them right away.

These are some guideline for introducing solids to infants:

(This advise is for starting at 6-7 months)

4-5 feedings of breast milk or formula (24-32 ounces)

4 or more tablespoons of cereal each day

Now start to give well-cooked, strained, or mashed vegetables or commercially prepared baby foods. Start with one tablespoon of a mild tasting vegetable, such as green beans, peas, squash or carrots and gradually increase to 4-5 tablespoons one or two times each day.

Introduce fruits about a month after gradually increase to 4-5 tablespoons one or two times each day.

Begin to offer 2-4 ounces of 100% fruit juices. Start by mixing one part juice with two parts of water and offer it in a cup.

Obviously consult with your pediatrician for what is best for your kidlet!

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Baby Food Recipes

My littlest man has just started solids in the last month. I didn’t make baby food at home for my first son and why I didn’t I am not sure. Yesterday I made a month’s supply of baby food in a couple hours and the money I saved was HUGE! The littles man loved what he tried so far.

These are a few of the recipes:

Veggies recipe

3 medium potatoes
8 ounces spinach
2 large cloves garlic

Peel and cube potatoes. Crush and peel garlic. Cook potatoes, spinach, and garlic with about 1/2 cup water for about 15 minutes over high heat, or until potatoes are soft.

Process all in a blender or food processor until very mushy.

Freeze in ice cube trays overnight, then pop out cubes and store in another container in the freezer.

Yields 20 servings.

Banana-Oatmeal Cereal recipe

For 8 months and older.

1/4 cup rolled oats
1/2 cup milk or formula
1/3 cup whole banana
1/4 cup milk or formula

Combine oats and 1/2 cup formula. Bring to a boil, and simmer 5 minutes, stirring occasionally.

Meanwhile, mash banana and 1/4 cup formula. Combine banana and oatmeal mixtures. Serve warmed or cold.

Variation
Use infant oatmeal for extra vitamins, adding formula as directed. Mash banana and 1/4 cup formula. Combine banana and oatmeal mixtures. Serve warmed or cold.

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Guidelines for Solids

 A number of different recommendations exist for how and when to start solids. I really believe only you know your baby and have to trust your gut.  My littlest man is in the 105% for everything and I simply could not keep up with his nursing demands to delay solids as the LLL recommends. This is however the standard quideline the LLL recommends:

begin introducing your baby (6 months or older) to solid foods:

  • Ripe banana, avocado, yam, or sweet potato (sweet like breastmilk)
  • Meats
  • Whole-grain breads and cereals (rather than baby cereals)
    [wheat and corn are usually delayed until baby is 9-12 months old]
  • Fresh fruits
    [citrus fruits are usually delayed until baby is 9-12 months old]
  • Vegetables
  • Dairy products after 9 months
    [cow's milk is usually delayed until baby is 12-18 months old]
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More At Home Spa Treats

ROSE WATER

1 C. rose petals
1/2 C. rubbing alcohol
1 1/2 C. water

Simmer rose petals in water for 10 minutes. Strain. Add alcohol (optional, but acts as a preservative. See Note.). Keeps in fridge for up to 2 weeks with alcohol, or, 1 week without. 

Pore Cleaning Strips
This recipe makes a pore cleaning “strip” which works just like those sold in popular drugstores.

1 T   Knox unflavored gelatin
1-1/2 T milk

Mix two ingredients and microwave for 10 seconds to slightly warm. Using a clean cosmetic brush, apply to nose and chin area. Avoid delicate eye area.  Rinse brush immediately. Allow mixture on nose and chin to dry for 10-15 minutes. Mixture will dry quite stiff and form a “stiff film.”

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Parenting a high needs baby

I have been a parent for 7 years and thought I was well prepared to enter the world of babies yet again. Nothing prepared me for the tailspin our newest son would through us into. WE ADORE THIS CHILD… I just had to say that for the record. It has taken me several months to come to terms that he simply is a high needs infant. He does not just settle in for the ride … he is the ride. The tricks of yore do not work with this baby. After 4 months of inconsolable screaming (and yes we treated him for reflux) he is finally finding a taste of contentment with the world. This contentment is found primarily in my arms or lap. Life with him is a roller coaster ride of the most heart melting smiles and the most agonizing cries for what I don’t know.

The nurses in the hospital recognized right off the bat that he was a high needs baby. I dismissed this because he was born sick and missed out on all of that initial bonding with me. Looking back though his disposition has maintained a constant high intensity. He feels every emotion fully which aside from those agnozing screams also makes for the most beautiful belly laughs you ever heard!

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High needs baby

Our newest addition has been an incredibly high needs baby to say the least. While I haven’t sought to engage in attachment parenting per say that seems to be what is taking place. He really needs constant reassurance that we are there for him. After 4 months of colicky behavior and crying 4-10 hours a day being able to calm him simply by holding him is a welcome change.

FEATURES OF A HIGH-NEED BABY according to Dr. Sears:

  1. INTENSE
  2. HYPERACTIVE
  3. DRAINING
  4. FEEDS FREQUENTLY
  5. DEMANDING
  6. AWAKENS FREQUENTLY
  7. UNSATISFIED
  8. SUPER-SENSITIVE
  9. UNPREDICTABLE
  10. CAN’T PUT BABY DOWN
  11. NOT A SELF-SOOTHER
  12. SEPARATION SENSITIVE

 I will try to post more about how to raise a high needs baby in future posts. THIS is my child every single point describes him perfectly.

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Homemade Baby Cereal

The little one in our house started baby cereal this week. I have been looking for ways to trim down on extra expenses and decided to give making my own baby foods a try. This is the recipe I made for baby cereal. So far he likes it!

Home Made Organic Baby Cereal recipe

Using a food processor or blender, blend organic brown rice until it is finely ground, like a flour. Boil some water in a saucepan with a lid, about 2 cups, slowly whisk in about 1/4 cup of the rice flour. Cover and turn down to minimum heat. Stir every 2 minutes for 10 minutes.

This will last in the refrigerator for 2 or 3 days. As your baby gets older, you can begin using all sorts of different grains and then legumes such as brown rice, oatmeal, millet,

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Keep Cool

We all have those days when try as we might we have reached our last nerve. Anything and everything seems to throw us into a mood. What is a Mommy to do? Here are some ideas to help you keep your cool when everything in you wants to scream:

  • Phone a friend or family member
  • Get some fresh air for a moment
  • Count to ten then ask yourself: “Do I feel calm?” If the answer is no, carry on counting until you can say yes
  • Laugh out loud
  • Put on your favourite music
  • Throw your energy into a big cleaning session
  • Have a drink of water or make yourself a cup of tea
  • Think about a loving moment with your child
  • Give your child a hug
  • Remind yourself of that surge of emotion when your child was born.
  • Say to yourself: “Keep calm, think positive”
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Tough things they don’t tell you~

No one can appreciate being a parent until they are in the thick of it and there is no instruction manual.

You have to learn it each time with each child from the ground up yourself. I was amazed to find each age has its own unique challenges. You blindly think it gets simpler as they age but it doesn’t. When you have more than one you really begin to appreciate the very unique things about each child. Even from birth they have different personalities and needs.

I never thought I would need to “know” other parents but there is a wealth of knowledge that’s out there just waiting to be tapped. When you haven’t a clue turn to another Mommy you trust and ask them WWYD?

Being a parent will test everything about you. It is a daily challenge that makes us strive to be better than we ever thought possible because liitle eyes are taking in everything we do. Nothing brings this home quicker than the first time your preschooler says a curse word… and when asked says they learned it from you..

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Baby: Must Have

I thought periodically I would share some of the must have products in my life. These are items that I have discovered that I TRULY find useful in getting my Mommy business done. These are be unbiased items I use every day!

My number one MUST HAVE as a nursing Mommy is :

The AVENT Isis Manual Breast Pump!

I am not a Mommy who likes to nurse in public. More power to those who do but it is not my thing. I love this pump because I can literally “create” a bottle of milk on our way to our destination LOL. In fact I actually have two of these pumps so one is always ready “to go”. I think this pump is actually superior to even the hospital grade pump I used while the littlest man was still sick in the hospital. I have an electric pump that I have never even gotten back out for this baby because these pumps are so even and convenient to use.

If you need one check out Ebay first! Mine was at least 50% cheaper than my local store.

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I am not average….

Just so you know none of us are average. Being a Mommy is the farthest thing from average I have ever done. We have been married 16 years and children have only been a part of that equation for 7 of them. I had a great deal of time before I was blessed with children to be “average”. The process to bring each of my two wonderful boys into this world was anything but “average” and taught me that Motherhood is quite simply a miracle. There are no “average” miracles. Miracles made me a Mommy and therefore I am not average.

This blog is for all the Mommies who are “No Average Mom”!

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